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What a person thinks about himself directly affects what he eventually sees in the mirror. The negative messages that people receive from other people and from the media also have an impact on this. Creating a positive body image begins with combining your thoughts about yourself with the information that you receive from outside.

When a person cannot reconcile these feelings and images, then his self-esteem drops and cognitive dissonance occurs. Even if you have formed a certain point of view regarding your own body, if it does not coincide with the opinions of others, then the slightest comment about your appearance can unsettle you.

To understand the course of your own thoughts, answer 5 simple questions below:

1. “Am I critical of my appearance?”;
2. "Am I a perfectionist?";
3. "Do I compare myself with other people?";
4. "Do I judge people by their appearance?";
5. "What do my friends, relatives, peers think about my appearance?"

What are you focusing on?

Creating a positive body image starts with how you feel about yourself in general. This concept includes such categories as self-esteem, a positive outlook (mood) and emotional stability. Let's take a look at these categories in more detail.

Self-esteem is made up of your assessment of your own knowledge and skills, multiplied by the opinion of other people about you. If you have a negative attitude about your abilities, then you may be too fixated on looking good in the eyes of other people.

A positive outlook (mood) is formed on the recognition of one's own strengths and on an adequate perception of one's weaknesses. On the other hand, a negative outlook (attitude), which develops a negative attitude towards one's own body, is based, as a rule, on perfectionism, comparison, and the habit of criticizing and judging.

Perfectionism creates a mental image - an ideal that cannot be achieved;
Comparing oneself to other people lowers a person's self-esteem;
The habit of criticizing and judging leads to the fact that a person begins to treat himself extremely negatively, looking for the slightest flaws in himself.

Emotional stability comes from your ability to stay in touch with thoughts, feelings, and desires. To create a positive body image, you must be able to maintain this emotional stability. Then you will not be afraid of inappropriate remarks and caustic jokes from other people.

there is hope

It is important to understand that any attitude towards oneself can be corrected. A person can learn to be less critical, reduce their love of perfectionism, stop comparing themselves to others. You can learn to resist existing stereotypes in society about appearance. You can choose to be friends with people who appreciate you, and do not insult you.

Remember that you alone are responsible for the image you hold in your mind.

Our test today is about how others perceive you. Here, after all, there can be a variety of surprises - pleasant and not very - right?

But we still ask you to treat our venture as a curious and fun experiment. Well, if you like it, tell your girlfriends and friends about it on social networks.

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• suffering good

  "Here is a poor ..." or "a big soul person" - somehow they can designate you behind your eyes, depending on your own system of values.

  Because you pull everything on yourself and you care about everything - which, of course, is good for the world as a whole, but not always "ok" for yourself.

  Homeless cats, crying children, grandmothers who have forgotten their address, and even alcoholics who cannot get up from the asphalt - all this you consider to be your responsibility, experiencing not just slight anxiety, but full-fledged stress.

  Directly related to you, of course, are the problems of a second cousin from Udmurtia, the mother of an ex-husband (as well as the ex-husband himself) and that girl from the accounting department ...

  Sometimes you yourself don’t even realize that you are getting involved in saving the Universe again ... Well, the Universe is already ready: its inhabitants know that you can hang absolutely everything on you - and you will come, get it, sign it and do everything in the best form. In other words: everyone is trying to take advantage of your kindness.

  Your parents raised you very well and you have a really big heart, but don't let those around you use these facts against you. Take care of yourself!

• sunny little man

  - Hello, sunshine!

  Somehow, it is quite possible that you greet a colleague in the department, radiating warmth, kindness and positive.

  They can answer you about the same, but let's ask ourselves a question: is it sincere?

  You are a truly open and direct person who does not hold evil and is satisfied with his life, and therefore smiles at her from the bottom of his heart.

  However, not everyone can boast of this. Many simply act out friendliness and sociability, because this need is dictated to them by society.

  In turn, they can interpret your sincere attitude and direct manner of communication as hypocrisy and duplicity (after all, everyone judges by himself!).

  And therefore, a little advice (although no one loves them): do not lose the wonderful qualities of your character, but be restrained in their manifestation and open up only to those closest to you - those who will definitely understand and appreciate.

• Irreplaceable comrade

  Reliability is what others value most in you. You are the person who will really pick up the phone at three in the morning - and arrive. The one who will be able to do artificial respiration and heart massage (and definitely resuscitate!). The one who, as we know, "stops a galloping horse, enters a burning hut."

  In everyday terms, this manifests itself as follows: you always replace a work colleague without betraying him / her superiors, sit with a friend’s child while she establishes her personal life, or go to get medicine for a sick neighbor.

  You do all this easily, simply, without lamentations - which does not burden people with a sense of guilt towards you, but fills them with infinite gratitude.

  That is why you are really surrounded by true friends and good friends. Keep up the good work and know that what you give will come back to you in double volume.

• Successful careerist

  Most likely, the direct association with you among others is the word "success". This emanates from you - satisfaction with your own life, well-being (material and not only), peace of mind for tomorrow.

  As you understand, the attitude towards this can be polar, depending on what kind of person you are dealing with.

  In one case, it can be absolute respect, if not admiration - the desire to interact, learn from experience, ask for advice. In the other - envy and irritation. Those who have had a less successful life can easily write you down as "aloof, arrogant and generally unpleasant."

  After all, no one knows what it cost you and what you have is worth, and how often, imperceptibly to others, your hands give up ...

  What to do? Nothing! Do not get worse for you to please someone? Keep the brand and continue to look only ahead!

• Incorrigible optimist

  Have you ever noticed how much people whine? Too cold, too hot, too low salary, too high prices, too worthless husband, too useless life, but someone else ... Etc. and so on.

  You never understood this whining, and even more so you never joined it.

  Do you think it’s just because you know how to find the positive side in everything, think in a constructive way and cope with difficulties without loading everyone and everything?

  Nooo! The thing is that you are the very "other" who, according to the majority, has everything for some unknown reason in chocolate. It seems to them that you are showing off in front of them, and they consider your lightness and your optimism a pathology that nothing can be done about, but they don’t want to face it.
  Fortunately, there are others - those who feed you, those who you feed. Keep smiling at this world and it will smile at you! Everything will be really cool!

• Double bottom

  "Be simple - and people will reach out to you ..."

  Yes, I'd rather be more difficult - and those who are easier will fall behind me. Right?

  So (or something like this) you argue. And, in general, they are right. You do not exchange for unnecessary communication, but you know the rules of the game in a decent society and adhere to them. You are interested in everyone, you know everything, you are “in contact” with everyone, but at the same time carefully, carefully, maintaining a safe distance for you, knowing your own benefit.

  Surrounding people feel it and cannot understand what is wrong. Kind of like you and them, but sort of like on your own. It seems like they agree with everything, but it seems that they defended their point of view. It seems like you are smiling, but to whom and why is not clear.

  A person with a "double bottom" - perhaps they can talk about you like that ... But you know that this double bottom is just self-defense, which ensures a long voyage among "friends" in the most difficult conditions.

• Sarcastic cynic

  It's like in that meme - you love sarcasm, love and live alone.

  You probably don't live alone. However, sarcasm, irony, and a thousand and one well-aimed jokes are indeed your main weapons.

  With everything marshmallow-vanilla, it’s definitely not for you, but for a joke that can shake someone’s self-esteem, please.

  That is why among those around you are known as a cynic. People have a habit of designating in this way those who look at life: a) realistically; b) with black humor.

  Few people know that behind your "ha-ha" is observation, the ability to very accurately feel people and situations, as well as a deep inner experience of difficult situations ... You cover all this with the most bulletproof protection - and this is true. Only here it may seem to others that you are laughing when they cry.

• Vulnerable sad

  You are always a little distant and sad, as if you were born with a volume of Jean-Paul Sartre under your arm or preparing to replay Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh.

  In fact, you are not so sad as smart - you think a lot about a variety of things, so they haunt you.

  Well, it may seem to others that it is you who so ... hate them.

  You really are not distinguished by exceptional philanthropy, and you are truly comfortable only with those close to you, however, those around you are unfair: if the situation is critical, you will throw off the mask of "sad absence" - and instantly come to the rescue, resolve someone else's problem, and even hug goodbye, letting you cry on your shoulder ... True, not for long :)
  Because the zone of your comfort and reflection is still above all for you. You have every right!

• difficult man

  "Oooh, that's a very difficult man!" - so, quite possibly, they are talking behind your back, trying to "prepare" a new acquaintance for what awaits him.

  Let's see why you are such a difficult thing in the eyes of the environment.

  In short: because you are a person.

  You have your own position, point of view and views that you are not going to change to please anyone.

  You do not impose anything on anyone, but you demand the same in return.

  And it would be fine if you went to disputes and proceedings - it would be clearer and easier for others! No, you just silently and deedly stand up for what you believe in and do what you want yourself, while the others clasp their hands indignantly and shake their heads reproachfully.

  Meanwhile, you really don't have a dollar to please everyone. You are a much more valuable character - because you never inflate your worth, and so knowing that you and your interests are very, very expensive.

• Hidden soulfulness

  One of two things: either you realized in time how others like to use sincere people, or you are naturally emotionally restrained and hate public (and, in general, any) manifestation of emotions.

  One way or another, it often seems to others that you are the owner of the emotional range of a toothpick. No sussi-pusi, no complaints, no talk "for life under cognac at the corporate."

  You always keep everyone at a decent distance and do not even give them a reason to think that this distance can be reduced.

  Your caution is understandable and close, but do not overdo it - it will not be long to miss a real person who is worthy to enter your life.

• indifference and apathy

  Oh... Are you alive?

  Well, the truth is, you can’t figure it out right away! I want to shake you up to make sure.

  You are so immersed in your reality that you are completely absent from the reality of other people with whom life brings you daily.

  No one says that you should be equally attentive and sympathetic to the entire globe, but at least for the sake of loved ones, you can fork out and find resources in yourself in order to listen and hear.

  And then they get offended. They think that you do not love them, do not appreciate and do not respect them. So many claims and scandals could have been resolved so simply - with a human and humane conversation.

  We understand that, quite possibly, you have been so exhausted by people and circumstances that require strength that you want only one thing - to be left alone ... But if this peace is too long, you yourself will not be happy!

  So let's go call the one who is the least unpleasant for you in this period of your life. And good luck!

The way a person treats his boss says nothing about him. But the way he behaves with the waiter is a magic window into his soul.

Why is it important?

The "Waiter Rule" suggests that how we treat wait staff can reveal a lot about our personality. Most CEOs of well-known companies agree with this. When a candidate is interviewed for a managerial position, he is necessarily checked by how he will treat his assistant. Rudeness and exactingness in such cases is proof that such a person cannot be in the team of players.

Moreover, psychologists advise paying attention to how a person treats a waiter when choosing his future life partner. In the light of the above, I would like to know how a person's behavior towards service personnel reveals his personality. To determine this, let's analyze some common behavior patterns.

A friendly person who always says "thank you"

We all know such people. They are always friendly. They greet the waiters and always address them by their first names. And they say "thank you" - sometimes too much. This is the type of person who sees everyone as equal.

Such people recognize that having a high-paying job does not make you taller, and does not give you the right to treat people badly. They treat all people with compassion and sympathy, regardless of whether they are closely acquainted or not.

Such people recognize that each person has a story. The waiter or waitress may be the only breadwinner in the family, and he or she may work two jobs. Maybe they pay for their education. Regardless of the situation, this type of person is aware that we are all equal. Such people are always kind.

This attitude indicates that this person is able to work well in a team. He loves to see people happy and never treats them with prejudice. This is a really good person.

Rude man

Most likely, in restaurants you have seen people who are rude to waiters more than once? Have you noticed any men or women who speak to the waiter in a condescending manner? Maybe they just had a bad day (although that doesn't give them the right to treat others badly)... Maybe this is an isolated incident.

However, for some people this is a common occurrence. Often they do not even realize that they are being rude. They address the waiter in a condescending manner. They snap their fingers to get their attention. For such waiters and waitresses are invisible. Whether this attitude is intentional or not, they treat the maintenance staff as an underclass because of their work.

Since such people pay waiters, they think that they should meet their needs, whether they are justified or not.

People who exhibit this behavior are demanding individuals. They may think they are better than other people. They may feel superior to others. Such people are selfish, they crave control and power.

Most likely, they are characterized by what is known as a situational value system. This means that they change their behavior depending on the perceived status of the person they are interacting with.

But besides the people who are friendly to the waiters and those who are rude to them, there are also those who prefer minimal interaction with them.

People who prefer minimal contact

Some people prefer not to have long conversations with the waiter or waitress. This does not mean that they are rude. It just might mean that today is not their best day, and therefore they are not in the mood to talk to anyone. We all have those days when we don't want to let anyone into our personal space.

It is also quite possible that such people will be introverts. They prefer everyone to focus on their work. They can use the same strategy in their workplace. Introverts can be goal oriented and focused on getting things done efficiently and quickly.

But while some prefer to be calm, others enjoy having long conversations with everyone around them.

People who love to talk

We all have friends who like to ask a lot of questions. And their interactions with waiters are no exception.

This can happen due to a number of reasons. Of course, there is a possibility that your friend enjoys what annoys the waiter. But it is much more likely that this person is actually curious and would like to know as much information as possible when he is a customer and pays for something.

In addition, a person may be an extrovert. In this case, he actually enjoys meeting new people and getting to know them as best he can.

Such people are confident that they know exactly what they want and are not afraid to speak their mind. And they're not afraid to ask questions to make sure they get exactly what they want.

Moral of the story

The behavioral pattern that we use when communicating with waiters can reveal a lot about our personality. While some identified traits are fairly harmless, as is the case with introverts and extroverts, there are others that make the waiter feel bad. Therefore, it is very important to monitor your behavior. All people are equal, no matter what their status at work.