But gadgets create addiction, and sooner or later every parent will have to fight with them. What is the danger? Is it terrible when a child sits and pokes buttons for hours? After all, he's having fun, anyway. Develops fine motor skills, reaction speed, and attention. Receives a lot of positive emotions, while parents can go about their business. However, the danger of gadgets is great when the passion for them goes beyond the bounds of reason.

Child psychologists advise that children under three years of age should not be allowed access to electronic devices (including television) at all. And at an older age, it is necessary to strictly control the time that children spend on gadgets. Ideally, it should not exceed an hour a day. Gadgets take a child into a world where everything is easy and simple, where the most difficult problem can be solved with the press of a button, and where it is so difficult to escape. This harms not only your posture and vision. In the end, this also affects their character: without receiving their favorite gadget, children eat poorly, quarrel with their parents, and can even go on a rampage, damaging things, or, conversely, become depressed.

Sometimes solving a neglected problem requires the help of a psychiatrist. But if you missed your child “just a little bit,” what can you do to snatch him out of the virtual world?

Rule No. 1 Personal example. If you can’t imagine your life without virtual reality, you constantly sit at your laptop, and never part with your iPad or mobile phone, then you can be sure that your child will become an ardent fan of gadgets. If you are unable to cope with your craving for social networks, forums and games, sit at the computer not in front of your child. For example, devote evening time to your hobby when the baby is already asleep. After all, a child, especially a small one, first of all copies the behavior of the people closest to him - his parents. If you set the right personal example, then you don’t need other advice. Try having a gadget-free family day once a week. There is only one condition: no one plays on tablets, mobile phones, iPads, uses the Internet, or watches TV.

Rule #2 Create a feeling of success. It is clear that the child is an ace in games and is great at shooting enemies. It turns out that in virtual reality he is more successful than in real reality. Play good old board games with your child - and maybe it makes sense to give in to him once or twice. The main thing is to praise the child, telling him how smart he is.

Rule #3 Show an alternative. Try not to leave your child too much free time. Of course, rest is necessary, but within reason. Make sure your son or daughter has other interests besides gadgets. Send your child to a sports section or choose a club.

Rule #4 Don't criticize computers and games. If a child is used to them, he may begin to see you as a person who encroaches on the sacred. Moreover, if other children are playing, then why do parents say that it is bad? Discuss Internet safety with your child. Install a program to control play time on your gadget, as well as protection from visiting “non-children’s” sites.

Rule No. 5: Get proper rest. Make sure your baby doesn't miss gadgets so that they don't catch his eye. Spend more time with him outside, organize a trip out of town, keep him busy so that it occurs to him as little as possible to ask: “Mom, give me a tablet.” Go to the event with a whole group, with several children. But be sure to agree with other adults: no gadgets on vacation!

Addiction is when something begins to control your life and interferes with your daily activities, work and relationships. Thus, a classic alcoholic can be described as a person who, when waking up, drinks a glass of vodka instead of a cup of coffee. However, with the advent of the technological boom, signs of addiction can also be seen in attachment to a cell phone.

Is your phone the first thing you check when you wake up? Do you text while driving? Are you scrolling through Facebook at work instead of finishing an important task? Do you check your phone for new messages during a romantic dinner? If you answered yes to at least one of these questions, then you can probably talk about addiction. And this probably prevents you from living a full and rich life. Here are some tips to help you overcome addiction.

The first 30 minutes of your day

If you start your morning by checking your phone, then this is a serious problem. After all, the first half hour after waking up should be devoted to creating a good start to the day. This involves getting up, washing your face, doing a little stretching or meditation, and preparing breakfast. So start your morning with healthy and right things to energize yourself for the whole day.

Time periods without a phone

Most people keep their cell phone handy while working. Regardless of whether the sounds made by a gadget are related to work or not, they distract you in any case. If this happens all day, then your productivity is seriously reduced because you cannot concentrate on the task at hand. Therefore, it makes sense not to use the phone at least part of the working time. Set aside at least two hours for this when you are most productive. During this time, turn off your phone and fully concentrate on the task at hand.

Turn off your phone when you drive

It is necessary to enshrine this norm at the legislative level. After all, you turn off your phone on board a plane. The same should apply to the car. Our brain simply cannot be in two places at the same time. So, if you look at the smartphone screen, you cannot monitor what is happening on the road. Of course, you can say that you use the gadget as a GPS navigator. However, how did people live before? After all, you can always spend a few minutes before your trip to carefully study the upcoming route. In addition, it is much safer to stop on the side of the road and look at the map again than to do it while driving, distracted from monitoring the situation on the road. Therefore, when getting into the car, simply turn off your phone so that you are not tempted to look at it. After all, your life and the lives of other people are at stake.

Plunge into real life

The best communication can be with real people sitting in front of you. And no virtual friends or messages on the Internet can be more important than a real person. And if at the same time you tell him that you need to immediately read a very important message, then this is not only rude, but also a very stupid act. After all, even if your interlocutor says that everything is in order, then in reality this is not the case at all. Such behavior on your part can destroy friendships and any relationship. After all, the person made time to meet with you, but you don’t appreciate it. Therefore, forget about Facebook, Twitter, VKontakte, etc. at least for the duration of live communication with a real person, especially if he is truly important to you. After all, you can always read new messages later, when you find yourself alone. Don't make people close to you feel like they aren't important to you.

Phone and tablet are my friends

I bring my son home from kindergarten, give him a tablet, he plays, but I don’t hear or see him. On the one hand, it’s good - I can go about my business, cook something, but on the other hand, he hardly talks to me, and he doesn’t recognize other toys,” sighs Anna Gorlova, mother of six-year-old Daniil.

And my daughter knows where the games are on the phone, she presses a button and plays,” Olga Spiridonova, mother of two-year-old Alina, proudly says. “In our time there were completely different toys, any baby doll was happy.”

And indeed, if 10 years ago, for example, in a clinic or store, children were calmed down with dolls, teddy bears and cars, now mainly with cell phones. If you want your child not to cry, give him a mobile phone. As they say, the children are happy, the parents are calm.

Of course, my parents are happy: I’m such a good guy - I’ve passed the third level. But we must understand that in this game the child is only a passive spectator. He just presses buttons and watches what happens, but by and large does nothing,” comments Elena Ulkina, head of the “Superkids” early development children’s club, on examples from our life. - This is how our parental attention is replaced by electronic toys. The child took the phone, pokes at the buttons, does not bother the parents - and can play like this for hours.

You won't be spoiled in kindergarten

You can’t play like this only in kindergarten, if your children go there, of course. Sometimes real battles for toys take place here. Moreover, a child may ask his groupmate not for him at all, but for his own car or turtle brought from home. However, a compromise can still be found, says Svetlana Pasyada, a teacher of the junior group of one of the kindergartens in Blagoveshchensk.

Our boys can play with dolls with pleasure, and one girl drives all the cars into the garage, listens to fairy tales with interest - I read them myself or put on an audio recording. They learn to assemble construction sets, and in creative classes we sculpt and draw.

According to the teacher, there is no TV in the group. By the way, the children don’t even remember about him. But the child may refuse to perform creative tasks. No one will force him. But there are no such children in Svetlana Viktorovna’s group. True, one kid made a snowman out of plasticine instead of a stool, and they didn’t scold him for such a flight of fancy.

Kids love to set the table for dinner, lay out spoons, arrange plates and mugs, and we don’t stop them from doing this either,” continues Svetlana Pasyada. - This is the social adaptation of the child, parents later say that children even at home ask for an apron with a headscarf - they play little cooks.

Show by example

Elena Ulkina also advises playing role-playing games with your child.

Play the same store, daughters and mothers, build some kind of parking lot for cars. After all, such activities have not been canceled; they give the child development, understanding of the environment, and social contacts.

The teacher-psychologist advises: in order to turn children towards toys, they need to be interested. And it is advisable to spend as much time as possible with the child. If your baby wants to tell you something or sits you down next to a doll and asks you to become the toy’s mother, don’t refuse. Perhaps five to ten minutes spent with your child will help solve many problems in the future. Now you will hear him - in a few years he will hear you.

If parents paid even a little attention to their children and showed their interest, it would be easier to raise them. You can build and cut houses from cardboard boxes with your child. But many parents do this: they brought a beautiful box with a toy, put it in front of the child - play, he opened it, turned it over and also put it on the table. Buy a construction set so that the item can be assembled, and therefore think about.

You can distract your child from cartoons and the computer not only with the help of games. If you want to show your child that you care about him, that you are ready to spend time with him, listen and talk, call him to the kitchen. Let him wash vegetables, lay out bread, help prepare dinner, for example. Useful work will give respite to eyes sore in the evening and a tired brain. In the evening, try to find a quiet activity for your son or daughter - let him sculpt or draw. A child, like an adult, gets tired during the day, and he also needs a break from busy events.

Limit your child's time watching TV or playing computer games. Try to explain that this is harmful, not with tedious notations, but with examples. You can go for a consultation with an ophthalmologist. The doctor will tell your child how much time to spend on entertainment and how this will affect his health. This way, the baby will hear the opinion of an authoritative person.

How to interest your child:

Play role-playing games

From the many toys, buy one that encourages creativity, action, and movement.

Choose themed toys (house, kitchen, garden, flowerbed)

Play board and outdoor games

Spend more time with your children

OPINION

Toys are no longer a surprise

Elena Ulkina, educational psychologist:

Another problem that adults face, besides tablets and phones, is the abundance of toys. In children's goods supermarkets, parents' eyes run wild - we don't know how to please the child and what to buy. For some reason, everyone thinks that kids need to be filled with toys. Huge elephants and tigers, Barbie in different dresses, with cosmetics and jewelry, Spider-Man, a robot - these are just a small part that is now kept in almost every child’s nursery. We ourselves spoil our children. Toys used to be a surprise, a surprise. Now they are given every day by mothers, fathers, and grandparents. Sometimes there are so many dolls and blocks that you can only walk with obstacles in the nursery. Our sons and daughters are fed up with toys; it’s almost impossible to surprise them with anything. Construction sets, cars, entire houses and kitchens - all of this simply depreciates: the more toys, the less attention they receive.

My advice: give toys to your child in small portions. Today he plays with cars, tomorrow he runs the railway. Everything must be dosed. In general: not a single most expensive toy can replace live communication, love and affection.

How to distract your child from the computer

Advice from the mother of 12-year-old Georgy, Natalya Maryina

Tip #1

There is no need to scold the computer and games so that the child does not see you as an enemy who is encroaching on the sacred.

Tip #2

Offer an adequate replacement for the computer. Is he more successful in games than in real life? This means that we need to create situations of success in life and praise more. If he plays, because then you can discuss the game with friends, then you need to take the boys to the skating rink or bowling.

Tip #3

Offer your child real activities that seem more exciting than computer games. It all depends on what he likes. If he loves pizza, bake it together.

Tip #4

Sit next to each other and play together or take turns. The main thing is that you both come to the conclusion that playing together is cool. This, by the way, is a good motivational tool: “If you do your homework, we’ll play together.” Or: “You go to the store with me, I’ll go through one level in your game.”

Tip #5

Enter a rule: if friends come to visit, the computer definitely turns off. For the first 10 minutes they are offended and wander around the apartment in bewilderment, but then they will definitely get carried away with something. Accustom your child to the idea that people come to visit to communicate.

Children and gadgets. My three-year-old daughter will not part with her gadgets and throws tantrums when she tries to pick up her tablet. Modern children's fascination with gadgets causes concern among parents, psychologists and ophthalmologists.

The problem of a child’s excessive enthusiasm for a tablet has not escaped me either. Modern children and gadgets are on the same wavelength almost from birth, and this should be used wisely for the development of the child. In the first days after the purchase, I myself uploaded several applications for the development of fine motor skills. The first day I was very pleased, seeing only the pros in this, I understood the cons of gadgets for children literally after a couple of days.

Gadgets and small children: what are the advantages?

• Various educational applications
• Speed ​​reaction
• Perseverance
• Logics
• You can teach something that you yourself are not fluent in (English for kids)
• Parents have free time

To give you an idea of ​​the picture, I will describe some of the downloaded applications. The purpose of the purchase was so that my daughter would develop fine motor skills not only by modeling from plasticine. I really liked it
"Puzzles" presentation. It was sorted: animals, numbers, cars, people's faces.

The point is that some image appears on the screen in the center, and on four sides there are various recesses-silhouettes and you need to not only guess, but also send this image to the right place by moving your finger.

The first day there were even “crazy people” if something didn’t work out, and I helped, of course, admiring the picture with emotion. The second app worthy of attention is called “Smart Baby,” although by the age of 3 almost everything is already familiar there. I really liked the version of the “drawing for kids” application where the contours of the animals that the child has chosen for drawing are gradually highlighted. The program does not allow you to go beyond the fields. At the end, a drawn animal makes sounds and jumps.

Coming home from work at almost half past seven, there was always plenty of household chores: dinner, washing the floor, ironing things for kindergarten in the morning, bathing my treasure. And this time, my daughter didn’t bother me. In the first two days I was extremely pleased. On the third day, obvious disadvantages appeared.

Gadgets and small children: what are the disadvantages

As soon as I left the field of view, my baby was literally glued to the tablet with her nose, and even while lying down. The game has begun: “move the tablet away.” A clear dependence appeared already on day 4. When I went to bed, my stretched-out little one now wanted to sleep not with a teddy bear, but only with a tablet. Any sane mother understands that it is harmful for children to sleep even near televisions; there should be no mobile phones within a radius of at least 3 meters, but here they sleep cuddled with a tablet. The first hysteria took its toll. As soon as my daughter fell asleep, I pulled out a new toy and hid it away.

It was Friday. Saturday morning started for me at 5 am with tears through sleep...tablet. All attempts to say that he was sleeping, it was too early, to give him another toy in return and to somehow distract him, did not yield results. I gave up and turned on cartoons. She can watch Fixies endlessly. Having turned the volume to minimum and placing the tablet on the back of the sofa, I hoped that this way she would fall asleep instantly. Naive mother. At first, my daughter sat down, and then she even took him in her arms and lay down with him to watch cartoons at a distance of 10 cm. To my shame, I simply fell asleep next to him. I woke up at 6.20 and saw that my little one was not sleeping, but was calmly lying next to him, continuing to watch cartoons.

It didn’t work out to pick up the subject of my new hobby. Tears again. In general, after a couple of hours I had a discharged tablet and a crying child. Another week flew by quickly. My daughter has already developed the habit of watching videos about children and cartoons, about a monkey with kids for hours. I came home from work and found her already using her tablet. Sitting down next to me, I asked her about how the day went in kindergarten, and my daughter even looked away for a short time when she saw me. All of the following, of course, does not happen to all children, but these are my personal conclusions.

Disadvantages of gadgets that I noticed:

• Addiction sets in quickly
• It is difficult to explain to a small child that it is harmful
• Vision decreases rapidly
• Letting players play strictly according to the clock doesn’t work.
• The baby loses the desire to engage in other activities: reading, sculpting
• A child left unattended while watching cartoons may accidentally end up on an “adult” channel.
• Live communication with mom is replaced by watching cartoons, so the connection is lost
• Irradiation for hours doesn't do any good either.

How to wean a small child from a gadget

So 3 weeks flew by, and another Friday arrived. For some, half past 9 is early in the morning, but I had time to “brainstorm” on the topic: “How to wean a child off a tablet.” Due to the fact that children quickly get used to gadgets, they wean them just as quickly. I managed this literally in 2 weekends. After reading a sea of ​​literature, I was determined, and this is probably the main secret of success. On Friday morning, I hid it safely and, calling home from work, warned that no one would take it out of kindergarten when the child arrived.

I must pay tribute to my family members that on this issue our views coincided 100%. Having picked up my daughter from kindergarten, they didn’t take her straight home, but went for a ride on the swing.

In the evening they went to meet me and go to the grocery store with the obligatory trolley ride. As soon as I crossed the threshold of the house, requests began to let me watch videos about children (I bookmarked a couple of funny videos and a whole series of educational ones).

Options for answers that I couldn’t find, where the tablet caused tears, I began to get angry at her for these tears, and at myself for my weak character. Then putting it aside absolutely everything is done, I took my daughter in my arms and began to explain that I missed her very much and wanted to play with her. She refused to draw, read books, sculpt, or do anything at all, constantly whining and even throwing a tantrum on the floor. I felt very sorry for her, I wanted to give in to the temptation to give the child the desired reassurance in the form of a gadget, but the mood to end this addiction took over.

In the middle of the night, my treasure woke up twice in tears demanding a tablet and cartoons. 4.30 am and tears again. Angry at her, I again calmly take her in my arms and go to the next room - pace back and forth, calming and lulling her, saying that the tablet was given to my older sister Nastyushka to play for a while (now she lives separately) and she will soon get it will return. During the day we washed the floor, vacuumed, and read together. Then I asked my eldest daughter to take the princess to her place for a couple of hours. Because the plans were for a grandiose capping of eggplants for the winter.

Before going to bed, I gave her a tablet that had 6% charge left, explaining that he would soon go to bed too, and noticing that my little one was rubbing his eyes as hard as he could, I said that it was the tablet that made his eyes very tired and began to pinch and hurt. You need to spare your eyes and go to bed. First victory! The princess calmly handed over the gadget to charge it. In the morning, I didn’t even give her a chance to remember him, putting her out of sight, and early in the morning I took the dolls and bears and went to read fairy tales with them. In the afternoon I let her play again for literally an hour. Imagine my surprise when Anechka gave it to me herself with the words: “He has become hot, let him sleep.” When she woke up, she wanted to watch the video again. But my persistence prevailed, and whining a little, we went outside. In the evening she fell asleep without the tablet, and on Sunday morning she didn’t even remember about it.

Rules for using gadgets in families with small children:

• A child receives a tablet only in exceptional cases (her vision is dear to me)
• only on weekends (on other days there is a kindergarten and a nanny who takes care of the child)
• No longer than an hour

Gradually she stopped being capricious, accepting the “rules”. I hope that my experience on how to wean a small child from a gadget will be useful to many mothers. I specifically contacted the same mothers on social networks and became convinced that many families have a problem called “Children and gadgets.” And finally, do not start the process until you have 100% confidence that this is necessary and unshakable determination. Be prepared that it just won't happen, but the victory will be worth it. There is nothing more valuable than the health of our children.

Few people are surprised. Already at 2 years old, the average child confidently uses various equipment, turns on cartoons and music, and accesses the Internet. And while parents are touched, psychologists are sounding the alarm: attachment to tablets negatively affects not only the baby’s health, but also his communication skills and further socialization. AiF.ru spoke about how to wean your child from this bad habit psychologist Evgeniy Idzikovsky.

1. Start with yourself

A child strives to imitate his parents in everything. If every day he sees adults spending all their free time watching TV or at the computer, you shouldn’t expect him to suddenly love playing games with peers or. Dad plays computer games, mom watches talk shows and TV series - so where can a child get a different model of behavior?

Therefore, it is very important to understand: yes, the tablet is very convenient! Funny pictures fascinate the child for a long time and allow parents to go about their business. But is it worth it then to be surprised that there is no contact between you?

Start with yourself. Take a break from technology, spend at least an hour or two a day together doing other activities: games, reading books, discussing various issues, walking, visiting people. Let your child understand that life is multifaceted and interesting!

2. Find an alternative

Be sure to offer alternative activities, preferably social ones. If you can’t go to kindergarten or early development school, clubs and studios, visit the playground! Meet other parents and their children in the yard, teach your child the principles of communication, encourage joint games - active ones on the street, board games at home.

Communication with peers helps not only to take your mind off the tablet, but also to develop character, learn to defend your own interests, negotiate, show leadership qualities, conduct joint activities - believe me, your daughters and sons will need all this in adulthood!

Play is a universal way to learn new knowledge and skills, and since it is not possible to live outside society, it is necessary to teach a child communication skills and the peculiarities of interaction with others from childhood.

3. Create a collaboration

Another win-win option to distract your child from technology is to work together with parents. Involve children in simple household chores - cooking, cleaning, shopping for groceries, caring for pets, working in the summer cottage. But at the same time, position such activities as truly important and necessary. Let this not be a formality for the child, but work for which he is responsible. Emphasize that this is his contribution to the family, and you appreciate his efforts. Find at least a few words of encouragement if the child himself took the initiative - watered the flowers, weeded the garden bed. This gives his actions meaning.

4. Enroll your child in the section

Most children are very active and find the strength to fool around, run and play, even when their parents fall down from fatigue. And this is where sport comes to the rescue! And everything connected with it - swimming pools, skateboarding, roller skating, dancing, climbing walls, trampolines, etc. Instead of sitting your baby in front of the screen and providing yourself with an hour or so of silence, let him spend his energy usefully!

It is important to bring activities into a child’s life that make him feel important. Sports clubs are good because they not only develop the body, but also strengthen the spirit, teach discipline and teamwork.

5. Get a pet

A great idea is to have a pet and delegate the responsibilities of caring for it to your child. If you want him to spend more time outside, give preference to a medium breed puppy; I was just distracted from the computer, but was under supervision - a kitten, a hamster, a turtle, a parrot or fish. Fortunately, the pet store has many options for you, so you can choose something that suits your taste and budget.

6. Learn to say no

Remember: an adult has every right to impose a strict direct ban on using a tablet! It is not necessary to completely erase it from your life; you can set a time limit (15, 30, 60 minutes a day) or indicate a ban on combining activities - you cannot use the tablet while eating, visiting guests, communicating with family, etc. The main thing is that the child understood the reason for such restrictions.