The life of any normal person is not complete without conflicts and quarrels. In some cases, we prefer to leave everything as it is and break off the relationship. But what if a clash occurred with the closest and dearest person - your mother?

Unfortunately, mother's love and understanding are not limitless. Sometimes the child’s behavior bothers and hurts a loving heart so much that the mother becomes embittered and does not even want to talk. Below are some tips on how to apologize to your mother so that she not only forgets about the offense, but also begins to trust again.

How to ask your mother for forgiveness?

The best way to apologize is to open your heart to your mother and repent. Every mother, even a very offended and angry one, loves her child deep down. The reluctance to forgive in most cases is caused by the desire to teach a lesson, to make them realize their mistake and reconsider their behavior.

In order for your mother to forgive, you need to not only apologize, but also explain what made you commit the offense. Even if these are not entirely pure thoughts and intentions, the main thing for the mother is that you were able to recognize them. Learn this lesson and try not to repeat the mistake again. Ask your mother for advice on how she thinks she can prevent such situations and conflicts. This will help you get closer and restore trust.

How to make peace depending on the nature of the conflict

Quarrels are different, just like the characters of mothers. If standard advice is not suitable or does not work, then you need to look for an individual approach. Let's look at the most common conflicts between mothers and children:

It is important to understand that mom is the same person, with her own shortcomings and cockroaches in her head. You don't need to demand too much from her. Try to accept her as she is, albeit hot-tempered, even strict, a little unfair. There are no perfect people. Look for compromises - this is the key to a good relationship.

How to ask for forgiveness beautifully

Finding the words, approaching and admitting guilt to a person who is dear to you is always difficult. Often, all we can do is mutter a quiet “sorry, I didn’t mean to offend.” Of course, if the offense is not serious, this may be quite enough. But if you screw up big time, be prepared to overcome yourself and apologize gracefully. What does this mean:

Is it possible not to quarrel with your mother, but to live in peace and harmony? Yes, when the children have grown up, moved away and meet with their mother quite rarely. When living together, at least minor clashes are the norm. But if both are able to seek compromises and take into account the feelings of a loved one, the relationship will be warm and trusting, and quarrels will not develop into serious conflicts.

A written apology or a heart-to-heart conversation

A face-to-face explanation is always preferable to the longest letter or beautiful SMS. If you have difficulty expressing your thoughts verbally, apologize briefly and have the letter read in front of you. Hug your mother, offer to make tea, give flowers or a gift. Taken together, these actions will help to outshine even the worst deed.

Mom is the only person who accepts and loves you as you are. However, understanding this comes with age. For a long time, life experiences have prevented children and adults from understanding each other. Perhaps now the mother’s attitude seems incomprehensible, wrong, and even evil. But in reality, behind all the accusations and scolding, there is a desire to do what is best for you. Try to see this, and the relationship will move to a new level.

No matter how many mistakes you make, your mother will always forgive and love you. Cherish this and try not to offend her if possible. And if you mess up, admit it honestly. Rest assured, you will not be executed.

Lyudmila, Kaliningrad

We offend our mothers' relatives a lot.
They cry sitting on a bench
It's time to learn to say this to us:
“I’m wrong, forgive me, mommy!”

And her smile is beyond praise
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You will be the best child if you said:
“I’m sorry, I love you, mommy!”

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There is no one better than you, my mom.

I'm sorry dear, I know it hurts
Listen to grievances from your children
But the word will fly out like a bird involuntarily
Then go try to catch up.

And I know that you have forgiven me
And even if the bitterness got to me
Forgive me, because there is nowhere more loved
There is no one better than you, my mom.

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There's no shame in asking for forgiveness
Especially those who are right.
I know, mom, you're upset.
For my heavy, stupid temper.
I'll try to improve
And I will start living again,
From what I sincerely admit
It's my fault before mommy!

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Sorry, everything will be fine

I know mom, you're angry
You hold a grudge against me.
Your soul is not made of granite,
I apologize for the quarrel of the day.

I expressed myself in a harsh manner,
And he said a lot of words.
Sorry, everything will be fine with us,
I want peace to reign in the house.

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Mommy, my mommy,
Take me quickly!!!
How tired I am of living without you,
I'm completely lost in this world!!!
Forgive me, I was stupid
And I didn’t value the time of happiness!!!
But I realized a long time ago
How hard it is for me without you!!!

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Forgive me, dear mother.

Forgive me, dear mother
For being sometimes with you
I'm very cocky and stubborn
And I upset you with myself.

I know you love me very much
And you cherish everything like a child
And you will never judge
For all the hurtful words

Forgive me for everything, for everything that happened
So that my heart stops aching
In the soul, so that the joy does not cool down
I swear to always love you.

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Mother

I don't know how to apologize
My pride hinders my speech!!!
And I wouldn't want to change
I've gotten used to cutting from the shoulders in life!!!
But mom know, in front of you,
I'm ready to get on my knees!!!
Forgive me, because with all my soul,
I love you, I can understand!!!

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Hold me close

How many have changed their minds
How much has been experienced
How many times have I repented
Mommy, in a dream.

A wound in my heart
Hidden from others
I'm sorry dear
And hold me close.

Unfortunately, even the closest people are not immune from conflict situations. Often, parents and their growing or already adult children complain about misunderstandings with each other, and if this problem is not resolved in a timely manner, it can lead to serious consequences.

I constantly quarrel with my parents, why does this happen?

Quarrels between parents and children, alas, are not a rare occurrence. Some families manage to smooth out rough edges and avoid arguments, but in many cases misunderstanding is inevitable. There can be many reasons for such a development of the situation, and often the matter comes down simply to a difference in interests, due to a significant difference in age.

Probably, your quarrels with your parents occur because it seems to you that they do not understand you at all and “live in a different time.” Be that as it may, it is important to understand that you should still treat your parents with respect, even if you do not agree with their opinion - this is what well-mannered and worthy young men and women do. Cases when a mother or father wishes harm to their child are practically excluded - no matter what they advise, most likely it comes from good intentions. That is why, first of all, focus on what your parents want for you to feel better, and then think about everything else.

We are often very harsh with our parents, and we realize that we are wrong only many years later. If you don’t want to live with regrets, then learn self-control - this is important not only when communicating with relatives.

If you think that you understand more about something than your parents, then this is an even greater reason to show leniency towards them. Be kind to them, even if right now you don't think they deserve it.

What to do if you quarrel with your mother

Think about the situation

Think about why the situation turned into a conflict. Also think about whether you could have prevented such a development of events or whether it was completely out of your control. Before getting angry with your mother, assess the situation from several angles. Put yourself in your mother's shoes: how would you feel if you were in your mother's position in this situation?

Don't make excuses

Of course, it may be that you are not at all to blame for this conflict, but do not rush to look for excuses for yourself. In practice, it is very difficult to find a situation where only one participant is to blame for a quarrel. Having carefully thought about what happened, you, of course, will understand that its outcome is also your fault, and perhaps even to a greater extent.

Be more tolerant

Usually, after a conflict, people who love each other begin to reproach themselves and think about how this situation could have been prevented. Surely, it’s not easy for your mother now, and she is worried not only about the cause of the quarrel, but also about its very fact. Invite your mother to calmly discuss the situation. First of all, do not try to impose your opinion, but listen carefully to all her arguments. Even if your mother’s words seem absurd or unfair to you, control yourself. After calmly listening to her position, convey yours just as calmly. If your mother gets angry or interrupts, tell her that you want to talk to her when she is ready to listen to you without unnecessary emotions.

Be more proactive

To soften the situation, you do not need to show your resentment and do not help your mother in any way if you are in a quarrel. Respond to her calls for help, and take the initiative in household chores yourself.

How to make peace with your mother

After a strong quarrel, lies or bad deeds

Choose a suitable place for reconciliation. Of course, there should be no third parties present. Since the quarrel occurred between the two of you, you shouldn’t involve other people in solving the problem. An exception may be other close relatives who are also somehow hurt by your behavior.

Decide on the “right” time. Nothing should distract you or your mother from the conversation. Also pay attention to the mother’s mood - she should not be tired, irritated or in a hurry to get somewhere. In general, take care of the ideal conditions for conversation.

Start with an apology, then move on to explaining your actions. Of course, your apology should not look like a favor or condescension. Mom probably wants to hear sincere repentance and regret in your voice - she is unlikely to be satisfied with a formal apology.

If I'm to blame

If you realize your guilt, then this is already half the battle. Now it is important to convey to your mother that you really understand that you were wrong, and at the same time you are very sorry for what happened.

Explain to your mom what exactly prompted you to do this or that way, and what you intend to do if the situation develops in a similar way again.

Show not only in words that you were wrong, but also in deeds. Of course, this is not about trying to “appease” your mother with gifts - this is unlikely to help. Try to be more attentive to her, spend more time with her. Don’t forget to help your mother, to show care at least in small things.

Ask your mother directly how you can correct the situation and make amends to her. Surely, she will tell you what offended her the most, and how you could improve the situation. If you cannot fulfill its conditions, try in a calm atmosphere to find the most advantageous compromise for both of you.

Promise that in the future you will try not to make the same mistake. Of course, it would be ideal if you actually try not to make such an oversight again.

If she's wrong

If it seems to you that your mother is wrong in the current situation, then first you need to make sure whether this opinion is not your subjective one. Put yourself mentally in her place and try to understand why she had the wrong opinion. Perhaps this is partly your fault?

How to properly apologize to your mother

Sincerely ask for forgiveness

The main thing in this matter is sincerity. Mom has lived longer than you, and most likely learned to recognize genuine and fake emotions. If you are largely or partly to blame for the argument, then, of course, your mother expects you to admit your guilt and apologize to her. Some people believe that asking for forgiveness is humiliation. Usually only strong people are able to admit their mistakes.

Write a letter or SMS with an apology

Perhaps it is difficult for you to start a conversation with your mother or the right opportunity has not yet arisen. In this situation, you need to find another way to convey your apology, and do it at least with the help of SMS or a paper letter. If a mother who is offended by you can brush off the conversation, then she will most likely still read your message, even if she does not admit it right away.

Sincere conversation

Of course, a sincere conversation will best help in this situation, but you should choose the right time for it. If you understand that now mom is clearly not in the mood for a conversation, then you should not force it. Prepare a good dinner or buy some goodies for tea and invite your mother to talk over the meal or tea.

When you ask for an apology, it is important that you are sincere at the time. Remember that the interlocutor does not expect you to simply apologize; he often expects you to understand that you were wrong, and not just do him a favor by admitting a mistake.

It is important not to aggravate the conflict, but to resolve it, so if you see that the interlocutor is not at all in the mood for a conversation, then it is better not to impose, but to find another convenient opportunity for conversation.

How to calm your mother when she swears and cries

Talk to her calmly

If your mother has come to tears, then you probably understand that she is really very upset and it is not easy for her to cope with the situation emotionally. Answering her in a similar tone is unlikely to improve the situation. Answer calmly, but this calmness should be sympathetic, but not indifferent or distant. Perhaps mom needs to speak out - don’t try to interrupt her. However, during pauses, choose the most necessary words that suit the situation.

Hug, kiss

However, more often than not, upset mothers need more than just words, but to improve their relationship with their child. She is unlikely to pull away if you hug or kiss her in a moment of emotional weakness. However, even if this happens, and she brushes aside your expressions of tenderness, do not even doubt that her soul will become much easier, and with your gesture you will only improve the situation.

Say that you appreciate and love him very much

It is important for a mother to hear words of love from her child - such confessions are never superfluous! It often seems to parents that their children do not appreciate all the sacrifices they make for their children, or do not even notice them. Perhaps there is also such a problem in your relationship with your mother? Tell your mom that you see how much she does for you and really appreciate her efforts.

Write a poem (your own or one you can find on the Internet)

Of course, most mothers are very sensitive to signs of attention from their children. If you need to apologize to your mother, then you are unlikely to seriously correct the situation with poems - first, it is advisable to talk frankly and admit your mistakes. But a poem for a “fixing effect” can be very effective. If you are a creative person, then perhaps it will not be difficult for you to write your own poem for your mother. Is this mission still too much for you? Then you can choose a suitable verse with an apology on the Internet.

Give a bouquet of flowers

Many women love flowers, and your mother is probably no exception. Surely, even a small bouquet of her favorite flowers will cheer her up. If it is customary in your house to care for perennial plants, then perhaps she will be even more delighted to have a flower in a pot. Most likely, you know your mother's tastes, and you can choose a bouquet to suit her taste.

Invite you to a cozy coffee shop for a conversation

Perhaps you and your mother periodically visit your favorite coffee shop? In this case, this establishment may be a great place for reconciliation! However, if you usually don’t go to a cafe with your mother, then there is a good reason to change this.

Make a collage of your photos together

Of course, your mother will be glad to receive your attention, and a collage with joint or personal photographs may be quite appropriate. Such a step may not be regarded as the main apology, but the collage may well become the “finishing touch”. Choose your mom's favorite photos - it's possible that she forgot about many of them, and she will be pleased to relive the memories.

Have an interesting time together

Many parents believe that grown-up children are very immersed in their own personal lives and practically do not devote time to their family. Admit it, this is often what happens. You can always fix this by spending time with your mother. You can do this in different ways - go to the cinema, watch a good movie at home, cook a delicious dish together and much more!

Is it possible not to quarrel with your mother, but to live in peace and harmony?

If you want to live in peace and harmony with your mother, then you can achieve this, even if she has a grumpy character. However, this circumstance is rarely the main cause of quarrels - more often mothers and daughters quarrel due to simple misunderstandings. Suggest to your mother not to swear, but to try to find a compromise in any controversial situations. At the same time, it is important to move from words to action, and not to “pull the blanket over yourself” in the event of a conflict, but to try to resolve the difficulties that have arisen. Well, and most importantly, you need to be more tolerant and remain calm if you understand that you are being unfairly accused. Most likely, your mother will appreciate your reaction and will listen to you just as calmly. If you realize that you are truly at fault, do not use the rule that the best defense is attack - have the courage to admit your mistakes.

When we were children or teenagers, we all did stupid things for which we later asked our parents for forgiveness. If you are at that age now and you really want to do something that will upset your parents, this article is for you. After reading it, you will learn how to get your mother's forgiveness if you have done something stupid. Unfortunately, sometimes simply saying “sorry” is not enough to gain forgiveness. However, it is still possible to receive the forgiveness you desire. Ask your mother for forgiveness, treat her with respect and behave well. Thanks to this, your mother will certainly forgive you.

Steps

Sincerely apologize

Apologize to your mom personally. Don't send apologies via text message or email. A conversation with your mother in a tense situation will, of course, be difficult, but this way you will show that your words of apology are sincere.

Be sincere. Speak in a respectful tone, clearly and clearly. If you mutter something under your breath, most likely your mother will not believe in your sincerity.

• If you don't know how to start, try saying something like this: "I'm sorry I upset you. I shouldn't have gotten into a fight. I'll work on myself and try to be a better person. I hope you'll forgive me."

1. Tell the truth. You may be tempted to lie to your mom, but believe me, it's not worth it. You may make the situation worse. If you are caught lying, you will not be able to escape punishment. You will have more troubles and it will be difficult for you to achieve your mother's forgiveness.

   Don't talk to your mom when she's angry. Give the feelings a chance to subside. Approach her later when she has calmed down and cooled down a bit. The most important thing is not to argue, this will only make things worse.

   Choose the right time. Don't try to improve your relationship with your mom while she's busy doing something, like cooking dinner. Approach her when she is free and ask if you can talk to her.

   • Be prepared to understand your mother if she doesn't want to listen to you. She may not want to discuss this problem with you. Wait a little and approach her again with words of apology.

2. Don't wait too long. Remember, everything has its time. If you wait too long, your mother may think that you are not ashamed of what you did.

   Listen to what she says. Listen carefully to her and try to understand her point of view, why she thinks you did wrong. If you understand why your action hurt her so much, you can gain her forgiveness. Try to put yourself in her place. She wants you to grow up to be a responsible person, so she gets very upset when you act contrary to her expectations.

   Don't mention past actions when talking to your mom. Don't mention what your brother did in the past or what situation happened a few months ago. You will only remind her of other unpleasant events and make her even angrier.

   • For example, don't say, "But you didn't punish my sister last week for coming home late! Why are you angry at me and not at her?" Mentioning a past incident will only make the situation worse. Instead, try saying, "I know you're angry with me, and I really shouldn't have come home so late. I'm truly sorry for doing that."

3. Don't make excuses. Making excuses undermines the sincerity of your words of apology. This shows that you are shifting the blame onto someone or something else. You have to admit that you did something wrong if you want your mom to forgive you.

   • For example, you shouldn’t say: “And I didn’t come back that late. I just couldn’t leave my friend alone.” Instead, say the following: “I know I came late and I’m really sorry. Next time I’ll be more careful about the time and won’t make the same mistake.”

4. Try to correct the error. The best thing you can do is try to fix the situation.

   • For example, if you break something, try to fix the broken thing. If you yelled at your sister, be kind to her.

5. Apologize in writing. This tip may conflict with the first tip in this article, “Apologize to your mom in person,” but it is possible to apologize in writing in addition to a personal apology. Do not send the message by email or telephone. Write a handwritten letter saying that you are very sorry for your mistake and will not repeat it in the future. To write a note by hand, you will need time to think. Most likely, your mother will appreciate your efforts. If you draw well, you can draw something that will evoke pleasant emotions in your mother.

   • You can write a note that reads: “Dear Mom, I know that you are very upset that I fought with my sister. I know that you really want me to have a strong relationship with my sister. I love her, even despite the fact that sometimes she really annoys me. I understand that I am older than her and therefore I should not react when she deliberately tries to annoy me. Also, in order to have a strong relationship with someone, you need to put in effort efforts. This will be useful to me in my future life. I will do my best to improve my relationship with my sister and maintain a peaceful relationship with her. I love you very much and hope for your forgiveness. With love, your son."

6. Understand that forgiveness takes time. Sometimes, your mother can forgive you very quickly, but in some cases it may take time. In fact, according to psychologists, there are stages of forgiveness. Mom may deny what happened, feel angry, and also depressed. She may then accept the situation and forgive you. Don't expect her to go through all the above mentioned stages. Your goal is to work on yourself to gain her forgiveness and gain her trust.

   Remember that your mother is not perfect either. She also has the right to make mistakes. Therefore, she may be more angry with you than you deserve.

   • Sometimes mom can be upset for other reasons. Your action may only be part of her bad mood. Just as you might take your anger out on your little sister, a mom might have trouble dealing with her emotions if she's had a bad day or week.

Show respect

1. Show that you are listening. When your mother talks to you, listen to her carefully and do not be insolent in response. Admit that you made a mistake and she has the right to reprimand you for your action.

   Don't ignore her. She wants to help you. If your mom wants to talk to you, take the time to listen to her. Be prepared to respond to her and be sure to take time to reflect on her words. You can assure her at the end of your conversation that a similar incident will not happen again. This will let your mom know that your apology is sincere.

   Speak in a respectful tone. When answering your mother's questions, do so in a respectful manner. Answer calmly and honestly.

   • For example, if your mother asks: “What were you thinking when you did that?”, you should not answer her sarcastically: “I’m probably an idiot and didn’t understand what I was doing.” You can say, "I don't think I thought before I made my decision. Next time I'll be more thoughtful."

2. Agree with the punishment. This will show that you respect your mother's decision.

3. Act like an adult. Don't be rude or say offensive words. Don't stomp your feet or slam doors. You will only make the situation worse. Mom will be even more angry with you, and you will regret what you did.

   • In addition, your mother will appreciate that you are acting like an adult and will forgive you much faster.
   • If mom says: “You only talk, but you act differently!”, don’t argue. Agree with this and ask her to help you become a better person.

• Don't avoid your mom if you've done something bad. However, if she is very annoyed with you and does not want to see you, give her some time to be alone.
• Enlist the support of your dad or siblings. Sometimes they can talk to their mother and ask her to forgive you.
• Never yell at your mom.
• If you have done something that you regret, you should not cry; tears will not solve anything. In this situation, it is better to show through your positive actions that you are ready to change. Your mother will certainly notice the changes. Also, be sure to apologize to her. Although she may not believe your words, she still wants to hear them from you. And don't forget, actions always speak louder than words. Therefore, work on yourself!
• Remember, mom loves you. Tell her that you love her very much too.
• Don't be insolent. Otherwise, you will have to wait a very long time for forgiveness.
• If you did something wrong, talk to your mom about it! This will help her understand your point of view.
• Be polite to her.
• Don't leave in a fit of anger. Talk to mom.
• Give her a gift or write a card saying you're sorry.
• If you ask for forgiveness, don't say, "I know you're mad at me." It's the same as saying: "This shows that you don't love me." These words will upset her even more. Better to say: “I know you are disappointed with my actions. Please forgive me. Can you do this?”
• Help her when she needs it. Be sure to help your mother do household chores. This will show that you have learned an important lesson from the situation.
• Go together to your favorite place where it will be easy for you to forgive each other, for example, it could be the beach.
• Do what will make her happy. She will definitely appreciate it.
• Don't say apologies too often. This may make her angry and she won't believe what you say.
• If you feel like your mom scolds you too often, talk to her about it. Of course, you don't want your mom to be upset, but in this case, talking can help improve your relationship.
• For example, if you eat someone's dish, prepare the same and give it to the person for whom it was intended.
• Do or buy her something to apologize for your bad behavior. This will show that you are very upset about what happened.
• Don't interrupt her if she's still talking.
• Stay calm when talking to her.
• If you are arguing about something minor, like who will go to the bathroom first, tell your mom that you are in a hurry. If that doesn't work, give her space.
• Apologize, but don't overdo it.
• Help your mom around the house by doing things she doesn't ask you to do. However, be sure to make her notice your actions. She will definitely smile, perhaps without saying anything. But if you don't do it, for example, don't wash the dishes, don't vacuum, don't wash your clothes, she will still be angry with you.
• Give mom a gift.
• Make sure she is not upset for any other reason.
• Ask your mother not to discuss your quarrel with other members of your family.
• Give mom some time to calm down. Later, you can come up and discuss the problem with her.
• Don't ask her for anything for a couple of days.
• If you're arguing... don't shout. Keep calm. Wait for mom to express her opinion, then you can answer her.

Asking for forgiveness is not easy, especially if your mother is seriously offended. But this must be done so as not to accumulate resentment and not deepen the quarrel.

The best way is to talk. If you really feel guilty, you just need to say so. “I’m sorry I offended you, I was wrong.” “It hurts me that I upset you.” It would seem that these are simple words, but they will be the first step towards reconciliation.

But what to do if your mother is offended, but you think that the truth in the conflict is on your side. Then you should ask for forgiveness, and then calmly, simply, and most importantly, sincerely explain your position and be sure to listen to your mother’s position. Well, if you can’t come to an agreement, then let everyone remain with their own opinion. In the end, it’s stupid to be offended by your mother and offend her because of how better the dishes are. But you don’t need to formally agree with your mother in words, while in practice remaining unconvinced. This will only create a new quarrel in the future.

Many people simply do not know how to ask for forgiveness. It is very difficult for them to admit their guilt and talk about their true feelings. It is the hardest for such people, because they carry their own within themselves, worry that they have offended, repent inside, but cannot utter the seemingly simple words: “forgive me, mom.”

In this case, you can write a letter to your mother. It’s easier to say about your feelings in writing, and it’s easier to understand them. And having sorted everything out in your head, it’s easier to understand both yourself and your mother. And after reading the letter, mom will probably say that she has forgiven. And the conversation that both need so much will still take place.

You can make amends with your actions. So, it is easier for a child to wash all the dishes in the house and clean up when his mother arrives, rather than talk about his feelings. And the adult son buys flowers for his mother. And the mother will definitely understand what her child wanted to say.

It is also very important to forgive yourself. Many people attach too much importance to their actions and words and believe that there is nothing left. There are no perfect people, so you need your own imperfection, your own mistake. This is precisely the first step towards reconciliation with your mother.

To think that your mother will not forgive means to underestimate her, not to trust her. It is worth being more open and trusting in your relationship with your mother, learning to talk about your feelings without blaming either yourself or her for the fact that these feelings arose.

Psychologist Lyubov Bogacheva writes in her article: “Just allow reconciliation to happen, don’t interfere with it. And in such a state it will be very easy to ask for forgiveness!” Ask for forgiveness, and your mother will definitely forgive and understand, that’s why she’s a mother.