01. Any similarity between you and a person is purely coincidental!02. Are you always this stupid, or is today a special occasion?03. As an outsider, what do you think about the human race?04. I would like to punch you in the teeth, but why should I improve your appearance?05. At least there is one positive thing about your body. It's not as scary as your face!06. The brain isn't everything. But in your case it’s okay!07. Be careful, don't let your brain get into your head!08. I like you. They say I have disgusting taste, but I love you.09. Have your parents ever asked you to run away from home?10. If only I had a face like yours. I would sue my parents!11. Don't be upset. Many people have no talent either!12. Don't be offended, but is it your job to spread ignorance?13. Keep talking, someday you will manage to say something smart!14. Do you still love nature despite what it has done to you?15. I don’t think so, maybe you have a brain sprain!16. Fellows like you do not grow on trees, they hesitate there.17. He has a mechanical mind. This is bad for him; he often forgets to turn his back to the wind.18. His mind is like a steel trap that always slams shut when he tries to find the answer!19. You are a man of the earth, it’s bad that you’re not the best part of it.20. He thought - this is something new.21. When it finally gets dark, you'll probably look better!22. Yes, you are just a wonderful comedian. If it's funny, it's a miracle!23. In Who's Who you should be searched as What's This?24. You are living proof that a person can live without a brain!25. It is so short that when it rains, he is always the last to know about it.26. Yes, you are just a template for an idiot to build.27. Why are you here? I thought the zoo closed for the night!28. How did you get here? Did someone really leave the cage open?29. Don’t try to find anything in your head, it’s empty.30. I think you wouldn't want to feel the way you look!31. Hello! I am human! What are you?32. I can't talk to you right now, tell me where you will be in 10?33 years. I don't want you to turn the other cheek, it's just ugly.34. I don't know who you are, but it would be better if you didn't exist, I'm sure everyone will agree with me.35. I don't know what makes you stupid, but it really works.36. I can drive the monkey out of you, but it will cost you a lot!37. I can't remember your name and please don't help me with this! 38. I don’t even like the people you’re trying to copy.39. I know you were born stupid, but why did you relapse?40. I know that you are self-made. It's good that you admit your guilt!41. I know you are not as stupid as you look. This is impossible!42. I saw people like you, but then I had to pay for the ticket!43. Why are you such a fool today? Although I think this is typical for you.

And why? Why did you take this insult personally? Do you feel guilty? Haven’t you learned how to respond to such psychological attacks?

Knowing the enemy by sight makes it easier to fight. Is it necessary? Or it’s worth developing a certain tactic of responding (or rather, NOT responding) to insults. When a person deliberately wants to insult you, ask yourself the question - WHY?

Why is he doing this? Does he want to humiliate you in order to elevate himself? Then his action evokes compassion. This is the only way a person can assert himself.

Or he wants to touch your nerves in order to piss you off. For what? He is looking for a lightning rod in you, wants to drain his irritation somewhere.
Always think - why? And only after you understand the root cause and choose a model of your behavior. After all, we cannot be offended, we can only be offended. Sami. This means that such a reaction is the result of his own choice.

Leo Tolstoy also said: “It's all about thoughts. Thought is the beginning of everything. And thoughts can be controlled. And therefore the main task of improvement is to work on thoughts.”

The main groups of fans of insults:

• Losers. Their only way to assert themselves is to belittle the other person.
• These are people who get pleasure and are “energized” by quarrels, scandals, including insults to other people. They feel good when others feel bad.
• Aggressors: people who see everyone as an enemy. To protect themselves, they attack other people first.
• Ill-mannered people for whom the norm is to communicate in the language of insults.

If you immediately begin to react mindlessly after being insulted, your offender will celebrate his victory. FOR WHAT?
Why give him such an opportunity! How do we react to insults? A fool is a fool himself. Is this a familiar picture?
When you see this from the outside, you understand that both are these very stupid people. One, due to lack of upbringing and restraint, allowed himself to do this, and the second, tuning into its destructive wave, accepted the terms of this “game”. Both are worthy of compassion.

Sometimes we receive insults so unexpectedly that we don’t even have time to react positively. Offensive words hurt, they penetrate into the very heart like sharp needles. We don’t know what to say in the first minute, but “after the fight” we come up with a plan for revenge.
Now stop and look at the situation from the outside. Stupid and funny. Wit on the stairs. What are we spending our precious life on! The person has long forgotten about his attack, and you carefully and scrupulously cultivate the seeds of revenge in YOUR soul. And they very systematically destroy you from the inside. FOR WHAT?

If, nevertheless, you understand that it is you who are the master of your thoughts, and not vice versa, stop and imagine the whole situation from space. Are you crying now? Are you offended? What would it look like on a cosmic scale? Insignificant and not worth your nerves. It even becomes funny - such a trifle causes so much worry.
Have you calmed down? Now go to the window and carefully, even in the smallest detail, examine some object outside the window. You switched your attention, took a deep breath and... you felt better.

At first it will not be easy to get rid of destructive thoughts, and resentment will remind itself from time to time.
STOP! Stop the flow of sad thoughts. Drink delicious tea with lemon and honey. Listen to good music.. Watch a comedy. Play with your pets. Switch to a positive wave.

If the offender is a stranger, then you should not be provoked, indulge in mutual accusations and showdowns. The wisest step is to ignore.

It's harder to do this when your boss or co-worker insults you. In this case, it is better to avoid the conflict. If this is your boss and you are still forced to communicate with him, then you will have to develop certain tactics of behavior.
Psychologists recommend first of all to understand what exactly in your work caused such a reaction, to isolate constructive criticism, where exactly you did not complete your work or made a mistake.

The next step is to protect your psyche from verbal “attack.”
There is such a technique. It's called "aquarium". When the boss starts shouting and insulting half a turn, imagine him in an aquarium, like a fish that opens its mouth, but no words can be heard. Such a protective shell greatly helps to abstract oneself. Words, like balls, bounce off without reaching their target.

In general, as far as the boss is concerned, one must act carefully. In this case, before responding to an insult, you need to imagine that in front of you is a small, capricious child. And your task is to calm him down, pat him on the head, caress him and feed him semolina porridge. By placing yourself in such a situation, you will easily endure attacks, meeting them calmly and with a smile. This will also affect the emotional state of the boss.

If you watched the movie "The Matrix", then you remember the moment when Neo stopped the bullets fired at him. Imagine that the rudeness thrown at you is like bullets, and you are invulnerable, and all the rudeness does not reach you, falling with a ringing sound on the floor.

If silence doesn't work, you can respond with a little barb.

“A gentle answer removes malice; hurtful words arouse anger.”
John Ruskin

It’s a good technique, but it requires a certain amount of training and endurance—to respond politely to malicious insults. Or, as a last resort, say calmly: “How ill-mannered and rude you are.”
Sometimes this acts like a tub of cold water on the offender. In any case, you get a pause and can retreat from the battlefield with your head held high.

The worst way to react, in my opinion, is to shout back some nonsense. Of course, in this way you become a twin brother and slide down to the level of this ill-mannered type. But sometimes it helps relieve tension. Especially if you took it two octaves higher.

Helps much better method of releasing negative emotions into the water. Open the tap and simply scream everything that has boiled into the stream of water. How helpful it is! Wash your face with cool water and go get positive emotions. The conflict is over. You turned out to be smarter! Give yourself a high five and try to draw sound conclusions from this situation.

The man showed his true colors. Can you remake it? Thankless work. Either you accept him for who he is, or end your relationship there. The choice is always yours! The main thing is not to fall into the role of a victim.
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We have all heard insults directed at us and, out of surprise, we did not know how to react to them correctly. They started to be rude or cry out of resentment. Below, the psychologist gives some tips on how to intelligently respond to an insult to an offender. Gives examples of phrases that will help you get out of an unpleasant situation gracefully.

First, let's talk about several types of correct reactions to insult.

Calm

PS. We remember that an insult is a negative, deliberate statement of an assessment of a person, which humiliates his honor and dignity. It can be applied orally, in writing and even by gesture. In this case, the target of attacks does not necessarily have to be present in person.
In the Russian Federation, this is punishable in accordance with Art. 5.61 Code of Administrative Offences.

Instructions

Defense is a normal human reaction. You were insulted, which means you were subjected to a psychological attack. Moreover, the closer the offender is, the more painful the blow. Why is this happening? Because a person who knows all your ins and outs is well aware of your weakest points:
- you are unhappy with your figure and he knows about it; in a fit of anger, he declares something like “watch your weight”, it is clear that in a rude manner;

Or you like to stay at home, run the house, wash floors, fry pies and, accordingly, you get “homemade chicken”. In the worst case scenario, “a domestic chicken that needs to watch its weight.”

From this we can conclude that you shouldn’t let anyone get too close to you - it won’t hurt. But this is a wrong conclusion. Rather, you need to think about what the person really wanted to tell you and why you reacted that way. Once you understand what is behind the insults, you will learn to respond to them.

If they called you names, then first of all they wanted to draw your attention to some problem. Like, hey you, hear me! Perhaps you are not attentive enough - is your abuser having problems at work, a midlife crisis, or a stomach ache? Your answer: find out as accurately as possible what happened.

If an insult touched you to the core, then you believe that the offender told the truth or was close to the truth. Returning to the “chicken” example: you yourself feel fat, unkempt and not interesting to anyone. What to do? Change!

If you react violently to harmless words or are generally inclined to “free interpretation,” then you lack love and tenderness. Now you are attracting attention to yourself with inappropriate behavior and get, if not participation, then at least a scandal, which is still better than nothing. The solution is to build a new relationship with this person, and if that doesn’t work out, break up. You can't build a happy life on insults.

Conclusion: name calling is just a consequence. Look for the reason and work with it. If the words you hear seem offensive only to you, most likely there is a crisis in your relationship. And remember, it’s nothing personal – everyone is just solving their own problems!

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There are times in life when someone makes some unacceptable request or proposal. The whole difficulty is that it is not always convenient to answer with a sharp refusal. After all, even if you disagree with your interlocutor, you don’t want to inadvertently offend a good person. What if you still need to answer?

Instructions

Consider the simplest and perhaps most correct option first: answer honestly, the way you think. If you are sure that a person’s proposal does not suit you, your prevarications and tricks will only prolong the matter and may give him unnecessary illusions and some unrealistic dreams or expectations. And sooner or later, the truth will still come out, and then your interlocutor will definitely be offended and will wonder why you didn’t explain everything right away and directly.

Even if you tell a truth that is not entirely pleasant for a person, he will understand and will not be offended if you speak softly and calmly, politely and with respect. Speak sincerely and with an open mind. Don't forget to thank us for the honor and attention shown to you. Find some words that don't sound like a categorical refusal. Perhaps after some time you will reconsider your decision. Tell me that you will think more about this proposal.

When refusing, try to find the most compelling arguments. If you are very convincing, then emotions will fade into the background, giving way to reason and rationality. State the reason why you are refusing. It may not be entirely truthful, but it is easy and understandable to understand.

Try to answer using hints if for some reason you cannot refuse directly. An intelligent person will analyze the information, understand everything and not be offended.

Refuse your interlocutor, framing your refusal as a compliment. Praise him for some good qualities or for the proposal itself. For example, “you are such a smart and sensitive person that you understand better than anyone else...”, “you have a wonderful idea, but...”, “I know that I can rely on you, so...”, etc. But keep in mind that your compliments must be sincere, otherwise your partner will immediately feel false. Believe in what you say.

Try to refuse an offer or request, citing external circumstances beyond your control, as well as being busy, sick, waiting for some important event, etc. In any case, you will have the opportunity to postpone the resolution of this issue for a fairly long period.

Avoid a conversation that is unpleasant for you by changing the subject. Switch your interlocutor's attention to something else that is no less important and interesting to him. However, keep in mind that the transition to another topic should not be very abrupt and noticeable. There should be no hesitation or long pause.

Another option for refusing is to turn the conversation into a joke. This is not about ridiculing or insulting the interlocutor, but simply about using a sense of humor. Your joke must be appropriate and kind, and then you will achieve the desired effect.

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You can encounter rudeness in a public place, at work, and even at home. You shouldn’t put up with her, but you also don’t need to become like a rude person. You may find some advice useful on how to respond to rudeness without getting caught in the boor's provocation.

Don't be like a boor

First of all, it is worth understanding that you cannot always silently accept rudeness. If you systematically forgive a certain person for such behavior, the situation can become completely deplorable. Feeling his own impunity, the boor will go further and further beyond the boundaries of normal behavior.

Therefore, give up the idea that if you don’t pay attention to the rude person, he will leave you behind very quickly. This position can only be successful with a stranger. But if you see an individual quite often, stop him and his tactlessness.

Depending on the situation, your response to rudeness may be ironic. In this case, you will need a quick reaction and the ability to instantly respond to your opponent’s remarks with reason.

Resist the temptation to become aggressive and respond to rudeness with it. You will almost certainly be tormented by feelings of guilt and remorse later. Perhaps this is exactly what your interlocutor is trying to achieve. Don't follow his lead.

Be confident and control your own emotions. You can throw out the negativity later, for example, by giving your body a release in the gym or training on the punching bag. Vigorous movements that are not aimed at causing any harm to people help to significantly reduce stress levels.

Ways to respond to rudeness

To defeat a rude person, try to better understand the motives behind his obscene behavior. Most likely, behind the rudeness lies uncertainty in one’s own position and a complete lack of real arguments. Once you understand this, you will realize that you are in a better position than the brute.

When your boss is rude to you, you, of course, have the right to respond to such treatment at your own discretion. But consider whether a polite answer would be better for your career. Don't forget the simple truth that meekness controls anger. Use this strategy when talking to your manager.

Another way to respond to rudeness is to directly tell the rude person about your feelings that his behavior causes. There are people for whom rudeness becomes the norm. Aggression spills out of them constantly. Such individuals do not hesitate to raise their voices and say unpleasant things to others. But sometimes these people don’t even realize how terrible they look from the outside. Perhaps it’s time for them to hear about the impression their intemperance is making.

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Gossip and rumors have recently become the rule rather than the exception. People love to discuss others, and they embellish the facts that they know several times. However, you don't have to put up with this. You may well prove that you are not at all the person they think you are.

Instructions

To refute all the rumors that are circulating about you, you must try to create an impeccable reputation for yourself. People who meet you or communicate with you for a long time should see what kind of character you have. Be a decent and sympathetic person, always ready to help others. Do good deeds for free and never judge other people. Remember, if someone has done evil, it will definitely come back to him in life. Your conscience must be clear. Honesty and openness are also important criteria. Any lie you make can turn against you. Always admit your mistakes and do not hide any truth. If people around you see you as a sincere and kind person, they will never believe gossip. They will immediately understand. even if you did not do a very good thing, you would not look for excuses for yourself, but would honestly admit it.

If it happens that your relatives and friends still believe the rumors, try to find out who exactly became the distributor of false information. and talk to him. Surely there will be some explanation for this human behavior. Maybe some of your actions have provoked empty speculation about you. Explain to the person who slandered you that he is deeply mistaken, considering your behavior unworthy, tell him about the true reasons for what you did. Having realized his mistake, a person with a conscience will most likely apologize to you and tell others that he was wrong.

If a person flatly refuses that he has mistakenly become a distributor of false information, there is no need to go out in public and try to find an excuse for himself. They are unlikely to believe you. Choose a friend who does not know how to keep secrets, have a heart-to-heart conversation with him and, with regret and resentment, tell him about how you were unreasonably slandered. Don't hide your emotions. Most likely, your sociable interlocutor will soon tell everyone that you have become a victim of someone else’s slander.

Another way to establish justice is an open conversation with the offender and the people who believed him. Talk together, you don't have to deny everything. It’s better to let the gossip tell everyone in front of you why he said certain things about you. His arguments must be justified. If he can't provide some evidence of his gossip, everyone will understand that he was just spreading rumors.

Human nature is such that he simply needs to communicate with other people, share emotions and impressions with them, talk about events and interesting people. But what to do if you are the target of discussion?

Instructions

Any discussions can be either positive or negative. People often talk about their friends' successes, but they are even more likely to talk bad about them or share rumors. Of course, any opinion of people, especially expressed behind your back, can be unpleasant. After all, it is usually very far from the truth that actually exists and from the opinion of the person being discussed. However, every behavior has its reasons and you will need to find out if you want to stop discussions about your personality.

When conversations about you and such discussions are unpleasant to you, the surest remedy is to directly tell the person about it and find out the reason for such conversations. Perhaps other people are for some reason unhappy with your behavior or attitude. Maybe you offended them in some way, but they don’t dare tell you about it. So they found a unique way of revenge. There can be a lot of reasons for this, the main thing here is to find out them and talk to people frankly. Behave calmly, kindly, and don’t try to put yourself in the best light. You need to listen to the person’s opinion and find a calm answer for him that would lead to a solution to the problem.

And then you can act according to the circumstances. You will probably be surprised at the reason for the dissatisfaction, but still apologize to the offended person and explain your behavior. In most cases, this should lead to reconciliation, especially if you sincerely desire it. You may even have to explain your reasons in front of a group of people, but you need to find the strength to do this in order to improve the relationship.

But even if reconciliation does not happen, or a person simply enjoys discussing you behind your back, saying nasty things, if his resentment towards you does not go away, you will know that on your part you did everything possible. Let the person’s behavior be on his conscience, you don’t have to worry about guessing, you can simply stop communicating with this subject. This is also a good way when discussions of your personality are being conducted to spite you. Do not pay attention to them, neither such people nor their evil thoughts are worth your dignity and peace of mind.

In modern society there are many aggressive people, since the frantic pace of life leaves its mark on mood, behavior and interpersonal communication. At a certain period of life, people collide with each other, so avoiding conflicts is quite difficult. Sooner or later you will find yourself in the line of fire with someone who is hurling insults. At such moments, you must fight back your opponent. Some start a fight, others react calmly. Let's consider all the methods in order.

Method number 1. tediousness

1. The boring technique is quite common among intelligent people. If you are superior to your opponents in mental development, consider this option. If your interlocutor is trying to insult you, give him an analogy from scientific literature.
2. For example, you were reproached for having a mess on your desktop, as if you had evolved from a pig. Find your bearings in time and answer: “Darwin has repeatedly proven the fact that pigs are in no way related to humans. They don't work at a desk, so they can't create clutter in the workplace. Read the book to make more accurate arguments in the future!”
3. In addition to the fact that the fact will hurt the offender, the opponent will be confused. You will have enough time to plan further dialogue. Not many people have scientific knowledge; such a move would put the boor in an awkward position.

Method number 2. Ignoring

1. Not every person can muster the will to turn on the ignoring mode, and besides, such behavior is not always appropriate. However, there are often cases when this tactic comes in handy.
2. If the insult is petty, a grin is the best option. Smile at one corner of your lips, thinking to yourself how much better the world would be without fools. If a person is narrow-minded and even stoops to base insults, show contempt.
3. Don't hold back your positive attitude. You can laugh in your opponent's face without responding with words. Make it clear that rudeness does not offend you at all, even if the situation is different.
4. The tactic of ignoring is to prove to your opponent his stupidity. It is possible that he will become even more furious when he sees your reaction. Namely, that his words not only do not bother you, but also amuse you.
5. If the person is sane, you can accompany the smile with a polite phrase. For example, “Is it just me or did you have a bad day?” If a person belongs to the category of boors, your attack will cause even greater discontent.
6. Unfortunately, the modern world is deteriorating, so it is important to use the ignoring technique correctly. It is suitable for arguing with ill-mannered people who do not watch their language.
7. Never try to justify yourself if you see that the insult is inappropriate. Again, it is better to ignore the attacker, smiling maliciously in response. Do not cross into the offender’s territory; such a move will obviously be a losing one.

Method No. 3. Calm

1. The previous options, namely “Ignoring” and “Boring,” are sarcastic methods. You suppress the offender through malice, some kind of mockery. This method differs in that you need to respond to insults in a calm tone.
2. Do not swear, use swear words or raise your voice several tones. Answer with a slight smile and be friendly. Find out what exactly doesn’t suit your interlocutor. Try to analyze the situation “piece by piece”.
3. Such behavior shocks the opponent, and some begin to feel awkward. A conflict situation often ends with an apology from the offender. This option will prevent the scandal from developing into a disaster.
4. If you have peace of mind and want to maintain harmony in your heart, do not respond with anger to an insult. When it is difficult to achieve this, take 5 deep breaths and the same number of exhalations, and then proceed to further dialogue.

Method number 4. Gratitude

1. The technique of gratitude is also called “Aikido”. Of course, experienced specialists do not advise engaging in assault. The technique consists of transferring aggression from the opponent to himself.
2. This option is suitable for people who are offended in the presence of colleagues or other large crowds of people. In such situations, it is important to defend your honor, but it must be done correctly.
3. Tell the other person that you are extremely grateful to him. For what? Because he spent a lot of time listing your shortcomings. Also clarify that you wouldn't do that because you don't care about him.
4. It is important that there is no sarcasm in your answers. The main thing is to be serious and calm, as if you were casually paying attention to the offender. By demonstrating fortitude, you will emerge victorious from the skirmish while saving face.
5. Conclude with another thank you. Let him know that in the evening you will think about your own shortcomings and try to correct them in the near future. As practice shows, such an answer misleads boors. At the same time, all the “viewers of the show” will definitely take your side.

Method No. 5. Revelation

1. In most cases, insults in the family circle or among close friends can be eliminated in time if you bring the opponent to a frank dialogue. It is important to step over your pride and stop resisting, then start manipulating.
2. Let your loved one know that you are uncomfortable listening to these types of complaints. Try to find out what they are supported by. If the arguments are true enough, listen and draw conclusions.
3. If you're in pain, let me know. As a rule, most situations are resolved peacefully. If people are dear to each other, they will be able to find a solution to any problem.
4. If we are talking, again, about family or friends, try to forgive the offender in advance. You yourself understand that irritation and indignation do not appear out of nowhere. Since the person is dear to you, try to understand and forgive him.

Method number 6. Humor

1. Positivity is everything! The recommendation is especially relevant in cases with poorly educated or close people. A good joke or a positive reaction to an insult will smooth out rough edges.
2. To defuse the atmosphere, you need to have a sense of humor. When you repel attacks in this way, the other person will become confused. His concentration will be broken as the insults take a different turn.
3. Further development of the scandal will become irrelevant after both laugh at the joke. It is important to reflect negativity in a timely manner so that it does not develop into something more.
4. Of course, not all situations need to be laughed off. For example, if you were insulted on the way to work (in traffic or public transport), the best option would be to distance yourself. Move away from the offender, making it clear that his company is unpleasant for you.

Win-win phrases

There are many phrases that will help you emerge victorious from a conflict situation. You can remember the ones you like and then use them for their intended purpose.

1. “Excuse me, are you finished?”
2. “What a pity, I thought you were a man with brains!”
3. “I can say for sure that the image of a boor does not suit you! Although…"
4. “Dear, please slow down. I'm not your wife (brother, matchmaker)"
5. “By your tone, one can understand that you have confused the shores...”
6. “With your behavior, do you want to achieve the truth or a flattering answer?”
7. “Why would an educated person expose his shortcomings to everyone?”
8. “Don’t worry about me so much...”
9. “By getting personal, are you trying to compensate for your lack of intelligence?”
10. “Thank you for your interest in my person and life in particular. Your call is very important for us..."
11. “Why are you trying to offend me? Are you an energy vampire?
12. "Beautiful weather, isn't it?"

There are basic techniques that will allow you to save face and respond to insults with dignity. The most common options are boring, positive, ignoring, calm, gratitude and revelation. You will also find useful universal phrases that can be used in controversial situations.

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Everyone has had to deal with situations of rudeness and rudeness. Swear words can really ruin your mood for a long time. And, alas, you hear curses not only from strangers, but also from loved ones. If you react correctly, the situation can easily be replayed in your favor. The ability to be rude in response will help, but not in a rude manner, but beautifully. This will be discussed in the article.

This category of people is characterized by low self-esteem, a sick psyche and a lack of healthy energy. They try to assert themselves and replenish their energy supply at the expense of other people. In this case, wine does not play a role, but you just want to “break loose.” It seems that it is impossible to talk to such people. However, there is always a way out of the situation.

It’s amazing, but they can only be rude and rude to certain people. They bypass some. Why does this happen? There is an explanation for this. Does not allow you to fight back a rude person:

• conflict-free nature;
• guilt;
• diffidence;
• weak human biofield.

This is felt by rude people on a subconscious level, and such people become “easy prey.” But you shouldn’t silently endure insults or, conversely, answer something like “you’re a fool.” Therefore, we learn to be rude beautifully!

It is more effective and better for your own well-being. The main thing is not to stoop to the level of the offender, otherwise you will have to recognize a similar level of culture in yourself. Therefore, you need to come up with a non-standard answer. Which? Bold but beautiful.

Make the foul-mouthed person feel stupid and retreat. Thus, intelligence, intelligence and self-confidence overcome limitations and arrogance. The result will be a witticism, grounded in erudition, and hidden in a cultural phrase. This is where the techniques of beautiful rudeness lie. There seems to be no swearing, but at the same time the rude person is shown in a bad light. The phrase: “Oh, what a sharp joke, I cut myself” will show the bully and those around him the stupidity of the trick.

Rules of beautiful rudeness

You need to learn to respond to the witticisms of loved ones, friends and other people in the correct form. If you are provoked into a quarrel, then you can resort to psychological measures in response. So, let's learn to be rude beautifully!

• Those who like to chat online are familiar with the term “trolling.” The trick is that in response to the rudeness of the foul speaker, he receives a set of intelligent abstruse phrases, like: “What do you think about the race of people, being an outsider?”
• Another way is to answer in the form of a question. “Oh, sorry, I can’t talk now, I’m busy. In 20 years, where can I find you?”
• A sense of humor helps under any circumstances. There are many phrases about this on the Internet. Here are examples. “Opposite my house there is a cemetery. If you get kicked out, you’ll settle opposite,” or “Giggle, giggle. You can’t laugh with such and such teeth”, “Are we going yet? Why is it so leisurely?”, “You speak, speak. Maybe you’ll say something smart!”
• The martial arts called “aikido” is based on the principle of “giveaways”. Techniques are also used in a dispute, agreeing with the opponent and disarming.
• Disappointment can easily cool the ardor of a “hot head.” You can use, for example, the following phrases: “Come on, don’t worry. One day you’ll be able to say something funny,” or “Don’t be upset, many are deprived of talent”...
• “Allergy” is used starting with a cough or yawning, after which they say: “Sorry, my allergy begins with verbal diarrhea.” “Speak, speak. I always yawn when I'm interested."

Other interesting techniques for responding to rudeness

You can be polite and patient without being aggressive in return. Smile and respond politely to attacks. This will knock the offender out of his usual rut. Eventually he retreats.

• The boring method also sometimes helps. It works on forums. At the same time, administrators can calmly describe the participant’s violations without emotion, deciding to ban the rude person.
• Shock breaks stereotypes, confusing the offender. Phrases that are not related to the topic are suitable for this. It’s a good idea to stock up on a couple of three blanks so that, if necessary, you can put the brute in his place.

You should not mentally place the offender on a pedestal, imagining him as the embodiment of evil. It’s better to imagine a little hedgehog releasing its thorns out of fear. He is angry with long and sharp needles, but at the same time scared and small. You should treat him in a friendly manner, showing pity. Then, perhaps, he will change his hostility and move towards a peaceful direction.

• Ignoring is a universal method of dealing with rudeness. Silence is not only a safe response, but also a beautiful one if you try hard enough. It is better to prefer this method in cases where the rude person is dangerous to health and life. Attention is important to him in order to be fueled with energy. But if they don’t receive one, it becomes a terrible punishment.

Ignoring must be correct, without accompanying unhappy glances and sighs. There should not be an impression that grievances are meekly swallowed due to the inability to respond and forgive. Emotions are turned off - this is the trick. The offender does not exist in nature, period. And you remain a happy person, not paying attention to trifles and nonsense.

How to respond to opponents

There is a difference between beautiful rudeness towards friends and relatives or strangers on the street. Being rude to loved ones is low and mean. But, in life, it happens that at home we relax and break down. In such cases, it is important to be able to respond correctly to barbs. The best way is:

• calm;
• condescension;
• sense of humor.

With strangers you should remain polite, intelligent and friendly.

• It is better not to utter ironic phrases towards civil service employees. It is more useful to write a complaint about rude people to a higher-ranking person.
• Many people prefer to endure insults from employers without reacting to them. This behavior is hardly correct. At the same time, self-esteem drops lower and lower. Maintain your dignity and your own opinion. Then you are guaranteed respect from your superiors.
• It also happens that offensive words are heard from the person closest to you. In such cases, the best option is a sincere desire to understand the reason for the behavior and understand each other.

Learning to be rude beautifully: new and old

• Yes, saving the world with beauty is not a mission for you.
• What, wings have grown behind your back? You need to croak less.
• Teeth are not hair; they will fall off and will not grow back.
• Make-up suits you a la boxer.
• To go crazy, first find your mind.
• For some jokes, gaps appear between the teeth.
• What, were you born with an extra chromosome?
• Lose yourself in horror!
• Stupid! - And you are sharp, I see!
• If you don’t call today, I’ll call you myself. But not for you.
• What can I say about you? Mom didn’t want to, dad didn’t try.
• And you're awesome! - Yes? - No, I'm drunk, and you're first on the contact list.
• I'm sure you were conceived on a bet!
• Here's an ice cream stick, I imagined it was a horse and galloped away from here.
• The Rh factor is the only positive quality you have.
• Can you pick up teeth from the floor with broken arms?
• What a love you have for nature! It's a shame it's unanswered!
• It’s okay, I’ll just have a couple more glasses of beer and you’ll become a beauty!
• Are you here? Did you forget to close the zoo at night?
• Don't look in your head. There's nothing there.
• Well, it’s understandable that I was born stupid. But what is the reason for the relapse?
• Are we running great or are we tired of living?
• Have you already received a medal for idiocy?
• What, a star? So sit on the Christmas tree and sparkle!
• -Have you found someone? - Yes, instead of you. Are you worried? - No, I also eat sweetener on a diet.
• Yes, I'm polite. If I send it, I’ll call you back later to find out if I got there...
• No need to ask me about life like that! After all, she is so interesting that you will be disappointed in yourself.
• Look, no matter how you smile with your gums.

If a person learns to respond to attacks and barbs with ease, then after communicating with a rude person, the mood will not deteriorate. But, self-esteem will steadily grow, and a new perception will improve life in general.