There are things that neither a woman nor a man can ever forgive each other. It may seem that the conflict is settled and its parties have forgotten about it, but doubts and resentment always gnaw at one side. The thing is that she could not forgive the perfect and forget the offense.

It's no secret that men and women are built differently. They have different thinking and reactions to the same event. So, what cannot be forgiven to a man is sometimes forgiven to a woman. It is necessary to understand this in detail in order not to make mistakes for which one would have to ask for forgiveness.

What men do not forgive women

Men are quite patient creatures. They are less emotional, but more categorical. For them, "lisping" and "music" are not characteristic. If something does not suit them, then for the most part, they chop off the shoulder. Of course, everything is individual, and what one man does not forgive, another can forgive. But for the most part, the situation is as follows. So, what men do not forgive their women.

1. Treason

The vast majority of the male population is not inclined to forgive betrayal of their girlfriends and wives. And the point here is not at all jealousy, but self-esteem, which was dealt a crushing blow. He, the best, successful, charming and attractive, was compared with someone else. It just can't be!

Change also has a scale: from emotional betrayal, before physical. For some, one comparison with the EX is enough, and that's it - chips flew. Many women do not let up and call their first child the name of their ex, which also deals an unthinkable blow to a man's pride.

For a man, female infidelity is not easy betrayal, but an insult. He immediately begins to doubt his uniqueness and, in order to protect himself from such a thing in the future, breaks off relations once and for all. Men do not forgive physical betrayal, no matter how much a woman apologizes and no matter how she swears allegiance. Most often, the thought that “changed once, will be and twice” does not leave consciousness. And such a woman ceases to exist forever for a man, even if it is very painful.

2. Men never forgive insults against them.

A famous proverb says "my tongue is my enemy". And this applies a lot to women. In a fit of quarrel or resentment, she tends to express everything that she thinks. Very often she will regret it and apologize, but, unfortunately, "the word is not a sparrow ...".

Men rarely pay attention to offensive words addressed to them. Well, they called them a scoundrel or a scoundrel. Think about it. In a few hours, this quarrel will be forgotten, and offensive words will be erased from memory.

But it’s another matter when pride is hurt, when, in a fit of anger, a friend called him a loser in life, an unmanly and incapable man.

Men are especially offended by remarks addressed to them as an unsatisfactory sexual partner. Here she will never ask for forgiveness. These words will not be forgotten, and even if a man pretends to forgive, but in fact, he will remember them all his life.

3. Men never forgive sexual neglect.

Any man gives joy and pleasure when his partner considers him the best in sex. But when it turns into an ordinary marital debt, then trouble is possible.

If a woman avoids intimacy, citing busyness, fatigue or a migraine, this is a reason for a man to think. Firstly, he is visited by the thought that he no longer satisfies his partner, as before, and secondly, that she may have taken a lover.

These thoughts haunt him, he can even seek self-affirmation with another woman. Well, this is a betrayal that women do not forgive, a break in relationships and a divorce.

4. It’s hard for men to forgive the superiority of a woman.

A man is used to being the head of the family, the breadwinner, the conqueror. This has been the case for many centuries. He believes in it and considers it right. But then a woman appears in his life who takes on the role of head. Only some representatives of the stronger sex will come to terms with this.

Absolutely indifferent to this state of affairs will be treated by those who are unsure of themselves, or as they are also called “sissy”. For them, the supremacy of women will even be a joy. They will shift to her the solution of all problems and worries. But be prepared that in all failures, they will also blame their partner.

But in most cases, the supremacy of a woman is an unacceptable situation in the family for a man. He will never come to terms with it and never forgive. He simply will not allow a woman to start commanding and leading him. You don't even have to try here.

5. The physical superiority of a woman

It is difficult for a man to accept and forgive not only the moral, but also the physical superiority of a woman. If she is stronger, more physically developed, then he is unlikely to like it. And this again hurts his male pride.

Here, many will object that nothing prevents a man from developing physically, and not from growing a beer belly. It really is. But if a girl always emphasizes his physical shortcomings and constantly “pounds” him that he needs to sign up for a gym, this will bring its consequences.

A wise woman will always be able to find an approach to this and make sure that the man himself understands and decides to take care of his physical form.

6. Great love of money and prudence

The biggest mistake of the chosen one of a man is to tell him that without a car and an apartment, he would not have imagined anything and she would not have paid attention to him. Hearing that the woman he loved was attracted only by his well-being, and not by spiritual qualities, is very painful.

The reaction to such words can be both a strong offense and leaving for another woman who is not so interested in his money.

7. A man does not forgive insults to his relatives.

Relatives, as you know, are not chosen. Even if they are not impeccable, they are relatives, they are family. He can think anything about them and say too, but he will perceive critical remarks from a woman as a personal insult.

During a quarrel, a woman should not remember the relatives of her chosen one. Whatever they are, he will certainly defend their good name. Especially it is not necessary to speak insultingly or mockingly about loved ones. He will never forget these words.

Yes, sometimes those still shots get into relatives, and, most likely, your man understands this, but in the heat of your anger and the peak of his patience, he simply can choose them, and not you. Yes, perhaps you are more fortunate and your relatives are more cultured and reserved, or even better - they live far away. But imagine if they lived nearby, maybe they also pissed off your man. Therefore, every time you want to criticize the uncle of your chosen one again, think for a second: do you need it ?! After all, you have your own relationship and you love each other not for relatives, but for those qualities that are in your chosen one.

8. Men do not forgive barbs

If a man once showed weakness or his physical incompetence, and a woman cannot calm down and constantly reminds him of this, and even tells everyone in a row. That is a punch in the gut!

A man cannot endure ridicule from a seemingly loving woman.

9. Jealousy

Excessive and / or unreasonable jealousy can bring any man to a boiling point. If a woman does not give him a pass, controls him every second, calling every half an hour when he is with friends in the bath or at work, and if he does not pick up the phone, then they call your friends - this can be two hundred of any man. Remember the measure, no need to overdo it.

What else men do not forgive women

The list of "terrible sins" that under no circumstances will be forgiven by men include the following:

• female stupidity . The statement that men love silly beauties has long lost its relevance. They love smart beauties. Remember this;
• addiction to strong alcoholic beverages . Few people will like a woman who can hardly stand on her feet and has a terrible smell of drunk alcohol, especially if this is a fairly common occurrence;
• woman's demand to stop communicating with friends . Male friendship is something that no woman, even the most beloved, can influence. The prohibition to communicate with friends is regarded as an infringement on personal freedom;
• constant reproaches regarding any area of ​​life , whether it be salary, position, skills and abilities;
• demanding an apology for any reason ;
• hobby for serials . Every man wants to be paid attention to. He will not be able to forgive if a woman exchanges precious minutes with him for watching her series;

It is believed that a woman is able to forgive an insult, but she will never forget it. A man, on the contrary, will not forgive her. After all, to forgive, according to many men, is to show their weakness. For them it is unnatural.

What will a man forgive his beloved woman

It seems that there are no situations that a man is ready to forgive. In fact, a loving man is ready to close his eyes and forgive a lot. Why do men forgive women? Of course, the main reason is love. Loving people are ready to forgive each other a lot.

• A wise and loving man will never leave his chosen one because of minor flaws, for example, if she does not know how to cook. Although, if there are a lot of these shortcomings, then ...
• A man will turn a blind eye to excessive awareness of the personal lives of your girlfriends. He will understand that changing a woman is simply unrealistic. At the genetic level, they have a need to share information and experiences. But still, a woman should remember that not all the details of family life should become public. There must be some secret between the two.
• And most importantly, that a man is ready to forgive his beloved woman, her passion for shopping and shopping. Let her make purchases that are not always necessary and spend large sums on it, but the man will endure it. Here it is important for her not to cross the line herself and not to spend the entire family budget.

What can not be forgiven a man

There is an opinion that a woman is ready to make any sacrifices for the sake of preserving her family and is ready to forgive a man all the time. What a lot of guys use. So it was before. But times are changing. Gone are the days when a man was held in a stranglehold. Now, more and more often we meet self-sufficient women who feel quite confident in professional terms and stand confidently on their feet. For whom the main thing in life is to find an honest man who will love only her and her children all his life.

But there is that line, the violation of which a woman still cannot forgive a man, even if she loves him very much.

1. Treason

This is number one in any case. Like a man, it is also difficult for a woman to get used to the idea that a man easily admitted the fact of a partner substitution. Love, intimately, for many women is a sacrament between her and her lover, it is complete trust and openness. And when a third one invades this fabulous world, it already ceases to be so valuable and unshakable. So it can no longer satisfy as well as before on an emotional level.

Few women around the world forgive this sin to their men. Most often because of the preservation of the family.

Treason is a “point of no return” for both women and men. You can try to forgive, for your own sake, for the sake of your children, to step on the throat of your pride, but... It will be the same as collecting a broken vase. Beautiful? It seems to be whole, but something is not right. And the cracks remind of what happened.

Advice does not help in this situation. Some say that you need to quit, forget and move on. And most likely, this is the right decision, but which is very difficult.

Why do women forgive infidelity? First of all, they are afraid of being alone without support. There is also some uncertainty about the future and one's own strengths.

2. Dangerous addictions

The woman believes that the bad habits of his beloved are in the past. But, sadly, there are no former drug addicts, alcoholics and gamers. Pernicious passion replaces them with love. The big delusion of the chosen one is to think that her man will change his habits for her sake. Such cases are rare.

A man will not give up a dangerous addiction, even if he is persuaded and asked. All addictions are deep in the subconscious and in order to eradicate them, cardinal measures (psychologists or doctors) or new deep meanings of life are needed. He will promise hundreds of times that he will stop it, but at the same time he will return home drunk again. The next morning he will ask for forgiveness and make promises, but is it worth believing this for the hundredth time. As a rule, women answer - no! But there are others, "terpils". Most often, these are women who are not self-confident, who believe that they will not find anyone better anyway, “and who needs me at 35 years old.”

3. Women do not forgive emotional dullness.

Support in difficult times is very important for every woman, it is important that a loving person is nearby. For women, in principle, it is common to experience a huge amount of emotions. And when you keep everything in yourself for a long time, peaks come that splash out. At such moments, I want to cry, speak out and hear words of support and sympathy in response. It is not always possible to call a friend or mother, and of course, all hope is for a beloved man. But, as luck would have it, he is not around or he does not react in any way, considering your emotions unreasonable and “twisted”.

Ardent and emotional women are simply not able to take such a callous attitude to their emotions now and therefore prefer to part with a man. In this situation, we are talking about a mismatch of temperaments.

4. Women do not forgive constant complaints about life.

Lamentation is the lot of women, but not men. A man must be strong and resistant to all blows of fate. Every woman wants to feel secure and confident that she can always rely on her man. Can a normal woman live with a type who always complains about everyone and everything? Everyone is to blame for him, including the chosen one, that something did not work out for him, that the position was not given to him and that the salary is not high enough.

Not every woman can endure constant complaints. Yes, and it is impossible to understand and forgive when you are accused of all mortal sins.

5. Constant Promises

Women like it when men keep their promises. There is a significant difference between reminders of a certain action, for example, hang a lamp in the hallway, and empty promises. Reminding a man a few times about something is normal, but when promises take on the proportions of a disaster and are not kept, then this is an occasion to reflect.

The man promised to re-tile the bathroom and did not do it, he promised that he would change his behavior and not be so callous to her emotions and did not do it, he promised to stop drinking or not to return again so late and did not do it, he promised to take care of raising children - and did not do it again promised. When the sum of these terms reaches the limit point, the woman simply cannot stand it and takes drastic measures.

Living with a partner who only "feeds" promises is living in constant dissonance: you seem to believe that he will improve, but this does not happen. All this leads to the development of personal and interpersonal conflicts.

6. Unfulfilled ambitions

It is very difficult for women whose man considers himself an unrecognized genius. By this he constantly justifies his laziness, inactivity. A woman can work three jobs to feed her family, while he will lie on the couch and wait for the muse to visit him.

Here, of course, it is a purely individual matter, to forgive and live on, or to let the artist go on free bread. But, as a rule, a genius does not consider it necessary to change anything and continues to wait for his inspiration.

7. Excessive pride

When a man sees no one but himself, it repels a woman. Next to such a man, a woman feels in secondary roles.

Excessive narcissism of a man with his personality, his qualities and achievements makes a woman think about the quality of relations with such a male.

8. Greed

Everyone knows the fact that a woman has more things than men. This is connected both with physiological characteristics and with the roles performed by a woman in the family: mother, mistress, wife, girlfriend, etc.

Many women relax when they go shopping. But there are men who are not ready to shell out for women's whims. To make a useless gift to your beloved, and even more so to buy her an extra handbag, is not about them. They will count every ruble spent by a woman and ask her to account for all purchases. Which, undoubtedly, at a certain time will make the girl think about whether she needs such an accountant in a relationship at all.

An interesting video that will complement the above points. Mistakes of men in relationships.

Relationships are the foundation of a family. How you learn to build relationships before marriage will directly determine the style of your married couple. God created us all equal, we are all born the same, which means we define and create ourselves by working on ourselves, our complexes, fears, etc. We create our own personality. It's easier for someone to be in the role. And someone prefers to be a director and take an active part in building himself, his environment, his life.

We enter into relationships with already established life positions. Someone is ready to forgive all the “deeds” of his partner, and someone will never put up with what does not correspond to his life positions.

In the first case, the relationship is doomed: eternal torment, eternal problems, conflicts, etc.

In the second case, a person knows exactly what kind of partner he is looking for, with what qualities and attitudes. And such a person will definitely find it. And this couple will be happier.

So, what can not be forgiven in a relationship, so as not to be in the role of a victim.

1. Aggression cannot be forgiven

Aggression both towards your partner and towards children. Whatever happens in a man's life, he has no right to take his anger out on a woman, and even more so to raise a hand against her or her children. Sometimes it is not only about physical violence, but also moral. Sometimes harsh words can hurt more. Such behavior destroys even the best relationships that have existed for a long time. But can you really call them good? Aggression should not be forgiven, under any pretext.

You can not forbid your partner to communicate with friends or do what you love in your free time. Often, in this way, he splashes out the negative that has accumulated in him. Otherwise, everything may reflect on you.

2. Dark past

Everyone, without exception, has some secrets connected with their past. For some, this is a long-passed stage to which they do not return and it is better not to stir them up. But there are some things that a partner should know about before starting a relationship. After all, sooner or later some facts of the dark past will become known. It is impossible to hide a criminal past or five illegitimate children.

If you honestly admit what you have done in the past, then a truly loving person can understand and forgive small, in his opinion, sins. And it’s better to tell him about it on the shore in order to understand how small they are for him, can he live with this information about you? But if you try to hide the dark past, then the partner will regard it as a lie and betrayal. After all, to find out that the husband has several more children and the common child will be 5th in line for the inheritance. This is sometimes hard to accept and forgive.

3. Lack of communication with children from previous relationships

Before starting a new relationship, it is important to find out what kind of relationship your partner had before you. After all, on the basis of previous experience, you can build harmonious relationships.

The fact that a man already in adulthood did not have a relationship or children is alarming. Usually, before the age of 40, men have time to get married and have at least one child.

And if a woman, who broke off all contact with her children from her first marriage, left them to be raised by her father, then this is a clear reason to think about what kind of relationship you will have.

It is important to find out all the circumstances of the current situation with children from the first marriage. If a man regularly sees his firstborn, helps financially and morally, then these are signs of a good father. But if he is not at all interested in the life of his own child and saw him for the last time several years ago, and in the VKontakte photo, then you need to think about it.

Every woman, first of all, has developed a mother's instinct. She will not forgive a man such an attitude towards his own child. She is able to love her husband's child from a previous relationship, but she cannot forgive his dislike.

What can be forgiven for a man is small errors. They are forgotten in just a few hours. But a woman's patience is not infinite, just like men. You need to be able to hear each other, respect and share experiences. This is the key to a strong and lasting relationship.

The ability to forgive is a manifestation of a strong spirit. Better think again before you say something. After all, relationships are built brick by brick, and how you lick the next brick will depend on how the whole structure will turn out.

And finally, the reasoning of psychologists about male and female infidelity. Myths and reality.

Over the past ten years, or even several tens of centuries, people have been forcibly invested in the concept that it is better to forgive their offenders, they will be rewarded according to their merits by higher powers for their black deeds.

Today, there are a lot of sick people in the world who have been forgiven, accepted, agreed, based on popular teachings and modern trainings.

And I will now talk to you about the fact that you can’t forgive, yes ... in order to maintain your integrity. You may not agree with me and you will be right too.

Did I forgive? Relatives, yes. No others.

My story now does not touch on the topic of a close circle of native people, people related to you by blood. This is another topic. separate for explanation. I will tell you about those cases when you were harmed by strangers (neighbors, colleagues, buddies, "friends", all kinds of structures), and you swallowed it, accepted it, forgave it ... Not letting go of the offense, but on the contrary, hiding it even deeper in itself. Why? Let's go in order.

The other day, a girl came to me for an appointment, who was energetically exhausted and depressed. As a result, she is not successful either in her personal life or in other issues that are significant to her. The fact that it has a negative program - it became clear to me right away, we began to work. Such a program was not a directed blow, but a bunch of blows that she took upon herself unconditionally and unquestioningly for many years. Did she forgive? Oh yeah! Didn't get angry at the offenders? No, she thought that anger was bad and got rid of it as best she could. But the body remembers everything, and the subconscious mind recorded everything inside, anyway, the thought of the desire for a person to answer for everything ... lived in it. After our session, it became easier for her to breathe. But what she said after the meeting instead of gratitude just shocked me! “I’m kind, I don’t want him to return to those who sent him to me, removing the negative from me, I don’t want this for them”

So this article has matured against the background of this.

Dear ones, when you forgive your offender, you simplify the situation by making it easier. not in your favor. On an energetic level, it looks like this. The person sent you a stream of negative, destructive energy (in other words, just dirt), and you accepted it safely, thanking for this with your forgiveness, thus removing from the offender all obligations for what he had done, and all causal relationships for practicing this act.

Question! Where has the energy gone? Right! It took root in your body, in your subtle body and consciousness, and began to grow, and possibly feed on similar "forgiveness" The energy remains with the one who accepted it. The negative twists like a funnel, violating the integrity of your ethereal field, holes are formed. Subsequently, you attract through them a similar negative from the outside, at the same frequencies, and the most unpleasant thing is that your loved ones who live with you on the same territory indirectly fall into this funnel.

"So I let go of the enemy and the negative!" - you say.

Released where and to whom? Until the address and purpose are specified, it remains with you. And can hold it cunning guilt.

Have you seen people unpunished? Here is a vivid example of how they were forgiven by their own victims.

It is sacrifice that is born in people when they hear all around that everyone needs to be forgiven ... turn the other side so that they hit harder. They suppress their power and become simple, weak, manageable. This technology is clearly supported by some religions, in which a person is not a SPIRIT, but a victim and carry his cross to him until he dies...

Victims today are clients of psychologists and psychoanalysts, magicians, priests, night girlfriends...and you will agree with me that there are quite a few of them...Only you have the right to decide whether you are a victim or a winner.

Forgiveness... FORGIVENESS state... Imagine a little Puppy. He is very small and cannot take care of himself. Another thing is an adult dog that runs fast, jumps, it is full of strength and will not attack first, but if you hit it in the face, it is unlikely that it will give you a paw... Can a person be like that? Yes, if he still believes that he is not a puppy in this world.

Rituals of forgiveness were very popular at one time. Radical forgiveness even became fashionable study. But, many people with these techniques came to me with a lot of problems and failures in life. You probably already guessed what kind of kickbacks they pulled to themselves when they forgave everyone indiscriminately with a backhand. They read mantras in the pure stream of the Universe, and in response she accepted their messages and removed all "sins" from those who were truly guilty. (This is not about petty grievances, I write about serious things... a victim of rapists, criminals, teachers at school who bully children, peers, and others...)

A person who does not feel guilty is often freed from it by the mercy of his victim, and sometimes by himself denying the fact of his atrocity. Done and forgot. And the person who has forgiven slowly dies from a serious illness or mental illness. And, unfortunately, there are many such cases today. And not all experts understand the full depth of this problem. I personally know only three of them in Russia.

When a person undergoes repentance in the church (sometimes he repents precisely for holding evil against the enemy, thinking about revenge), from now on he takes on everything that he proclaimed before the clergyman or other mediator of forces. He experiences a strong sense of guilt at this moment, which means he accepts the right to be weak. On this thought-form, he attracts to himself all the troubles, problems, constantly solving one thing or another. "He's guilty, and therefore deserved."

People who are in a constant position of all forgiveness and acceptance receive again and again new and new slaps in the face from hard life. Observed?

Retribution is an Illusion that was instilled long ago so that people would let everyone go, and it would be easier to control them. Analyze for yourself, if retribution was based on the fact of your forgiveness, then boomerangs would fly over their heads every single day. But that doesn't happen. Why? (Reread the text above)

But people are told: he will answer for everything after death, in the next life, he will burn in a hyena ... and you?

Tests in the form of blows from others are given to a person not so that he "simplifies" them and agrees with them, but so that he learns how to respond to them correctly, becoming stronger, wiser, happier. This is the school of life. Natural selection.

No one has the right to take yours, to encroach on your territory, life, the life of your loved ones. If you go into someone else's house, you will become a criminal and must answer for your actions. These are the laws of Energy and cause-and-effect relationships. To hold a blow and protect the territory from the enemy was in the blood of your ancestors, and mine too.

1. Be bold and natural with your emotions. Don't be ashamed of what you are doing. When you have been hurt, offended, speak up about it, do not keep it to yourself. Do not take anything personally that may interfere with your life, that does not correspond to your values. If you do something you don't really want to do, you are blocking your inner resources. Your own will and natural process of protection. Be honest with yourself!
2. If a negative was directed at you, you realized it, collect it from yourself and send it back to the ill-wisher, even if you do not know who it is. Let him deal with his Karma himself, you have your own business.
3. Any Simplified negative is rubbish in your field. You take out the garbage when the smell has already gone ... Do you feel it? Do it immediately!
4. In order not to receive resentment against a person who supposedly needs to be forgiven later. Do step #2 first.
5. Can't forgive at all? Can! Only yourself, for wasting time on something that is not worthy of you. And so that you don’t have to do this, read point # 1.

Sergei Finko.

There are a lot of reasons for female anger: he did not shed a tear at the sight of a broken nail, wrote only one “whole” in SMS and forgot about “I love”. Let's figure out what is really behind your claims and what male misdeeds do not deserve a curse.

1. Carelessness

WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? It happens that men neglect your ideas about hygiene and order. They don't get their nails done, they wear the same shirt for two days in a row, and they leave dirty dishes on the floor next to their scattered socks. Is it worth it, at the sight of such a blatant disgrace with a rolling pin at the ready, to start chasing him around the apartment? How do you feel when you see socks on the floor mixed with leftover food and magazines? Probably an insult: a man does not appreciate your efforts to keep the house clean. And you instantly come to an illogical conclusion: if you don’t keep clean, then you don’t love.

WHAT TO DO? Doubtful conclusions will no longer be born in your head if you talk about your experiences with the addressee of the claims and make sure that he is not removed simply because the order is secondary for him, and not because he has stopped loving you. Psychologist Ekaterina Orel advises you to think about something else: “Imagine the opposite situation - a man requires sterile cleanliness, and you approach matters of order much more freely. Which is easier - to live with a dirty or a pedant? It’s not easy with both, but it’s possible to negotiate by discussing the rules that you both will follow. ”

2. Infantilism

WHAT'S HAPPENING? He can spend almost his entire salary on a new set-top box and from that day on even stop scattering socks, because he simply won’t take them off - it’s inconvenient when he has a joystick in his hands. It hurts you that you grew up and he didn't. You're already thinking about kids and mortgages, and he's got aliens and imaginary enemies on his mind.

WHAT TO DO? First you need to come to terms with the fact that a little boy lives in every man until old age - that's why he loves fancy toys, weapons, cars. And by the way, thanks to children's spontaneity and courage, most scientific discoveries are made by the stronger sex. “If it seems to you that childishness in a loved one is over the edge, then perhaps hyper-custody takes place in a relationship,” comments Ekaterina Orel, “after all, the roles in a couple usually complement each other.” If this seems to be true, try to learn how to communicate with your other half on an equal footing, like a partner, without scolding or pointing. And you can always agree: on Saturday - to Auchan, on Sunday - to paintball.

3. Eternal employment

WHAT'S HAPPENING? You call, he picks up the phone, says that he will call back, but does not do this for an hour. You dial his number and he hangs up. Then he comes home at midnight. Naturally, you think that he was not at any meeting, but with his mistress (for greater certainty, we picked up a few more plausible and not very reasons why he does not call). But even when common sense wins, jealousy still persists, only not for a fantastic blonde, but for the real job itself - is it really more important than you ?! And yet, admit it, you are a little jealous that he is so passionate about her, and you don’t have something to your liking.

WHAT TO DO? We need to accept the fact that men are often more serious about their business than we are. For them, this is a very important part of life, a way of self-expression. Trust him and don't make him go to the vet with you because the parrot sneezed yesterday! Ekaterina Orel notices that someone else's work is usually annoying when there is time for dissatisfaction: “Take care of your career, hobbies, family, friends - everything that makes your life rich and interesting. Then in the evening, instead of complaints, your beloved will hear your story about a wonderful day spent.

4. Self-doubt

WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? Statements like “I don’t know what to get mom for her birthday”, “you decide where we will have dinner”, or “I didn’t buy a cake because I’m not sure if you are allergic to prunes” are annoying because most girls are sure that a real man should know the answers to all questions! When he says something like that, your bleak future appears in colors - you are at home with five children, he calls from the store and asks: “Baby, buy milk with a fat content of 3.2% or 3.5%?” And I want it to be “the kid said - the kid did it”.

WHAT TO DO? Firstly, what you call self-doubt can be a sign of great love (he consults because he wants you to like it), a dangerous signal of distrust (he is afraid to displease) or banal fatigue (why should you choose a restaurant?) . Ekaterina Orel suggests letting a man be weak sometimes: “He has to show strength and confidence at work, with friends and even sometimes with his mother. Try to look at weakness as a sign of trust, and perhaps it will not be so annoying anymore.

5. Refusal of funding

WHAT'S HAPPENING? He's been splitting the bill for dinner at a restaurant for the last few dates. You, of course, deny the old-fashioned and humiliating idea that "he who has dinner with a girl dances her," but an inner voice sounds alarms - one long, three short ones. You can't believe he's serious. It seems that rules are rules and modern ideas are modern ideas, but this has nothing to do with love.

WHAT TO DO? First, you need to be honest. If you think that a serious man should not allow a lady to participate in paying for entertainment and food, then say so. After all, he may share your position, but, hearing the opposite, he will be afraid to offend you. “Budget issues often become a stumbling block even in established couples,” says Ekaterina Orel. “And here, too, you need to negotiate and establish rules.”

6. Taste mismatch

WHAT'S HAPPENING? He listens to domestic chanson, and your dad taught you to classic rock from the cradle. While you are arranging a household paradise in the kitchen, it turns on “But I’ll tie up in nature soon, I’ll rock you to the collective farm, I’ll lie down at the bottom.” After that, your inner Mick Jagger advises adding arsenic to the lover of criminal texts in the hot. Perhaps you are afraid that "this" (his love for chanson, Dontsova's detectives or cross-stitching) will be known to friends. An embarrassing thought, but a common one. We perceive partners as part of ourselves, which means that their hobbies are a little bit ours. And they are monstrous!

WHAT TO DO? Do not try to convince a man that Dontsova is not a master of words if her works touch him to the core. Just ask them not to quote the imperishable in front of your friends. Agree that he will listen to the chanson in headphones or in your absence. Surely, the leisure of the second half does not consist only of hobbies that annoy you. Try to find something that will bring his inner Circle closer to your inner Jagger - maybe it's travel or cooking. By the way, you can try to watch clips together in ours - who knows where there is a point of contact?

7. Jealousy

WHAT'S HAPPENING? Whose unfamiliar voices are heard from your phone? Why do sms "at work" come after ten? Why is the skirt so short today? Where were you between 17:15 and 17:28? All this at first amuses, and then it starts to terribly annoy. Strong jealousy and trust are incompatible things, and you, of course, are offended.

WHAT TO DO? First, imagine that he is not jealous at all and he does not care who you answer SMS after midnight and for what purpose you are going to your ex's birthday party. Will you feel loved? Secondly, try to understand his feelings and do not react aggressively to questions (which allegedly proves your guilt) - such tactics will console the jealous.

8. Humor

WHAT TO DO? Sometimes they make us the objects of their wit. And it's not always pleasant. It seems to you that if he loves, he should not notice, let alone ridicule any of your tastes, flaws or virtues. So you don’t like it - you sum it up logically! And sometimes it’s just terribly insulting that you can’t joke as cheerfully.

WHAT TO DO? If the jokes are not humiliating, then the most correct thing is to laugh at them. And prepare in advance a few retaliatory strikes. Humble yourself, it’s more difficult for women to successfully improvise, but we are beautiful and we don’t have to measure the size of cars with our girlfriends! Ekaterina Orel is sure that a man with a sense of humor is good luck: “You can more easily survive troubles. And resentment is an unproductive feeling: the one who is offended suffers much more than the culprit of his experiences. Support his game!

9. Unromantic

WHAT'S HAPPENING? Millions of men forget that we need to be looked after after the candy-bouquet period. The fourteenth of February and the eighth of March are not holidays for them, but they consider gifts without a reason to be unreasonable waste. Of course, you think that he stopped loving you - well, he used to give flowers, remember the dates and be sure to kiss before leaving for work.

WHAT TO DO? Of course, I didn't fall in love. But the period called "not a day without a surprise" is really over. And now you need to work on maintaining romance in a relationship. It's like with a figure - at first it is perfect, and in just a few years you have to not get off the treadmill for an hour a day. Try to come home from work with a bunch of roses - let him think what he wants. It's not very likely that gifts will fall on you like snow in February after the show, but it's a good way to start a conversation about your lack of romance. A man who is in a stable relationship often does not see the need to demonstrate feelings, because you already know everything - he loves you. Instead of silently pouting, it’s better to go up to him and say: “Listen, I miss romance so much, buy flowers!”

10. Propensity for polygamy

WHAT'S HAPPENING? No matter how in love men are, their interest in other women remains alive and well. This manifests itself in different ways: someone watches porn or pretends to read men's magazines. Some stare at others right in your presence. Of course, the first impulse under such circumstances is to throw a glass of water or any other liquid of arbitrary temperature into the face of the curious. It is clear that his behavior sows seeds of insecurity in you - why are photoshopped blondes better? He seems to like you less.

WHAT TO DO? Calmly! Glossy and even intensely moving naked women across the screen are no more dangerous than your seventy-year-old neighbor. And if a man does not pay attention to beautiful girls at all, this arouses suspicion. Ekaterina Orel recommends being guided by the principle of reality, not fantasy: “If you want to throw something heavy at him when he follows another beauty with his eyes, take a deep breath and think:“ But he is still with me. And check what happened to your aggression?

10 reasons on which you have every right to be annoyed:

- Lack of gifts and flowers on your birthday and other important occasions for you.

- Complete disregard for the elementary rules of hygiene (he is only familiar with the shower in theory).

- Idleness - he sleeps all day on the couch, covered with a prefix, and you earn money.

- The inability of a man to participate in making important decisions for both of you.

- His attempts to get you to listen, read and watch what is interesting only to him.

- Chronic insolvency - you should not regularly pay his bills if he is young and healthy.

— Systematic ignoring of your calls and SMS. Making time in your busy schedule is a sacred thing for you.

- Alcoholism and other addictions. They will only progress. Don't try to save him - it's called codependency.

- Bullying. If you feel that he is asserting himself at your expense and is trying to sharpen his tongue about you We have sent a confirmation email to your email.

Surely each person has his own list of words and deeds that in no case can be forgiven to anyone. But love and close relationships often force us to reconsider our principles, and sometimes even change them.

Being in love sometimes closes a woman's eyes to the ugly male actions of her partner, often forcing her to forgive what, in general, should not be forgiven.

So, what actions and words can never be forgiven even to a beloved man?

Treason

On the topic of unforgivable betrayal, the opinions of women and men unanimously agree in their majority - you can’t forgive betrayal! In treason, several negative points are collected - this is the pain from realizing the deception of a loved one, hatred of betrayal, and intolerance from the thought that he was close to another woman, this is the torment from the fact that someone broke into the close world of your relationship with a partner more, soiling and defiling the Temple of your love.

Sometimes even a very strong person cannot forgive betrayal, and the fact of betrayal can simply trample a weak, sensitive person.

Forgive the changer?

Of course, everyone decides for himself. But remember that to forgive is not to live the rest of your life with a person under the yoke of suspicion, pain and this resentment. To forgive betrayal is to let go of the situation, completely clear your heart of resentment and start life from scratch, never returning to the past. See also: How to respond to his betrayal?

The man raised his hand to the woman

The sad statistics that psychologists provide indicate that the fact of the first case when a man raises his hand to a woman soon becomes part of his rule of communication with a partner.

A man by nature is very strong, and he is able to protect his loved ones, as well as refrain from excessive emotionality and aggression. A strong man will never allow himself to humiliate a loved one.

The one who raised his hand against a woman is a creature with an unbalanced psyche, who can easily do it for the second and tenth time, each time getting more and more excited and using more and more sophisticated methods of humiliating his wife.

man beating children

Until the debate subsides about whether physical punishment of children is necessary, or it is not permissible, those men who do not have the right to be called men spread their hands in relation to their children, explaining this with fatherly love and the desire to raise good people out of them.

The highest role of a mother is to protect her children from all the cruelties in this world. So is it worth it to forgive a person who regularly tortures your flesh and blood? Is your love for your husband or the habit of living with him together worth all the humiliation, physical and moral pain of your child?

Lie

Whatever the male lie - small or big - it can be a serious obstacle to this couple's path to happiness. As a rule, it is a small lie that undermines relationships - every day, bit by bit, suddenly growing into a snowball over time, which can no longer be moved aside.

A lie of a man is a serious reason to doubt his feelings and sincerity. Relationships are built on trust, if there is no trust, there will be no love.

Public words of insult against a woman
Dirty words spoken by a man in public should not be forgiven him. If a man suddenly begins to share the intimate secrets of your relationship with friends, criticize you rudely, utter obscene expressions against you - this is a serious reason to reconsider relations with him.

In no case should a man forgive such behavior - unless, of course, you want to remain humiliated and insulted all your life, and possibly even beaten, in public.

Disrespectful attitude towards women

“That blonde has a superfigure, and after giving birth you blurred like a cow”, “But where do you care about this woman, you don’t know how to cook”, “My ex kept order, but you always have a mess” - and they continue comparing you with all the women on Earth, of course, is not in your favor. Should this be forgiven?

Respect is one of the pillars on which Love stands. There is no respect for you - and this love becomes "lame", or maybe it does not exist at all. Most likely, comparing with other women, humiliating you, makes a man feel the pain of his own EGO. Do you really need this weakling?

Male laziness

How often in life we ​​see families in which a woman is “I am a horse, I am a bull, I am both a woman and a man”, and the man lies down on the couch, finding endless excuses for his passivity ...

Such a man does not look for an additional opportunity to earn money, he does not try to solve financial crises in the family, he does not do any household chores. The most favorite activities of such a man are watching TV, lying on the couch, meeting friends in a garage or a beer bar, fishing, eternal smoke breaks ...

Are you sure that at the moment when you are suddenly unable to provide for your family and do all the housework, your man will take over the solution of problems? So whether it is necessary to put up with his passivity today - the answer is quite obvious.

The greed of a man

It is very difficult for a woman to feel loved and desired if her man is tight-fisted in gifts and purchases. In such couples, constant friction arises over allegedly excessive spending by the wife and children. A woman in such a pair is unlikely to receive chic gifts, and bouquets for her, if they are bought, then only on the basis of the principles of economy - cheaper, discounted.

It will be very difficult for any woman to come to terms with such a situation, if she has not completely given up on her life. And is it necessary to forgive a man for greed?

Insulting your relatives

If a man sincerely loves you, he will never stoop to insult your parents, children from a previous marriage, brothers, sisters, etc.

According to many people, in no case should you forgive your man the words of insulting relatives - even if they were uttered in a temper, and you should not forgive his ugly actions towards relatives.

Bad habits of a man

In no case should a woman put up with the most common bad male habits - alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling. A man who seeks solace in these manias of his does not really love you - these passions replace love for him. Although he may swear eternal love for you - but how, it is very convenient for him to return after a night of drinking or after major losses to the house, where he will be fed, calmed down, caressed.

Alcoholism, gambling, drug addiction can not be forgiven a man!

Male egoism and egocentrism

Your man speaks only about himself, attributing all family achievements to his person. He is ready to go on vacation to the country he chooses, it is he who decides which friends to be friends with you, and which ones should forget the way to your house.

A selfish man constantly wants attention to his person, but is very stingy to give attention to his companion or children.

Forgiving male egoism and resigning herself to this state of affairs, a woman a priori assigns herself secondary roles in his life. But wait, where is the love here?

Over the past ten years, or even several tens of centuries, people have been forcibly invested in the notion that it is better to [ FORGIVE] their offenders, they will be rewarded according to their merits by higher powers for their black deeds.
Today, there are a lot of sick people in the world who have been forgiven, accepted, agreed, based on popular teachings and modern trainings.
And I will now talk to you about the fact that it is impossible to forgive, yes ... in order to maintain your integrity. You may not agree with me and you will be right too.
Did I forgive? Relatives, yes. No others.
My story now does not touch on the topic of a close circle of native people, people who are related to you by blood. This is another topic. separate for explanation. I will tell you about those cases when you were harmed by strangers (neighbors, colleagues, buddies, “friends”, all kinds of structures), and you swallowed it, accepted it, forgave it ... Without letting go of the offense, but on the contrary, hiding it even deeper in yourself . Why? Let's go in order.


The other day, a girl came to me for an appointment, who was energetically exhausted and depressed. As a result, she is not successful either in her personal life or in other issues that are significant to her. The fact that it had a negative program became clear to me immediately, we began to work. Such a program was not a directed blow, but a bunch of blows that she took upon herself unconditionally and unquestioningly for many years. Did she forgive? Oh yeah! Didn't get angry at the offenders? No, she thought that anger was bad and got rid of it as best she could. But the body remembers everything, and the subconscious mind recorded everything, and deep inside the thought of the desire for a person to answer for everything ... lived in it. After our session, it became easier for her to breathe. But what she said after the meeting instead of gratitude just shocked me! “I’m kind, I don’t want him to return to those who sent him to me, removing the negative from me, I don’t want this for them”
[So this article has matured against the background of this.]
Dear ones, when you forgive your offender, you simplify the situation by making it easier. not in your favor. On an energetic level, it looks like this. The person sent you a stream of negative, destructive energy (in other words, just dirt), and you accepted it safely, thanking for this with your forgiveness, thus removing from the offender all obligations for what he had done, and all causal relationships for practicing this act. Question! Where has the energy gone? Right! It took root in your body, in your subtle body and consciousness and began to grow, and possibly feed on similar “forgiveness.” The energy remains with the one who accepted it. The negative twists like a funnel, violating the integrity of your ethereal field, holes are formed. Subsequently, you attract through them a similar negative from the outside, at the same frequencies, and the most unpleasant thing is that your loved ones who live with you on the same territory indirectly fall into this funnel.
“So I let go of the enemy and the negative!” - you say.
Released where and to whom? Until the address and purpose are indicated, she remains with you. And can hold it cunning guilt.
Have you seen people unpunished? Here is a vivid example of how they were forgiven by their own victims.
It is sacrifice that arises in people when they hear around that everyone needs to be forgiven ... turn the other side so that they hit harder. They suppress their power and become simple, weak, manageable. This technology is clearly supported by some religions, in which a person is not a SPIRIT, but a victim and carry his cross to him until he dies ...
The victims today are clients of psychologists and psychoanalysts, magicians, priests, night girlfriends ... and you will agree with me that there are quite a few of them ...
Only you have the right to decide whether you are a victim or a winner.
Forgiveness… FORGIVENESS state… Imagine a little Puppy. He is very small and cannot take care of himself. Another thing is an adult dog that runs fast, jumps, it is full of strength and will not attack first, but if you hit it in the face, it is unlikely that it will give you a paw ... Can a person be like that? Yes, if he still believes that he is not a puppy in this world.

Rituals of Forgiveness were very popular at one time. Radical forgiveness even became fashionable study. But, many people with these techniques came to me with a lot of problems and failures in life. You probably already guessed what kind of kickbacks they pulled to themselves when they forgave everyone indiscriminately with a backhand. They read mantras in the pure stream of the Universe, and in response she accepted their messages and removed all the "sins" from those who were truly to blame. (This is not about petty grievances, I write about serious things ... a victim of rapists, criminals, teachers at school who bully children, peers, and others ...)
A person who does not feel guilty is often freed from it by the mercy of his victim, and sometimes by himself denying the fact of his atrocity. Done and forgot. And the person who has forgiven slowly dies from a serious illness or mental illness. And, unfortunately, there are many such cases today. And not all experts understand the full depth of this problem. I personally know only three of them in Russia.
When a person undergoes repentance in the church (sometimes he repents precisely for holding evil against the enemy, thinking about revenge), from now on he takes on everything that he proclaimed before the clergyman or other mediator of forces. He experiences a strong sense of guilt at this moment, which means he accepts the right to be weak. On this thought-form, he attracts to himself all the troubles, problems, constantly solving one thing or another. "He's guilty, which means he deserves it."
People who are in a constant position of all forgiveness and acceptance receive again and again new and new slaps in the face from hard life. Observed?
Retribution is an Illusion that was instilled long ago so that people would let everyone go, and it would be easier to control them. Analyze for yourself, if retribution was based on the fact of your forgiveness, then boomerangs would fly over their heads every single day. But that doesn't happen. Why? (Reread the text above)
But people are told: he will answer for everything after death, in the next life, he will burn in a hyena ... and you?
Tests in the form of blows from others are given to a person not so that he “simplifies” them and agrees with them, but so that he learns how to respond to them correctly, becoming stronger, wiser, happier. This is the school of life. Natural selection.
No one has the right to take yours, to encroach on your territory, life, the life of your loved ones. If you go into someone else's house, you will become a criminal and must answer for your actions. These are the laws of Energy and cause-and-effect relationships. To hold a blow and protect the territory from the enemy was in the blood of your ancestors, and mine too.

Sergey, what to do, what recommendations?
1. Show your emotions boldly and naturally. Don't be ashamed of what you are doing. When you have been hurt, offended, speak up about it, do not keep it to yourself. Do not take anything personally that may interfere with your life, that does not correspond to your values. If you do something you don't really want to do, you are blocking your inner resources. Your own will and natural process of protection. Be honest with yourself!
2. If a negative was directed at you, you realized it, collect it from yourself and send it back to the ill-wisher, even if you do not know who it is. Let him deal with his Karma himself, you have your own business.
3. Any Simplified Negative is garbage in your field. You take out the garbage when the smell has already gone ... Do you feel it? Do it immediately!
4. In order not to receive resentment against a person who supposedly needs to be forgiven later. Do step #2 first.
5. Is it impossible to forgive at all? Can! Only yourself, for wasting time on something that is not worthy of you. And so that you don’t have to do this, read point # 1.
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