Have you ever asked yourself: why sometimes some have everything and others have nothing?

I answer questions from readers.

Anastasia, Kyiv

Everything you write about is clear and accessible. And you persuade yourself to start again after another fall, restore love and respect for yourself, try to find motivation. But then you sit down and cannot find answers to many questions. It sounds disgusting, I know, but have you ever asked yourself why sometimes some have everything and others have nothing? Why do you grab any opportunity to earn money and harbor hope inside that everything will work out, well, it can’t help but work out, while others live in completely different categories, for which, for example, “only a 500 dollar bag”, “just to Egypt 5- fly once a year”... I understand that everything is in our hands, everything will happen if we want it. But what if not?

Nastya, something “just to fly to Egypt for the 5th time in a year” is out of line with your example. Only the 5th time in the Alps this season, for the weekend for the Olympics, to Milan for shopping, to New York for a walk, and to Egypt, yes, you can go diving too - I understand this, normal life.

Okay, just kidding.

Essentially.

This is a terrible question - it’s true, and I’m answering it only because you, as one of my friends says, are “dumbing down” at least a little bit. That is, to some extent you understand how monstrous it is to think like that.

What’s really interesting to me is: are you fully aware that:

Sincerely wondering why “for some people have everything, and for others nothing,” a person nails himself tightly to the board of poverty, and what’s even worse, leads his life into the rut of eternal injustice?

This kind of thinking is the road to hell in life, where you will forever be a deprived victim. And no matter where you turn, nothing will really work out, because this is the role of the victim, and you proudly carry it day after day, proving to yourself that you are right.

The fundamental law of existence, which I highly recommend mastering if you want even the slightest progress in your life:

The victim cannot become the winner. But the victim can cease to be a victim. And then become anyone.

The victim cannot be serenely happy. But the victim can cease to be a victim. And then become anyone.

If you are wearing a victim mask, be prepared to be treated accordingly by reality.

In this position you have only two options:

1) continue to play the assigned role or

2) remove the victim’s mask and choose another one.

Again. Some people think that the line of transformation looks like this: Victim - Creator.

But in fact, the scheme is as follows: Victim - Refusal of the role of victim - Creator.

There is an intermediate stage between the victim and the creator of his life, when a person takes off the mask and chooses a different role. This is the cornerstone for all whiners and those deprived of fate.

Unfortunately, very often I observe a picture, including in my programs, when people want change and even take the first steps without relinquishing this role. They want change without changing their mindset and speech. But this doesn't work. For reality, this is just another confirmation in response to the question: “Who are you?” If you think, speak and act like a victim, you are a victim. And period. The world maintains balance, and the unfortunate remain in their places.

You specified:

Have you ever asked yourself why sometimes some have everything and others have nothing?

No. I didn't ask. Such formulations never even occurred to me. I was worried about completely different things.

How do some people do what they do?

The quality of your life depends on the questions you ask yourself.

Anthony Robbins

The thing is, I don't see any difference between myself and people who do crazy things and have a lot. Therefore, I was always only concerned with the question: “How?”

How could someone write a global bestseller or create an outstanding Internet project? How, with three children, does a woman manage to do business or build a career? How did someone create a business from scratch? How? How? How? And so on and so forth on the list of issues that concern me.

And the answers were found. In biographies, of which I have read a large number, on websites, in books, in personal conversations, when I had the opportunity to sit with a large-scale person at the same table.

I know how writers I’m interested in live, for example. I know what it costs them to have what they have. Their examples teach me, inspire me, support me, give me answers and give me tips. I cannot dare to use the word “given” in relation to the fruits that they are now reaping. They deserve it. This is the result of hard work, multiplied by a flexible mind with a fairly high concentration of failures that a person goes through along the way.

They took risks, refused, left, fell repeatedly, tried without the slightest hint “whether it will work or not” and did, did, did. Or do you think the phrase “realize your full potential” means something else?

My favorite moment in the Being a Creator program was when some of the participants finally realized that developing a quality project requires many hours of work on the Internet. And someone timidly asks: “Olesya, how much time do you spend on work today?”

As a rule, this question is asked online, and on program days my working day literally reaches 12 hours. On ordinary days it’s already 8 hours, and this is a good indicator (it used to be 10). Often also on Saturdays for half a day.

“Well, I can’t cope with office work.”

I also had an office job. And there was also a blog that I developed. Back then I worked 3 hours after work and on weekends. I didn’t rest, but blogged, because I knew that something needed to change. What did you do on the weekend?

No, I'm not a workaholic or a fanatic. I am following the path of reducing my activity only to my favorite tasks. If it takes me several years to achieve this, I will consider this an excellent result. The project already has an administrator who has taken over some of the processes, and perhaps soon I will announce a new vacancy. Step by step, from smaller to larger, I will try to create exactly the activity that I want to see, and it will take exactly enough hours to be enough for all other areas of life. But this is a process extended over time, I understand that.

At the same time, I had and still have the risk that it won’t work out. It does not go away, even with noticeable results. I just walk through it. And I'm getting stronger. This, by the way, is the most important thing - the ability to go through your fears and come out of these states as a new person.

There are those who manage to at least partially compensate for hard work with purity of intention - this, of course, is a separate caste. My bow to them. They achieve what they want by playing on the unshakable power of faith. But this is its own story about subtle vibrations and detachment from the result, and something tells me that it develops even more persistently than hard work... It’s fair to note that in the vast majority of cases this comes with experience; at the initial stage, almost none of those who - the true “everything is given” did not bypass a period of work, trial and error.

The universe is divinely just. Understand this. If you really don’t have anything, then you don’t really give anything to this world. It is a matter of applying one's own energy through conscious activity and conscious thinking. No more and no less.

Let's look at your message again. I work with words and for me the selection of certain turns and phrases means a lot. Here is a selection of verbs from a couple of your sentences. I post them sequentially, just like in a letter.

You persuade;
Start off;
You restore;
You try;
Find;
Sit down;
Can not.

I'm afraid, Nastya, this is your short biography. Almost immediately, you sit down and start wailing.

And the sooner you see the light and understand that this world is not only divinely fair, but also fantastically simple in its unshakable rule: “As you sow, so shall you reap,” the easier it will be for you to get everything you want. What I sincerely wish for you. After all, getting rid of ignorance is the essence of our movement. No one is born immediately aware of their masks, but everyone is capable of coming into this state by choice.

One last request. Just don’t go down the path of cutting your appetites, saying you didn’t really want to. Very, very many people do this. Often this is the path of dullness. Don't give up on your dreams! Including a very bright desire to realize one’s potential on all fronts, which today makes its way so absurdly in this conventional “one can give everything.”

It’s better to start such an intensive sowing of creative energy from actions and thoughts, which will certainly give the fruits that you dream of. And don't forget (especially when applied to past experience):

The biggest stupidity in life is to do the same thing, expecting a different result.

Unearth your abilities. Everyone has them. What are you good at? And develop, try, test, fall, get up, fall - this is the shortest path to intensive growth. And also, finally, turn your thoughts on the wavelength on which you want to live.

To everyone who has, more will be given, but from those who have not, even what they have will be taken away. (Gospel of Luke 19:26)

Be the haves!

“Why is it everything for some and nothing for others?”- Tired of this question, which gave him no rest day or night, the poor man went for an answer to a sage who lived in a neighboring city. When the poor man found the sage's house, he was quite surprised - he never expected to see such a rich dwelling in front of him. The sage hospitably greeted the poor man, fed him deliciously and offered to stay in his house until the next day. In the morning, when it was time to leave, and the poor man still did not dare to ask his question, the sage asked him with a smile:

- After all, you came to ask a question, why don’t you ask?

- How do you know?

“It’s not for nothing that they call me a sage.” I see you are tormented by the question of why some have everything and others have nothing. It is so?

“I can’t hide anything from you.” You're right, it haunts me how God can calmly look at such an unjust structure of the world - some receive wealth, while others languish in poverty?

“I will answer you by telling you a story that happened to me,” answered the sage. – At one time I asked this question. One fine day I came to my teacher and said that I did not want to see people suffering from poverty, and I was going to sell my estate to give the money to two beggars who lived next door. The teacher began to dissuade me from this idea, but seeing my stubbornness, he said: “Well, do as you know.” And I did what I considered a good deed. I soon became convinced that my teacher was right.

The fate of the two former beggars turned out to be unenviable even with money. The first could not cope with greed, which did not allow him to spend money even on normal food. He denied himself everything and tormented himself with fears that he might lose the money that had suddenly appeared in his life - for example, he might be robbed and he would return to a miserable life again. Soon he began to waste away before his eyes from these thoughts and finally fell seriously ill.

The second, on the contrary, indulged in the sweet life, not understanding the value of money, scattering it left and right. He did not know how to spend money wisely and indulged his every whim. Soon the money ran out, and his life turned into a nightmare - he got used to not denying himself anything, got into debt, and as a result found himself in a situation even worse than his previous life.

Both poor men cursed the sudden wealth that had fallen on them, and at the same time cursed me.

This story taught me a good lesson. This is how I learned that money can be evil for a person who does not know how to handle it, who is not ready to become rich. Since then, trying to help, I have been giving jobs. This is how a person learns hard work, patience and the ability to handle money. Money makes us even more of who we already are. If we are greedy, then our greed will develop into a disease, if we do not know how to spend money wisely, then we lose everything. Now you understand, Why is it all for some and nothing for others?

In one of his most famous books, “Geniuses and Outsiders. Why is it everything for some and nothing for others? Canadian journalist Malcolm Gladwell questions the popular idea that success is a personal achievement. We share Gladwell's important insights about the nature of success and geniuses who are forced to remain outsiders.

All the topics covered in the book “Geniuses and Outsiders” are connected by one basic idea: we reduce the reasons for people’s success solely to their personal qualities, losing sight of many less obvious, but no less significant factors. This is a rather unusual view of success, different from what is promoted by popular books on self-development and motivation, the main message of which can be boiled down to the phrase: “Believe in yourself, try, never give up, and everything will work out for you.”

So, let's look at the key ideas of the book "Geniuses and Outsiders".

1. You cannot explain someone’s success only by personal merit. Opportunities and luck play an equally important role.

By attributing a person's success solely to his own merits, we discount people whom we consider unpromising. And this is the same as thinking that the tallest oak tree in the forest became so only because it grew from the most tenacious acorn, without taking into account other equally significant factors:

• that this acorn had to go to a fertile place,
• the fact that other trees did not hide the sun from him,
• and the fact that neither woodcutters nor animals reached him.

The enormous importance of favorable opportunities in achieving success is confirmed by the analysis of the birthdays of Canadian hockey players. It was discovered by chance that the majority of them, including members of the national league, were born in January, February and March, and the least at the end of the year.

This phenomenon was not associated with mysticism or astrology. The explanation was simple. The fact is that in Canada, selection for age hockey groups ends on January 1st. The child will be included in the group for nine-year-olds, even if he turns ten on January 2. And he will play in the same group with a child who will celebrate his tenth birthday in December. And at this age, a difference of 12 months means noticeable differences in physical fitness, which, accordingly, gives significant advantages to children born earlier in the year.

Taller and stronger kids end up on teams with better coaches, they have to train harder and play more games, and they end up becoming great hockey players.

However, most people are convinced that success is determined solely by talent and personal merit, and therefore no one wants to try to take a closer look at those who were considered not capable enough.

2. It takes 10,000 hours of practice to become a professional, which is equivalent to 3 hours of practice a day for 10 years.

The book "Geniuses and Outsiders" popularized a study conducted in the early 90s under the direction of psychologist Anders Ericsson at the Academy of Music in Berlin. This study found that the best students at the academy exercised more than others:

• by age nine - six hours a week,
• by twelve - eight hours,
• to fourteen - sixteen...

And so on until the age of 20, when they began to study more than 30 hours a week. Thus, by the age of 20, the best students had accumulated up to 10,000 hours of study in total. The average students had 8,000 hours, while the slow students had 4,000 hours.

Erickson and his colleagues then found a similar pattern among professional pianists, who each had 10,000 hours of practice by age 20, and amateur pianists who never practiced more than three hours a week.

Erickson's research is also interesting because he was unable to find a single person who achieved a high level of skill who did not make serious efforts and practiced less than his peers. On the other hand, there were no those who, working as hard as they could, never got ahead.

Based on other studies of professional competence, scientists have derived the number of hours leading to mastery in any field (music, sports, programming, and so on).

To become a master, it takes 10,000 hours, which is equivalent to about three hours of practice a day or 20 hours a week for 10 years.

However, it is important to note: in order to accumulate such a number of hours, young people need the support of their environment, participation in special programs, or some lucky coincidence of circumstances that would allow them to fully devote themselves to learning.

3. A high level of intelligence does not guarantee success in life.

In the 20s of the twentieth century, Stanford University psychology professor Lewis Terman began researching the life path of about one and a half thousand children with outstanding intellectual abilities, which he measured using modified tests by Alfred Binet. The IQ of each of the selected children ranged from 140 to 200. Theremin tracked the life path of his charges and documented all significant events in their lives. With his research, he wanted to prove that IQ plays a major role in a person's success.

Despite the fact that some of his geniuses achieved certain successes in business, science, writing, and law, few became national figures.

Some had a decent income, but not fabulous profits, and some could even be called losers. None of the carefully selected child prodigies won the Nobel Prize. And on the contrary, William Shockley and Luis Alvarez, whom Theremin’s colleagues did not include in the sample, considering them insufficiently intelligent, became these laureates.

It turns out that to achieve success, it is enough to have a high, but not phenomenal, IQ of about 120 points, and all subsequent points do not bring much advantage. A favorable environment in which a person should grow and develop also plays a huge role.

4. Practical intelligence is much more important than IQ.

But what distinguishes successful people from unsuccessful people if they have the same IQ? The point is the so-called practical intelligence - understanding what, when and to whom to say, and knowing how to use these words to achieve maximum results. Such everyday intelligence must be formed under external influence. First of all, under the influence of family.

To illustrate the importance of the role of practical intelligence in achieving success, Malcolm Gladwell contrasts the stories of two people: the famous physicist Robert Oppenheimer, under whose leadership the atomic bomb was created, and one of the smartest people on Earth - Chris Langan, whose IQ score varies between 195–210 .

The environment in which Robert Oppenheimer, the son of an artist and a successful entrepreneur, grew up contributed to the development of his ability to establish connections, negotiate with other people, and resolve difficult situations. In a unique case, Robert Oppenheimer did not receive serious punishment for attempting to poison (!) his university teacher. The university authorities gave him a probationary period and referred him for treatment to a psychiatrist. And even the presence of such a fact in his biography did not prevent Oppenheimer from becoming the head of the most important military project to develop the atomic bomb.

On the contrary, the life story of such a smart person as Chris Langan shows that intelligence without the necessary social skills will not help you achieve success. Chris grew up in a poor, large family and was often attacked by his drunken stepfather. He was deprived of attention and care, and from childhood life taught him to keep his distance, not trust anyone and be independent. Despite the fact that he understood many subjects better than his teachers, he was unable to establish contact with any of them. And this led to him having to leave university and work in low-paying jobs. When Gladwell wrote the book, Chris Langan was living on a farm and doing his own research. His works were almost never published.

5. The culture to which we belong largely determines our behavior.

Culture can have a huge impact on the destinies of people: lead to misunderstanding of each other or provide certain advantages.

The power distance index is of great interest. It shows how a culture views hierarchy, the extent to which people agree with unequal distribution of power, whether members of a society have respect for older people, and whether those in power have special privileges.

Countries with a high power distance index include, for example, India, China, Russia, France, Korea, and Brazil. Countries with low rates are Germany, Great Britain, Portugal, Australia.

Cultures also differ in the level of isolation on the “collectivism - individualism” scale. The United States occupies an extreme position on the side of individualism. It's no surprise that the United States is the only industrialized country in the world without universal health care.

Cultural heritage also manifests itself in unexpected areas such as mathematical ability.

Why do Asian countries often outperform others in math tests? According to Malcolm Gladwell, the explanation is simple. The logic of Asian languages ​​and the easier way of designating numbers, compared to other languages, initially contribute to better learning of counting by Asian children.

All these seemingly insignificant factors influence our perceptions, behavior and ways of interacting. They can both give us advantages and deprive us of opportunities available in other cultures.

However, as Malcolm Gladwell points out, culture is not a prison from which you cannot escape. As experiments show, a person is able to try on new behavior options and change his personality, which frees him from a fatalistic outlook on life. But before we decide where to go, we need to understand where we came from.

Final comments

The book “Geniuses and Outsiders” became a bestseller immediately after its release. And deservedly so. Malcolm Gladwell is a talented journalist; he presents his theory not dryly and abstractly, but through stories, each of which is interesting in its own way.

On the one hand, the book offers a somewhat pessimistic view of the nature of success. But on the other hand, its conclusions can be used in practice:

1. Do something you want to excel at for 10,000 hours.
2. Don't be upset because your IQ test results aren't the best.
3. Develop practical intelligence in yourself and in your children.
4. Understand your weaknesses and the characteristics of your cultural environment.

The book will definitely provide useful food for thought, and the exploration of ideas through interesting stories will make it an exciting read.

Answer:

Only Allah has all the power, which He disposes of as He pleases. And no one can interfere with this. The creator of every part of your body, all organs and systems, is Allah. You didn’t give Him anything for this in order to demand anything!

If you, for what Allah has endowed you with, gave Him something in return, then perhaps you could make a claim, saying: “Give me not one eye, but two, not one hand, but two”; “Why did you give me not two legs, but only one!?” Whereas you gave nothing in return to have the right to make a claim.

Allah Almighty created you from nothingness and created you as a human being. If you pay attention, you will see that under you there are a huge number of living beings who are deprived of the benefits that Allah has endowed you with.

And although some people, finding themselves in a difficult situation, experience resentment, anger and fall into pessimism, for many other people such events become the reason for even greater turning to Allah. If such a situation becomes a reason for a person to turn to Allah and a reason for other people to learn a lesson from it, then we can say that it is in accordance with the purpose and wisdom. There is wisdom in every action, for Allah does not perform meaningless actions.

Some people asking this question are confused justice and equality. In every object and event in the Universe, justice, not equality, reigns.

We see that there are differences between people also when it comes to the possession of worldly goods. Thus, people are subjected to a test in which their obedience to predestination and contentment with what they have is tested. There are many poor people who have successfully passed this test, and there are just as many rich people who have failed to pass it. Since a person who is dissatisfied with what is predetermined for him, no matter how rich he is, may desire even more and show disobedience to predestination. And at the same time, how many poor people are there who, looking at those who are lower in their standard of living, have chosen the path of gratitude.

If we have lost the ability to interpret current events optimistically and look at everything exclusively negatively, if our soul has been taken over by envy and an unbridled desire for, if we have forgotten what contentment with what we have is, then this means that we are destroying our life with our own hands . As long as our soul is in the grip of these feelings, we will not be able to find happiness, even if we become the owners of the greatest wealth.

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I read Malcolm Gladwell's book Geniuses and Outsiders. Why is it everything for some and nothing for others?” The book contains a lot of ideas and living examples that make you look at ordinary things from an unusual perspective. On a lot of different things. Let's talk about them.

About the reasons

The only source of power is the ability to see the reason. And so you came to me, not seeing the reason, not having the power.

First, this book is about why. Opaque at first glance and non-obvious reasons for various events. This book shows how true the idea of ​​hurricanes starting because of the flight of a butterfly is.

Some time ago I read about food risks, at the very beginning of which a TED video made one obvious point that few people pay attention to: “You don’t know you’re wrong until you know you’re wrong.” In the context of the article, the following is meant. You made a decision and began to implement it. Your decision was wrong and the project is going to collapse. However, you do not yet know that your decision is wrong, and therefore you do not know that the project is going to collapse. But it goes regardless of what you think about it. And that’s the whole point. That when you finally see the light, your project will not go back to where it started. Unlike you, who returned to the starting point of decision making.

A good strategy is based on understanding how your competitors will behave and what behavior they will choose. But behavior itself does not arise out of nowhere. Our behavior is formed by a complex system of causes and consequences. Knowing the reasons, you can predict behavior. By knowing the behavior, a win-win strategy can be implemented. This is the logic behind game theory. Coursera has an excellent course on game theory from the Higher School of Economics, which I recommend to everyone. During the course, students were given the same problem to solve several times. True, not immediately, but through a lecture or two. It was very exciting because... The number of points that a student wins while solving a problem depends on how other participants in the course solve this problem. The most interesting thing was to observe how the students' answers change each time when they begin to receive new information from lectures about the reasons for their behavior and the behavior of other people. The picture of the overall results each time became completely different than the last time. The players' behavior changed when the reasons became clear to them.

Understanding why people behave is extremely important in business and product management in particular. This is also the ability to correctly structure the course of negotiations when concluding deals, when you need to know what exactly motivates the other side in order to choose the right arguments and tactics. This includes making strategic decisions in a competitive market, when it is necessary to build a medium or long-term strategy for a company or product, taking into account the changing market environment, economic and political factors, technology development trends and demand structure. This includes the correct design of the user experience of a product interface, when it is necessary to understand not only how users behave and think, but also how they behave NOT lead.

Despite the fact that few people like Mr. Merovingen from the Matrix, he says surprisingly sensible things.

About people

I don't know any other way to achieve success other than to work hard. Only then does a person truly feel that success is deserved (Dianochka Shurygina, I’m sorry, but you suck). This is why I liked reading the biography of Elon Musk more than Steve Jobs. Indeed, unlike Jobs, in “Tesla, SpaceX and the Road to the Future” the focus is not on Elon’s personality and its mental disorders, but on how Musk created his companies. Not on how he experienced difficulties, but on how he dealt with them.

All truly great people are Gladwell's rice-growing Chinese farmers.

About fate

And here, if we abstract from all the individuals, their stories and the reasons for their stories, which are written about in the book, if you look at the picture a little higher, an old philosophical question arises: aren’t all these intricacies of accidents a pattern? The book does not answer the question. Moreover, she doesn’t even put it on. But this very thesis is a logical consequence of everything that was said in it.

In general, one of my hobbies is metamathematics, the science of causes and effects; the place where axioms are born. And in the future I intend to write a very tasty post about all this to show all the beauty of this theoretical world, but not now. Now I just want to take you to one of its doors.

You toss a coin. Knowledge of probability theory tells you that the probability of getting heads is 50%. And it is right. Within the framework of this model of the world. We use another - theoretical physics. We know how the coin lies in the hand before it is thrown, we know the force and its vector, air resistance, gravitational force and the fact that the coin will fall on a table with a hard surface. Also, we know the density of the coin, its mass and full geometric structure, as well as the physical characteristics of the table. What is the probability of getting heads? A computer simulation of an experiment, all other things being equal, will produce only one result each time. With 100% probability. Within the framework of this model of the world.

What changed? When did chance become true knowledge? Considering separately the mass of the coin, the vector of force, or air resistance will not yield anything. From the point of view of a coin that had already fallen heads, the fact that the force of gravity was exactly like that was an accident. At least that's what we think. But if you look at the entire system as a whole, it was precisely this combination of environmental properties that made it possible for the coin to land heads. Just like Steve Jobs to become the greatest visionary of our era.

The way certain events happen is never an accident, as there are reasons for everything. The force of gravity is such because our Earth is of exactly this mass and consists of certain metals (or whatever it is made of). The metal density of a coin is this way because its crystal lattice looks a certain way. The force with which the coin was tossed was just that, because such is the physiology of the body of the tosser. One born to crawl cannot fly. Examples from the book prove this.

About thinking

My grandmothers played an important role in my upbringing. What are grandmothers for a person born in the late 80s? These are people who were born just before the Second World War. What do you think makes these people different from others? Their childhood occurred during the most difficult time in Russian history. Hunger and deprivation formed the mindset of “if only there was no war,” in which one is content with little. Collectivism is superior to liberalism. Private ownership is minimal and there is no free market. The state is the only benefactor besides one’s own garden. After studying at the university, you will be assigned to production. The state will give you an apartment, but you will have to wait in line. But it’s also possible through pull...

When I was born, there were three years left before the collapse of the largest power on this planet. However, even before the onset of this event, which few could imagine, there was complete uncertainty about the future in the country, which also affected my parents. We often moved in search of a “better life” until we settled in Norilsk, where the “wild 90s” and default awaited us. Many people in those days were looking for an island of stability. Stability is the only thing everyone wanted at that time, so as not to switch from pasta to water.

How can people raise a child with a similar thinking model? A peculiar question. But it is not the fault of these people that their environment shaped their thinking this way. The Mowgli effect is at the mental level, nothing can be done. And unfortunately, my entire family raised me with such introductory instructions and could not follow any other scenario other than “risk reduction.” Study hard, otherwise you won't get into university. You need to study at a university, otherwise they won’t hire you. How can the clinic not allow you to undergo free manual therapy? Do you even eat normally there, in your St. Petersburg? Everything is fine at work, they at least pay a salary, otherwise things can happen now? How can you not get your child into kindergarten? Who are you in line for?

Previously, not realizing the reasons for their behavior, I would get wildly angry and curse. But now I have knowledge of the reasons. They could not do otherwise, and advised me as their behavior model dictated to them. They were all born at the wrong time and in the wrong place. On the other hand, it was my generation that had the first chance to “start all over again.”

It took too much time to go beyond the stereotypes hammered into my head. Eventually, I learned to take risks. I learned to make decisions and take responsibility for them. I learned to do everything myself. I learned to say no (which is very important for products, isn't it). I have learned to ignore the opinions of people who are not important to me. I've learned to not care what others think of me. I've learned to make mistakes and not be perfect. I learned to go towards my goal no matter what. I want to believe that I have found my recognition, and the risk reduction strategy in it is only one of the possible ones, but in no way determining. The only thing I regret a little is that if things had been different, my 10,000 hours could have come much earlier. However, history does not know the subjunctive mood.

About education

That is why my goal in raising my son will not be to show him what my era was famous for and to teach him how to live in it. And to prepare him for what may await him tomorrow. Everything I know and can do today will be ungodly outdated when he finishes school. There is no point in teaching him this.

In the book, important attention is paid to education. The example of a private American school is very illustrative. And that is why it will be my duty to show my son how big and full of meaning the world is. How interesting and diverse it is in its manifestations, in its faces and eras. I will show him the endless possibilities that go beyond the limits of his appearance. I will show him the relationships between causes and events, and teach him to understand them. Already now he shows good abilities for associative thinking and searching for patterns. I will teach him to learn and find answers on his own. I will teach him to suffer defeats and win victories, because if you don’t learn to fall, you won’t learn to stand. I will teach him to make decisions and be responsible for them. I will develop his strengths and ignore his weaknesses. I will show him where the boundaries of morality and conscience lie, so that he himself can choose which side to take.

I don't know what he will become when he grows up. And I have no preferences or wishes. The future is much more interesting when you can't predict it. I don't know how he will act in certain cases. I don't know if he will like math and listen to rock music. I don't care what he wears or what hairstyle he wears. The main thing is that he understands what is possible in this world All, if he himself wants it, even if he was born at the wrong time and not in the right place.

And again about the reasons

Let's rewind and talk about the judge and the reasons again. What if the collection of causes of events that happen in people's lives is not a collection, but a system and a connected sequence? Let's return again to probability theory. What is the probability that the ice cream stand you pass by is just starting its 10-minute sale? What is the probability that you will buy ice cream after learning about this? What is the probability that after walking three steps this ice cream will fall out of your hands? What is the likelihood that your bag with important documents will be stolen? What is the probability that after this the thief will run ten meters and slip on the ice cream that fell from your hands? What is the probability that, purely by chance, a police squad will be nearby?

Each event individually is quite possible, but their joint sequential occurrence is so unlikely that such small numbers have not yet been invented. But, one way or another, these events happened. Are they a collection of cases or is there some pattern visible here? I have already talked about my interpretation of God and will not repeat myself. I don't know if this is actually true or not. But I see one thing for sure: everything that God does is for the better. Sometimes the causes are so distant in time from the effects that no connection can be discerned, and events seem to us like accidents.

But there is something stronger than these reasons. This is our will. In the last paragraph of the article, I wrote that vision is faith that builds reality. So, she does this with the help of her will. Will is what allows you to get up the seventh time when you have fallen six times. Will is what allows you to go forward when others have already passed. Will is the only thing that can be stronger than reasons. The main thing is that it exists, and then

God himself cannot protect us from our will.