The book is dedicated to all the charming ladies whose stories inspired us to create it.

There are several people without whom this book would not exist. First of all, we thank the extraordinarily talented Sex and the City writers Cindy Chapek, Jenny Beaks, Aimee B Harris, Julia Sweeney, Julie Rottenberg, and Eliza Zaritsky (they wrote the amazing episode that first got us thinking about the book), and, of course, our wonderful boss - Michael Patrick King. We have the warmest feelings for these people and are grateful to them for their help, generosity and ability to look at any situation with humor.

We thank everyone who actively supported the crazy idea to write this book - John Melfi, Sarah Condon, Richard Oren, as well as those who collaborated with HBO. Super agent and friend Greg Keivik, who works at ICM, helped us with the publication of the book. Many thanks to Julia James for moral support. Our deepest gratitude goes to press agent Andy Barzvi, who first took this book seriously and then managed to sell it profitably. We say "thank you" to our editor, philologist Patrick Price, a real gentleman.

Thanks also to the men and women who filled out the questionnaires, told stories from their lives, asked questions and did not allow us to lie while writing the book. We sincerely thank all our friends and family, especially Shirley Tuccillo and Kristen Behrendt, for their tireless support and enthusiasm.

Finally, we thank Amiera Ruotola Berendt for her collaboration: the fire, sense of humor, talent, love, and sex appeal that this woman possesses make this book so amazing.

The stories told in this book serve as illustrative examples. They are not based on real life events. specific people. Whatever you think, we did not try to publicly ridicule our friends, enemies or former partners in it.

(However, we do not deny that such a thought may have occurred to us.)

Foreword by Liz

This day started as usual. We all sat in the office of the scriptwriters of the series - "Sex and the City" and exchanged opinions, told each other about our personal lives, transferring our experiences to the fate of on-screen heroines. And, as has already happened, one of the employees asked to explain the behavior of the man she liked. He behaved somewhat inconsistently, and this confused her. We gladly got down to business and began to discuss what his actions might mean. And, as before, after a tense analytical discussion, we concluded: our colleague is delightful, and he must have been frightened, because he had never met such a wonderful woman, and therefore trembled and trembled; she just has to give him time. But there was a man in the room with us that day, a script consultant. He appeared in the studio twice a week, helped to develop storylines and looked at the series from a purely male point of view. It was Greg Behrendt. That very day, Greg listened carefully to the woman's story and our comments, and then turned to her. “Looks like,” he said, “he doesn’t like you that much.”

His words caused us shock, indignation, violent laughter, horror and, above all, bewilderment. However, we immediately felt that perhaps this man was telling the truth. The truth that we have never been revealed, despite a hundred years in total, of joint experience of relationships with men, and which we certainly never tried to talk about. "Well, maybe he's right about something," we reluctantly agreed.

“But Greg is unlikely to understand why my future husband, a very busy and complex person, behaves the way he does.”

Greg Behrendt - actor, screenwriter, performs solo humorous numbers.

Liz Tuccillo is the Executive Writer for Sex and the City and has published in Off Broadway publications.

Complexity of presentation

The target audience

Girls and women who want to understand how to behave with men, even if they are not so interested in them.

This kind of female encyclopedia tells why some women do not like some men, what arguments they are looking for to justify such male behavior, why they cannot end a non-existent relationship. The authors assure: if a man is really passionate about a woman, he will definitely let her know about it.

Reading together

Since childhood, we have been instilled with the belief that in every phenomenon we need to look for positive points and be optimistic. But this does not always work for men who do not like women and will never be interested in them. A woman tries to explain the strange male behavior and sometimes finds ridiculous reasons, although the problem lies in only one thing: he did not fall for her. He can come up with a million excuses that he was busy at work, just ended an unsuccessful relationship, quarreled with his parents, or wants to immerse himself completely in his career, but will remain silent until the last moment that a woman is not suitable for him. Even if these words do not sound, this is clearly demonstrated in relation to a woman.

1. A man does not want to meet you. This does not indicate that he is afraid of being left without your friendship or does not want to rush into a relationship or is afraid of the initiative. He will always talk about personal motives that do not allow him to take certain steps, because he will be afraid to disappoint you. Appointing a date is an exclusively male initiative, that's when he justifies himself - you are not very interesting to him.

2. The man does not call you. A man captured by you can call ten times a day, especially if he made a promise. The word "busy" instantly destroys any relationship, this excuse is not convincing. A man will definitely have a couple of free minutes to dial your number. If he didn't call you after the first date, it means he doesn't think about you anymore.

3.The man denies the fact of meeting with you thinking he's just passing the time. True friends are those who do not upset people close to them. An interested man wants you to belong to him entirely, he wants to see you as often as possible if this sympathy grows and gradually turns into love. The one who says he doesn't want Serious relationships, you as a woman are not carried away.

4. A man does not want to have sex with you. Obviously, you are absolutely not his type, but he will never admit it to you. He will come up with what he is going through, afraid, suffering from a cold or tired, but there is only one truth: you are not sexually attracted to him. Perhaps he loves you with a friendly love, or he really just completed a difficult love relationship and is afraid to enter into new ones. But one way or another, you should not be satisfied with a relationship without sex. It is important to find a man who will madly desire you.

5. A man prefers to sleep with another woman. No betrayal has a worthy justification. Even if there are certain problems in your relationship, this does not give a man the right to go left. He does this knowingly, knowing that he is risking your relationship. If he sleeps with another, the woman of his dreams is clearly not you. You should not date a guy who cannot clearly explain why he does such an act. People should always be able to speak frankly about sexual topics and think about what they can do for mutual pleasure, but this does not mean jumping into bed with other women. Treason hits the conscience only the first time, then everything moves along the knurled line.

6. A man is glad to see you only in a state of intoxication. Can't give in beautiful words spoken by a drunken man. A normal guy does not seek to turn off the brain with alcohol, being in your company, it looks like a desire to avoid responsibility. The words "I love you" uttered under the hops mean absolutely nothing in real life. Wanting to see you and have sex when he's drunk is not love, it's a sport.

7. A man does not want to take you to the registry office, fearing commitment. He convinces you that he will never marry at all, although in fact he means that he does not want to see you as his wife. A man in love will always be busy thinking about how you feel. It is worth finding out what exactly is hidden behind the unwillingness to marry: dislike for marriage ties or specifically for you. A man may not be sure that you are the woman of his dreams.

8. The man broke up with you without explanation. A loving person will never do this if he is responsible for feelings and cannot imagine life without you. If he sleeps with you after parting - he simply did not find anyone better and returned "home". If you love yourself - leave him yourself, do not look for an excuse to continue to be with him. Sex after a breakup can be bright and daring, but for you there should not be a separation between love and bed. Parting is always fraught with finality and irreversibility, and sex after it does not mean anything.

9. The man disappears from your life forever. He lets you know how much you are not his type, but he does not have the courage to say it to your face. Draw conclusions and live on, choosing a new partner more deliberately.

10. The man is married! And it is difficult to call feelings mutual if he cannot answer them directly and openly. If his marriage was really difficult, he would have long since parted ways with his wife. You need a man who will not hide his feelings, because he will never want to lose you.

11. A man boasts a lot, behaving like a complete egoist. Truly in love people want to take care, be attentive to each other, not to humiliate a partner to feel superior over him, especially not to do this in public. A man will never hurt a woman he truly likes.

Noting all of the above reasons, a woman should not date such men.

Best Quote

"If we really care about a woman, we can't bring ourselves to stop - we want more."

What does the book teach

- You do not need to pay attention to an unworthy man, otherwise, when meeting with the only one, you may regret that so much time and effort was spent on unpromising candidates.

- Worthy man will always consider a meeting with his beloved woman a real event.

- A woman should find a man who would like such things that she considers important for herself and for both of them.

- Getting rid of unnecessary men, a woman gets in return a lot of free time for things that give her pleasure.

- A man truly in love with a woman is not afraid of intimacy, sincerity, openness and perspective of feelings.

Editorial

Dating sites are now the very place where, for all seeming huge selection Finding "your" person is not so easy. You may have already tried to register, but after hundreds of messages from all sorts of obscure personalities, disappointment set in. Psychologist Olga Yurkovskaya tells how to approach the search so that it has the maximum effect with minimal time and effort: .

How to interest the man you like? Vedic gurus offer to apply some almost sacred knowledge about “female energy”, “female destiny”, “female duties”. What is this knowledge based on and do the students receive the promised benefits, says the writer, author of courses on love and marriage Stella Chirkova: .

This day started as usual. We all sat in the office of the scriptwriters of the series - "Sex and the City" and exchanged opinions, told each other about our personal lives, transferring our experiences to the fate of on-screen heroines. And, as has already happened, one of the employees asked to explain the behavior of the man she liked. He behaved somewhat inconsistently, and this confused her. We gladly got down to business and began to discuss what his actions might mean.

And, as before, after a tense analytical discussion, we concluded: our colleague is delightful, and he must have been frightened, because he had never met such a wonderful woman, and therefore trembled and trembled; she just has to give him time. But there was a man in the room with us that day, a script consultant. He showed up at the studio twice a week, helped develop storylines, and viewed the show from a purely male perspective. It was Greg Behrendt.

That very day, Greg listened carefully to the woman's story and our comments, and then turned to her. “Looks like,” he said, “he doesn’t like you that much.”

His words caused us shock, indignation, violent laughter, horror and, above all, bewilderment. However, we immediately felt that perhaps this man was telling the truth. The truth that we have never been revealed, despite a hundred years in total, of joint experience of relationships with men, and which we certainly never tried to talk about. "Well, maybe he's right about something," we reluctantly agreed.

“But Greg is unlikely to understand why my future husband, a very busy and complex person, behaves the way he does.” — said a friend. And then the conversations began: Greg, like an omniscient Buddha, went from one woman to another, listening to the unhappy stories of their personal lives.

We could find justification for the behavior of all these men, starting with a broken index finger, which is used to dial a phone number, and ending with a difficult childhood. Greg smashed our arguments one by one to smithereens.

As a result of incredible efforts, Greg managed to convince us that if a guy in his right mind really fell for a woman, then nothing would stop him from winning her. And if he is not of sound mind, then why is he needed? This was confirmed by his own experience: he changed partners, was a bad boy, was a good boy and, in the end, fell in love with an amazing woman and married her.

All the people in the story department, and I in particular, had a miraculous insight. For many years I suffered because of men and their behavior, which confused me.

Now I realized that they did not want to confuse me at all. I got myself into trouble. But the point was only that those men didn’t like me that much.

It would seem that such conclusions must inevitably undermine our self-confidence and cause panic among us. In fact, it's quite the opposite. Knowledge is power, and, most importantly, knowledge does not allow you to waste time.

From that day on, I realized that I would save a lot of time if I didn’t sit by the phone for hours waiting for the man I like to call, complain for hours about him to my girlfriends, spend hours wondering if he really wanted to say “I love you and want to to be with you".

Greg reminded us that we are beautiful, intelligent and witty women and should not waste time figuring out why this or that guy does not call us. As Greg said, do not waste your beauty in vain.

It's not easy. We have always been taught to look for the positive in every phenomenon and to be optimistic. But not in this situation. Now just need to see the negative side.

First of all, you should immediately accept as a fact that nothing can work out, and agree that your case is the rule, not the exception. It gives a feeling of intoxicating freedom. But not everyone gets to experience it.

And all because we do the opposite: we go on a date with a man, fall in love with him, and then he does an act that slightly disappoints us.

Otherwise, how can all the excuses invented to justify him correspond to reality? We try to explain why he behaves so strangely, and sometimes we find the most ridiculous reasons, although in fact there is only one reason: he just didn’t hit us.

We have included in the book questions that women ask about real situations in their lives. It contains the most common arguments that they find to justify the behavior of men and therefore cannot put an end to non-existent relationships. Read, enjoy it, and most importantly, learn from other people's experiences and problems.

And if it seems to you that your boyfriend is not crazy about you at all, and you feel that it's time to find out, then think - maybe he doesn't like you that much. Then leave him and go in search of a man who will truly love you.

1. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH BECAUSE HE DOESN'T ASK YOU ON A DATE.

2. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE DOESN'T CALL YOU.

3. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE DOESN'T ACKNOWLEDGE THE FACT YOU ARE DATED.

4. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU.

5. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.

6. HE DOES NOT LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE ONLY WANTS TO SEE YOU WHEN HE IS DRUNK.

7. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO MARRY YOU.

8. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE LEFT YOU.

9. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE JUST GOT AND DISAPPEARED.

10. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH WHEN HE'S MARRIED (this includes all the other, most incredible reasons why he can't be with you).

11. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU THAT MUCH IF HE IS BEHAVE LIKE A SELF-LOOKING EGOIST, A BRAGUBER OR JUST A BIG FUCK.

12. DO NOT BELIEVE HIS STORIES.

Excerpt from Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo

Greg Behrendt

Liz Tuccillo

He just doesn't like you: the whole truth about men

The book is dedicated to all the charming ladies whose stories inspired us to create it.

There are several people without whom this book would not exist. First of all, we thank the extraordinarily talented Sex and the City writers Cindy Chapek, Jenny Beaks, Aimee B Harris, Julia Sweeney, Julie Rottenberg, and Eliza Zaritsky (they wrote the amazing episode that first got us thinking about the book), and, of course, our wonderful boss - Michael Patrick King. We have the warmest feelings for these people and are grateful to them for their help, generosity and ability to look at any situation with humor.

We thank everyone who actively supported the crazy idea to write this book - John Melfi, Sarah Condon, Richard Oren, as well as those who collaborated with HBO. Super agent and friend Greg Keivik, who works at ICM, helped us with the publication of the book. Many thanks to Julia James for moral support. Our deepest gratitude goes to press agent Andy Barzvi, who first took this book seriously and then managed to sell it profitably. We say "thank you" to our editor, philologist Patrick Price, a real gentleman.

Thanks also to the men and women who filled out the questionnaires, told stories from their lives, asked questions and did not allow us to lie while writing the book. We sincerely thank all our friends and family, especially Shirley Tuccillo and Kristen Behrendt, for their tireless support and enthusiasm.

Finally, we thank Amiera Ruotola Berendt for her collaboration: the fire, sense of humor, talent, love, and sex appeal that this woman possesses make this book so amazing.

The stories told in this book serve as illustrative examples. They are not based on events in the lives of specific people. Whatever you think, we did not try to publicly ridicule our friends, enemies or former partners in it.

(However, we do not deny that such a thought may have occurred to us.)

Foreword by Liz

This day started as usual. We all sat in the office of the scriptwriters of the series - "Sex and the City" and exchanged opinions, told each other about our personal lives, transferring our experiences to the fate of on-screen heroines. And, as has already happened, one of the employees asked to explain the behavior of the man she liked. He behaved somewhat inconsistently, and this confused her. We gladly got down to business and began to discuss what his actions might mean. And, as before, after a tense analytical discussion, we concluded: our colleague is delightful, and he must have been frightened, because he had never met such a wonderful woman, and therefore trembled and trembled; she just has to give him time. But that day, there was a man in the room with us - a script consultant. He showed up at the studio twice a week, helped develop storylines, and viewed the show from a purely male perspective. It was Greg Behrendt. That very day, Greg listened carefully to the woman's story and our comments, and then turned to her. "Looks like," he said, "he doesn't like you that much."

His words caused us shock, indignation, violent laughter, horror and, above all, bewilderment. However, we immediately felt that perhaps this man was telling the truth. The truth that we have never been revealed, despite a hundred years in total of joint experience of relationships with men, and which we certainly never tried to talk about. "Well, maybe he's right about something," we reluctantly agreed.

“But Greg is unlikely to understand why my future husband, a very busy and complex person, behaves the way he does.” - said a friend. And then the conversations began: Greg, like an omniscient Buddha, went from one woman to another, listening to the unhappy stories of their personal lives. We could find justification for the behavior of all these men, starting with a broken index finger, which is used to dial a phone number, and ending with a difficult childhood. Greg smashed our arguments one by one to smithereens. As a result of incredible efforts, Greg managed to convince us that if a guy in his right mind really fell for a woman, then nothing would stop him from winning her. And if he is not of sound mind, then why is he needed? This was confirmed by his own experience: he changed partners, was a bad boy, was a good boy and eventually fell in love with an amazing woman and married her.

All the people in the story department, and I in particular, had a miraculous insight. For many years I suffered because of men and their behavior, which confused me. Now I realized that they did not want to confuse me at all. I got myself into trouble. But the point was only that those men didn’t like me that much.

It would seem that such conclusions must inevitably undermine our self-confidence and cause panic among us. In fact, it's quite the opposite. Knowledge is power, and, most importantly, knowledge does not allow you to waste time. From that day on, I realized that I would save a lot of time if I didn’t sit by the phone for hours waiting for the man I like to call, complain for hours about him to my girlfriends, spend hours wondering if he really wanted to say “I love you and want to to be with you". Greg reminded us that we are beautiful, intelligent and witty women and should not waste time figuring out why this or that guy does not call us. As Greg said, do not waste your beauty in vain.

It's not easy. We have always been taught to look for the positive in every phenomenon and to be optimistic. But not in this situation. Now just need to see the negative side. First of all, you should immediately accept as a fact that nothing can work out, and agree that your case is the rule, not the exception. It gives a feeling of intoxicating freedom. But not everyone gets to experience it. And all because we do the opposite: we go on a date with a man, fall in love with him, and then he does an act that slightly disappoints us. This act is followed by a series of others that are no less disappointing. Then comes a period of super-inventive excuses that last for weeks or even months, and it never occurs to us that this wonderful man that we like so much has long turned into an unfortunate cripple. Otherwise, how can all the excuses invented to justify him correspond to reality? We try to explain why he behaves so strangely, and sometimes we find the most ridiculous reasons, although in fact there is only one reason: he just didn’t hit us.

We have included in the book questions that women ask about real situations in their lives. It contains the most common arguments that they find to justify the behavior of men and therefore cannot put an end to non-existent relationships. Read, enjoy it, and most importantly, learn from other people's experiences and problems. And if it seems to you that your boyfriend is not at all crazy about you, and you feel that it's time to find out everything, then think - maybe he doesn't like you that much. Then leave him and go in search of a man who will truly love you.