Complete family has always been a cell of our society.

And the well-being of our entire culture directly depended on the well-being of each family.

All the rulers understood this very well, and therefore they tried to do everything possible so that each subject of society had a strong moral foundation and support.

And a person could receive this support only when he knew that he was always expected at home, where comfort, love and peace reigned.

It is very interesting that a full-fledged family was considered complete when the parents had at least 9 children, and they all strived for perfection. Their parents helped them in this and contributed in every possible way. In general, our ancestors gave birth to up to 16 children and could fully raise them all.

Our ancestors did this so that after death our souls remain and can incarnate again on earth. Therefore, each of the spouses from their family tried to bring into the world at least nine children in order to embody their great-grandfathers, relatives, etc. We tried to embody our family to the maximum.

In turn, on the energy plane, such a union has always been under the care of its own relatives. All people were healthier, happier, luckier. It is now that we have practically lost contact with our family.

Now, we should not think about bringing as many children into the world as possible, since now a full-fledged family and its foundations have lost the foundation that they had before. Now we simply do not have the strength and the society that will help us support and nurture such a large number of descendants.

Proceeding from this, our main task is to embody the most beautiful and healthy children in such a quantity in which we ourselves feel that we will be able to raise them. If everyone sets such a task for themselves, then after a while our loved ones and society as a whole will bring us more joy.

Also, a full-fledged family could only be when the young entered into an alliance without having had sexual relations with others before. This ensured the purity and health of future generations.

Although, this is not the only reason that affects the whole. Much depends on how each spouse and children know their direct responsibilities. Also, it is very important to choose the right person who has the right character and strives for constant perfection.

If a person does not yet realize why he should now study what a full-fledged family and its basic principles are, then it is better to leave such a person. Although, these words should not be taken fanatically, because if there is a great power of love between people, then everything in this world is possible.

"The Vedas ruined my marriage": four stories about the search for femininity

Vedic psychology has taken root in Russia. Popular gurus have thousands of followers on Instagram and VKontakte, and their trainings cost a lot of money. They are taught to “follow the female nature”, “serve the husband”, “be submissive”, and also not to work and give up trousers. Almost like in Domostroy, only with an oriental accent.

Four heroines told Gazeta Kemerovo how they developed Vedic femininity in themselves and how it ended.

"I asked for forgiveness and sobbed"

Elena M., economist:

For almost a year she tried to save her marriage with the help of the Vedic teachings. After the divorce, she has two children, two and six years old. Visits a psychologist.

“My husband and I have been together for 11 years. After the birth of the second child, there was discord in the family. Maybe he couldn't handle the responsibility. I quit my job, we lived on my allowance. He drank - almost every evening he returned home with beer. Endless garages, pubs...

I was finished off when he spent half the night at the disco. What are the dances when you have two small children at home? The next morning I put his things on the stairwell. The apartment was mine, so we stayed in it with the kids. And my husband went to the one that we rented at that time.

Everything went to divorce. But I, like all women, hoped to save the family. She blamed herself for flaring up and kicking her husband out. Worse after all happens, and people live. In order to return everything, I first went to the Orthodox Church, then to a fortuneteller ... At the same time I saw lectures on Vedic femininity on YouTube - Ruslan Narushevich, Oleg Torsunov, Rami Blekt. And I got carried away.

Lecturers taught humility, patience, repentance, and total. That the man is in charge, and only he can earn a living. And I must serve him - feed, care for him, admire. Pray for him, forgive him everything. Because he does everything because of me. Drinking? She was not obedient and courteous enough. Not earning? Didn't inspire or praise.

I felt terribly guilty. She asked her husband for forgiveness, sobbed, promised that she would never do that again. Humiliated before him. She did everything he wanted, praised for every nonsense. I was ready to sell my apartment in order to buy a common one with him. It seems to me that this blurryness of mine annoyed him even more. We got together, then we parted again.

Now I understand that it was a nightmare. The Vedas completely ruined my marriage. It had to be different. I would have gone to work earlier, become independent, strong and well-groomed. Maybe then the husband would think about who he is losing. Submissiveness did not appeal to him.

According to the Vedas, I lived for six months. I managed to go to the expensive trainings of Narushevich and Rami Blekt. I met Marina * - she was fond of this for a long time, she advised me books and videos. But I already had my doubts.

Once I called Marina after a quarrel with my husband - he left again, drinks, does not pick up the phone. Wanted to get some advice. And she reads minds, just don't laugh. And he gives me: “Elena, I feel that you have so many claims on the subtle plane, so many resentments towards your husband. How can you! You drove him. So much negativity, what are you doing? You urgently need to pray ... ”I was cut off after this call! I realized that I was deceiving myself.

After that, I turned to a professional psychologist and work with him until now. My husband and I divorced. It's hard for me to look back - what a nightmare those six months have been.

Now I am convinced that Vedic femininity is not suitable for our mentality. Maybe it works in India. We do not have. When I hear what the Vedic lecturers teach, it makes me angry. Because this reckless obedience can break the lives of girls.

What are the Vedas and what does femininity have to do with it

Veda are the sacred scriptures of Hinduism in Sanskrit. "Psychologists" present them as divine knowledge. Advice based on sociology, medicine, philosophy and architecture, about God, the essence of man and harmonious life. Lecturers do not refer to specific texts.

Vedic woman- a divine being who is mentally stronger than her husband. A woman should help a man develop. To do this, she needs to follow the rules: wear a long skirt to accumulate female energy, devote most of her time to household chores, and spend no more than four hours at work, devote herself to her husband and family.

The most famous Vedic gurus- “specialist in the field of astrology and psychology of interpersonal relations” Ruslan Narushevich, dermatovenerologist and reflexologist Oleg Torsunov and his follower, skeptical about academic education for women, Olga Valyaeva, as well as “Vedic philosopher” Satya das, aka Sergey Yakovlev.

Most of them are members of the religious organization International Society for Krishna Consciousness.

"We called ourselves a sect"

Victoria Yurieva, sales manager:

I became interested in the Vedas during pregnancy and lived on them for a year. Together with her husband, she is raising a three-year-old daughter, she abandoned the "ancient knowledge" in favor of science.

- I went to yoga for pregnant women in Nizhny Tagil. After classes we had lectures. They were led by our trainer, passionate about Vedic knowledge. She told me how to behave with her husband, take care of herself, take care of the house ... All this seemed interesting.

The only thing I still agree with is that women are not like men. We differ in perception, emotional reactions. But gender psychology and sexology also speak about the same. Now I understand that there is nothing new in this. And then it seemed that a secret was revealed to me.

She tried to serve her husband, to praise him, to do all the women's work around the house. She refused help. And my boyfriend didn't like it. He was infuriated by my "ministries", praises and feigned words. He felt it was insincere.

I felt uncomfortable. It seemed that something was wrong with me, since it didn’t work out to be a Vedic woman - as in a book. During pregnancy, you withdraw into yourself, and these “practices” alienated me even more from my husband.

After the birth of my daughter, I took care of all the care for her. The Vedas teach that this is a woman's work. I was also taught that up to a year a child needs only a mother. This caused more problems for my family. I overloaded myself, I was very tired. When my daughter stayed with her dad, she cried - I did not give her the opportunity to get used to him. Later, the psychologist explained to me that this is normal: the baby needs to adapt to her father. And I rushed out of the bathroom all in foam, only hearing crying, and took her away ...

The Vedas were beautiful picture, under which I tried to fit my family. This prevented me from feeling the real needs of my loved ones and hearing myself. I did not see my husband and daughter behind the “teachings”. Strived to be a good girl for my mentor.

When my relationship with my husband deteriorated, it became very difficult for me. I ran into real difficulties, misunderstandings. It was hard for me, I came to yoga, but did not receive support in the circle of like-minded people. Nobody noticed my trouble there. I had to run to a psychologist, and I listened to the Vedas. In such situations, you need the help of a specialist, not spiritual practices.

Husband helped. I am grateful to him for his patience and for bringing me back to normal life. Some men like to be served and belittled. I have seen such people. He is different - it was important for him that our relations were honest. And I am ready to help him in everything - but this is the business of our family. Our relationship should not concern anyone.

When I need help, I turn to a professional psychologist. If I read something on the Internet, I check the sources. Surprisingly, I realized that Vedic femininity does not apply to real religion. In yoga courses, we called ourselves a sect as a joke - they say, we are in the same bunch, people with common views. But there is some truth in every joke...

“My husband became a Hare Krishna because of me”

Svetlana K., designer:

Three and a half years followed the Vedic teachings. She took her husband to them. He now condemns her for eating meat, wearing trousers and no longer serving him.

“I first became a vegetarian. It was in my third year of university. I thought it would be an experiment with nutrition, and then I really got into it. At the same time, I became interested in esotericism. I saw on the network a group of Olga Valyaeva “The Destiny to Be a Woman”. Spirituality, long skirts and dresses… It interested me. The post “A Year Without Pants” really inspired me. I completely changed my wardrobe.

Now I understand that at first it looked funny. I didn’t know how to wear it all, especially in autumn and winter. In cold weather, she wore petticoats, a few tights, or even an extra skirt. So many layers! The people around watched with interest. Either like a grandmother, or like a gypsy ... Then I found out about the Vedic designer Dorokhova and drew ideas from her social networks. It turned out pretty.

Immersed in the theme of Vedic femininity. Ate sweets, as the gurus teach. I convinced myself that my destiny was to get married and have children. She constantly talked about this with friends and classmates, propagated the Vedas. My circle of friends narrowed. People didn't understand how I went from a party girl to a submissive amoeba.

This is how I lived in my world. I dreamed that after the university I would become a wife, I would inspire my husband, give birth to children. I had a boyfriend at the time. I was not in love with him, I almost did not like him outwardly. But I didn't drink, I didn't smoke, I worked. Valyaeva taught: you can love a person if you invest time and energy in him.

In our last year, we moved in. I lived with his parents, did all the housework. My husband just went to work. I didn’t even buy food - my mother-in-law did it. But he gave flowers, invited me to a cafe. There was love on his side, but not on mine. The Vedas convinced me: there will be happiness if you serve a person, even if not a loved one. But it's not. It's horrible.

After university, I did not work for almost a year. I sat at home like a real Vedic woman. We got married. I told my husband that skirts are for women's health, that you can't eat meat, and that I should inspire him. He got into it all. We ended up becoming Hare Krishnas together.

He accepted the Vedic knowledge as the truth. And I gradually moved away from them. There was no appeasement. I was bored at home: I did housework, sewed, painted, listened to lectures. But I lacked communication and development. It seemed that I was degrading.

Love for her husband did not come for three years. But we were like-minded people. It held me back. And over time, I chose a different path: I read the criticism of the Vedic gurus and more and more doubted their words.

I gave up Krishnaism and returned to Orthodoxy. I returned meat to the diet, sometimes I can drink wine. I wear trousers again and went to work - I teach at the KemGIK. And he still lives by the Vedas. He condemns that I "eat corpses" and do not serve him. My husband still promotes patriarchal values, and I have a new life.

Now I don't know what femininity is. I'm not against beautiful dresses, only without fanaticism. I like sometimes to be soft, gentle. But sometimes I want to show character, go on principle. Sometimes I like to sew, and sometimes I like skydiving or rock climbing. Isn't that why I'm not feminine? The most important thing is to be yourself.

“The Vedas will help those who already have a good husband”

Evgenia Genger, dressmaker and fashion designer:

For three years she developed Vedic femininity in herself. She abandoned her after pregnancy, falling into economic dependence on her husband. The couple do not live together, their daughters are one year and three months old.

- When I met my future husband, we had difficulties. I thought it was because of our difficult characters. I was looking for compromises, avoiding conflicts. Once my friend, a mother of three children and a happy wife, advised me a book by Olga Valyaeva. It seemed to be good idea- be patient and obedient.

My husband got into it too. I wore skirts, I participated in the marathons of femininity - I completed daily assignments for service, gratitude and all that. In relationships, she behaved like a wise Vedic woman - she was silent, nodded her head and did not demand anything.

At the same time, everything in our life remained the same. The refrain of our relationship was that there was something wrong with me. For him, I changed.

I got pregnant. I was worried because a child is a huge responsibility. But my husband was jumping for joy. So I decided to give birth. We moved from Yekaterinburg to Chelyabinsk. There was an apartment that my parents bought me. The husband got a job at Metrostroy. We decided to live a couple of years in this city, closer to our relatives, so that they would help with the baby.

We soon started having problems. Pregnancy was not easy for me - hormones, ailments ... There was no support. We quarreled, I even went to live with a friend and went to the hospital from her.

After the birth of my daughter, my husband helped me a lot with her. But suddenly it was cut. Finance was running out. He didn't like the way I spent money. I accounted for every penny, although I saved on everything I could. I bought used things, looked for those who give them away for free, used joint purchases. We lived on our savings for six months.

The husband got a job as a surveyor in the office. They paid little. But I behaved like a wise woman: “Darling, your career is important. If working for the company is good for you, we will tolerate it.” That's what she endured. So we lived: one chicken was for a week.

Filed for divorce. He came to me: "We have a child, let's fix everything." As a wise woman, I agreed. But we didn't last long. We still broke up.

And Vedic femininity was leaving my life day after day. I started making my own decisions. I sold an apartment in Chelyabinsk, my relatives added money to me. She chose new housing in Yekaterinburg. Repairs were needed but my husband refused to help. I had to do everything myself.

My journey to and from the Vedic Feminine has helped me realize my power. How did Woland say? “Never ask for anything! Never and nothing, and especially for those who are stronger than you. They themselves will offer and give everything themselves! I would say otherwise: do not ask, because you can do everything yourself. We have a lot of resources, especially in women.

Each person is valuable in itself. You can't lay your life on someone else's altar, as the Vedas teach. Do not listen to those who tell you how to behave. It breaks the psyche, families and destinies. If the person next to you is not your friend and partner, then you need to leave on time. No knowledge will save you.

Everything is complicated with women in Russia. No wonder they say that we are the most patient. From childhood we are taught acceptance and forgiveness. But life is very short. It's like 70 or 80 years. Is it possible to spend it on something that makes you unhappy?

Who is helped by Vedic femininity? Those who were initially lucky in Russian roulette called "Find a normal man." If you have good husband, then this teaching will not spoil him. And if he is a domestic tyrant, it will be worse. With your obedience, you will give him all the cards in his hands.

From illusion of control to depression

Evgenia Zadrutskaya, crisis psychologist:

She created the Listen to the Soul project, which criticizes Vedic femininity and provides support to those who lived by its principles.

— Why are Vedic gurus popular in Russia? Patriarchal traditions have been preserved in our country. The husband is the head of the family, and the wife is responsible for the life and upbringing of the children. But in Soviet times, a woman was a comrade and a worker. Therefore, we have a double burden: we earn money and take care of the house.

According to Vedic teachings, a woman can change a man, inspire him and make his life better. At the same time, take a break from work. Earnings are the duty of a husband, not a wife, so you can safely stay at home. The Vedas also put women on a pedestal: we are all goddesses, beauties and bring goodness and love to this world. It looks cute and increases self-esteem, self-confidence.

Vedic femininity gives faith in a just world. Most of us have magical thinking: if you behave correctly, everything will be fine. Like, even ancient knowledge speaks about it.

How dangerous are the Vedas. We have the illusion of control over our lives. The woman receives a placebo. She makes fewer and fewer decisions, although she thinks she rules the world. The real problems are not solved, but worsened. For example, she leaves work, and the Universe does not give her and her husband wealth. No matter how much you inspire, his salary does not increase anymore.

If a spouse has a tendency to aggression and tyranny, humility will only increase it. For many women, the control of their husbands increased when they began to serve them and agree in everything. And it doesn't have to be a beating. Economic control - how much you spent, social - with whom you communicated. The adult turns into a dependent child.

But the worst thing is different. Lecturers say: the state of her family depends on what a woman thinks and feels. And sometimes the whole world. And Vedic wives begin to control everything that happens to them. Give an unspoken ban on negative emotions. Forbid yourself to be angry and upset. But we are alive - sooner or later there will be a breakdown. And after him comes the guilt for their feelings. This vicious circle leads to depression, apathy. There was a split in personality. I know situations where women ended up in psychiatric clinics after that.

“There is also good in the Vedas”

Larisa Terekhova, psychologist:

He has a private practice in Kemerovo. Advises on health, money, love, relationships and development.

- Vedic psychology teaches that a woman should take care of herself, look good, dress smartly and take care of her hair. Always be happy and enjoy life. It's good to be feminine. Nowadays, many people do not take care of themselves: they do not do makeup, they do not attach much importance to appearance. The Vedas teach to pay attention to this.

Meditation practices may be helpful. They set you up for happiness, gratitude, well-being. It helps to think positively.

But one cannot live according to Vedic principles. This teaching has many shortcomings. It is unacceptable for me to constantly walk in skirts and dresses in order to "accumulate feminine energy." A woman in trousers can be attractive and sexy.

Relationships with men are also questionable. Lecturers say: stay at home, raise children and do not argue with your husband. But this is unrealistic. At modern woman active position. It cannot be locked within four walls. Take the same Olga Valyaeva. She's working! Conducts practices, writes books. This takes time and effort. And she tells her students about something else.

Every person has masculine and feminine traits. Vedic femininity jeopardizes our male part, which helps to earn money, act quickly and think logically.

There is good in this teaching, I do not argue, but it must be approached wisely. Our world is a symbiosis of all kinds of technologies and practices. Only at their junction is something worthy obtained. Everything must be treated consciously and choose what is right for you.

It's been two years since I started studying what we call Vedic culture. I don't like this word. It is somehow vulgar, worn out ... It is not so important for me where Oleg Torsunov, Ruslan Narushevich, Olga Valyaeva and others took the principles of building a family from the Vedas, from the studies of psychologists or from somewhere else. Another thing is important: can this be applied to your life?

And these two years I constantly hear how everything Vedic is scolded. How they speak sarcastically about Vedic women, about the teachers themselves, about the Vedic family ... And now I understand well why. Because many people have a very superficial understanding of what these teachers are teaching. They do not have the patience to read more, listen longer, take a broader view... The system that is presented to us by Vedic lectures is actually very harmonious. But also very difficult. Much incomprehensible. And self-contradictory. Perhaps, indeed, it is not suitable for everyone (I can not speak for everyone). But I'm sure it suits a lot of people. It's just that not everyone knows it.

Two years ago, I myself was very skeptical of many of the words of Oleg Torsunov and others. But slowly convinced that it really works. And that all criticism is based on the great Russian rule “I heard a ringing - I don’t know where it is.”

So, I want to answer some popular myths. Including those in which she herself believed a year or two ago.

A Vedic woman should stay at home and do only household chores.

Vedic woman exploited by men

A woman should not have her own opinion, she should obey orders unquestioningly, she should be quiet, always serve a man ... A very popular myth!

I'll start with the most terrible - from the ministry. Listen to Ruslan Narushevich - he loves to talk about how a woman "served herself on the board." And remember the previous point - first filling and, and only then (from an overabundance of love!) - service and love for her husband. If you have nothing, if you are empty, what can you give? Who needs such service? It's the same with obedience. If you are self-sufficient, filled, it is easy for you to let your husband be the main one, it is easy to give in to him ... And in important matters, any Vedic woman will definitely express her opinion (leaving her husband the right to make the final decision himself).

About the fact that a man will not perceive a housewife as a person. To begin with, are our working women often individuals? If a woman has many interests of her own, there is a desire for self-development, then dismissal will only help her become an even more interesting woman. After all, how much free time for your hobbies and hobbies!

Vedic woman is not sincere

Oh yes, I thought so myself about a year ago. What are some recommendations on how to ask your husband for gifts! Oleg Torsunov orders to “be sad”, and when a man asks what the matter is, confess his desire with self-flagellation. This scheme seems ridiculous and artificial, it looks like a manipulation... But! One day I realized that this is not a hoax. This is just a way to talk about your desires in a way that it will be easier for a man to perceive it. You are not lying. And any normal man understands that you are not killed because of the desire to buy a new dress. If everything is done correctly, the man is grateful to you for such “manipulation”. Because if you say directly "give 10 thousand for a new dress" - for him it's stressful. He may give, but with an unpleasant feeling. And if you ask from the position of a “girl”, it will not be so difficult for him to help you. And then still feel like a hero. It's not a lie, it's the language you speak. My husband himself now prefers that I communicate with him in this way (although I used to be). And many other men, too, you just need to learn how to “sad” correctly, given your temperament and the character of your husband.

A Vedic woman should be modest, should deny herself a lot

Where did they get it from? On the contrary, it is often said that one should not suppress one's desires. Any man dreams of making his woman even happier, and your desires (not immeasurable) are the best reason for this. But you need to be able to thank and be able to express your joy, and not hide it deep in yourself.

A Vedic woman should always be pleased and cheerful.

But what about the duty of a man to accept the emotions of his wife? Sure, you can't bombard your husband with negativity all the time (who likes that?), but no one is forcing you to always be cheerful. Mood swings are normal for women. It is only important to learn how to express your emotions correctly and be able to still be happy. No man can make an unhappy woman happy. But you can make happy even happier - for this there is a family. And how to become happy without the help of men - there are also whole cycles of lectures, books about this ...

I could write more on this subject. But it is impossible to retell the entire volume of Vedic lectures that I learned. Some things cannot be learned right away - some time must pass, you must somehow change yourself ...

I do not consider these teachings about the family to be the only correct ones. But I am sure that they could help many to build strong families where love would reign.

Modern families cannot be called friendly and strong, but even our distant ancestors knew the secrets of maintaining peace and prosperity in the family. Understanding the true nature of a man and a woman, the rules for conceiving, giving birth and raising children, the rites and rituals of ancient families can be useful in our time.

Vedas on the nature of man and woman

Husbands often do not understand the nature of women and the needs of their wives and make many mistakes. Here, for example, is the ratio of the needs of a man and a woman, given in the Vedas. Women are 2 times more hungry, 4 times more shy, 6 times more cheeky, and 8 times more lustful than men! What does this sensational discovery really mean? The statement about fearfulness needs no comment. Increased brashness is a way to compensate for the first two shortcomings. And the first and last statements require clarification. Increased hunger in a woman is not manifested in the fact that she eats more, but in the fact that she needs to taste tastes more often. Therefore, women can eat more often, but little by little. They also often carry candy etc. with them to satisfy this need. As for the fact that women are 8 times more lustful than men, sometimes this is true in the literal sense, but more often it refers to the fact that women have much more material desires and needs.

If you just look in the wardrobe or on the shoe shelf, you can see how many times more there will be women's clothing and shoes. Now the statement of the Vedas about what exactly "a woman inspires a man for economic progress". It further says: “ Attraction between a man and a woman is the main principle of the material world.. This attraction binds the hearts of a man and a woman in a tight knot and gives rise to attachment to one's body, home, property, children, relatives and money. So a person is at the mercy of illusory concepts "I am" and "my"(Srimad-Bhagavatam 5.5.8). Thus, if the husband does not follow the instructions of God, but follows the desires of his wife, the whole family from the ashram (spiritual refuge) turns into a "mass grave" from a spiritual point of view.

Women's mistakes

A typical mistake on the part of a wife is a tendency to lecture and even criticize her husband in the presence of others with a desire to show her power over him. This is an unbearable pain for the male ego and leads only to the alienation of partners. A reasonable woman understands how to get everything she needs from a man without encroaching on his authority. The power of female charms is very great, and it is not in vain that almost no advertising is complete without women. But this feminine power must be under the control of the spiritual mind of a man. Otherwise, the family from the ashram (spiritual refuge) will turn into a trap. So, if a wife constantly humiliates and “saws” her husband, by this she herself pushes him to drunkenness, alienation and betrayal.

The way to a man's heart

One of the traditional women's arts has always been the art of cooking. In the era of semi-finished products and fast-food, it began to go into oblivion. It's a pity! After all, the way to a man's heart lies through the tongue, and not through the stomach at all. Tastes are sensed by the tongue! Vedic cooking is based on the doctrine of six tastes that give rise to different moods. The taste is sweet, salty, bitter, pungent, sour and astringent. Ideally, every day a person should receive all six tastes in different proportions, depending on the constitution of the body and the state of health. If some taste is regularly lacking, we feel some emotional dissatisfaction. In fact, in order for the mind to be satisfied, it is enough to eat balanced and tasty. If a woman masters this art, she is able to feed and tame any "predator".

family hierarchy

The main reason why now people more often degrade in the family than progress is that few people perceive the family as an ashram - a spiritual training. The family is really a school where we learn to sacrifice for the sake of the one we love. This experience is necessary for the development of the ability to give, because at the end of life everyone must “give their soul to God” in the truest sense of these words. But it has to happen with love and consciously. If a person has not learned spiritual sacrifice, he will continue cruel school material struggle for survival. Only those who have learned to serve God and neighbor in this life will be ready to enter the Kingdom of God. Now everyone wants to be served and obeyed, but he himself does not want to become a servant and helper. What will we do then in the Spiritual World, because there are all the servants of God?

In a spiritually oriented family, there is no question of who is the boss in the house. The answer is known from the very beginning: "God is the master of everything, and His laws govern everything". The laws seem to be restrictive, but in fact they protect us and, like a lifeline, keep us from drowning in the harsh ocean of material life. The law is presented through the hierarchy of God - husband - wife - children. If the husband does not follow the higher laws of God, the wife will not obey him, and the children will not listen to either mother or father. Thus, chaos sets in in the family and in society. If we demand obedience from the younger ones, but at the same time we ourselves do not accept the highest authority of God, then God in our hearts will push our wards to rebel against us, so that we also feel what it is like for the Highest Father from disobedient children.

conception of children

By the way, about children. The birth of children in Vedic families is not an accidental by-product of sexual life, but a planned event, prepared with all responsibility. “One who is not able to rescue his wards from the cycle of birth and death has no right to become a spiritual master, husband, father or mother…”. From these words of the Vedas, it is clear that parents are responsible not only for material, but also for spiritual education children.

Preparation for the birth of a child began even before conception. If parents want to attract into their family some godly soul who will become their child, they must create an appropriate atmosphere in their minds and surroundings. Conception is like planting a seed. How gardeners use lunar calendar to choose a favorable moment, so parents, after consulting with a Vedic astrologer, choose a favorable time for conceiving a child.

Before that, they perform a special cleansing ceremony - samskara. In general, the Vedas recommend 10 basic samskaras, which are like spiritual inoculations and accompany the soul from entering the body (conception) to leaving the body (death), like a fair wind. The purpose of these ceremonies is to inculcate spiritual tendencies in a person. Some rudiments of these rituals we now have in the form of baptism, the consecration of marriage in the church, the funeral.

So, choosing an auspicious moment, washing your bodies and sanctifying your mind with words Holy Scriptures and in the Names of God, the parents conceived a child. Fortunately, there were no maternity hospitals with a flow conveyor. No one considered pregnancy a pathology, and childbirth a complex operation. Childbirth took place in a natural and calm home environment. After the birth of the child, but before cutting the umbilical cord, the father dripped a mixture of honey and ghee on the tongue of the newborn from a golden spoon. A month before the birth, the father recited the Bhagavad Gita, the main Vedic treatise, over this substance. This ritual plants a seed of spiritual intelligence in the heart of a person, which will bear fruit in the process of learning. And gold, honey and ghee create the right alchemical environment for the preservation of the mind.

Birth of a child

The umbilical cord was cut only after it stopped pulsing. Recent studies have shown that the blood that flows from the placenta into the baby's body after childbirth is especially rich in enzymes that enhance immunity against cancer. With the modern flow method, when everyone is in a hurry and the umbilical cord is cut at once, the child not only does not receive this valuable blood, but one fifth of his blood remains in the placenta. The bottom line is that when the baby leaves the mother's body through the birth canal, under natural pressure, the blood from his body goes through the umbilical cord to the placenta. Therefore, after giving birth, you need to wait until she returns back to the body of the baby. It is possible that the neglect of these details makes each subsequent generation weaker than the previous one and contributes to the spread of cancer.

The next ceremony is the naming. The name was chosen on the advice of an astrologer. Depending on which quarter of which constellation the moon passed at the time of birth, the name must begin with a certain syllable. The name is not just a fashionable nickname. It should act like a shield. In the article “The Magic of Sound”, I already wrote about the power of sound, and the right name is another “inoculation” against the problems of this world.

Children in the family

When the child's teeth have climbed and he began to crawl (from 6 months to 1 year), the following ritual is performed: the first feeding with grain, shaving off the hair and determining the future profession. Hair with which a child is born is considered unclean and must be shaved before one year of age. In front of a shaved, washed and well-fed child, 4 items are laid out on a clean cloth: a book, a weapon, money and a working tool. What he chooses - this will be the main occupation in his life - knowledge, military affairs (or management), business or physical labor.

Between the ages of 12 and 20, the child underwent a spiritual initiation ceremony, which the Vedas call "second birth." Thanks to this, a person could see the world through the prism of spiritual laws and avoided many mistakes. This is a kind of spiritual insurance that helped a person not to drown in the cycle of worldly passions and not to lose his bearings in life.

As for the upbringing of a child during this period, up to 5 years old they are treated like a king (everyone is allowed); from 5 to 15 - like a slave, that is, education itself begins. And since he was spoiled until the age of 5, he realized that he was loved and therefore now he is not offended, even if he is punished, since he understands that this is done out of love and for his good. From the age of 15, they begin to treat him as a friend, because from this age the child is already internally independent.

Wedding

The next ritual is the wedding. This is a very magnificent ceremony, including the chanting of sacred mantras, a special ceremony in front of a ritual fire, etc. You can see a fragment of this ceremony in the photo.

A Vedic wedding means that those entering into a consecrated marriage are not only materially but also spiritually mature individuals who are aware of their responsibility to God. Although outwardly they also run a joint household, the main business of their life is spiritual development. This is a team of like-minded people going together to the Spiritual World.

burial

And the last ceremony is a funeral one, when the body is cremated, so as not to defile the earth with cadaveric poisons and help the soul get rid of its attachment to this mortal flesh. All those present bless the departed soul and perform rituals to help the soul either attain a higher incarnation or even reach the God Realm.

This is the Vedic culture given by God and leading to God. She picks up the soul even before birth and leads it even after death.

Now parents are more likely to care about the bodies of children, and not about the souls, because they are the parents of the bodies. Therefore, God - the parent of all souls - gives us the Vedas, thanks to which our life becomes healthy, harmonious and filled with higher meaning.