It often happens that during pregnancy, doctors prescribe the wearing of a bandage, but the question of how much it is necessary to resort to such measures at the moment remains open. It is known that in some cases such a supporting element is simply necessary so that neither the mother nor the baby has any health complications. With all this, two camps have formed, one unites supporters, and the other completely disagrees with such measures, since a particular belt can harm an unborn child.

What is a bandage and what is it for?

It is a special non-squeezing corset that supports the abdomen during pregnancy and, if necessary, at the end of it. Such a tool greatly facilitates the life of the expectant mother, reducing the load on the back, etc. In addition, it should be noted that this device has a therapeutic effect, since it prevents premature lowering of the abdomen and helps to fix the fetus in the correct position. With all this, the bandage does not allow the appearance of stretch marks that appear due to an increase in the abdomen and a number of other processes.

It should be understood that there are no specific prescriptions for wearing a bandage in medicine, however, doctors identify some cases in which a supporting bandage would not be in the way. As a rule, this is due to the peculiar difficulties that some women experience during pregnancy, and these include:

• late pregnancy, and since the skin after 30 years is less elastic, a specific device facilitates the rehabilitation process in the postnatal period;
• weak muscle tone of the abdominal press, due to which the baby bulges out of the tummy;
• violations of the vertebral segments of the expectant mother, an excessive load on which can lead to additional problems, etc.

What are the bandages - types with photos

There are several types of banding devices that allow the use of the support tool under different conditions and degrees of loading. There is an opportunity to select bandage elements, taking into account wearing them instead of underwear, which creates an external appeal.

Prenatal

The prenatal bandage is a special supporting structure, which can be a belt or panties. A special belt is sewn into the panties in the form of a strong tape, which hugs the lower back from behind, and from the front it neatly passes under the belly, providing support and stretching as it grows. The wider the width of the tape, the more comfortable and better support. A feature of such underwear is the high waist, which allows you to completely fit the belly from below, without squeezing.

There are also more comfortable options made in the form of shorts, which are more designed to be worn in cold weather. Such models are made without seams and have a special fastener at the bottom, which allows you to go to the toilet without taking off your linen. There is also an opportunity to choose different options, color, lace and more.

It should be remembered that the bandage-panty can be worn both on top of the underwear, or even do without underwear, but in this case it is better to have two sets, since when wearing without underwear, the bandage will have to be washed every day.

The bandage belt is a convenient device, represented by an elastic band that can be fully adjusted in size and individual parameters, since it has a fixing Velcro under the abdomen, or additional adjustable flaps on the sides. Speaking about the advantages of a support belt, it should be noted that it is more convenient to wear it than fixing underwear, it is easier to regulate, it is less deformed and has a more effective supportive effect. And due to the fact that the belt fits the body in a smaller volume, wearing it in a warm season will not cause discomfort due to the heat.

Even the most elegant models are being developed, represented by a special corset-type device with a lacing. Such components look more feminine and are able to satisfy the aesthetic preferences of every woman.

Postpartum

Wearing a bandage device in the first days or weeks after childbirth will greatly speed up the rehabilitation process. Such a condition is necessary in order to relieve the load from the back, tighten the abdomen, accelerating the recovery of the muscles of the abdominal cavity, skin and internal organs.

Obstetricians prescribe a specific method, taking into account the individual characteristics of each person, as well as the specifics of the course of labor. Bandages at this level have tighter support for the abdomen, tighter fixing mechanisms and a more elastic support band. It should be remembered that the independent choice and appointment of this remedy can lead to a number of complications, for this reason, the purchase of a postpartum bandage should be carried out only as a result of a doctor's prescription.

Universal (combined)

A universal, also known as a combined bandage, is used both for women who have not yet given birth who use it during pregnancy, as well as for mothers who have resorted to it for postnatal rehabilitation. It looks like a double-sided belt with a fairly dense overlay and orthopedic stiffening ribs. The degree of tightening is easy to control and can be carried out while wearing. A feature of this type of bandage device is the width of the tape, where the back is slightly wider than the front, which allows you to fix the stomach from below and fit snugly against the back. This type of wearing is suitable for pregnant women, and as part of postpartum wear, the belt is flipped over and worn wider side on the belly.

Such a belt not only makes life easier for the expectant mother, but also saves money, since one bandage can be used from the middle of pregnancy until the end of postnatal rehabilitation. Both in the first and in the second case, it will be very effective and reliable during use.

When to start wearing and for how long?

The period and duration of wearing the bandage is determined by the doctor, taking into account all the characteristics of each patient, the general state of health of the woman is taken into account, as well as all kinds of pathological processes that can affect the bearing of the child. As a rule, the orthopedic complex is used from the fifth month of pregnancy, at a time when the abdomen begins to grow vigorously and cause discomfort, manifested by pain in the lower back, small pelvis, etc.

You can wear a bandage until the onset of labor, but this is all very individual. Postpartum abdominal fixation has fewer restrictions and the bandage belt is worn in the first postpartum days, here it is necessary to resort to tightening as early as possible, of course if such a measure is necessary. Many women believe that the bandage prevents the appearance of stretch marks, but this is not so - it all depends on the individual characteristics of the skin, if it is elastic and dense, then these formations cannot appear in principle.

How to choose the right model and size

Typically, size is determined by measuring the circumference of the hips under the belly - this figure is a reflection of the size of the supportive component. In most cases, a sales assistant will help you choose the appropriate size for your model. However, it also happens that the product was seen in a magazine or in an online store, then making a choice in size is a little more difficult, but it must be remembered that the size of the bandage is proportional to the girth of the hips at the moment. This approach can be implemented only when choosing panties; for belts, the system of size designations is slightly different.

When it comes to the belt, the question of how to determine the size of the maternity bandage remains open. There are many size tables in which the conventions are equivalent to reed girth, where:

• 90 = XS;
• 95 = S;
• 100 = M;
• 105 = L;
• 110 = XL etc.

At the same time, there is a huge selection of manufacturers producing such devices. The company that produces this or that model is designed for mass production, so the choice of a brand depends only on the woman herself. The most popular brands on the market are:

• Orlett;
• Fest;
• Bliss, etc.

How to put on and wear a bandage for pregnant mothers

As you know, the benefit of wearing a bandage will be only if it is properly dressed. To determine this, you should pay attention to which parts of the body it covers. Here are detailed instructions: the tape should go under the belly, in no case squeezing it, then it should wrap around the pubic bone and adhere to the buttocks, with the main emphasis on the thighs.

Harm and contraindications to wearing

There are many views on this matter, and it is worth noting that it is necessary to wear a bandage only in cases where there is a pathology during bearing a fetus. You should not wear it without an appointment, as this can be fraught with negative consequences. One of these undesirable processes is the allergic reactions of the mother's body to the material from which the device was made. You should only trust specialized companies that develop a product of well-known brands, such as: Ortho, Fest or Orlett.

There is also a risk of additional squeezing of the baby in the womb, which manifests itself in the form of circulatory disorders, the inability of the child to move and the risk of injury to a healthy fetus. And since there is even a minimal risk of harming the child, the "miraculous" remedy should be used only as prescribed by the doctor and under his careful guidance.

Video: why you need a bandage and how to choose

In this video, a qualified obstetrician shares her own opinion on the use of bandages by pregnant women. Situations in which it is necessary to resort to this kind of support, how to dress and wear the product correctly, as well as possible negative consequences in the process of using a corrective tool, are described.

Often, after performing various types of surgical operations, patients will have a difficult and long-term rehabilitation. To reduce the recovery time, it is recommended to use a postoperative bandage. If you understand how to choose a postoperative bandage and use it correctly, the product can provide a good rehabilitation effect.

The benefits of a postoperative bandage are expressed in the following effects:

• support of the patient's internal organs in the anatomical position, preventing their possible displacement;
• ensuring faster scarring of seams;
• prevention of hernias;
• reduction of swelling and bruising;
• prevention of infection of the seams;
• restoration of skin elasticity;
• mild limitation of mobility, which does not allow making dangerous sudden movements;
• reduction of pain;
• elimination of increased loads acting on the back.

The most typical is the appointment of bandages of this type after operations on the gastrointestinal tract, as well as after operations to remove hernias, uterus, plastic (liposuction) and other types of interventions. However, it is only the patient's attending physician who decides whether a bandage is needed after surgery.

What are they

Several types of postoperative bandages can be used today. They are prescribed for different types of surgical procedures. The most common models that are prescribed to patients after operations performed on various organs of the abdominal cavity.

They are made in the form of a large-width belt that is tightly wrapped around the patient's waist. Its material is a special elastic fabric. Bandages can be equipped with a special multi-stage adjustment system, which makes it possible to accurately adjust the product to the figure. Certain types are produced to support various internal organs.

There are special models for ostomy patients. They are prescribed after various types of interventions on the intestines. They have a compartment for the removal of feces.

Another separate type is anti-hernia postoperative bandages. They can be used after surgery to remove hernias, as well as perform a preventive function, preventing their occurrence.

Features of choice

The correct size of the postoperative bandage is the main condition for choosing. The patient's waist should be measured in girth. Measurement is made with a tape, which should fit the body tightly enough. On the other hand, crushing is not allowed. The result obtained must be compared with the table of sizes of the manufacturer's postoperative bandages. As for the width of the product, it should be such that the seams are completely closed.

The correct selection of the size of the postoperative abdominal bandage suitable for a particular patient is of decisive importance for achieving a beneficial effect. Small sizes lead to impaired blood flow in the suture area and tissue necrosis can occur, which can result in great harm to health. A belt that is too large will not support the abdominal wall properly and will not provide the necessary fixation. As a result, its benefits will be reduced to zero.

Before choosing a postoperative bandage, you need to find out what materials it is made of. The fabric should not be allergenic. To ensure an optimal microclimate, it must provide good air exchange. The highest quality materials include cotton with lycra or elastane, as well as rubberized latex. Good ventilation is provided under such tissues, the skin does not sweat, and the postoperative sutures are kept dry.

The best option would be a bandage with multi-stage adjustment. It can be easily adjusted to the desired size. The best fastening method is wide adhesive tape. Also, lacing, fasteners, hooks can be used for fastening. However, these elements can cause discomfort, therefore, the choice of product must be approached more carefully.

Abdominal belt wearing mode

It is usually recommended to wear the product after surgery for 7-15 days. This period is necessary to ensure the stable position of the internal organs and to prevent the threat of a possible divergence of the seams. This wearing mode is recommended after the performed operations of small and medium complexity. After complex interventions, wearing a bandage is usually prescribed for at least a month. The decision to refuse to wear an abdominal belt is made only on the recommendation of a doctor. The maximum period for this usually does not exceed 3 months. Longer use of the product can lead to muscle tissue atrophy.

The total wearing time during the day should be 6-8 hours. Every 2 hours it is necessary to take breaks and remove the belt for half an hour. The product is also removable at night. The exact mode of use, taking into account the state of health of the patient, is determined by the physician in charge of rehabilitation.

Usually, the abdominal belt is worn over cotton underwear. Seamless underwear is preferred. Sometimes the doctor prescribes to wear the belt directly on the body.

In the first period of the course, immediately after the operation, the bandage is put on by the patient in the supine position. Before putting on, it is important to completely relax - this will allow the internal organs to take the correct anatomical position. As the body recovers at the final stage of the rehabilitation course, it will be possible to put on the belt in a standing position.

Refusal to wear an abdominal belt is recommended to be carried out gradually. This is because the abrupt cessation of additional support becomes stressful for the body. This can lead to negative consequences for the patient's health.

Introduction

Numerous questions, "How is this done?" from friends and acquaintances.
It would seem that the answer to such a question is easy: take it and show it. Well, I did. I'm not sorry, look at your health. And along the way, he also explained how this harness fits, why such a knot is appropriate here and why all this is needed at all.
But, as it turned out, the demonstration and explanation is completely insufficient, because when I show, people are not looking at the technique of execution, not at the materials, not at the location of the nodes, but at everything at once. Because it is beautiful for them to look at it. And according to the results of the demonstration, it turns out “Cool!”, “We want that too!” and "How is this done after all?"
In short, I thought and thought and decided to write a manual, not a manual, but at least a selection of tips. So that anyone who wants to can look into it when something does not work out for him, and make sure that it is not possible for him alone. And that he is not the only one with such a head-handed, or crooked-eyed, or even mentally retarded. With what epithets I rewarded myself while I was learning to knit, I will not tell you. Let them remain my secret and protected by my copyright, and you yourself invent.

So let's get started.
What is it all about here?
If you are reading these lines, then most likely you have an idea of ​​what bondage is. And also about what Japanese bondage is, or shibari... If the words “bondage” and “shibari” are unfamiliar to you, then it is better to close this tutorial. It will teach you bad things and plunge you into the perverse abyss of sadomasochism.
Yes, it is sadomasochism. Because bondage is a sadomasochistic practice. Bondage refers to limitation of mobility in general and bondage in particular. Depending on what the mobility is limited to, bondage is subdivided into steel bondage and rope bondage.
Steel bondage (from the English. steel-bondage) - these are handcuffs, shackles, chains, cages and other cute paraphernalia of penitentiary institutions.
Rope bondage (from rope-bondage), or rope bondage, is carried out, as the name implies, with the help of ropes. Or strings. Or ropes, or laces, or bandages, or decorative ribbons. In a word, with the help of such pieces that can be tied into knots, knots and knots.
There is also bondage with blocks (the kind of pieces of wood that Uncle Tom used in his hut), or with cling film, or with plaster. These are all also types of bondage, since all these entertainments are associated with limitation of mobility. They are called differently, but this is not important in this tutorial. Let someone who practices them directly tell you about them. He will do much better than me.
And further. Limiting mobility by hitting the head is not bondage. This is, at best, hooliganism, and at worst - causing grievous bodily harm.

In general, it became clear what bondage is. Anyway, I hope so. What is shibari?
Shibari is the proper name for one of the types of rope bondage. This name came from Japan, where, in fact, this type of bondage comes from. In other words, shibari is Japanese bondage.
In order to knit shibari, you don't have to speak Japanese, or practice bondage in a kimono, or make narrow eyes with your fingers, or wear a bandage with the hieroglyph "diligence" on your forehead. Japanese bondage differs from um ... how shall I say ... from European bondage in a few very distinctive ways.

The first feature is that Japanese bondage is very decorative. It doesn't matter if you tie a person in order to do some perverse actions on him, or in order to straighten his posture, or so that he lies beautifully in the corner, creating an interior for you. Whatever the purpose of tying, shibari looks decorative. Or, to put it very roughly, the shibari looks very neat.
Comparing examples of shibari and European bondage, one gets the impression that the European was in a great hurry to get somewhere. The rope is somehow coiled, limbs are tied to just about anything, and in general everything looks like being done on the run between the office and the gym. The European is not interested in how he connects. He is interested in why he does it, why he does it, and how long it will take, because from minute to minute he must have an important meeting.
The Japanese, on the other hand, is in no hurry. It just so happens that this is generally a characteristic Japanese trait. The Japanese are always interested in exactly how he does this or that thing. Therefore, even the laces tied by the Japanese look like a professional design work. And if you consider that the Japanese have been using laces, strings and strings wherever possible since ancient times: In general, you can imagine what exactly the Japanese can do from tying. Looking at Japanese bondage, it is clear that the person who knitted these harnesses applied not only hands and imagination to the matter, but also a remarkable aesthetic feeling. It can be seen that this man was in no hurry to go anywhere. That each loop was laid deliberately, that not a single knot was tied just like that.
However, it is quite possible that I idealize the Japanese. Even idealizing for sure. After all, it cannot be such that they know some Great Mystery that is inaccessible to us, right? In any case, we will try to deal with this Great Secret and learn to tie as aesthetically, leisurely and deliberately, like the true sons of Yamato.

The second feature of Japanese bondage is formalized somewhat more clearly. This is no longer an ephemeral aesthetics and not an area of ​​subjective sensations. The second feature is that in Japanese bondage a person becomes attached to himself.
Do you understand what I mean?
In Japanese bondage, you will not see a cross on the bed with each arm and leg tied to a different corner. In shibari, a person is not stretched in different directions, but, on the contrary, is collected in a pile. The arms and legs are fixed first to each other, and then to the torso. Or, if there are reasons to leave the legs separately (and such reasons, you must admit, sometimes arise), then only the arms are tied to each other, but the legs are still fixed to the torso in one way or another. Of course, this rule does not always work, but in the overwhelming majority of cases. Do you know why? Try to guess: the hint is hidden in this paragraph.
Have you guessed? That's right: the Japanese don't have beds. More precisely, now it already exists, but the traditions from which shibari were born took shape long before Japan began to Europeanize.
The traditional Japanese interior is very sparse by our standards, and at the same time very functional. What can you tie a person to in a room that has only walls, screens, a small table, mats, and a portable brazier? To nothing. Only to myself. And outside the living space the same thing. Why bother with some kind of pillars when you can tie your hands folded behind your back, and tie your legs folded in a Turkish style by the ankles, for example, to the belt? All you need is a good piece of rope. And that's all.

The third feature of Japanese bondage has something in common with the first. Shibari straps are always knitted in such a way as to emphasize the sexuality of the model. The harness can outline the genitals. Or bulging out your chest. Or the person may be bound in a deliberately erotic position. In any case, Japanese bondage is characterized by the fact that, in addition to functionality and aesthetics, it is highly eroticized. Have you forgotten that shibari is erotic bondage? Oh yes. I haven't said that yet. So: shibari is an erotic bondage. Make a special note in your notes: if the model does not excite you, then it is better to find another model. Although, perhaps, it is you who will be able to create an amazing erotic composition with the participation of a person to whom you are indifferent.
Maybe.
But I hope you will excuse me if I say that I have very little faith in it.

How is it? Did I manage to give you the impression that shibari is very difficult, and generally not for average minds? I'll tell you a secret: this is what I was striving for. I am thus trying to demonstrate to you my superiority. Because I am a genius. And the art of Japanese bondage is available only to geniuses, while others should look at us with genuine admiration and respect. We must bow before us and give us praises, and show all kinds of honors, and ...

Do you think this is a joke?
You're right. This is a joke.
In fact, there is nothing particularly difficult about shibari. With a desire and a certain perseverance, you can learn all this without any aids. And even with the allowance - and even more so. I’ll tell you a secret, I myself studied this way. Completely on my own, looking at photos posted on the Internet from various bondage sites. Strictly speaking, what I am doing cannot be called shibari. I have not adopted any special traditions, I have not been taught by the Masters of the Rope. But somehow it so happened that I associate and people who see it call my work shibari. Perhaps I work in some special tradition, but I myself do not know. Moreover, if they suddenly tell me that my works are traditional, I will be surprised no less than the hero Moliere, who learned that he had been talking in prose all his life. I just copied those straps that I saw in different places, and over time I learned how to make my own. In short, you can't call my works shibari, but it's hard to call them any other way. Therefore, let's pretend that we are real Japanese, which means that whatever we wind with the help of ropes, it will be a real Japanese bondage. Do you agree? And for this, at the end of the manual, I will provide a list of Internet resources that helped me learn what I’m going to tell you about.

If you haven't changed your mind, then ...
Go!
(and waved his hand)

Rope bondage for beginners
Theory

In this section, I will talk about safety precautions, about ropes, about what it is for, and about other things like that. I strongly recommend that you read the section before proceeding with a living person with a rope in his hands and a sparkle in his eyes.

Rope bondage for beginners
Ropes

The first, main, and, in general, the only tool of a bondage player is a rope. Well, in fact, this tool is not the only one. There are also hands, head and fantasy. But we do not choose our fantasy - it is either there or it is not, but we are quite capable of choosing a rope that suits us personally.
By the way, a little side note. In the future, I will not call bondageists in general, but those who knit Japanese rope bondage, in particular. From what is more convenient.
So, about the ropes, about what they are, what they must be and what they should not be, I'll try to tell you here.

First, a little history. Apparently, people knew how to use ropes even in the Neolithic. In any case, in Finland, the most ancient knots have been discovered dating back to this period. I don’t know where and with whom they were stored, and why no one unraveled them for so long, but the fact remains.
True, in those distant times there was no nylon, no nylon, or even bolognese raincoats. Therefore, our ancestors used ropes made from natural materials. From hemp, flax, wool. In general, everything that could be taken apart into long flexible fibers and then twisted or weaved. Some even managed to make ropes from their own hair, as the brothers Grimm authoritatively told us about. Of course, if the ancestors knew how to make monomolecular threads, then they would not need to weave or twist ropes.
But they didn't know how.

From all this, four conclusions can be drawn.

The first conclusion: ropes are made of synthetic materials and natural ones.
Second conclusion: ropes are braided and twisted.
The third conclusion: the rope left to itself, since it is twisted, or braided, can easily unwind or unravel.
Fourth conclusion: humanity did not come from aliens, because otherwise we would have long been using monomolecular threads. Even in the Neolithic.

Natural materials are anything that can be harvested, cut, stripped, or simply grown in nature. Such as: hemp, flax, wool, bast of some tree species, straw, cotton, even asbestos. Human fantasy about the use of a variety of materials at hand is inexhaustible.
Synthetic materials are what current clothing is made of and, I personally suspect, some food. In any case, if we compare the taste of nylon rope and a bun from a standard train lunch ... However, I digress.
So, synthetic ropes are made mainly from nylon and polypropylene. It is not entirely clear why, with all the power of modern science and technology, only these two synthetic materials are used to make synthetic ropes. I do not think that all other species go to the railway canteens. Although you can expect everything from these railroad workers.

Several important qualities for us (bondageists) depend on the material from which the rope is made. We open the notes and write.
The three most important, in my opinion, qualities are strength, durability and slipperiness. That is, how much load the rope can withstand, how much it can stretch and how well it holds the knots.
With the load, everything is clear. I think very few people will be happy if at the most inopportune moment your bottom, carefully tied to the wall, suddenly bursts out, unable to substitute the fixed arms or legs. Therefore, it is imperative to pay great attention to the permissible load on the rope. When selling a rope, its breaking and tensile limits are always indicated. These are different types of strength. That is, the same rope can withstand a load under a static load, but if you drop the same load with a jerk, it will burst. Tensile strength is more important for us, since bondage loads are static. But it is still better to overdo it than not to miss it and get ropes with high tensile strength and tensile strength. Do not be lazy to ask the seller what kind of load it can withstand.
In addition, one must always bear in mind that a rope made of natural material can change its properties over time. With improper care, it can simply rot and tear from a slight jerk.
More durable and less sensitive to storage conditions, synthetic ropes. But. They have a couple of not very pleasant features. First, they stretch. This means that when working with synthetic rope, it will be difficult for you to control the degree of its tension. Secondly, synthetics do not hold the knots very well. Under load, knots on synthetics tend to slip and come loose.
Natural ropes, on the other hand, are devoid of these drawbacks. They do not stretch, and the knots hold well, but for this they require personal care. They are especially afraid of rotting, and therefore they must be thoroughly dried after exposure to water, and stored in dry places. By the way, even if you are not prone to hygiene, natural ropes should at least be thoroughly dried after the session. Since the sweat of your model is no worse than any other liquid, and even organic. Anyone who has seen an unwashed bum at least once knows what rotting organic matter can do. So it's better to send the ropes to the wash periodically.
And natural ropes can be further processed, which I will talk about in more detail a little later.

According to the method of manufacturing, the ropes, as I said, are divided into braided and twisted. The difference between them is visible to the naked eye. Twisted ropes are made by twisting several strands, and braided ropes are made by weaving. Traditionally, twisted ropes made from natural materials are used in shibari, but this is not a dogma.
It cannot be said unequivocally that some important qualities of the rope depend on the manufacturing method. But, in my observation, braided ropes are often less flexible than twisted ones. To be fair, it should be noted that I have never had ropes made in different ways from the same material. It so happened that the braided ropes that fell into my hands were synthetic, and the twisted ones were natural. Perhaps this is the case.

Regardless of how the rope was made, it always strives to disassemble itself into its components in the same way. It unravels at the ends. To prevent this from happening, the ends must be processed. Even if you like shaggy tassels. We’re learning to knit, not use fluffy tassels.
The ends can be processed in different ways to prevent self-loosening. The easiest way in this respect is synthetics. It is enough to slightly melt the ends of a synthetic rope over the fire and they will no longer bloom. But I must say that this method, although it is simple, still has a significant drawback: the melted synthetics becomes hard and with such a hard tip you can scratch your model. And not everyone likes it.
To avoid such sabotage, you can process the melted ends with a file, or you can do something completely different. If you have already decided to contact synthetics, then you can be consistent to the end and fix the ends not with melting, but, for example, with scotch tape. This is also a pretty simple way: just tape the rope around where you want to cut it and cut right down the center of the winding. As a result, you will have two ends, secured with tape. This method is also convenient because, using tape of different colors, you can mark pieces of rope of different lengths. In the future, you will see that this is very convenient.

If you decide to give preference to natural materials, then scotch tape will no longer work. And not at all for reasons of quality. The fact is that, since we will knit shibari, and shibari is aesthetic by definition, we should take care of the unity of style in advance. So we will process natural ropes in the same natural ways. So far I know of only one good way to handle the ends of natural rope. Sheathing.
If you've ever held a needle in your hands, the upholstery won't be a problem for you. Sew the rope through and through a couple of times, one and a half to two centimeters from the edge. This will be enough to secure the thread. Then loop to loop, wind the thread tightly towards the end of the rope. A centimeter winding is enough. Sew the rope through again at the end of the winding, and then sew two to three large stitches across the entire winding. This will keep it from dissolving. Everything.
This method is also convenient because, using multi-colored threads, you can mark your ropes.
On several occasions I have heard that there are ways to braid the ends of ropes without resorting to additional means. But these methods are unknown to me. If someone knows them and can teach me them, I will only be glad.

I have already mentioned color coding twice. What is it for?
The fact is that ropes of various lengths are used in shibari. For example, two to three meter lengths are convenient for tying arms and legs. And also, if the length of the rope is not enough for you somewhere, you can extend it with such a three-meter piece. Five to six three-meter sections on the farm will be enough. Or let there be seven or eight of them, so that it will certainly be more than enough for everything that you come up with.
Pieces with a length of eight to twelve meters are used in the harness of the chest, thighs. Or for combined strapping. You will need three or four such segments. And the stretches from twelve to fifteen meters are intended for harnesses that cover the whole body. You only need a couple of them.
So, in order to choose the piece you need from the tangled pile, it's a good idea to color the ropes depending on the length.

There is another way out. You can not mark anything, but simply store the ropes in such a way that nothing is confused with you. Short pieces can be conveniently folded two to four times and tied in a knot in the middle.
It is better to twist longer pieces into a ring and tie this ring with one of the ends, creating a loop for which it is convenient to hang such a twist on a hook, or on a nail, or something else on which you will store your ropes.
Of course, if you are a very neat person, then no one will forbid you to mark the ropes and keep them in perfect order. This is best because shibari requires carefulness. But, on the other hand, Zen teaches us not to be very fixed on the form, giving preference to the content. In other words, do whatever you want, if only it helps you knit well.

Since we're talking about dimensions, it's time to talk about the most common thicknesses used in shibari.
The most common rope thickness is six to eight millimeters. A thinner rope, firstly, looks rather pathetic, and, secondly, it simply cuts harder into the model's body. Of course, if you set a goal to decorate your model with a mesh a la meat nut, then your choice is a four-millimeter rope. But it is better to use it for tying hair and such delicate work.
A thicker ten-millimeter rope is used where it is necessary to distribute a strong load as much as possible. For example, when hanging.
In total, at the initial stage you will need five to six three-meter pieces, three to four twelve-meter pieces and one fifteen meters long. Six to eight millimeters thick. It is best if they are segments of the same rope. As you can imagine, a harness that is half synthetic and half hemp will look somewhat eclectic.

Personally, I use a jute figure eight and am quite happy with it. Several reasons influenced the choice of material. First, jute looks pretty authentic when knitted with shibari. It would be even better to use natural hemp, but by the way, hemp is nothing more than hemp. That is why it (hemp) is so difficult to find. Apparently, drug addicts smoke ropes to the ground on the way from the manufacturer to the store.
Secondly, jute is a rough material. Therefore, ropes from it are more biting than from other materials. My models love it.
Well, and thirdly, accidentally acquiring sixty meters of jute, I decided that they were not looking for good from the good and settled on it. And, although since then ropes from various, often quite exotic materials have fallen into my hands, now this is already a matter of habit. I'm used to my ropes. We've done quite a lot together already.

Incidentally, ropes made from natural materials can be further processed to give them more specific properties. In particular, natural hemp or jute is often recommended to be depilated. No kidding. Remove excess hard pile from them. This is best done with fire. Take your fuzzy rope and burn it over the fire like a chicken. From the shaggy rope you get bald one.
Or, natural ropes can be boiled for extra softness. The recipe for such a brew varies with each source, but everyone agrees that at the very end, the rope needs to be rinsed for a couple of hours in a fabric softener. Personally, I once tried using only one rinse aid. The result was exactly the same as after three hours of cooking followed by rinsing.
In short, it's up to you how to mock your ropes. All I did with my working jute was just pick all kinds of rubbish and chips out of it. Which I strongly advise you too.

All in all, there is not much information in this chapter that a bondageist really needs. I just need to fill out the manual with something to give it a solid size, and this optional information can help you to shine with erudition on occasion. But in the next chapter, I promise to be very serious.

Rope bondage for beginners
Safety engineering

Not a single textbook is complete without such a chapter. Even the "Sex for Dummies" manual. And this is completely justified. God forbid the kettle, undertaking to study sex from a book, reads something wrong, or thinks wrong and pokes the wrong way and in the wrong place. For example, in the eye. Sorry for people.
Although if I were Doctor Evil, I would definitely flood bookstores with various manuals without a section on safety.
Fortunately, I'm not Doctor Evil.

A bondage session includes three potentially dangerous elements. First, the actual impact of the ropes. If you remember that people were repeatedly executed with the help of a rope, then you can understand that this instrument is quite dangerous.
Secondly, in a bondage session, you are dealing with a helpless person. The one who is knitted remembers this constantly. But the one who knits can forget about it. But this should not be forgotten under any circumstances.
Thirdly, bondage often brings the lower one into a subspace state. This is the name of an altered state of consciousness achieved through sadomasochistic practices. On the one hand - well, subspace - and subspace. A person meditates for himself on the sly, what can be dangerous in this? And, meanwhile, danger may lie in wait here too. Let us recall the television healers of the beginning of perestroika. Have you seen how people in their sessions began to involuntarily wave their hands, twist their heads and generally do various things? The key word here is involuntary. You can never say in advance what exactly the subconscious mind will throw out when a person is in an altered state of consciousness. This is why subspace is potentially dangerous.
In total, rope bondage safety can be divided into three main groups. Safety when exposed to ropes, safety for an immobilized person and safety in an altered state of consciousness.

In this chapter, I will provide a list of rules that must be followed if you want to be cheerful and healthy, not sad and sick. I will give some of these rules expanded for better memorability, and some briefly, since they, I think, are obvious. In addition, I expect that you are familiar with the basics of human anatomy. If not, put this tutorial aside and get an anatomical atlas. It contains a lot of interesting and useful information in addition to the female genitourinary system.

Safety when exposed to ropes.
Rule one.
Never, under any circumstances, allow the rope to wrap around the neck of the bottom. Do not place the rope across your neck, even if you are sure there will be no load on it. And if you think a loose rope is safer than tight turns, still don't place the rope across your neck. It takes a few seconds to compress the carotid artery. Add to this a few more seconds, during which the brain of your lower body will not receive oxygen and we will get a human vegetable at the output. And if you remember that troubles happen exactly when it seems to you that you have everything under control, then obviously you will strangle your lower one after the session by hanging a bay of rope around his neck just for the sake of a joke. In general, if you do not remember that the neck is inviolable, then sooner or later you will need the guide “How to get rid of a corpse”. And I will not feel sorry for you at all, since I warned you.

The second rule.
Never tie self-tightening or slippery knots. They, you know, are dragging on. And in the best case, you will have to cut your valuable rope to free the lower one from the fetters. At worst, go to a doctor so that he removes the harness that has cut into the body and restores the impaired blood circulation with a minimum of negative consequences.

Rule three.
Never place a rope on joints. A little earlier, I said that a tight rope interferes with blood circulation. This is far from the worst that can happen. If you clamp the joint (always assume that you will definitely clamp it), you will receive damaged ligaments as a bonus. In addition, large nerve and lymph nodes are located in the areas of the shoulder, elbow, hip and knee joints. It is easy to damage them, but difficult to restore. Therefore, never put the rope on the joints, much less! - do not subject these areas to stress. Especially axillary and groin.
I have already mentioned the anatomical atlas. Once again, I highly recommend this fun reading. Moreover, finding it is easier than ever.

Rule four.
Watch the lower limbs. It is they who are most susceptible to a variety of injuries associated with crushing. Violation of blood circulation, damage to the ligaments, plus even squeezing of the nerves on the limbs are done just to spit. Therefore, carefully monitor the condition of the limbs of the tied person. If they change color (turn purple, or even turn blue), remove the harness. If they get cold, remove the harness.

The fifth rule.
Always have a rope cutting tool on hand. Your session can go to the wrong steppe at any moment. For example, your bottom might suddenly panic. Or you suddenly find that he is no longer able to move his fingers. And this will happen exactly when you have already spent half an hour tying knots. You will need the same amount to untie. It is clear that the rope will need to be cut mercilessly, but how will you do it without a tool? Is that gnawing teeth. Therefore, always have on hand either a sharp knife or powerful scissors.

Rule six.
Tits and pussy are inviolable. It sounds rude, but it is better remembered. Never expose a woman's breasts or male genitals to stress. You can put a harness on them, which will slightly press, but no more. Even if it seems to you that there is no serious danger, just imagine that you emasculated your model. Or because of you, her breasts will always hang in the waist area.
I would not want anything like this to happen because of my stupidity. And you?

The seventh rule.
The rope burns. Try to quickly pull the rope through your clenched fist. I bet you won't like this. But on the other hand, you will have an idea of ​​how your bottom feels when you pull the ropes too quickly over his naked body. Shibari is generally not very fond of hurrying. And the ability to leave a serious burn, I hope, further stimulates you to take your time.

Rule Eight.
Be alert to moles. Horror stories about a tumor that has developed from a mole are not always scary stories. Therefore, try not to damage or peel the mole. And then you never know what. Anyway, a mole looks prettier and more piquant than an abrasion. By the way, this rule also applies to papillomas, kandilomas and similar skin formations. And see a dermatologist. It won't hurt.

Rule nine.
The spine is not for knots. Never place knots on your spine. Place them to the left or to the right. Even if you do not intend to give a serious load on these nodes - all the same. God saves man, who save himself.

Safety for the immobilized person.
Rule ten.
Before the session, find out the health status of the lower one. Find out how good his blood circulation is. Does he suffer from high or low blood pressure. Whether his limbs go numb easily. Did he have any joint injuries? Learning all this after the fact will be bitter and insulting. Because not knowing what to do with this person, you cripple him.
Bondage is strictly contraindicated for people with diabetes or varicose veins.
If a person has circulatory problems, if their hands and feet become numb easily, tie the ankles and wrists last. And put a minimum of straps on your limbs.
If you have high blood pressure, do not place the person upside down. And when lowered, do not leave it in an upright position for a long time and do not move it abruptly from one pose to another. Better just put it down. One more detail: under reduced pressure, it is not recommended to conduct the session on an empty stomach. This does not mean that you have to gorge yourself to the point of nausea. Just eat a piece of bread or a chocolate bar or something like that.
If your lower one has injured joints, don't stress them. Either leave the diseased limb free, or fix it in the most natural and comfortable position for it.
Take your sub's health condition very seriously. And be prepared for surprises. The only trauma that I encountered in my practice was due precisely to the fact that I did not know about the tricky anatomical feature of the lower one. There is such a thing - “narrowed wrist syndrome”. This trouble lies in the fact that some nerve endings do not pass there and in the wrong way and therefore are easily vulnerable. On the legs, this also happens, but it is called somehow differently. As a result, the lower one received damage to the radial nerve. It took us two months to regain mobility of the hand, and we happily got off with that. But if I had paid attention in advance to the fact that his hands go numb easily, everything could have been different.

Rule eleven.
Locking your limbs in uncomfortable positions can lead to injury. Try to sit in Turkish for at least ten minutes and you will understand what it is about. Of course, this applies not only to the legs, but also to the hands. Prolonged fixation of broken arms is dangerous.

Rule twelve.
Use a stop word. Since sadomaschism practices are partly a game, provide the rules of the game with the conditions for exiting it. For example, your bottom gets special pleasure from resistance. Can you tell by eye when he is resisting pretending, and when the jokes are over? For this, a stop word was invented. It can be anything, but it is best if it is not relevant to the context of your session. For example, several of my acquaintances use the word "mushroom pickers". One day they went out to play in nature at the height of the mushroom season. I think there is no need to explain further.
When you hear the stop word, immediately end the session.

Rule thirteen.
Keep track of the time. If you apply the harness seriously, then in any case, at least a little, but it will impede blood circulation. So don't get carried away. Do not leave your bottom in the same position for a long time. Change the harness, give the bottom the opportunity to stretch. Moreover, I recommend that you limit your first sessions to half an hour. Not more.

Rule fourteen.
Do not leave a tied person unattended. Bound is more defenseless than a baby. He can choke on his own saliva, he can fall unsuccessfully, he can choke on his tongue. But you never know what he can? That is why man is the king of nature, that much is available to him. When you bind someone, the responsibility to ensure that he does not harm himself with his powerful abilities will fall entirely on you.

Rule fifteen.
Position your bottom in stable positions. If you need it to stand, fix it to some additional fulcrum. If you want him to sit, sit him so that you can be sure that he is comfortable and will not fall off. Best of all, lay it down. You cannot fall from the floor.
We use the whole body to maintain balance. Arms, legs and tail, if anyone has one. If you take away from a person the ability to wave his arms and step over his legs, he will not maintain an upright position for a long time. And it will fall very loudly to its full height. Do you need it?

Safety in an altered state of consciousness.
Rule sixteen.
If it seems to you that everything is in order, and your bottom, that not everything, then he is right, not you. Conversely, if your bottom thinks that it can withstand more, and you believe that it is already enough, you are right. In other words, always assume the worst possible outcome.

Rule seventeen.
Sobriety is the norm. Never arrange a session while under the influence of alcohol or drugs. If you are a motorist, then you understand well what a drunk is, on which health, and often a person's life, depends. If you are a pedestrian, then just take my word for it: alcohol is appropriate when you are responsible only for yourself. In other cases, the cost of your mistake can be very high.

Security is out of category.
Rule eighteen.
Have a first aid kit on hand. A sadomasochist's first-aid kit must contain ammonia; hemostatic agents; soothing, such as valerian; remedies for high blood pressure; heart remedies; bandages.

Rule nineteenth.
Never try to hang people if you haven't been taught to. I won't even comment here. Just follow this rule and your lower one will live a healthy and happy life.

Rule twentieth.
Lower, going to a session with a person whom you do not know very well, leave a phone number for someone you know, on which they can call and check that everything is in order with you. Tell them where to find you if you suddenly disappear. Remember as our father: when you are tied up, you will depend solely on the goodwill of the superior.

Unfortunately, despite all the warnings and precautions, we still often study safety techniques on our own long-suffering skin. I really hope that this does not apply to you personally and that this chapter will help you avoid many serious problems.
May it be so.

Rope bondage for beginners
Role of the sub in a bondage session

If the lower one in the bondage session served only as a dummy, onto which macrame from ropes or a cocoon of film is wound, it would obviously be easier for the upper one to adapt the dummy to its purpose. Or a rubber Zina. Or a teddy bear. But the Top with enviable persistence continue to decorate living people with their compositions. Apparently, they are attracted not only by the temperature of the treated surface, which is 36.6 degrees Celsius, but also by something else. And as long as this “something else” exists, let's try to figure out what it consists of, how to increase it and what we, the lower ones, can do in order to provide a feeling of deep satisfaction from bondage fun for both the Upper partners and ourselves.

Confidence
Bondage is one of the BDSM practices that involve putting the bottom into a helpless state, therefore, requiring tremendous trust between partners. You will say that you can injure yourself with an inept flagellation, and an awkward puncture, and you will be right. But if we assume (God forbid, of course) that you ran into a psycho who intends to chop you into stroganin, then, without being fixed, you can at least try to resist, attract attention, for example, by knocking out a window, and so on. In a tied state, you are deprived of this opportunity even in theory.

But confidence in the adequacy and competence of a partner, which is quite sufficient for most sadomasochistic games, is not enough to practice bondage. Man is mortal, and suddenly mortal. Close your eyes and imagine the bad. In general, of course, it is better not to do this in vain, but once - you can. Imagine that you are chained to a battery, or lying, and even more so - hanging, unable to move and crawl to a knife, phone and other means of escape, and your partner fainted. Obviously serious and for a long time. For example, he has a diabetic, or epileptic, or vascular, or some other crisis, and he himself urgently needs medical attention. Have you presented? - then it is better to postpone bondage. Or, restrict yourself to something relatively innocent, such as a rope secured at the front or handcuffed wrists and ankles. Can't imagine this, the picture is not drawn, no matter how hard you try? in your imagination, the partner first, at the very least, frees you, and only then does he bend himself? - everything is fine. You trust this person enough to allow yourself to be tied.

The answer to the question of whether or not to play this game is best understood before starting it. In order not to mislead the partner, not to spoil his and his mood, to avoid unnecessary stress and even, possibly, injury.

What else needs to be done before the first knot is tied?

Natasha Rostova's first ball
Inform
For the Top to be able to properly plan the session, he must know a lot about his Bottom. This is especially true of a new, unfamiliar partner. Unfamiliar precisely as a model for bondage: a pound of salt, jointly eaten by you earlier on a different soil, of course, gives him a lot of information about you as a person, but says nothing at all about how flexible your hands are. If you are not absolutely sure whether this or that circumstance matters for the bondage, whether you have already mentioned this earlier, and if you mentioned it, then whether it is in the context in which the partner drew attention to your message specifically in relation to bondage, it is better repeat one more time.

The top one needs information about your health, both in general and in particular. In general, these are data on chronic diseases, injuries suffered, etc. For bondage, especially critical are the features of blood circulation, the condition of the veins of the extremities, large peripheral nerves, joints and ligaments, the degree of flexibility of the joints, old fractures, dislocations, tendon ruptures, frequent muscle spasms, incompletely prolonged external tissue damage, fresh scars, etc. ; diseases of the cardiovascular system (including dystonia), respiratory organs, digestion ... in general, it turns out, everything that is written in your medical record, even if you do not have it. I understand that all this seems to be excessive boring, but even my limited outlook, formed by observations of myself and other lower ones, the work of my Master with whom I saw, allows us to judge how amazingly diverse human bodies are, their features and, alas, their sores. In addition, tell your partner how you feel right now: perhaps you have a headache, your blood pressure has been naughty, you have eaten something wrong and you feel sick, or, on the contrary, quite that, but a lot and recently, you have PMS or menstruation, etc. - all this also matters. Do not try to keep silent about a problem for fear that because of it you will not be tied. It is very possible that they will knit, they will simply choose a method that will not harm you.

We agreed at the very beginning that man consists not only of quivering flesh, but also of an immortal soul. What is the situation with her, again, in general and in particular? Are you claustrophobic, or afraid of heights (important when hanging), or are you prone to panic reactions, tantrums, fainting due to nervous experiences? What mood are you in right now: playful, restless, depressed, peaceful? What kind of sub are you - obedient and passive, or, on the contrary, violent, prone to struggle or to get out of bondage? Maybe you easily fall into a state of deep subspace and “disconnect”, or maybe nothing like this has ever happened to you?

All of these countless factors determine how the Upper should treat you. And one more piece of advice: don't try to decide for him. Do not command, do not lead. Your business is to inform, and he will draw conclusions himself. That's why he is Upper.

Reach an agreement
I never cease to be amazed at how different people are. Not at all like me. The partner who will connect you now is not the same as those who did it before him. And you are different from those whom he knitted before you. Therefore, what is self-evident for one without any words, for another is generally wild. In a nightmare, the thought of getting out of bondage does not occur to me. But I know people who, on the contrary, do not understand why they are being tied up, if not so that they try to free themselves. Hence, the need for a whole series of preliminary comprehensive and clear agreements on the rules of the game is obvious.

First of all, we are talking about stop words or stop signals. You can treat them in different ways: some categorically consider them necessary, while others reject them with indignation. Make sure that you understand the state of affairs in the same way as the Upper Partner understands it and, in case you agree on the use of a stop word (signal), you both know it well and interpret it in the same way. A failure in communication here most often occurs when one of the partners considers the stoplight to be an imperative to stop the impact, and the other simply indicates that the lower one is worried about something. The nose, now, itched up. If you decide to abandon the brake light as such, this does not mean abandoning the alarm system at all. Agree on signs. Thus, you will save each other from groundless experiences out of the blue, and save precious seconds in case something goes wrong.

Pre-session agreements include negotiating the context of the session. If it happens as part of a disciplinary game, or if you are connected with your partner D / s relationship, it is advisable to find out in advance whether you can (and should) move, talk, and even more so resist or get out of bondage, is it worth helping to shoot the rope when they will untie you. Do not forget that your inadequate behavior in comparison with the expectations of your partner can easily ruin all his pleasure. And it is completely ridiculous to allow such blunders out of ignorance.

Prepare
When the Upper one grabs you by the mane and drags you to knit without further ado, then, of course, you won't get ready a lot. But if there are several minutes before the start of the session, use them to remove milk from the stove, turn off your mobile phone and ICQ, possibly change clothes, and also, if necessary, go to the toilet, take a quick shower, etc.

He said - "Let's go!"
So, you have been tied up. What should you do next? The answer is simple: relax and have fun. This is an occupation to which everyone indulges in the measure of their depravity, therefore it is rather difficult to recommend anything. Here are the most general considerations that come to mind.

• Don't be distracted or distracted by your partner. You will tell him a fresh anecdote later.
• Do not be shy. After all, your Upper, most likely, is not an abstract artist, which means that he will not put you in a pose in which it is unpleasant for him to look at you. Yes, yes, I mean, he really doesn't pay the slightest attention to the puckering fold of excess fat. In secret: if Upper is a man, then he most likely simply does not see her. In men, vision is arranged in such a way that they perceive the whole picture, and not the details.
  However, the vision of abstract artists is even more interesting.
• Act naturally, whatever that means to you. I want to cry? - cry. Are you horny and your hips sway back and forth by themselves? - that's good. Draws to moan and scream? - for God's sake. Go into yourself, plunge into meditation? - let the yogis envy you. In general, as long as you behave within the limits of what is permitted, and the Upper knows what these or those of your reactions mean, do not think about whether you are acting “correctly” or not.
• Do not imitate African passion or unconsciousness from unearthly pleasure if it does not happen. But still try to “get high”. Listen to yourself, your body, your mood, feelings and experiences. Acquaintance with bondage joys and their development is given gradually, and with each subsequent session the pleasure becomes sharper and comes sooner, since as you gain experience, you begin to understand where what comes from and how it is expressed. However, not everyone likes any sensual practice. I know people who don't like kissing. Likewise, the world is full of people, albeit BDSMers, who do not like bondage. And there is nothing wrong with that.
• Art requires sacrifice. You may well experience discomfort and even pain. And the nose itches. Nothing, be patient. After all, you must live up to the proud title of pervert!
• At the same time, learn to distinguish between normal safe discomfort from a real traumatic situation, and if you suspect that the latter has occurred, immediately signal! Familiarity with safety precautions and a good knowledge of the symptoms of possible complications will help you with this. So boring medical texts and boring warnings concern not only the Upper, but you too.
• Watch yourself. Of course, control of the state of the lower is the responsibility of the Upper, but he cannot, having tied your hands, constantly watch, whether they are cold or blue. He will do this only from time to time, otherwise he will never be able to tie, say, his legs. In addition, there are complications that do not have immediate external symptoms at all. The sooner the attention of the Top will be drawn to the problem that has arisen, the sooner he will be able to respond to it. Of course, being in a helpless state, being exposed to influences (after all, this can be the impact of not only the rope or what else you have been fixed), it is quite possible, while experiencing the subspace, to maintain the ability to adequately assess the sensations is quite difficult. And you don't have to. But if you can, then it is better to try. By this you are helping the Upper. There is something you can learn. For example, I somehow manage to wiggle my fingers and hands almost continuously to make sure that they move normally (my wrists are my weak spot), even if I have a poor idea of ​​who I am and where I am.
• Signal. It is very good if you can inform the Top not only about problems, but also from time to time give a sign that everything is fine with you.

"Cut." Thanks to everybody, you're free.
You may need help after the session. I do not mean medical assistance, this is a special article, I want to believe that it will not be needed. We are talking about human help: to be wrapped up (a slight chill is a fairly typical reaction to the removal of bondage), to sit with you, to bring you something, if your legs are still not very holding out of excess of feelings. Ask for such help, do not hesitate. I hope that it is ugly to abuse your helplessness and chase Upper like an errand boy, you yourself understand.

When some time has passed and all passions have subsided, tell Upper about what you yourself paid attention to: unusual reactions, discomfort, or, conversely, delight and bliss - in general, there is no superfluous information here either. This will help him to enhance the effectiveness of subsequent impacts and eliminate shortcomings, if any. But that later, with a fresh mind.

In the meantime, do not be too lazy to say thank you to him. In whatever way you can. He needs your support, care and affection no less than you need him. He worked hard and was tired. He worried and felt. He made you pleasant, made you beautiful. Thankfully, there are never too many expressions of gratitude.

Rope bondage for beginners
Psychology and construction of the bondage scene

Psychology

Now is the time to talk about the darkest and most obscure side of rope bondage: psychology.

Think about it: why do you like bondage? Regardless of whether you are top or bottom. What specifically attracts you to bondage?

Aesthetics? Do you like how the rope lies on a person, or how the rope wraps around your chest? But after all, external aesthetics can be achieved with ordinary clothes. And the aesthetics of the rope alone is not enough to feel like a bondage player. Naked aesthetics are more of a fetish, right? So there is something else. What?

Are you attracted by the immobility, helplessness of a tied person? Yes, this is probably closer. Such a reason cannot be attributed to fetishism, which means that it is more weighty, more real.

But let's try to move a little further: why do you like it when your partner is immobilized? Or why do you like it when you are helpless in front of a partner and are completely at his will? And, keeping in mind that we are talking about erotic bondage, why is it all so closely related to sex?

The answer is simple, although unexpected for many. The reason is fear of sexuality.

I bet half of the readers (men, of course) will be very indignant at this place: “We, the dominant alpha males, are not afraid of anything or anyone! What nonsense! ”
And at the same time, think - do you have difficulty expressing your feelings? Do you prefer to remain silent once again, instead of telling the woman you like about how you like her? Chances are you are introverted, right?

By the way, the bottom one has the same picture. The only difference with the upper ones is that the upper ones prefer to seek solutions themselves, while the lower ones entrust the search for solutions to others.

Moreover, the picture can be expanded even further: the fear of sex is inherent not only in bondageists - do not think that we are alone (poor or advanced - it depends on the point of view). And not even sadomasochists alone suffer from this, uh ... I will not say "ailment", since this trait is inherent - fear of the opposite sex - to absolutely everyone. I emphasize: everyone. Absolutely.
We, men and women, are too different, too different from each other. We think differently, we feel differently, we even see the same thing - and then in different ways. And we, so different, desperately need each other. And the fear of the fundamentally incomprehensible, which cannot be broken, which cannot be forgotten, is a very human trait.
And the difference between us - sadomasochists, bondageists and others is only in how we deal with this fear in a concrete way.

Have you noticed how common in vanilla the stereotype of belittling women by men? All these "caps", "nipples", "chicks" and other disparaging names are nothing more than a psychological defense reaction. If it is impossible to understand a woman, it is necessary to humiliate her. The humiliated does not frighten the man.
Women treat men in exactly the same way, only their methods are somewhat different. “Men are goats,” “you are a rag,” “I gave you my best years.” If a man is incomprehensible, then let him be guilty, let him justify himself. The one who justifies is not afraid of the woman.

All the ways of personal, intimate, interaction between a man and a woman are ways of overcoming the fear of such an incomprehensible opposite sex.

But why bondage? And How?
Let's figure it out.
Now I will draw a psychological portrait of a bondage player, then detail it to two - upper and lower, and then see what follows from all this, what practical conclusions and recommendations.

First: obviously, the bondage player is fundamentally not satisfied with the generally accepted ways of interacting with the opposite sex. The bondage artist is not satisfied with the constant dull confrontation, expressed in more or less demonstrative neglect of the opposite sex. Otherwise he wouldn't be a bondage guy, right? He would be calmly realized through "caps" and "men are goats."

Second: the bondage artist expresses his relationship with a partner in actions. Not in words, not in declarations, not in demonstrations, but in concrete actions: take, lift, transfer, put.

Third: in a relationship with a partner (during the session) the bondageist exists within the framework of the “parent-child” psychological template. According to this pattern, one partner (“child”) is helpless, irresponsible, completely dependent on the other. The second partner ("parent") is attentive, caring, has unlimited power.

Important: in the “parent-child” psychological pattern, realized through bondage, the “parent” is by all means kind. In a bondage session, there is practically no place for influences that are psychologically associated with punishments: spanking, spanking, a strict, accusing tone. For the “parent,” there is another pattern of behavior that is characteristic of flagellation, spunker, and disciplinary sessions: the strict parent. These two patterns are antagonistic and, entering a session in which it is supposed to use both bondage and active influences, it is necessary to know in advance what exactly will be the leitmotif of the session, and what will be an auxiliary element.
Since this tutorial is about bondage, the Kind Parent pattern is important to us upper bondagers. This is what a bondage bottom needs.

Building the scene

The psychological portraits of the upper-lower bondage pair are roughly outlined. What practical recommendations can be drawn from them?

· The top one, entering the session, must be absolutely ready for everything. You are a parent. You have no right to deceive a child's trust. You have no right not to cope with a difficulty if it has arisen. You cannot panic, you cannot experience visible difficulties.
The easiest way to achieve a sense of complete confidence in your abilities is to plan the course of the session in advance. Do not be lazy to think in advance how you will enter it, what you will do in its course, how you will get out of it. Including - and in case of emergency. Consider several options for the course of the session. Consider several options for getting in and out. Consider how to shorten the session if necessary. Think about how to extend it, if that. Play the session in your head several times, rehearse it beforehand. This does not mean that you need to build a clear lapidary plan and not retreat a single step from it. The more options you ponder, the easier and more confident you can improvise during the session. Your bottom expects from you just lightness and confidence. Don't disappoint him. Prepare yourself.

· Remember that you are a parent. Treat the bottom like your own child. With all the care and attention you are capable of. Always remember that your “child” is absolutely helpless without you. All he can do is feel. The rest is on you. Completely on you. If your "child" sneezes - at least wipe his nose. Better yet, in parallel with this, try to understand why he sneezed, why, what the consequences might be for him, how to avoid them and how to eliminate the cause in order to avoid recurrence.

· Inform the subordinate in advance that during the session he can do whatever he wants. Laugh, cry, chat, be silent, try harnesses for strength, settle in them more comfortably. Everything. He is a “child,” he does whatever comes into his head. Limiting him so that he can only do what you need is your job, not his.

· Both “parent” and “child” are roles. You need to tune in to them. You will be surprised how easy it is to enter the role if the “child” has hands tied from the very beginning of the session. It is also much easier for the lower one. Hands are tied - everything, the roles are divided, the session has begun.

· Views are very important. If you are not a natural born actor, it may be difficult for you to enter the role under the supervision of the subordinate. Blindfold the lower one. Now no one sees you and you can freely be whatever you want. Moreover, it is easier for the lower one. If you don’t blindfold him, then, most likely, he will close them himself: he is not only helpless, but also does not orientate himself in the world around him; he is a “baby”.

· In a bondage session, tactile contact is very important. The “child” communicates with the “parent” by touch, by the feeling of parental hands. Can you communicate with cats? Can you calm animals with your hands? This is how you will interact with the bottom.

· Music can be of great help. In a situation where most of the channels of interaction with the outside world are blocked, hearing begins to play a very important role. It is the music that will help you set the overall emotional outline of the session.

· During the session, you will have to independently determine what your sub is ready for, and what not. If you need feedback from him, ask simple, short questions that can be answered “yes” or “no”. The need to formulate and express a thought will knock your bottom out of the role and it will be very difficult for him to return back.

· During the session, you should not speak harshly and loudly. As long as your bottom has not fully entered the state of "child", the situation should be calm, pacifying. Once you have entered the role, one of your tasks is not to provoke a fall out of it.

· Once you tune in to complementary roles, you will feel that you can do everything with the lower one. That nothing is forbidden. There is nothing obscene or indecent. Do not be intimidated by incestuous allusions - your “child” is an adult.
If the lower one believes that you do not have the right to everything, then you are mistaken and mutual adjustment did not happen.
If you only enter a session so that you can do everything - unfortunately, you are not a top bondageist. Don't even start.

Rope bondage for beginners
Practice

In this section, I have provided “storyboards” of the main, basic, straps. Over time, I will supplement it somewhat, but only slightly. In my opinion, offering “ready-made solutions” kills the imagination. But on the other hand, you need to know the basics. In general, decide for yourself - you need it, or you yourself will come up with something much more interesting.
And I remind you: don't expect any special revelations. All these schemes are already on the web.

Rope bondage for beginners
Nodes

Where should you start the practical part? Of course, you think that now, from the very first lines, they will tell you how to tie a person, fixing his left leg to his right hand, and his right leg through the back behind the ear.
I confess that it would be interesting for me to tell about this myself, especially since I do not yet have the slightest idea of ​​how this can be done, and, most importantly, why it is needed. I would tell you - and, perhaps, I would have figured out what's what. But you have to start with a rather boring topic. From the nodes.
Quite a lot of books have been written about nodes, about what they are, what they are not, what they are used for and what they are not for, including in Russian. Personally, I prefer the "Sea Knots" reference book by Lev Skryagin. The knots described in this handbook are enough to fully handle a hefty sailing vessel. What can we say about a single person who fell into our bondage clutches.
Practice shows that four simple and one not very simple knots are more than enough for rope bondage. I will give the descriptions of these knots according to Skryagin's handbook, highlighting the Skryagin descriptions in italics, and I will outline their undoubted benefits for bondage and their areas of application in our craft.

The most common knot in our business is the knot with the semi-military name “simple half-bayonet”.

Bandage(from bander - to tie) is a special belt made of wear-resistant, hygienic material, easily sanitized in warm soapy water. In some cases, metal plates and springs are used in the design of the bandages.

A bandage is a personal hygiene item. When caring for the product, you should exclude chlorine and bleaching agents, as well as machine wash. Dry the bandage without wringing it out after washing.

Depending on the purpose, the bandages are of the following types:

Prenatal bandage is a device that provides support for the abdomen without squeezing, as well as the correct position of the fetus in the uterus. The bandage prevents premature lowering of the fetus, relieves stress from the spine. This helps prevent back pain. A special tightening fabric with free air circulation protects the skin of the buttocks and thighs from stretch marks and tears as reliably as possible. They wear it from 20-24 weeks until the end of pregnancy. The bandage can be worn daily, no more than 10 hours, but during the day, every 3 hours it must be removed for 30 minutes. It is not recommended to wear the bandage at night.

Postpartum bandage- contribute to the restoration of the abdominal wall, prevent prolapse of internal organs, strengthen the abdominal muscles, help maintain correct posture. They are distinguished by their high lifting ability, excellent support of the abdomen and hips, creates the necessary compression and can significantly shorten the recovery period after childbirth. The use of postpartum bandages is prescribed by a gynecologist, taking into account the course of childbirth and the individual characteristics of the woman's body. Bandages are put on from a prone position when the abdominal muscles are relaxed and it is easier to fix them in the correct position. You can start wearing the bandage from the day of birth every day for one and a half months.

It is not recommended or limited by a doctor for certain types of stitches after a cesarean section, diseases of the gastrointestinal tract, some kidney diseases accompanied by edema, skin and allergic diseases. There are several models of bandages. This is a bandage - panties, bandage-belt, bandage - grace.

Briefs- the traditional version. They are worn over regular panties. It is necessary to put on this model while lying down. A bandage worn in this position will fix the uterus well and support the abdomen. Slimming postpartum bandages-pants have a high waist, a wide belt and dense, elastic inserts on the abdomen and lower back; can be zipped at the bottom.

Bandage belt- in the form of an elastic band. This practical model is very popular. The tape is put on the lower back and fixed under the belly. Such bandages have 3 joints (one in front and two on the side), the length of each is changed with the help of velcro. Lateral joints are reinforced with elastic band. It is longer than the side valves, so the diameter of the band can be adjusted without removing it. The undoubted advantage of the bandage belt is that it can be worn both lying down and standing (it fixes the uterus, but does not press from above). Along with wearing bandages, it is necessary to do gymnastics and massage of the abdominal muscles, because prolonged wearing of bandages weakens the abdominal walls.

Bandage Grace- is an elastic high-waisted panties with a wide belt, dense inserts on the abdomen and lower back. Correctly selected graces have a slimming ability, visually reducing the volume of the waist and hips. They have a multi-level fastener at the bottom or on the side, dense inserts on the belly.

Universal or combined bandage... Used both before and after childbirth. Modeled as a belt made of elastic fabric and fastened with Velcro. During the prenatal period, the wider part of the belt strengthens the back, distributing the load, while the narrower part supports the abdomen and is fixed under the abdomen. After childbirth, the belt is turned "the other way around": the wide part "holds" the stomach, the narrow part - the back. They are convenient precisely for their versatility and the ability to save money without purchasing special underwear twice: before and after childbirth.

Postoperative bandages- are used after surgery on the abdominal cavity, chest to reduce the load on the suture, which in turn reduces the risk of hernias and complications after surgery. The bandage is widely used in plastic surgery for the removal of adipose tissue. Also, the bandage can be used for body shaping and tightening (tightening) of the abdomen. The supporting effect of the bandages is achieved due to the elasticity and elasticity of the material.

The compression of the material is such that it allows to evenly distribute the pressure of the internal organs on the abdominal wall, which ensures the stability of the forming scar and creates the right conditions for the healing process. Postoperative bandages are put on around the waist and fixed with contact tape (Velcro), as well as pulled together with a stretch if necessary. It is recommended to put on a bandage on underwear. The time of wearing a bandage is from 1 to 8 hours a day.

Postoperative bandages are designed to be worn in the early postoperative period or in the acute period after injury, constantly with a gradual transition to temporary wear during physical exertion.

Anti-hernia bandages- are used mainly for the prevention of hernias and for prolapse of internal organs, but can also be used in the postoperative period to prevent complications and relapses. It is necessary to put on the bandage in the supine position (the pelvis is above the shoulders), and if there is a hernia, it is preliminarily adjusted. The time of wearing the bandage is in agreement with the doctor.

Corsets

Corrective orthopedic corsets are one of the few methods of truly effective conservative treatment of scoliosis. The main purpose of corsets is to keep the spine in the correct physiological position and actively correct deformities.

With scoliosis, the spine corset can be supportive and corrective.

The main task of the supporting (fixing) corset is to unload the spine. The role of such corsets is to prevent diseases of the spinal column. They are used to improve posture; they are recommended to be worn in cases where the spine has not yet been deformed. They are also used at small angles of curvature of the spine, in adulthood or after surgery.

The main task of a corrective corset is active curvature correction. A corset of this type is worn constantly for six months or more, it is changed as the child grows or as the curvature of the spine is corrected.

There are many different designs of support corsets, depending on their specific purpose. They are made from various materials: cotton fabric, leather and leatherette, elastic multilayer fabric. Corsets have different degrees of rigidity (special stiffening ribs - elastic plates are sewn into the belt), which provides a more reliable fixation. Supporting corsets provide dosed fixation and unloading of certain parts of the spine: a clavicular corset, a corset for fixing the shoulder blades, orthopedic reclinators for unloading the lumbar and thoracolumbar spine, posture correctors.

Wearing support corsets strengthens the back muscles, relieves pain, and reduces the load on the spine with age-related changes. The wearing of such corsets is indicated for persons whose activities are associated with great physical exertion (loaders, athletes).

All supporting posture correctors are manufactured by specialized companies.

Reclinators are elastic posture correctors that bring the shoulder girdle into correct position. They are a figure-of-eight bandage that loops around the front of the shoulder joints. Wearing the reclinators allows you to open your shoulders and reduce the stoop of the upper thoracic spine.

Reclinators are used to form correct posture in children and adults, with hyperkyphosis ("round back") and kyphoscoliosis of the initial stages, to prevent the progression of curvature of the spine.

The efficiency of the reclinators is quite high with the beginning stoop, minor postural disorders and weakness of the muscles of the shoulder girdle.

How to wear reclinators

The reclinator is put on cotton linen. Shoulder loops are worn around the shoulders while sitting or standing. The proofreader must be worn up to 4 hours a day when working at a desk, watching TV, studying on a computer or reading. The reclinator is easy to use and invisible under clothing.

Chest posture correctors are chest bandages. These designs have a corset belt and a semi-rigid dorsal part that covers the entire thoracic spine. It is much longer than that of the reclinator. The design provides additional straps located at the mid-torso level.

Indications for the use of chest braces are pronounced stoop, pathology of the location of the shoulder blades, pterygoid scapula, scoliotic-type posture disorders, expressed in the thoracic spine, kyphoscoliosis of the initial stages.

The thoracic posture corrector is made of elastic material, and two stiffening ribs create a semi-rigid fixation in case of curvature in the thoracic spine. When selecting the chest belts, the person's height and the coverage of his chest are taken into account. The size is determined by measuring the circumference under the bust. Chest braces are not recommended for children under 4 years of age.

Chest-lumbar posture correctors

These designs combine three elements: a corset belt, a semi-rigid back and a reclinator. Long, scalable stiffeners run along the back and fix the lumbar lordosis and thoracic kyphosis. The lumbar part of the corrector is fixed on the abdomen with a Velcro fastener. The thoracolumbar corrector enables simultaneous correction of the spinal column along its entire length.

Indications for the use of semi-rigid thoracolumbar correctors are postural disorders of any severity in children and adults, grade 1-2 kyphosis, grade 1-2 scoliosis. The selection of correctors is carried out individually in size.

How to wear posture correctors

The thoracic and thoracolumbar posture correctors must be worn while standing. Care should be taken to keep the back straight, the head up, and the shoulders apart. The belt should be attached to the stomach with a Velcro fastener, the belts should be thrown over and pulled through the armpits, crossing them in the back and fixing the corrector on the front of the belt. Stiffeners should be located on either side of the spine. When the corrector is properly worn, the spine is straightened, the shoulders are pulled back and the chest is straightened.

The posture corrector begins to be worn from 30 minutes a day in the first week. In the second week, the wearing time is increased to an hour a day, in the third week to two hours, and in the fourth week to three hours a day. Then, for two months, posture correctors are used 4-5 hours a day during static loads: working at a computer or desk, reading, watching TV. Gradually, the time for wearing correctors is reduced by 1 hour per week. After completing this scheme, posture correctors are no longer used. However, when signs of stoop appear, they are re-worn for 4 hours a day and used for 2 months.

In cases where therapeutic measures with the help of supporting corsets are not enough and there is a progression of scoliosis during the growth of the child, corrective corsets are used.

Corrective orthopedic corsets for the spine

Corrective corsets are designed for active correction of spinal deformity and allow you to slow it down, and in some cases, completely get rid of the pathology.

Indications for the appointment of corrective corsets are:

• scoliosis of 2-3 degrees;
• the angle of the curvature of the curvature is 20 degrees even before the onset of puberty;
• scoliosis progresses after the onset of menstruation at a rate of more than 5 degrees per year;
• the amount of curvature is more than 40 degrees and changes in the vertebrae are pronounced;
• Partial correction of the spinal deformity in adults is required in order to increase its mobility.

An orthopedic brace is a medical device, the main function of which is moderate to strong compression of the abdominal region. Depending on the type of bandage, compression can be aimed at solving various problems: maintaining the descending internal organs in a normal position, strengthening the abdominal press, restoring the abdominal wall after abdominal operations, preventing the exit of the abdominal organs through the hernial gate, preventing inguinal and umbilical hernias, reducing the load on the lumbar spine during pregnancy.

Hernia umbilical cord for children
Children's umbilical cord is an elastic belt with Velcro fastener and a semi-rigid pad, which is located above the navel. The umbilical band creates local compression of the umbilical region and is used for the prevention and conservative treatment of umbilical hernias in children under 6 years of age, and also contributes to the correct closure of the umbilical canal in infants. It is made of hypoallergenic, breathable materials and has a universal size.

Adult umbilical hernia brace
The umbilical cord for adults is a wide (approximately 20 cm) elastic belt with stiffening ribs, a soft pad, ties and Velcro fastener. It is used to prevent umbilical hernia during intense physical exertion, to prevent infringement of umbilical, peri-umbilical, incisional hernias and hernias of the white line of the abdomen, as well as after operations on the abdominal wall to prevent recurrent hernias. Made from hypoallergenic materials that create good air exchange.

Hernia groin bandage for men
The groin bandage for men is an elastic belt with shoulder straps, pockets for pilots and Velcro fasteners. It is used for the prevention of inguinal hernias and the prevention of hernia infringement during intense physical labor. It can be used for both right and left hernia. The groin bandage is made from natural, elastic materials with a high cotton content. It should be remembered that the inguinal band is contraindicated for irreducible hernias.

Bandage for lowering the pelvic organs in women
Such a bandage is produced in the form of panties with ties made of elastic tape and a semi-rigid pad made of polyurethane foam. It is used for the prolapse of the pelvic organs (uterus, cervix, vagina), as well as for the conservative treatment of reducible inguinal hernias. Ties and pelot create the required level of intra-abdominal pressure, thereby limiting the displacement of internal organs and reducing pain.

The postoperative chest bandage is an elastic belt with Velcro fastener, which is fixed at the level of the chest. Available in male and female versions, taking into account the anatomical features. It is used to fix the chest after injuries and operations, as well as for myalgia, myositis and intercostal neuralgia. The postoperative chest bandage reduces pain in the injured area, promotes healing of postoperative wounds and prevents the formation of postoperative hernias.

Abdominal (lumbar) postoperative bandage
The postoperative lumbar brace is a wide (3 or 4-panel) belt made of elastic medical fabric, equipped with a Velcro fastener. It is used to fix the abdominal wall with hernias of the white line of the abdomen, after injuries and operations on the abdominal organs, incl. with a cesarean section. The abdominal postoperative bandage protects the abdominal wall from overstrain, promotes the formation of a postoperative scar, and prevents the development of postoperative hernias of the anterior abdominal wall. In addition, the abdominal brace is used for cosmetic purposes to tighten the abdomen and create an attractive silhouette.

Prenatal and postpartum bandages are anatomically shaped elastic-elastic belt with fasteners. The combination maternity bandage can be used both during pregnancy and after childbirth. During the prenatal period, the bandage supports the abdomen, relieves the lumbar spine, prevents the formation of stretch marks, reduces the pressure of the uterus on the intestines, bladder and inferior vena cava, relieves back pain and creates all conditions for the correct development of the fetus. In the postpartum period, the bandage significantly accelerates the process of contraction of the uterus and restoration of the abdominal muscles, and provides a slimming cosmetic effect.

The semi-rigid pelvic bandage is a narrow elastic, reinforced belt with removable groin straps. It is used for pelvic bone separation, instability and discrepancy between the two pubic bones in late pregnancy and after injury, as well as dysfunction of the sacroiliac joint and pain in the lower back. A pelvic band helps relieve pain and supports the joints of the pelvic ring.