“How to take love out of your heart? It may be very useful for someone"

In life, sometimes we have to deal with unrequited love, with love for a person who does not deserve it or with whom we cannot have a relationship for very specific reasons. This makes the question relevant: how to forget it?

A good place to start is to ask yourself: Do I really want to forget him? Is this my final decision? If not, the question disappears. If you have made an irrevocable decision to rid yourself of this addiction, then you have to work hard. Is it a joke to kill such a wonderful feeling, which many have elevated to the rank of spiritual, superhuman and unique, something that is not given to everyone, that subjugates many to its will for many years?

Despite the difficulties that arise for any person faced with the need to “forget,” this can be done. Let's discuss ways that will help you stop loving and find peace of mind.

…. Working with the cause.
There is a possibility that the person, by his presence next to you, performed an important function, helped satisfy some urgent need, and therefore was chosen by you. Perhaps this is the need for attention, for the security that he could provide, for sharing responsibility in your life, for justifying his behavior or style of thinking (if he was “the only one” who understood you in some way) - there are a lot of options.

Think about it, could this happen? If yes, then you should listen to yourself and find other ways to satisfy the same need. For example, you can look for love and understanding from friends, make new acquaintances if the circle of current friends is limited and cannot give what you need now. In general, try to communicate with people as much as possible during this period of your life, and not withdraw into yourself. After all, the needs associated with people can only be satisfied with the help of people.

…. Changing your thinking.
According to the theory of cognitive behavioral psychotherapy, the emotions experienced by a person are based on incorrect thinking that is inadequate to reality. Hence the conclusion: in order to change feelings and emotions, you need to change the style of thinking itself, work with unproductive thoughts that arise - replace them with more realistic ones.

For example, thoughts about obligation (“I must love/be loved!”, “I must have a partner!”) must be replaced with thoughts about preference (“I would like to have a partner, but I don’t have to”, “It would be nice to love/ to be loved”, etc.). This will reduce the severity of the emotion and bring it closer to one that will be adequate to the situation.

Often a person falls in love not with a real partner, but with his idealized image, so our main task is to bring this image closer to the real one. This can be done by finding serious shortcomings in a person, searching for his psychological problems. Your task is to de-romanticize the image of your loved one.

Is he so beautiful? Every person has flaws, that's how we are made. Try to find as many of these shortcomings as possible and concentrate on them when thoughts about him enter your head. Some psychologists suggest de-romanticizing the image of a person by imagining him in ridiculous situations: for example, defecating, or wearing a clown hat and family panties in front of an audience, or with female makeup on a serious face.

Mentally speaking out the reasons for the impossibility of being together also helps to cope with love. Imagine what would really happen to you if you got married: exaggerate in the area where you encounter unpleasant moments (infidelity, coming home late, habits that are unpleasant for you, etc.).

Some people believe that in order to stop loving a person, you need to forget him and everything connected with him. In this article I present a different position - don’t forget! This is a part of your life, your invaluable experience, which is not so easy to forget, and it is not necessary. What should we do with it? Work through, re-evaluate, take a fresh look at this difficult, but such an important experience. Any experience can be useful to one degree or another.

At the same time, after you have been able to work through this experience, try to think about it less often. As soon as you feel that the thought of this person is creeping up again, nip it in the bud! Immediately change the topic of your internal monologue, do something that requires a good concentration of your attention so that you cannot be distracted by thoughts about it.

The end result of your internal work should be the following: it is necessary, despite all his shortcomings, to forgive and mentally let go of this person. This set point will end an important period of your life, and you will be able to start a new one - a stage without this person. It is the feeling of internal incompleteness that haunts us and brings back in our memory the painful experience of communicating with the object of love.

….Changes in behavior and external environment.
Internal work with thoughts should be supported by external work - changing behavior and creating favorable external conditions for saying goodbye to love. Remove or throw away his things, stop looking for things that remind you of him and his life. Stop looking for meetings with him, try to completely eliminate any contact if possible. No wonder the famous proverb says: “Out of sight, out of mind!”

Sports and other active activities (dancing, martial arts, etc.) will help you get rid of accumulated negative emotions, aggression and simply prevent your tone from falling, which means that to some extent they will protect you from possible depression. Maintain your mood level. Don't let yourself lose heart, think positive, listen to pleasant and rhythmic music, have fun and go to various events with friends.

When a relationship breaks down, time and space in the heart are always freed up. They need to be occupied with other things, and certainly interesting ones: new or long-forgotten, but joy-bringing activities, interests, hobbies.

Popular wisdom again rushes to our aid: “They knock out a wedge with a wedge.” New relationships, new feelings are something that can irrevocably displace old hopes and pain. The main thing to remember is: you shouldn’t look for a person who looks like your ex-lover. This will create the risk of unnecessary memories of him or you will step on the same rake again - why do you need this?

Time is a good doctor. It will pass, and you will suddenly feel that you are now thinking less and less about this person, your feelings are slowly cooling down and bothering you less. Thank yourself for the work you were able to do. And put a bullet point with relief!

who, what. TEAR OUT FROM THE HEART who, what. Express Determined to forget someone or something. My daughter left me, left my house with her lover, and I tore her out of my heart, tore her out once and for all.(Dostoevsky. Humiliated and insulted).

Phraseological dictionary of the Russian literary language. - M.: Astrel, AST. A. I. Fedorov. 2008.

See what “Tear from the heart” is in other dictionaries:

Rip from the heart- HEART E 1 [rts], a, pl. dtsa, dets, dtsam, cf. Ozhegov's explanatory dictionary. S.I. Ozhegov, N.Yu. Shvedova. 1949 1992 … Ozhegov's Explanatory Dictionary

take it out of your heart- who what? Decide to forget forever, stop thinking about whom, what... Dictionary of many expressions

Rip from the heart- try to forget your loved one. FSVChE... Psychology terms

tear someone out of your heart- You / tear someone or something out of the heart (soul). Force yourself to forget... Dictionary of many expressions

Tear/rip out of the heart- who, what. Razg. Forcing yourself to forget about whom or what. FSRY, 96; ZS 1996, 303; BTS, 180... Large dictionary of Russian sayings

tear it out of your soul- throw out of the heart, throw out of the heart, throw out of the memory, tear out of the head, throw out of the memory, consign to oblivion, throw out of the head, erase from the memory, tear out of the heart, forget, force yourself to forget, bury, forget, throw out of... Synonym dictionary

snatch- I tear, tear; St. see also pull out, break out, tearing out what 1) With a sharp movement, jerk, remove, remove from l. or take, take away from someone. You / pull out a tooth. You/ra... Dictionary of many expressions

snatch- 1. rip, tear, tear; St. What. 1. With a sharp movement, jerk it out, remove it from where. or take, take away from someone. V. tooth. V. tuft of hair. B. page from a notebook. V. from the hands of the bag. V. your hand from whose l. palms. V. from the throat (colloquial;… … encyclopedic Dictionary

throw it out of your heart- throw out of the heart, bury, throw out of the soul, tear out of memory, force yourself to forget, consign to oblivion, erase from memory, throw out of your head, tear out of the soul, throw out of the soul, tear out of the heart, forget, throw out of your head, throw out of … … Synonym dictionary

Who, what. TEAR someone or something FROM THE HEART. Express Decisively forgetting someone or something. My daughter left me, left my house with her lover, and I tore her out of my heart, tore her out once and for all (Dostoevsky. Humiliated and Insulted) ... Phraseological Dictionary of the Russian Literary Language

Books

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Many agonizing minutes of waiting, many hopes melting away with each new day - probably hundreds of thousands of abandoned women were once able to endure all this. Unfortunately, this is the way this imperfect world works, which means that women, as a rule, leave men much less often than men themselves do.

And, probably, the incredibly painful question of how to forget a once dearly loved person may sooner or later arise before almost all representatives of the beautiful female sex. Let us note that some of the women have even learned to easily and with dignity cope with the pain or melancholy that may accompany separation. Or maybe someone has already been helped in this matter by practical advice from psychologists or experienced friends... who knows.

And yet, the majority of abandoned young ladies, from their inescapable grief, can often fall into some extremes and even begin to commit absolutely unreasonable in all respects, and sometimes even more than inadequate actions or actions. Moreover, the results of such actions, as a rule, are directly opposite to all expectations. So how can you avoid all this? How can you quickly and painlessly forget a loved one? In this publication, we will try to select for you, dear young ladies, the best advice from psychologists who have already been able to help many women survive their loss with dignity, and to do this as quickly and easily as possible.

Learning to forget a loved one

Without a doubt, parting with a dearly loved person is always a shock, which can be a very serious test and even trauma for your psyche. Many are convinced that a woman abandoned by her loved one is in some way perhaps even a victim who has fallen into the dangerous trap of separation from an incredibly dear and close person to her.

This is a victim who, in principle, does not know how she can ultimately get out of such a dangerous trap. And, as a rule, any movements can cause unbearably severe pain to the victim, but remaining in such a trap for a longer period of time is practically death-like. So what to do, you ask? How can you change the current situation for something better and what needs to be done in order to be able to completely forget your loved one and dear one, the one who was previously dearer and more valuable than life?

To begin with, let's try to look at the situation of breaking up with a man as a certain fact that has already taken place and definitely cannot be refuted. And then we will remember that a woman is, first of all, a person, and a strong person, for whom such tests can be just another step towards greater self-improvement. Well, of course, few people would want such a climb to the next step to be so difficult. But fate has its own rules and laws. Of course, you can’t argue with fate... Actually, that’s why we have only one thing left - to try to climb up that very step with the least worry for ourselves and minimal losses.

How can this be done? Well, in general, of course, this process of falls and rises is strictly individual. Nevertheless, truly enormous collective experience, as well as numerous advice from ladies who were once separated from their beloved men, gives psychologists an excellent opportunity to create a strictly defined scheme for behavior. A scheme that could most fully answer questions about how it is possible to forget your loved one quickly and most painlessly for yourself.

So, what will you need to do to achieve the result?

1. Well, firstly, when breaking up, in no case should you be too persistent and active in trying to find out how, where and with whom your ex-beloved man lives after the breakup. You can ask any psychologist who will answer you that, in addition to the fact that such information only brings terrible pain to you, such actions can ultimately provoke you into extremely rash and reckless actions.

   Such actions for which in a short period of time you will definitely feel incredibly ashamed. And moreover, if after parting the person you love might still have any doubts regarding the correctness of the action or simply in relation to the woman he once left, such actions can dispel such doubts completely and irrevocably.

   Actually, that’s why, if you are rushing around, not knowing how to forget your beloved man, you should try to remember, and once and for all, after a breakup you should stay as far away from such a man as possible. And even in that dangerous case, if you are still, as before, unable to forget your loved one, it is absolutely forbidden to constantly catch the eye of this man - this is the law, since this can only cause more irritation and negative desires!

   However, if you immediately decide to take such drastic measures (out of sight, out of heart) you simply don’t have enough of your own mental strength, or you desperately want your loved one to at least just call and hear his voice, then, of course, dial his number phone is definitely possible. According to psychologists, completely unfulfilled desires of this kind may even provoke the further development of the deepest depression, and this, as you understand, will definitely not contribute to the restoration of your psyche after the stress you have suffered. Actually, that’s why if it’s impossible to endure, we take it and call, but at the same time we try, or rather, we talk without hysterics, as if in a friendly, casual way interested in his daily affairs, perhaps his health or work.

   After all, in the end, this man was once close to you, and that means you may well wonder how he lives now. Note that in general, for most abandoned women, such calls can help them calm down faster. Moreover, such calls will fully correspond to the correct pattern, allowing you to forget your former loved one forever. Let us note that thanks to such calls, gradually a man from the category of beloved ones may well move into a certain category called friends. Moreover, after such calls, over time, a man may completely disappear from your life, simply remaining a pleasant (or not so pleasant) memory.

2. And secondly, it is definitely impossible to remain alone for a long time only with your own grief, like a kitten, huddling in the darkest corner and getting as far away from everyone as possible. Of course, you shouldn’t torture yourself in this way with memories with detailed digging into every minute that was once spent with the person you once loved.

   Thus, you can begin to invent the most incredible reasons for the departure of your loved one, perhaps begin to delve into yourself, rewarding yourself with complexes, and at the same time portraying a home-grown inadequate psychologist... But wouldn’t it be better, instead of everything described, to try to walk as much as possible, or to be in public.

   You know, simple communication can sometimes kill a person. However, if at a particular period of time you do not have a suitable company with which you feel relatively tolerable, then you can, in the simplest way, take a walk, say, along the streets of the city or somewhere in a beautiful, pleasant park.

3. Well, thirdly, you cannot constantly hide your own emotions or constantly hold back crying, and in no real cases. And yet, with all this, we, of course, are not in favor of you talking about your problem to every person you meet. You can simply go closer to your mother or close friend and simply cry with her to your heart’s content, as they say, until you stutter.

   As a conclusion, we note that the main answer to questions like how to be able to survive a breakup is this: be sure to communicate during a difficult period with people close to you. Otherwise, you will simply be guaranteed to develop severe psychosis. You should also definitely not try to withdraw into yourself and thereby continue to cultivate your own pain - believe me, it can grow to gigantic, useless proportions.

   And even if there are no people near you to whom you could cry into your vest, you should actively seek new communication - it is communication that will help you drive away overly depressing thoughts and, most importantly, will help stabilize outbursts of negative emotions.

Some girls, having once lost their loved one and, in principle, not knowing and not at all thoroughly understanding how to be able to forget past feelings, try to banally drown their grief in alcohol.

Some try to get away from trouble by constantly having sex with new and completely unfamiliar partners. Of course, doing both the first and second is not only illogical and impractical, but also extremely dangerous and harmful to health, and sometimes life.

Alcohol assistance usually only aggravates the problems, and the same promiscuous sexual intercourse at any time can provoke an incredible variety of additional, even more unpleasant problems.

Well, besides, the emerging reputation of a complete alcoholic or a dissolute, unscrupulous person will in no way ever be able to definitely contribute to the fact that the once former lover decides to someday regret his breakup with you.

Forgetting the man you love... what's the best way to do it?

In order to fully understand and understand how to forget your ex-beloved man forever, you need to try to accept the truth that all psychologists repeat with each other. Namely, to realize the fact that you will have to remove from your own future life everything that binds you, even with banal memories. And therefore, it is very desirable to liquidate as soon as possible absolutely all items that may have at least some relation to the previously beloved man.

He will have to throw away or give to someone from distant acquaintances all the things that belonged to him, all the gifts given to him, etc. Are you sorry? Without doubt! However, remember your mental health undoubtedly costs more. Understand that as soon as all material reminders of this person disappear from your environment, all sorts of anchors that we threw independently and kept us near him will immediately disappear completely. And then your ship of fate will again have an excellent opportunity for complete and undivided freedom.

Without a doubt, your boat will not be able to fully take advantage of this freedom right away. Only after your initial shock from painful separation has completely passed will the next period come. And this will be a period of complete prostration, a kind of unpleasant depressive, but less painful state, when you remember your misfortune, but do not perceive it as acutely as it was before, the problem is felt as if from afar. You may ask, how can one cope with a complete separation from a previously beloved man during this no less difficult period of time?

Let's explain now.

This is definitely a rather difficult time psychologically, a time when emotions were gradually able to subside, but your thoughts are still spinning around the past misfortune, constantly preventing you from doing anything seriously. Of course, a woman needs to get away from such a state, making every effort to do so.

You should be distracted in the company of close friends or colleagues, attend various corporate events, go to theaters or exhibitions - in general, do anything, as long as all these entertainments help to dispel dangerous sad thoughts about past relationships.

Moreover, all this “whatever your heart desires” must of course be at least a little interesting to you, otherwise the desired effect will not come out. It is also desirable that your companies and numerous places you visit are unfamiliar or completely new, first of all, nothing, and in no way reminding you of your once lost love.

Modern psychologists have an excellent technique that helps a woman incredibly quickly understand how to forget once and for all a previously loved one. To do this, you should create a special “Book of Happiness” - it can be an ordinary notebook or, say, a notepad, where literally each of the pages will be dedicated to a strictly specific day of the week.

Directly in the headings on each of these pages you should write a large authoritative phrase “My incredible happiness on this (today) day of the week,” and then, every day, say in the evenings, calmly rewrite into these pages everything that gave you even the slightest, even minor joy. Moreover, any little things from the past day that are at least slightly pleasant to you will do.

Let’s say it could well be some funny dog ​​on the street that sniffed you, or a beautiful handbag looking at you from the window of your favorite store, perhaps the smile of a passerby, bright blooming flowers, etc. And believe me, only after you have written a couple of dozen pages with such little “happiness” will your grief-weary psyche begin to fully focus exclusively on the most joyful events in life, and then the trouble will recede completely.

How to erase your beloved man from your memory forever

At the very time when your grief from a sudden separation from a dear and beloved person has gradually ceased to tear you apart, but your soul still groans little by little and occasionally, the time for creation has finally come. Yes, yes, you are not mistaken specifically for creation, since such stress, as a rule, allows us to free up a little of our inner potential, and that potential, the power of which we ourselves may not have previously even thought about and literally had no idea about. Actually, this is precisely where the undoubted benefit of painful and unpleasant situations lies, and to some extent, this can even be considered our luck.

You may ask, what will such creation be expressed in? Believe literally anything! You can radically change your own image or change the interior of your apartment, perhaps study a long-loved foreign language or simply go shopping. During this period of life, someone will write a book, someone will learn to knit or cross-stitch beautifully, and someone will begin to draw, grow exotic plants... and much more.

It can be incredibly useful at this time to have some kind of pleasant pet in your home, of course, if you don’t already have one, and as a result, get carried away with the full care of this animal. Well, in a word, you will need to start creating your own life anew, and do it all in such a way that literally every small change in life brings maximum pleasure.

In such actions, in general, lies the basis for a full understanding of how to truly forget forever a previously loved and still quite dear (close) person.

It is extremely important in such a crucial period of life to pay special attention to your own state of appearance. After all, your ex-beloved man is not the only person on earth, and you are finally free. And this largely means that the perfect time is finally coming to try to find another prince charming. We try to update, to the best of our ability, our wardrobe, we make sure to do a completely new hairstyle and literally every day we try to smile at our much prettier reflection, which you will see in the mirror. We always smile, completely, despite possible troubles.

We do not react to possibly bad weather, or, of course, to a bad mood. Remember, a smile, even if you reluctantly put it on your face, sooner or later will 100% be able to act as the most effective antidepressant, which means that completely new strength will appear for the right actions. Believe me, life will begin to boil over and will again be able to sparkle with all its colors, as a result of which the former despondency will simply have absolutely no real place left in your life. As a result, we will finally understand that no parting with loved ones can be the end of your life. Rather, this is all just the beginning. Moreover, the beginning of a new, incredibly happy stage in life.

How to behave in anticipation of a completely new happiness

Finally, we were able to tell you in detail, dear ladies, about how it is possible to forget a once beloved and dear man if the latter suddenly decided to disappear from your life. Without a doubt, such psychological techniques cannot be considered a kind of panacea - remember that each of us is always strictly individual and, therefore, can endure our grief in our own way. However, as a rule, these techniques still work successfully, saving us from problems.

In general, the main task of a woman who finds herself in such a situation can only be to be able to promptly change her own attitude towards the current unpleasant situation. But just to get creative and find out how to do all this even faster, you can seek advice from those young ladies who have been able to successfully experience something similar for a long time. Believe me, even sincere sympathy and understanding of such people can be a significant help in such a difficult moment for a woman.

Although it should be noted that an unpleasant separation from a beloved man is not in all cases as big a disaster for a woman as it seems from the outside. It is likely that the beloved man was not 100% ideal, as it once seemed.

This means that, having lost such a man, we will have a unique opportunity to subsequently meet the most truly great family happiness. Well, besides, as already mentioned earlier, it is precisely such an unreasonable separation that often becomes the start to the most serious achievements, since it encourages a woman to conquer ever new incredible heights.

And you must admit, who can know - perhaps in a short period of time we will only feel immense gratitude to an already ex-and deeply forgotten lover just because one day this person left so suddenly and unreasonably, leaving you alone with the problem.

One way or another, but after parting, even with a dearly beloved man, a woman should live, and live happily. After all, our life, given by nature, is so multifaceted and completely unpredictable that happiness can overtake you quite quickly! At the same time, happiness is completely new, reliable, with which you can go through your whole life.

Such happiness can await you literally around every turn! Moreover, now, when you young lady already know perfectly well how to get rid of the memory of a once-beloved man, you will become completely free and will be able to surrender to new happiness entirely and completely, completely without looking back.

Is there a conspiracy to forget a person?

There is not a single person who has not been touched by unhappy love at least once in his life, because everyone knows firsthand how breakups go. Many endure this easily and painlessly, while others suffer for years, not understanding why life did this to them. When all traditional methods are exhausted, one has to resort to heavy artillery. Particularly popular is the conspiracy to forget a person. Its effectiveness amazes even non-believers.

A spell to forget a loved one

Believe in yourself and life will believe in you. Magic exists, and it can correct the most difficult situation. Does the conspiracy to forget really exist or not?

What are conspiracies against former partners?

In order to forget someone who abandoned you, time alone is not always enough. Deep resentment, a strong blow, unrequited love - all this can “live” in a person for a long time. A conspiracy to forget anyone will help alleviate suffering, thanks to which you can forget anyone, for example, a son may not remember his mother.

The power of a conspiracy is in words that have a miraculous effect on life. Thanks to words, you can forever get rid of someone who seems to be stuck in your heart forever: a husband, boyfriend, wife, just a loved one. Not everyone can endure a difficult breakup, because the grievances left by a former lover do not go away with a blow of the wind.

Conspiracies can come in various forms. All that is required from you is a strong desire and desire to free your heart after separation. If you are really ready to enter into a new life and start with a clean slate, then get ready for the fact that you only have to wait a little longer. A conspiracy to forget someone you truly love must be uttered by a person with pure intentions and thoughts. Try to let go of grievances for a while, and then they will let you go forever.

Conspiracies to free the heart from a former lover

When turning to magic for help, you must be prepared for the fact that the result may appear in a few days, or even after several rituals. There are many different options.

Each conspiracy is different in that it can help any person who has been offended. No matter how strong your past love is, magic will help you get rid of its destructive power.

Spells and rituals from a Siberian healer

In the world of magic and miracles, conspiracies and rituals from Stepanova, who has enviable skill in love affairs, are considered famous.

Spells to forget unpleasant moments from the past

You need to read it on the waning moon to forget. It is suitable for any life incident after which you have unpleasant feelings: “Almighty powers, help me forget all past hurtful grievances, the worst evil and angry anger. Even though it’s very difficult for me, I believe that everything is possible.”

Forgetting someone who died: the best remedy. It is not always only separations that are difficult for a person to bear; very often people cannot come to terms with the death of their loved ones. We offer you a way that will ease the pain of your loved one and help you move on with your life. It is enough to say these words three nights in a row:

“Clear star, dear star, take my sorrows to distant places. Free me from severe anxiety and worry. Even though (name) abandoned me, life goes on, and from now on I am calm. Bless and save. Amen!".

You can forget the woman who hurt you, or the mother who abandoned you, the ungrateful daughter, using the following method:

• It is enough to write the name of the offender and then set fire to the paper in the plate;
• While the flame is burning, say: “I don’t want to see and hear you, (name). I refuse to remember, I agree to stop loving. I burn out everything of the past with fire, I drive you away. From now on I respect myself more. Amen";
• Scatter the remaining ashes in the air.

As you can see, in order to recover after a breakup, it is not enough to wait for a miracle to happen - you need to act yourself. No matter how much pain a man or woman causes you, remember that you can handle it. Love yourself, and then you can stop loving any scoundrel.

A conspiracy to forget love and cool feelings

Love is an important component of the life of any person. We strive to get it in family, friends, pets and so dream of finding a soul mate. But in addition to happiness, it also gives pain and disappointment. After a breakup, echoes of all those feelings and a strong burden often remain. It is no longer possible to make peace and get back together. Then the person suffers, tries in every way to get out of this abyss of despair and forget about love. To help you move forward without wasting time on depression, to help you meet a new guy or girl with an open heart, a magic spell and prayer to forget a person will help.

Conspiracies to forget former love

To stop loving someone forever, you need to do the following:

• Find lemon balm and pick off its leaves. Keep one half of which for yourself, and take the other half to a clean reservoir.
• If possible, find out if there is an unusual source nearby. For example, about which they would say that it has healing properties or some kind of unusual story. If this is not the case, then clean drinking water will do.
• You should be alone near the water. Feel the whole situation, your inner mood and all the emotions, you need to think about your beloved man. Imagine that the petals absorb all this and throw them into the water.
• Stay by the pond until you feel changes inside, how you feel better. Then scoop up water with your palm and sprinkle it on the left, where the heart is, as if cleansing it. Then fill a bottle or other container and take it home.
• Fill a glass with water taken from the source where you were, add the other half of lemon balm into it, and leave it near your bed for three days. Then, before and after sleep, wash the heart area with this water, remembering the feelings of cleansing and relief that you previously experienced. Then you should take a sip.
• After the end of three days, you must pour the remaining water into the source where you collected it. At the same time, visualize that these are the remnants of your feelings.

If the ritual does not help, does not cleanse the soul completely, repeat it seven days later. Indeed, in occultism, lemon balm means enlightenment and purification, and among the people it is also called heartfelt joy.

There is another small ritual.

In magic, poppy is used to create amulets; it absorbs energy well. Therefore, it will come in handy here:

• During the waning moon, pour two handfuls of poppy seeds into a bowl and then fill it with hot water.
• At this time, say to yourself that boiling water represents feelings for a man, you need to think about him and say that as the water cools, so do your feelings.
• Then place the plate near an open window and wait until the water and contents cool down.
• Then everything from the plate should be poured under a street tree, preferably near an intersection. Then repeat to yourself five times that your burning feelings have cooled down, that you have walked many roads, yearning for love, and then an Angel descended from heaven and extinguished your feelings, broken into poppy grains. Everything turned to dust and flew far away. Now you don’t know troubles and sorrow, there is no love, no melancholy, no memories.

How to forget the person you love?

To forget and not think about the man or guy who broke your heart, you can also use psychological techniques:

• Your relationship is over - it's a fait accompli. Don't try to always return in your mind to the guy you loved. This will only keep you stuck in a traumatic situation.
• Don't remind yourself. There is a good phrase that when leaving a person should close all doors behind him. After all, even such little things are an attempt to return everything. A broken vase can be glued back together, but it still won’t be whole. It’s so easy to start daydreaming again after seeing his new photos.
• Life didn't end there. It's time for you to move forward, where you will take into account all the mistakes and take into account the invaluable experience. Look around, maybe an acquaintance or friend is already ready to go on a date with you? Or is new love waiting for you somewhere nearby?

Using psychological techniques, do not forget that magic is a conversation with the universe through conspiracies, rituals and other magical actions. But the universe understands everything through its signs and the power of thought.

In the Tarot there is Major Arcana 13 Death. For you, such a card is scary, dark, oppressive. But for the world, death is the dying away of the old in order to create a new one on its ashes. By letting go of dead relationships from yourself, from your soul, you give a signal that you are ready to build new ones. If you cannot cope with this on your own, contact the powerful Universe with the help of special signals, with all your soul and strength of desire. Then she will come to your aid.

Prayer to forget a loved one

Prayer is a strong and reliable way for a person to ask God to forget sad episodes in life. When starting such a spiritual path, cleanse yourself of the sins that pollute your soul. Go to confession, take communion. Light a candle in good health for your family and friends, for yourself and even for your ex-lover. After all, such a gesture is forgiveness of the person who brought you offense by leaving, or for your painful separation. The Church always calls for forgiveness of your enemies, and even more so for the person you once loved.

It is worth noting that prayers to forget the pain of love and a loved one do not exist as such. But in Christianity there are Saints who are worth turning to even for such sensitive questions. After all, their life was full of different events, and they focused on a variety of things. For example, refer to the patron saints of lovers:

• Saints Peter and Fevronia - it is about them that we can say that they loved each other and died on the same day. They help lovers; a huge number of people who are in relationships come to visit their relics.
• Martyr Adrian and Natalya - his wife supported her husband until his martyrdom and death, and did not enter into new alliances after that.
• Matrona of Moscow - helps with all requests and any pleas. It is very revered and attracts crowds of pilgrims.
• Martyrs Gury, Samon and Aviv are the patrons of women; people turn to them when problems arise and strong discord with their husbands arises.

Why should you turn to the patrons of love and lovers if the problem is related to separation? Because you need to forgive and leave the past, thank you for all the good things that happened and ask to meet a new, worthy person. Lead you along this path and give you strength.

A conspiracy to forget a person

For the plot to be truly effective, use the time of sunrise. When all living things gain strength and begin their daily journey. Try to do this in nature, feel all its life-giving power and the magic of what is happening.

Say that in the morning after waking up you cleanse yourself and wash with water, dry yourself and leave the door. There you go through the field and come to a river where there is a board, and under it is your melancholy. That it oppresses you, takes away life and sadness floods the white light. Say that the water is sanctified by the Mother of God herself, it washes away the evil from you and cleanses your soul. Let it continue to wash the Servant of God (name) further than you. Let it carry away all the grievances with a strong stream and bury them at the bottom, so that no one else will find or miss it. Everything is locked with a castle and hidden in all corners of the world.

After this, you should bow to all four cardinal directions.

A conspiracy to fall out of love

Cooling down is good for falling out of love. This is a conspiracy that helps to forget a person and cool all previous feelings. It can also be used against rivals in relationships. But you still have to pay for this, because you are interfering with someone else’s life and destiny, and for this there is always retribution. Therefore, the best way out is to cool yourself and your feelings.

On the waning moon:

• two church candles, on one your name, on the other - your former lover;
• place holy water between them and light them with matches;
• now bring up from your memory the entire history of the relationship, all the bright and good moments, it will be difficult, but everything will be treated through an exacerbation;
• extinguish them in the water and say that you are grateful for all the joyful moments and for all the bitterness, that you are letting go and burning the past, and the water extinguishes your feelings. Amen.

Conspiracies to avoid thinking about a person

A powerful spell to get rid of thoughts about your ex and get rid of memories.

Take a photo of a person and place it upside down on a table or other flat surface. Place a glass of water next to it, and a piece of black bread on it. The conspiracy is spoken three times a day for a week. Every day you need to put out a fresh piece of bread, and give the previous one to the birds.

Then the conspiracy. Say that you will never mention your ex again with love, let him remain in his place, just as you forgot your first step, so you will forget him. Amen.

Let everything go well in your life, whether magic, prayer, a conspiracy to forget a person or something else will be an assistant, be happy - it’s all in your hands.

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A conspiracy to forget a loved one

How to get rid of longing for a loved one after a breakup? This question is asked by many who had to break up, but love remained and does not give rest for a minute. Even in ancient times, lovesickness and boredom were relieved with the help of spells, and it is very good that it was this magical spell that helped to forget a loved one on the same day. You shouldn’t torment yourself and torment your heart by tormenting it with memories of someone who no longer needs you, you don’t know how to forget your loved one and live a happy life, read one of the conspiracies below and believe that you will meet your true love, and the one you love soon forget, he might want to come back soon, but whether it’s worth giving him a second chance and waiting for another reason to break up is up to you to decide.

What conspiracies help you forget a loved one very quickly? Read and choose the one that is easier for you to do at home; this is the most complete selection of the most powerful conspiracies that will help you quickly forget the person you love.

A conspiracy to forget a loved one and get rid of melancholy

It’s impossible to forget a person three times at sunrise, for three days in a row before going to bed, read this powerful plot that will help you forget love and cool lovesickness. After reading the text from memory, cross yourself four times and bow to all four directions. The words of the conspiracy that will help you forget your loved one need to be read independently:

I get up early in the morning, wash my face with clean water,

I wipe myself off with a white towel, go out through the new gate,

I walk across an open field to a river.

That river is deep, and there is a wide board lying in it.

Under that board lies my longing,

She bites me like a snake, drinks my blood,

It doesn’t let me sleep at night, it sends demons, it torments my soul.

You, water-voditsa, are the sister of the Mother of God herself,

Assistant to the Lady herself,

Wash away the filthy melancholy from me, servant of God (name).

Take her with you, wash her with crystal streams,

Carry away with a stormy stream, pull into a dark pool,

Bury it at the very bottom so that no one can get it out of there.

Put melancholy on the castle, lock it on four sides,

Bury the key on the holy throne.

No one can get that key, and God’s servant (name) should not be sad.

Get rid of longing for a loved one who needs to be forgotten

As soon as you are overcome by longing for your loved one, quickly say the words of the spell six times and the longing will recede:

Serpent of the heart - come out, come out.

Thy will scatter to the wind.

The heart does not suffer, the soul does not grieve,

Do not burn with fire for the slave (name).

Crawl like a snake into your lair.

There you should be, there you should live,

And I, (my name), will never love a person (his name),

don't want, don't wait, don't know,

neither in thoughts, nor in heart, nor in hearing, nor in spirit.

The snake is the snake, but I have my own side.

A strong conspiracy to forget a person after breaking up

For this magical ritual you will need a photo of the person you want to forget. Turn it upside down and place it on the table that way. Then fill a glass with water, cover it with a piece of black bread and place it in front of the photo. The plot must be read for seven days in a row, three times. Change the bread every day (give the old one to the birds) and pour water out the window. The words of the conspiracy that you need to read in order to quickly and forever forget a person after breaking up:

Slave (name), stand as you stand. Bread, lie as you lie.

I will remember you not with love, but with cold blood.

How I, (my name), forgot how I took my first steps as a child,

Like my first tooth grew.

So from now on until forever I forget this man, slave (name).

How to forget a loved one, a plot for self-reading

For the ritual, you need to take some ice water, pre-chilled in the refrigerator. In the room where you are going to read a plot to help you forget your ex, with the doors closed and the curtains closed, place water in front of you and slowly, carefully pronouncing each word, pronounce this powerful plot twice on your own:

Mother-water, sister of the well.

Anyone who comes to you will drink cold water.

In the bathhouse they douse themselves with you, the dead wash themselves with you.

Oh, mother water, icy shores, cool down the servant of God (name),

So that she cools down towards God’s servant (name),

I didn’t feel sadness for him, I didn’t break my heart.

If she didn't like him, he would hate her.

She would have closed the doors from him, would not have allowed his feet on the threshold, would not have run to see him.

Mother well water, your icy shores, I bow to the ground.

Cool the heart of God's servant (name).

My word to the Lord rise, by deed on the heart of the servant of God (name) descend.

I close my conspiracy with three locks, I close my business with three keys.

Drink the spoken water, wash your face with it and sprinkle on the clothes you wear.

Conspiracy to forget a person

At dawn, wash your face with river water, which should be taken upstream. At the same time, read the words of the conspiracy:

Oh, you yellow sand, fast river,

Take away my longing for God's servant (name),

So that I don't grieve anymore,

And I was no longer sad

Not during the day in the sun,

Under a high bright star.

How she doesn't miss anyone,

Never grieves for anyone,

So that I don’t suffer either,

I quickly forgot the servant of God (name).

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In life, sometimes we have to deal with unrequited love, with love for a person who does not deserve it or with whom we cannot have a relationship for very specific reasons. This makes the question relevant: how to forget it?

A good place to start is to ask yourself: Do I really want to forget him? Is this my final decision? If not, the question disappears. If you have made an irrevocable decision to rid yourself of this addiction, then you have to work hard. Is it a joke to kill such a wonderful feeling, which many have elevated to the rank of spiritual, superhuman and unique, something that is not given to everyone, that subjugates many to its will for many years?

Despite the difficulties that arise for any person faced with the need to “forget,” this can be done. Let's discuss ways that will help you stop loving and find peace of mind.

Working with the cause.
There is a possibility that the person, by his presence next to you, performed an important function, helped satisfy some urgent need, and therefore was chosen by you. Perhaps this is the need for attention, for the security that he could provide, for sharing responsibility in your life, for justifying his behavior or style of thinking (if he was “the only one” who understood you in some way) - there are a lot of options.

Think about it, could this happen? If yes, then you should listen to yourself and find other ways to satisfy the same need. For example, you can look for love and understanding from friends, make new acquaintances if the circle of current friends is limited and cannot give what you need now. In general, try to communicate with people as much as possible during this period of your life, and not withdraw into yourself. After all, the needs associated with people can only be satisfied with the help of people.

Changing your thinking.
According to the theory of cognitive behavioral psychotherapy, the emotions experienced by a person are based on incorrect thinking that is inadequate to reality. Hence the conclusion: in order to change feelings and emotions, you need to change the style of thinking itself, work with unproductive thoughts that arise - replace them with more realistic ones.

For example, thoughts about obligation (“I must love/be loved!”, “I must have a partner!”) must be replaced with thoughts about preference (“I would like to have a partner, but I don’t have to”, “It would be nice to love/ to be loved”, etc.). This will reduce the severity of the emotion and bring it closer to one that will be adequate to the situation.

Often a person falls in love not with a real partner, but with his idealized image, so our main task is to bring this image closer to the real one. This can be done by finding serious shortcomings in a person, searching for his psychological problems. Your task is to de-romanticize the image of your loved one.

Is he so beautiful? Every person has flaws, that's how we are made. Try to find as many of these shortcomings as possible and concentrate on them when thoughts about him enter your head. Some psychologists suggest de-romanticizing the image of a person by imagining him in ridiculous situations: for example, defecating, or wearing a clown hat and family panties in front of an audience, or with female makeup on a serious face.

Mentally speaking out the reasons for the impossibility of being together also helps to cope with love. Imagine what would really happen to you if you got married: exaggerate in the area where you encounter unpleasant moments (infidelity, coming home late, habits that are unpleasant for you, etc.).

Some people believe that in order to stop loving a person, you need to forget him and everything connected with him. In this article I present a different position - don’t forget! This is a part of your life, your invaluable experience, which is not so easy to forget, and it is not necessary. What should we do with it? Work through, re-evaluate, take a fresh look at this difficult, but such an important experience. Any experience can be useful to one degree or another.

At the same time, after you have been able to work through this experience, try to think about it less often. As soon as you feel that the thought of this person is creeping up again, nip it in the bud! Immediately change the topic of your internal monologue, do something that requires a good concentration of your attention so that you cannot be distracted by thoughts about it.

The end result of your internal work should be the following: it is necessary, despite all his shortcomings, to forgive and mentally let go of this person. This set point will end an important period of your life, and you will be able to start a new one - a stage without this person. It is the feeling of internal incompleteness that haunts us and brings back in our memory the painful experience of communicating with the object of love.

Changes in behavior and external environment.
Internal work with thoughts should be supported by external work - changing behavior and creating favorable external conditions for saying goodbye to love. Remove or throw away his things, stop looking for things that remind you of him and his life. Stop looking for meetings with him, try to completely eliminate any contact if possible. No wonder the famous proverb says: “Out of sight, out of mind!”

Sports and other active activities (dancing, martial arts, etc.) will help you get rid of accumulated negative emotions, aggression and simply prevent your tone from falling, which means that to some extent they will protect you from possible depression. Maintain your mood level. Don't let yourself lose heart, think positive, listen to pleasant and rhythmic music, have fun and go to various events with friends.

When a relationship breaks down, time and space in the heart are always freed up. They need to be occupied with other things, and certainly interesting ones: new or long-forgotten, but joy-bringing activities, interests, hobbies.

Popular wisdom again rushes to our aid: “They knock out a wedge with a wedge.” New relationships, new feelings are something that can irrevocably displace old hopes and pain. The main thing to remember is: you shouldn’t look for a person who looks like your ex-lover. This will create the risk of unnecessary memories of him or you will step on the same rake again - why do you need this?

Time is a good doctor. It will pass, and you will suddenly feel that you are now thinking less and less about this person, your feelings are slowly cooling down and bothering you less. Thank yourself for the work you were able to do. And put a bullet point with relief!

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