A 55 year old chef right in the middle of a work shift. The attacker is Dmitry, a visitor from Ukraine, before the murder he worked in a restaurant for only two days on probation. According to the employees of the institution, Dmitry literally begged the management to take him to work: he did not have a dependent wife who was five months pregnant, he needed money.

The deceased did not work at Sport Point: he was a so-called cook for hire. Due to the increased workload due to the World Cup, the restaurant administration invited an employee from another institution - literally for one work shift. On a fateful day for himself, 55-year-old Sergei started work at 8 am and was supposed to be free at 8 pm. But instead, he died.

According to investigators, during the shift, the waiter Dmitry left to talk on the phone with his pregnant wife and was absent for about two hours. All this time, Sergei had to do double work, which, of course, he did not like. When Dmitry returned, the cook reprimanded him. Apparently, this was the cause of the conflict. At the time of the murder, the men were alone: ​​all the other employees of the restaurant were busy with work. As the investigation established, Dmitry literally beat Sergey with serving knives. Bleeding, the cook ran into the hall, then into the hall and fell dead. Eyewitnesses say that Dmitry was not himself, although outwardly he gave the impression of a rather calm person.

The Sport Point restaurant is located on the territory of the Novogorsk Olympic base in Khimki, and after the incident, some media outlets wrote that the Russian national football team trains there. However, the Ministry of Sports of Russia denied this information.

The Ministry of Sports reports that the information disseminated in the media about the commission of a crime on June 24 on the territory of the Novogorsk training center is not true. Moreover, there are no restaurants and other commercial structures on its square, the ministry said in a statement, writes Chempionat.

The Sport Point restaurant is located in the Novogorsk Olympic Village multifunctional complex. This is a completely different object, and the Russian football team has nothing to do with it.

- Well, he promised that we would always be together, and now ... - my friend Asya was offendedly rubbing tears on her cheeks with her fist. The love of her life publicly confessed his love to his ex-girlfriend and returned to her, despite all Ashina's efforts. Why did he do this?

There is an opinion that men and women are people from different planets and will never understand each other, but there is an opinion that in the end we all, regardless of gender, want the same thing. So where is the truth and how to understand why a man did this and not otherwise?

You just wait

Asya met her lover a long time ago, back in her merry student years, when she and her friend traveled all over Russia, taking part in journalism competitions and forums. At one of the forums in the distant city of N, she saw a short snob in a carelessly tied scarf, littering with barbs right and left. When the snob approached Asya, he, of course, also could not resist the impulse and did not joke about her diminutiveness, giving her the name "Thumbelina".

They continued to communicate on the Internet. The great distance between the cities made itself felt: everyone had a relationship, and the correspondence became rather friendly. But during rare meetings on business trips, they were inexorably drawn to each other. Maxim (that was the name of our hero) communicated well with Asya's friend - Tanya, who invited him to meet with friends New Year she has. Naturally, Asya was also invited.

It is unlikely that Asya's presence was a surprise for Maxim, but he arrived with his girlfriend Daria. The last fifteen minutes after the start of the celebration was completely forgotten and abandoned - Maxim was flirting with might and main with Asya, who was in seventh heaven with happiness. The next day, Dasha, realizing that there was no need for her presence, silently packed her things and went to the station. For two magical weeks, Maxim and Asya were a real couple in love. The girl did not look for a soul in her beloved. That's just to talk and designate their relationship, no one dared. Maxim soon went to native city. Asa had no face: she did not sleep and did not eat, she languished and worried in anticipation of every contact with her beloved. And the young man then appeared, then disappeared. She went to visit him several times, where Maxim introduced her as his girlfriend to all friends, acquaintances and even her mother. But then, after Asya's visits, he again began the policy of a telephone partisan.

Once Maxim did not get in touch for a month. Based on the entries in his LiveJournal, it was easy to understand that he was not sick and aliens did not abduct him: he leads an active lifestyle, participates in all events, but for some reason he does not find time for Asya. The girl cried into her pillow at night and went headlong to work. And at one fine moment she firmly decided and told us that she would be faithful only to him, like Conchita from the opera Juno and Avos. She rejected all the courtship of other gentlemen, and one fine day she still waited for his call. The light of her soul announced into the phone that he was going to her, his beloved Asya, and he would also have to speak at the same forum a couple of times, but this is not an end in itself, the main thing is that they will see each other! Upon Maxim's arrival, they constantly made love, he brought her coffee in bed for a week, carefully pushed back his chair in a cafe, had small talk with her friends, held her hand in the movies and kissed her tenderly at every traffic light. Asya was in love and happy. And only we - envious shrews-girlfriends - noticed some kind of catch in personal communication with a couple.

Maxim left, and Asya again could not find a place for herself, missing her beloved. Three days after his departure, she decisively dialed the number - the young man did not pick up the phone. Two days later, she discovered social network on the page of the aforementioned Dasha there is an inscription made by Maxim: "I love only Dasha!". Asya was sincerely perplexed and, rubbing her tears with her fist, asked us: "Why did he do that?" But everything is only because not only women, but also men are mercantile and prudent. Undoubtedly, Maxim liked Asya as a pleasant conversationalist and passionate lover, she was not unpleasant to him. Therefore, he allowed himself to exchange his affection and warmth for a comfortable stay in a foreign city, courtship, gifts and pleasant leisure. Only now he did not think that the one who looks at you like a puppy dog ​​might be hurt by a slight adultery. And to realize that somewhere in another city a person is waiting for you, ready for anything for you, is very pleasant. And it is unlikely that Asya was the only one on this list.

He doesn't want me!

Once, my overworked brain boiled over not from work at all. A man has come into my life. More precisely, he appeared for the third time.

Once upon a time, nothing in our relationship foreshadowed trouble, but he disappeared without explaining anything. I shed tears, asked everyone what was wrong with me, then - what was wrong with him. Not finding a clear answer, after a while I eventually calmed down. The second time he appeared in my life, or rather, on my phone, with an offer to go to the movies, when I, being on a wonderful date, was sitting on the seashore with a charming young man, enthusiastic and completely forgetting about my mister brain. He received a decisive refusal and again disappeared from my life. After another six months, he called, I answered the phone discouraged:

Hello ... - I mumbled in confusion.
- How much can I call you, at least you could hear one of your phones, - the gentleman scolded me. - Today is the premiere of the film, the same one, remember, they wanted to go back in the summer, get ready, I'll call in an hour.

We went to the cinema, during which I longed to take his hand all the time, then we walked and talked, enlightening each other about the changes in life. The next day we went to his friends, a week later - to relatives. No one asked the question "Why?", I calmed down a little from his courtship and thought: what difference does it make, why he returned so suddenly and now practically does not let me out of his arms. The main thing is that now is good. What happens next is no longer important!

On the New Year, which we celebrated together, my gentleman went over with alcohol. I guessed that what he told me then, on a sober head, I would not have pulled out of him even under terrible torture. It turned out that once he had a fight with his girlfriend and decided to have an affair with me on a wedge by wedge basis. But then she returned to him, which is why he disappeared so suddenly. Now she left him again, so he, being in the deepest depression, thought: who better to cope with his unstable psyche than me. That's why he dialed my number.

After the celebration of the New Year, a complete confusion began. He either appeared and did not leave me a single step, offering his friends to take care of gifts for our wedding, then he disappeared, then he returned with flowers and again went underground, in which they do not pick up phones. But what is most interesting: after he opened his soul to me, we completely lost sex. And to all my questions, he answered at length that he was tired at work, or he helped someone with the move, in general, there was always a good reason. This went on for several months, until he got the family status "Dating with ..." on the social network, and in this line there was by no means my last name. But the answer to my question: "What is it?" I was just amazed. My prince scratched his head, then brazenly looked up and said: "What's wrong?"

As soon as a man begins to evade a normal relationship (disappears, does not pick up the phone, avoids intimacy), no matter how he justifies himself, know that another woman is probably involved here. The most common syndrome is the answer "I was busy" to the question "Why didn't you call?". Think, we, too, are not loafers and are not busy just calling the boyfriends we like around the clock, but, despite any amount of work, we will always find a minute to call our beloved and inquire about his mood and well-being. As the saying goes, "when faced with a solution to a problem, we are looking for either opportunities or reasons."

Pity the time

My friend Tanya is a successful economist for a large company. She is beautiful and smart, purposeful and uninhibited, and by her twenty-seven years has already learned to see through men, while maintaining a slight shade of naivety in her behavior. But even an old woman can be a mess, and even Tatyana sometimes turned to us with a sacramental question: "Why did he do that?"

Once Tanya met a wonderful young man Andrei at a corporate party. They talked, joked a lot, and seemed to understand each other perfectly. The corporate party ended with a Sabantuum at the apartment of one of the colleagues, where Tanya and Andrey, having gone out on the balcony to smoke and forgetting about the company, stayed there together for the whole night. And in the morning he invited her on a date. It was time for a date, but Andrey did not call. The reasons turned out to be banal - Andrei reconciled with his girlfriend. They saw Tanya only a few days later. The young man behaved as if nothing had happened, as if there had not been that crazy night on the balcony with confessions, conversations and passionate kisses.

One day Andrei had an accident, and his car had to be taken to the service station. Tanya, as a motorist, knew how hard it was to be left without an iron horse, which is why she offered to give the young man a ride. You can always find a rich bar in Tanya's car, and that day was no exception. Andrei was upset and depressed, and she suggested that he "relieve stress." Having drunk a little, Andrey offered to drive around the city and chat. So Tanya found out that for six months he had been living with his girlfriend like a cat with a dog, that it exhausted him so much that he could neither work nor live normally.

Why are you with her? You don’t feel well with her, she doesn’t understand you, she saws on trifles, she doesn’t give you even a centimeter of free space, so why don’t you leave her? Tanya asked Andrey.
- You know, I once had a girlfriend, - Andrei began his explanation, - we lived with her for a year and a half, and then she, not to mention the reasons, left. I suffered for a long time, could not forget her and understand her behavior, and then I met another.

I was very afraid of losing her and decided to get married. Even sold his favorite sports car to make a good wedding. But we turned out to be from a different test, - Andrei recalled, twirling a half-empty glass in his hands, - there were no common interests, but for some reason I stayed with her. After a year and a half, we divorced. I was worried again for a long time, but then I met my current girlfriend. Again, we have been together for a year and a half, and we have terrible difficulties in relations, in fact, it is difficult to call this a relationship, for example, military operations.

Tan, - Andrei took the girl by the hand, - why do women live with me for a year and a half and leave? Can't you be with me longer? he asked, looking into her eyes faithfully.

Men, like women, have emotional trauma inflicted by previous partners. In this case, a terrible thought crept into the man’s head that no one could live with him for more than a year and a half. He did not even realize that he was simply choosing the wrong women. With this thought, he, firstly, programmed himself for failure after this period, and secondly, no matter how uncomfortable he was with a woman in a relationship, he stayed with her, because he wanted to prove to himself that he could be with him longer. And until he himself understands this, such a person will not be able to build normal harmonious relations.

Summary

When meeting men, pay attention to the little things: what he says about previous partners, how he behaves with other women, how he speaks about his mother. After all, it has long been known that the essence is made up of little things. And in the end, we all want the same thing - love and understanding, regardless of gender. So you can safely "try on" male behavior and ask questions, in what cases and under what circumstances do you behave in a similar way? And the answers to the riddles of male behavior will be found instantly.

Text: Julia Dorosh

And in fact, he didn’t go anywhere, but hid around the corner and waits for you to rush after him with a cry of “Darling, come back, why are you doing this to me?” Or don't even come back. Just “For what?!”, or maybe “Well, you are a beast, however!”. Almost no one is able to control himself when a relationship ends abruptly and without explanation. Even if we don't want to continue, we want to talk. Finally. We want to put an end to it, and here it’s not even an ellipsis, it’s just a torn off page with the final. And it will torment us for a long time. A very long time. That is why the sudden disappearance is a great tool for manipulation: you yourself will drive yourself into a frenzy, trying to understand what happened - and that’s it, you can be taken warm. And impose my will on you.

He is a coward

Cowardly men love to wear masks of a “real man” - a brutal, laconic macho who is alien to “female things”. By "female things" he means normal human interaction. Which includes conflicts, yes. Conflicts are absolutely normal, but a coward does not understand this precisely because he is afraid. If a coward considers himself an aesthete, he will sigh picturesquely, roll his eyes and say: “Oh, women's tears are beyond my strength!” If a coward imagines that he is a tough guy, then through his teeth he will throw a contemptuous: “I just didn’t have enough women’s tantrums!” In fact, he's just really scared. He is terribly afraid of conflicts, because he is generally afraid of relationships. He just doesn't know how to be in them. Physically present, emotionally, he sits in a mink, bites his nails and whispers: “No matter what happens, huh?”

He is infantile

Bunny boy. The little kid may be forty years old, but development stopped at the crisis of three years, so he still behaves like that. Have you ever seen how babies tear their hand out of their mother’s palm and, with their noses scowling severely, stomp where they suddenly want to go? Silently, of course, and without explaining anything. Because they don’t know how yet, and they can’t know how, and they shouldn’t - it’s still too early. Here are some comrades who are tightly stuck at this stage of development, and nothing can be done about it, unfortunately. One can only be glad that he is finally gone. Because if you still catch up with him and ask why the hell he did this, you will hear in response: “What's wrong?”

He is a cheat

An ugly type, from which none of us is immune, unfortunately. And it is almost impossible to prevent the situation, because the cheaters do not play. They just live like that and get incredible pleasure from it. If you rush to look for your disappeared sweetheart, you may well find that he is not a busy bachelor, but a happy husband and father of three kids, and his name, by the way, is completely different. And by the way, you'll get off easy if you do. Because cheaters rarely use their gift just for fun. Usually they pull money from gullible women at the same time.

He's just a goon

Some prefer to use the expression "energy vampire", but it smells too mystical. It seems to us that “ghoul” is a much more capacious word and perfectly reflects the nature of the moral sadist, which, in fact, the ghoul is. He knows that at any moment he can return. He knows he will see you tormented. And, leaving, he is already looking forward to this moment. Om-nom-nom, delicious. Try not to give him that pleasure, okay?

No, it's not about you

There is no really good and valid reason that could force a person to suddenly break off a relationship. Not just to disappear - there are a lot of reasons for this, unfortunately - but to break. And you have no reason to regret that he did just that. And there is no reason to engage in self-criticism and figure out what exactly you could do wrong. Because it's not about you. It's about him. And to hell with it.

For a year, the husband cheated on our reader while she was raising baby. While he was leaving, then returning, nervous system wife, as she writes herself, cracked.

How to survive the betrayal of a loved one and understand his motives - in this material.

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I want to tell you my story and understand how to live on.
My husband and I got married in February 2013, and our daughter was born in August. This is the second marriage for my husband, from the first he also has a daughter. We lived well, I don’t remember major quarrels, small ones were quickly forgotten, there were no financial problems: the general money was on the shelf, purchases were planned, repairs were made, there were no complaints.
Since the summer of 2016, my husband has opened his own business, and not in our city, but in Minsk. I was initially wary, I had to weigh a lot, calculate, think it over, he treated it easier - I’ll open it, and everything will work out there. At this point, I was already pregnant with my second planned child.

Financial difficulties began, plus, in search of orders, the husband spent a lot of time at work, that is, there was no permanent schedule, stability disappeared. In October, a son was born, the husband returned late from work, a misunderstanding began. I began to notice that he was chatting with someone on a laptop - I noticed a smile on his face. To my questions about what it is and who it is, he answered - at work.

Then the baby began to cry, I went to him - and so on until the morning. It was not possible to concentrate, fatigue accumulated from sleepless nights, resentment against her husband from the indifference that appeared in him even to the child, from misunderstanding.

My husband began to calmly leave for work, leaving us with an empty refrigerator and no money. If not for my mother, I don’t know how I would get out. To the question “maybe you have someone?” replied that it was just problems at work. I asked him to confess, I said that I would not throw tantrums, everything would just fall into place at once and there would be an explanation for his behavior.

Then it gets worse: in January 2017, the baby and I end up in the hospital, my husband came at the request, if something needed to be brought, and immediately tried to leave, no sympathy, no interest in me and the child. After discharge, there was tension in the house, I could not understand why. My husband became irritated, to some extent aggressive, I tried to restrain myself in front of the children, not to escalate the situation. Gradually, the husband began to return from work after 12 at night, it became a habit and was taken for granted.

I tried three times to file for divorce, but he stopped me. Once he asked to be patient: they say, he will soon figure everything out and there will be more time for his family. This never happened.

My nervous system was bent. No, I didn’t throw tantrums and scandals, in principle there was no time and no one to roll them up, everything came out through tears into the pillow, and those around me didn’t know about my situation. I understood that he was lying to me, but I was already so tired that I did not want to find out anything. And I thought it was below my dignity.
In autumn, my husband left for a month and a half on a business trip to the Russian Federation, taking money without warning ($100).
When he returned, I said that I had filed for divorce. But she didn't do that. There was only one reason for this - children (I always believed that they should grow up in a complete family). Perhaps I attached too much importance to this, I didn’t want the children to have complexes on this basis, they are just starting to live. The pain for them still does not let me go.
And on December 3, my husband appeared at home with a confession that he had been cheating on me for a year, while I raised the baby and did not forget about my eldest daughter. I met his confession calmly, even very much, it turned out that everything was happening nearby, in our city, that she was divorced, without children, 37 years old, he was 38 (I'm 34).

He cried, said that he wanted everything to be as before, that he could no longer see my tears, that he missed the children, he would do everything to regain my trust.

On the one hand, clarity came, which I lacked for a whole year, on the other hand, there was a wild pain from betrayal, I never thought that I would find myself in such a situation, probably no one thinks.

Resentment for everything that I had to endure, misunderstanding, how is it possible: how can you turn away from children, how can you lie like that ?! He calmed down. Tired of everything and thinking about the children, I immediately said, without taking time to think, that we would try to start from the beginning - just for the sake of the children.

On the same evening, he went to her, saying that he would put all the dots and break completely.
And the first week we lived the way I always wanted - interest in children, late arrivals, joint evenings, shopping, some plans for the future.

But then a week passed, and Monday came - the situation repeated itself. Again unanswered calls, again arrival at night. We quarreled, I again saw in the eyes of some impudence and mockery.

On New Year's Eve, he practically did not appear at home. On December 31, he met with us, but I caught his strange, thoughtful looks ... And on January 1, he said goodbye to us and left. Now we live separately, it is clear where. I filed for divorce. When asked why he didn’t say everything at once, why it was necessary to return to the family and tie children to himself, so that later he would leave them anyway, he answered that he was a fool, but he didn’t leave children and would see them.
To be honest, as soon as the door closed behind him, there was some kind of relief. Moreover, the daughter reacted to everything calmly. I did not tell her the whole truth due to her age (4 years), but I explained that dad would rarely appear.
I probably want to get an answer to my question from you: how could you behave like that, what motivated a person, what kind of values ​​does he have inside?
It turns out that before that there was a mask, that this "rotten" was sitting in it? If he has it true love, then usually this feeling ennobles people. It can not force to act so vile and vile.

Let me remind you, this lasted for a year! Or just a person is not ready for a family and family problems, unstable in the face of difficulties. His first marriage broke up for the same reason and after about the same period of time, but long before me (6 years before we met).