Having met online, people sometimes become not only good pen pals, but also a couple in love and even a family. But when you communicate for a long time not live, it is not easy to decide on such a step as to invite a girl to meet.

Girls are unpredictable - some like romantic courtship, bright signs of attention and a clear desire to win their hearts, others are attracted by the similarity of interests, simplicity and light humor in communication. But the most important thing that girls of any type of character will certainly appreciate is sincerity, that is, the complete absence of falsehood.

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If you are confident in the sincerity of your feelings, this is still not enough for a girl to believe in them. Even if she has a mutual sympathy for you, doubts will overcome her to the end (some girls change their minds about going on a date at the last minute). Therefore, for the first step - invitations - it is better to use the environment in which the girl feels comfortable - for example, invite her to meet through the VK network (rather than asking for her phone number to call).

If you have been communicating on VK for a long time, you probably have favorite topics for conversation or for exchanging links or pictures. Before you invite a girl to meet on VKontakte, think about how to do it beautifully or at least cutely to make her smile and disposition.

For example, if she was amused by your joke, you might say, "We seem to be having a good time, don't you think?" If the answer is yes, you can add: “Do you want to continue the evening in such and such a park / cafe / cinema?”. This will sound unobtrusive, but at the same time let her know that you are initiating a personal meeting.

Another way to beautifully invite a girl to meet in VK is to intrigue her with a gift: “I have a small present for you, can you tell me how to meet its recipient?”. The gift in this case should not be too valuable, so as not to scare away, but not a perfect trinket, so as not to cause disappointment. A box of her favorite candies, a small soft toy, or one beautifully packaged garden flower will do.

It should just be a nice token.

Examples of phrases suggesting to meet live

Young people are often unnecessarily nervous when thinking about how to invite a girl to meet in person. Many people think that there are some recipes or templates for the right phrases. In fact, there are none.

The main thing that a guy should be guided by is common sense.

Therefore, the words should not contain a bunch of epithets, cumbersome quotations and the like. The more natural the phrases sound to invite the girl to meet, the better.

Correct

If you're the kind of guy who finds it easier to remember a couple of common phrases than to rely on a hunch, first remember what not to say. Examples of incorrect phrases: “Let's date because:

• I never met girls like you in my life;
• you are my ideal, which I have been looking for all my life;
• Without you, my life has no meaning."

Even if all this is true, the girl most likely will not want to date a guy after such an emotional outpouring. Firstly, they are perceived as a bad game with a good mine, and secondly, who knows, it is better to keep him at a distance.

What are the correct phrases to invite a girl to meet? For example:

• “I really like you - it’s always so easy with you, it seems we have a lot in common”;
• “We are having a good time online, maybe we should see each other?”
• “don’t you find that we have long become a little more than just friends, at least I hope so and want to meet with you.”

Do not memorize these phrases, memorized sentences sound false, and the fear that you will forget them will make you indecisive, and this is not the best quality for a man. Just keep them in mind as an option.

If a girl has a positive attitude to jokes, you can do this

Original

If a girl is a lover of surprises, try to invite her to meet in an original way. Play on her curiosity - write that you will hide a gift for her in such and such a place in such and such a square or park. Wait for her arrival and when she finds your message and a present in the indicated place (we have already said what it could be), suddenly appear from the “ambush” (for example, from a nearby cafe). At least the first meeting has already taken place.

romantic

There are girls who expect to be asked to date in some romantic way. If your chosen one is one of those, send her a beautifully designed letter of invitation to a date with the signature "secret admirer" from your address. Of course, she will understand that it is you, but the humor with which this proposal will be made will surely be appreciated.

For her to agree

There are no recipes that guarantee the girl's consent to the meeting. In order for her to agree to meet, it doesn’t matter how you propose it, it’s important how she treats you. Therefore, you must be at least half sure, about the same as you to her - trusts you, misses you. All these signs can slip in the correspondence, it's hard not to notice them.

Do not overestimate yourself, arrogance is not the best friend of a young man in love.

You need to offer a girl a meeting when you are almost sure that she does not mind seeing you live: “I confess, I managed to become attached to you and dream of seeing you, do you mind meeting?”

In my own words

Huge opportunities are given by the choice of phrases from your own vocabulary and experience of communicating with a particular girl. You already know her preferences, you have some secrets or jokes known only to you, you have developed your own style of correspondence. Based on this knowledge, you can find the most correct, necessary, and most importantly, your own words that you only have to offer the girl, and she will agree to meet. For example: “Remember that kitten that almost got hit by a car (in a video like this)? My friends took him in, and you and I can visit him.”

Psychologists also allow this option: “When you get angry and say that you are ready to bite me, I dream of making you angry so that you come and bite me.” It may seem vulgar, but do not be afraid of any forward movement to dot the i's.

The main thing is that the words are spoken sincerely.

What are the best circumstances to do this?

Sometimes a phrase, said at the wrong time or at the wrong time, becomes a “point of no return” in a barely warm relationship. Therefore, choose the moment, how and when it is better to invite the girl to meet:

The best moment is in the wake of the usual correspondence, when the topic “great evening, right?” it is easy to translate into a field of pleasant communication with her. Then your proposal will be both relevant and possibly successful.

How to ask for a date

If you managed to invite a girl to meet, and it turned out beautifully, then you probably think that you have a first date, on which a lot will depend. But what if she came to the first meeting just out of curiosity, and not as your girlfriend? How to invite her on a date next time?

Obviously, a date should be a natural extension of the first meeting, as long as you're both comfortable. In this case, you can simply offer: “Let's go somewhere else?”.

If the girl made it clear that she was disappointed, or she initially had other plans, do not rush to despair and burn all bridges. Perhaps she hastened to conclusions, and you will still have a relationship, but later. Most importantly, do not rush and do not insist.

The first date should not be taken as passing the state exam - be yourself, talk about what you always talked about with her. There is no need to show that you are ready to jump for joy that she has come (even if you are ready). Rejoice quietly, be gallant, do not talk incessantly, but listen to what she says, perhaps she herself will give a hook for the conversation. If the girl is silent, take the initiative into your own hands - ask if she has watched such and such a film, if she likes such and such an actor, if she likes trips to the sea - and stuff like that. If you figure it out, you still don’t know each other much, so you can ask and talk about everything that does not go beyond the bounds of decency.

If you have absolutely no experience with girls, remember the main rule - you can’t behave with girls in the same cheeky way as with your friends. Even if you have developed a friendly relationship, do not turn the girl into a shirt-guy. A lot of people are frustrated by rudeness, but girls who love rudeness also exist. Therefore, it is impossible to give unambiguous and universal advice on how to communicate with a particular girl. Just try to learn more about her preferences long before the date.

Any relationship should not start with deceit.

On a date, you can talk about everything that is pleasant for both of you to hear - that is, about each other, so questions from “how was your day” to “saw your new photo, where are you?” appropriate. It is undesirable to ask about her parents - who they work for, about housing - what kind of apartment she has, and so on. You will find out this information later, and the first dates should be devoted to something more personal, concerning only the two of you.

There are situations when a girl does not seem to mind communicating with you, but does not let you get closer than all her other friends, tries to stop your attempts to get close to her. There are several explanations for this behavior - for example, she still does not trust you or. Or just keeps you in the so-called "friend zone" - the zone of friends, and nothing more. Such mismatches often happen in life, so do not be upset - there will definitely be a girl who will feel more affection for you than friendship.

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See what and how you can write to a girl in VK so that she will certainly answer:

Conclusion

1. Close communication with a girl on the network often encourages a guy to take such a step as to invite her to meet in person.
2. If during the correspondence you managed to arouse the girl's interest in your person, you can be sure that she will agree to a meeting.
3. You should not invent high-sounding phrases or look for patterns on how to properly propose to meet, this proposal should be as natural as possible.

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Do not say that you are madly in love and cannot live without your beauty. But if this is the case, you are very lucky: today you will learn how to propose a date to a girl.

Forget about stupid phrases and other failures, because do it without words!

Don't ask her out if...

In fact, it is not always necessary to approach a girl and tell her "let's meet." Even more, in 75% of cases it is simply not necessary. In order not to be mistaken and not to spoil the relationship with your lady, see if you belong to this category of men:

1. You realize that a girl doesn't like you

Doing crazy things for women is beautiful and sometimes effective, but not in your case. If a girl doesn’t pay attention to you at all, and she doesn’t get out of your head, forget about offering her a relationship. She will refuse you and it will only hit your ego.

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If you think that such an act as an offer will make her look at you differently, you are mistaken. First you need to go through all the preliminary stages of a relationship: making contact, dating, seducing - and only then can you make her your girlfriend.

1. On the first date

You met a girl and asked her out on a date. You communicate well and you understand that you would like a relationship with her. What are you doing? You say: “We are so good together. Will you be my girlfriend?” What does the girl feel at this time? She is just confused and confused - you are the guy she only recently noticed, who has not yet earned a big credit of trust and has not yet become loved. Naturally, she will be afraid of such a sharp pressure and you will not only not have a relationship with her, but there will also be no second date.

The reaction of the girl will be something like this:

1. You are already together

If your relationship started by itself: now you are already spending a lot of time together, kissing, trusting each other. Maybe you almost do not go for walks separately and cannot live without each other. But you didn’t invite her to meet - what to do? Nothing - you are already dating and your proposal after all this will seem to the girl at least strange or stupid.

Do you know what girls are waiting for in this case? Confessions! She already knows that you are together, but she does not yet know how serious it is. But your confession will put everything in its place - you are set for a serious relationship.

1. You are no longer 15

If you are already an adult guy who has experience in relationships and knows how to seduce girls, forget about the phrase "let's meet." This is the lot of schoolchildren, teenagers and some students who are not self-confident.

You can't do without an offer when..

There are situations when it is simply necessary to propose a meeting. And if you don’t say these cherished words to the girl, you simply risk losing her or constantly being in painful uncertainty:

1. There is no clarity in your relationship

So you seem to have close body contact and spend time together, and then she dumps you, goes to a club and freely flirts (or worse) with other guys. What's happening? It's just that your relationship has a very vague framework: you are not a guy with a girl, but you are not strangers either. In such a situation, everyone perceives this connection in a way that is convenient for him: you can think that you are in a relationship, but she simply will not take it seriously, thinking that this is another fling. If this happens - act and offer the girl a relationship. Express your desire to be with her, make her give a positive answer. Thus, she silently promises to be faithful and devoted to you.

1. love works wonders

If you have strong feelings for a girl and you want her to know about it, you can impress her with a beautiful proposal. If you see that she also likes you very much and you have already been on a date, act beautifully and in an original way. Even an adult guy can make such an offer, because his goal is not so much to establish a clear framework in your relationship, but rather to evoke the best emotions in your beloved, associate with you and make the day when you become a couple special for her. This is such a symbolic touch in the development of your story.

1. If you are teenagers

Finally, we come to the main thing - the proposal to meet is the most important and significant for teenagers. And if you are one of them, this article is for you. It is very important for girls of school age that you say the cherished “Will you be my girlfriend?”. Perhaps for your beloved (and for you too) this will be the first relationship. And of course, you still don’t know how to correctly understand each other’s gestures, you don’t know how to correctly capture energy messages, hints and other little things. Therefore, it is especially important to express your feelings with words and actions. And if she answers you “Yes”, know that she is in love and proud that she now has you.

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Soil preparation

You can propose to a girl only when you feel a connection between you, when both of you are comfortable alone with each other. If the girl continues to shun or ignore you, it's too early to act. The situation when you are getting closer and closer may happen by itself, but it may also require your deliberate actions.

when you see each other often

If you are in the same class or in the same group, then it is much easier for you to win her attention. But remember, before you propose to her, she must go on at least a couple of dates with you. In order to get close to a girl, you can try the following maneuvers:

1. Stand out with something good, such as a high rating, helping others, etc.
2. Ask her to work on a project with you. It can also be any other school assignment that will help you be around her.
3. Try to chat with the girl, ask her some questions about herself. Also use praise: notice that she did a very good job today with an essay, for example, and tell her about it.
4. Try to become her friend, but at the same time keep your distance so as not to get into the Friendzone.
5. Flirt with her - you can compliment her, look at her with interest, even straighten her hair.
6. If you are already close enough to communicate, you can casually touch her.
7. Take her out for ice cream.
8. If your walk was successful, you can try to sit next to her in class. (Better if she herself wants it).
9. Now you can walk with her more often, making attempts to hug her.
10. When you feel that she is ready - kiss her.
11. Now you can invite her to meet, because you have already become close and she is just waiting for your cherished words.

When there is no opportunity to intersect often

If you are not around all the time, you should arrange the meetings yourself. By the way, psychologists say that a person who often catches your eye is able to inspire trust and earn sympathy much faster.

The first thing you need to do is to visit the places where she goes as often as possible. You should try to get closer to her - for this you can add her as a friend on VKontakte, comment on her photo and try to chat.

For more information on how to stretch it for a walk, read the article "". And if everything worked out for you and she went for a walk with you, make these meetings permanent. Let her get used to them. And when you feel that she is interested in you as much as you are, invite her to meet.

What date to propose

According to statistics, a girl expects an offer on a 5-7 date. If you delay too much, she may simply lose faith and be disappointed in you and in this relationship. But making an offer earlier is also not recommended, because the first 2-3 meetings will only help you determine the girl’s attitude.

How to propose a date

If a girl willingly agrees to meetings and leaves them happy and inspired, then the moment of the proposal has come. In order to do everything right, pay attention to such things:

1. your appearance

Even if you are not going to do anything special - you just want to gently hug her and say that you want to see her as your girlfriend, still take care of the appearance. At such a crucial moment, you must be beautiful and well-groomed so that she does not doubt for a minute the correctness of her choice. Of course, you shouldn't dress like a knight from old fairy tales - you're not going to get married. Be more beautiful than usual, but don't overdo it either.

1. Meeting point

The meeting place depends on how you want to propose to her. It can be a park, a cozy cafe, a trip to some beautiful or special place. But keep in mind that during the proposal you should not be interrupted by loud noise, and the girl should feel comfortable.

1. Flowers, gifts...

Don't buy perfumes and other gifts that might just not suit her. Get by with an inexpensive gift in the form of a flower, a small souvenir or candy. In fact, you can do without all this at all, but the girl will be more pleasant if you decide to back up your proposal with a small gift.

1. Your words

Remember that the main thing is sincerity. You must clearly and warmly explain to the girl what you feel for her and what you want from her. Girls just love specifics, when after a conversation you don’t have to guess what you wanted to say. Emphasize what you like about her, speak gently but confidently.

If you choose poems or template SMS for her, do not forget to add something at the end from yourself. Let the girl feel that you did not just copy and paste this text without even reading it in full. For example, at the end of the verse, write: "I really feel all this for you, and I want you to be with me."

A few simple rules:

1. Be confident and persistent

You should not give up immediately, as it seemed to you that the girl has cooled off a little towards you. You must prepare her for the proposal, using all your strength, charm and perseverance. Do not overdo it with perseverance, but you will not do without it either.

1. Fulfill the requirements of the girl

If you are already intimate and you are preparing to propose, pay attention to what the girl requires of you. If she is offended that you didn’t call her even once yesterday, it means that she requires you to call every day. And you must do this by showing her that she is really dear to you. If the girl does not care, most likely, she is not so interested in you.

1. speak

Girls love with their ears and don't like to guess about your feelings. You are a man and you must be brave: say out loud all the good things that you think about her and what you feel.

Say these words already: "Let's meet"

So, you decided to confess your feelings to her and propose to meet. You have already figured out where you will take her and now it remains to decide what you will say and wait for the right moment.

Moment

It is best to start talking when you are already standing next to her, she will be in your arms and you will kiss her. When you reach the peak of romance, just calmly tell her what you were going to. You can whisper it in her ear, but not so softly that she doesn't hear at all.

You can, holding her hands and looking into her eyes, confidently reveal all the cards in front of her.

Phrases

Better not say the phrase "Let's meet" - it sounds terribly corny and somehow stupid. You just need to modify and embellish it a little. Combine a compliment, an offer and an expression of your feelings together. Can you say something like this:

“We are so close that I can no longer imagine my life without you. Will you agree to be my girlfriend?"

“You are the first who made me be like this - worried, confused and in love. But I really like it. I want you to be my girlfriend"

“The times we spend together are the best moments for me. I really want this to happen as often as possible, so I would like to see you as my girlfriend.”

Of course, your phrase may be completely different ..., and it shouldn’t be like that - you are a special person and your girlfriend is also special. Just try to express what you feel in beautiful words.

Ask her to meet nicely

If it seems to you that this is nonsense, I will try to convince you of the opposite:

1. It will change your mind

Of course, if a girl doesn’t love you and she doesn’t even like you, no matter what you do, it’s useless. But if she has only a drop of doubt about you and you need to make the final blow - surprise her with a beautiful confession and she will give up.

1. It will make you special

If you are no longer a schoolboy or a teenager, a beautiful proposal can still come in handy. No matter how old a girl is, she is always waiting for specific actions and beautiful confessions, and if you give it to her, your relationship will become especially important and valuable for her.

How to choose the right way

Everything is simple here: if a girl has a calm character, is a romantic and gentle nature, then recognition should be a match for her. It can be various romantic dinners, rose petals and more.

If the girl is distinguished by brightness, extravagance and activity, give her recognition with the same set of characteristics. Let it be something fun and unforgettable. It could be a trip to another city she wanted to visit. Take her to a crazy attraction, a huge dolphinarium, etc. And at the end of the entertainment, say that it was all for her and make your offer.

Another note for you: do not use gifts as a way to get a girl. This can easily affect a mercantile person, but a good decent girl will feel like a debtor and she will not be very comfortable with this. You don't want her hanging out with you just out of courtesy, do you?

How to propose a relationship to a girl - see the video:

If a girl suddenly refused - learn to work with refusals:

Why do the most desperate guys suddenly start to give in before asking the girl they like to meet?

There are two reasons for this:

• a person experiences timidity not at all in front of a weaker, from a physical point of view, creation, but in front of his own feelings, that is, nascent love;
• a man in his warehouse is a conqueror, so it is psychologically difficult for him to be suddenly rejected.

It is worth adding to this that love between people arises in order to subsequently form a family. Moreover, this feeling gives us some “trial balloons” in the form of teenage love, which rarely results in a lasting attachment and leads to family relationships. First love often falls on us as a test of feelings, does not come true, leaving wounds in the soul. But that's no reason not to try. Maybe you are the chosen one of fate who will have to enter into a marriage alliance with his first love. It would be foolish to turn away this chance. In addition, nothing in this life is in vain, and if you feel the need to meet with this particular girl, then it’s still worth trying.

Of course, this does not apply to situations where you can't wait to start a relationship simply because your friends are already dating someone, and you don't even have a couple on the horizon yet. Starting a relationship just to show that you are no worse than the rest is simply a deceit and dishonesty in relation to the girl you are fooling.

How to start dating a girl

Another thing is if you really like the girl. Let her be modest and nondescript, let her not be a source of pride for you, but she will become the only desired person with whom you would like to be alone. You need to listen not to public opinion that “it would be nice to tie this cutie up,” but to your heart.

Understand your feelings and make a firm decision

Before you decide to make an offer to meet, understand for yourself why you need it:

• to be no worse than friends;
• to look bravo next to a beauty;
• to be closer to the one you have been interested in for a long time.

Only the last answer will be correct. If the girl herself is dear to you, and not the fact of having a creature of the weaker sex nearby, then this will be the true reason for which you can decide on recognition.

Plan your offer

Guys play out in their minds a thousand times how they will make this proposal, and you should not be an exception either. In this case, you need to rely on the fact that you can get a refusal. Of course, youthful maximalism and male pride can do their job, and such a refusal may seem tantamount to a final break. But how much can be lost from this! After all, a girl can then change her mind. In addition, at the moment she could just be shy, or maybe you just didn’t have time to charm her with anything. While you're both young, you have about a thousand or more chances to try and fix things. Only each time you need to go from the other side. And there are many of these sides. Not just black and white. The world is colorful, and there are many shades in it. Try, try, and you will always find the color she loves. And she will fly to him, like a bee to a flower, in which there is more honey nectar.

These arguments mean that in addition to the only plan "A", there must be a plan "B", and so on. We were endowed with a fairly long alphabet and an almost endless number of numbers. So there must be many plans, and they must be worthy, that is, none of them should contain a hint of revenge for another refusal.

Accept any of her answers with dignity

You can only take revenge for a public refusal, when you were humiliated in front of your friends, and what is even more offensive - in front of your enemies. But this "little revenge" is planned only if you do not want to be associated with this person anymore. And if you have a new passion on the horizon, then in no case do not involve it in this revenge plan. This is unworthy and can lead to a break in new relationships.

If the girl refused delicately, then in fact there is nothing for her to take revenge. It's a simple right to love someone else or take time out to sort out your own feelings.

If you were reciprocated, then in this situation you should not give vent to emotions to such an extent that you will start dancing a jig in front of a girl or swear with satisfaction. Such ardor can simply repel or frighten your chosen one. Yes, it was a crazy success for you, and it's great! But to expose yourself as the most crazy, and even a maniac, is not worth it.

If you yourself are afraid of your own feelings, then you can use the old method: “paper will endure everything.” Our distant ancestors used letters if they were afraid to look into the eyes, declaring their love or offering to meet. Now, in addition to paper, thanks to new technologies, there are several more ways to make an offer in absentia.

On the Internet: Vkontakte or other social network

This method is good if your chosen one herself is a fan of communication in social networks. And only if you are well acquainted with the girl. If you just find her Vkontakte page and write that you would like to meet, then you may be mistaken for a person with sexual deviations or something like that. Also, the girl may not take this proposal seriously. Therefore, it is better to first just make an acquaintance on a social network, talking on neutral topics.

Yes, and the offer should be beautifully arranged so that it can be compared with a presented bouquet of flowers. For example, send a charming landscape and against its background - soul-stirring poems.

Make an offer by SMS or phone

You can use this way not only social networks, but also a mobile phone. For example, to fit verses into SMS, and even better - into MMS. If you are familiar with a girl, and the only thing that scares you is not the speed of her reaction, but an evaluating look, then you can simply call her and offer to go somewhere together. And you can make a confession both by phone and at this meeting, if it takes place.

When meeting tete-a-tete

Even if it so happened that you met in person, but you are shy, then just look down, as if thinking, and ask if the girl wants to meet with you. Only the meeting should take place not in some prosaic place, but, for example, in a gazebo over the water, against the backdrop of a beautiful landscape or in a cozy cafe with a cup of tea or a serving of ice cream. The atmosphere should be relaxed, so you should not call your future girlfriend to an expensive restaurant or an expensive trip. This, too, can cause tension and give the impression that you are buying a person's favor.

How beautiful it is to invite a girl to meet so that she agrees

A woman, no matter what age she is, is a real esthete. Therefore, the proposal on your part should be beautifully framed. And to finally hook this person, do it unusually. Banality is a bad companion for romantic relationships.

original date proposal

If you can furnish an invitation to a date with the help of a sent bouquet, an envelope sealed with gold thread and postal sealing wax, as well as an imitated telegram, then what to do when you have already met? After all, a single date does not mean the start of a long-term relationship. It is necessary to somehow offer the girl to spend more time together in an original way. One good way is to show up on a date with a guitar or other musical instrument and serenade it with your own composition. Only at the same time you must be good at the instrument, so as not to cause laughter or frank regret from the new girlfriend.

If you are with music on “you”, but you can recite well, then you can read poems of your own composition to her. Of course, you can take as a basis an excerpt from one of the classics, but at the same time not read poetry, as at school at the blackboard, but as a famous theater actor would do - with all the storm of emotions, with MAT pauses, with accents. In general, you have to rehearse carefully to be appreciated. And if you read prose - Bulgakov, Bunin, Nabokov ... The girl will be delighted with your memory. But do not memorize passages that are too long: it is tiring for you and for the listener. In addition, ordinary envy can work here, which will replace admiration. Suddenly, the girl could never remember a single verse at school or was embarrassed to read them at the blackboard. And here also the prose bounces off the teeth!

Romantic proposal to meet in verse

Poems themselves are more romantic than prose. You know how to write them yourself, and your success is appreciated by others - this is your plus and your trump card. It is really worth taking on the recitation of classical poetry only if you have a minimum of acting skills. You can read your own verse with less pathos - it will still be appreciated.

But what to do if you are not a poet from birth? Sometimes an excess of feelings pushes a person to do something that he has never done before. And you can come out with beautiful poems. And let this verse be generally the only one in life, but successful. Sometimes - on the verge of genius.

However, the muse does not visit people with enviable regularity, and may not come to you at all. Then it remains to climb for a verse on the Internet. Let's make a reservation right away: taking a ready-made confession-offer from a popular youth site is the worst option. Imagine how many people like you will read the same poem to their beloved girl at the same time as you. And if with the same verses yesterday or the day before yesterday the gentleman rejected by her “rolled up” to your chosen one, and now you will present the same thing to her? You won’t even catch the meaning, because of what the girl became so funny. You might think that you yourself are pathetic in front of her. And she finds it funny, because you and the loser “composed” photocopied poems.

If you already use the Internet, it is better to order a verse there on a special website. By the way, to be sure, it is better to check it with an anti-plagiarism program. So you will understand if these poems were published somewhere else, or if the order was made for you personally. After all, the performer will also be tempted not to write himself, but to take the little-known lines of the same Alexander Blok, for example, and pass them off as his original verse, composed just for you. It is even better to compose a haiku - a national Japanese verse of three lines, than to use a large replicated verse.

For example, like this:

flying sakura petal
Catching up with another
To keep going together.

Beautiful, but a little sad. There are only three lines, and they can only contain a hint that you want to be with this girl. But even such a hint can be understood.

You can add some humor:

How the thread follows the needle
As the waves rush after the ship,
So I would like to be with you
And always be, not in passing.

It is not necessary to use the verse form to propose meetings. There are phrases that work almost unmistakably. This does not mean that the above expressions need to be memorized. This is just an example of how to be unobtrusive at the same time, but at the same time show your interest in this particular girl.

The most popular words and phrases for the best offer

“It seems to me that I feel for you something more than ordinary friendly feelings,” this is how you can say to a girl with whom you are in the same company. If this is your colleague, then just tell her: “I think that our relationship could be less formal. Maybe we can go out to dinner together?" Such an offer, on the one hand, does not oblige you to anything, on the other hand, you will show that you are not indifferent to the person.

But immediately offering to go to a restaurant is unnecessary. Especially if the girl herself is still young and could never afford to dine in such establishments. Your task is to hook, not to overwhelm with luxury. Therefore, you do not need to immediately say that you would like her to become your destiny, or that you alone decided (personally) that you should meet. Swearing that you will make your chosen one a hundred times happier than now is also not worth it. Just leave her the choice and time to think. Otherwise, you can just frighten off your sympathy.

How to become a couple if you are friends

When you have been friends for a long time, go hiking together or wander around your hometown, and in the usual company, it can be difficult to change the status of “to your friend’s board”. But if it so happened that yesterday's girlfriend suddenly became beloved, then you need to act. The most interesting thing is that in this case you can get closer somehow smoothly, without even separating two periods in time - friendly and love. Of course, you can immediately dot all the “e” and say that for some time now you see in her more than just an outgoing girl. But if you do not dare, then you can do otherwise.

When you already spend time in the same company, you can just be near your beloved a little more often. Offer her an umbrella when it rains from a clear sky, treat her with ice cream, lend mittens if it gets cold, give her a hand when you need to get over, albeit through a small, but obstacle - these and similar signs of attention contribute to a smooth rapprochement.

If you are in a big company, then no one will immediately pay attention to the fact that you decided to retire with a girl in order to start a conversation that is interesting for both of you. It is not necessary to devote it immediately to your relationship. It may just be the topic that she and you like. If this continues from time to time, then your mutual friends will gradually get used to the fact that a “couple” has formed in the company, with which “everything is clear”.

Unnoticed, you can thus move to permanent residence with this girl or settle her at home. And then you will become an accomplished couple. No stress, no emotions, etc. And you ask: where is the beauty of feelings? Why did everything suddenly happen on its own? You just gave the lady a reason to understand that next to her is a real knight. And even if there was no serenade, haiku, poetry, but your actions said more than words could express.

Smile and say hello when you meet. One of the easiest ways to become friends with the girl you like is to be warm and friendly when you meet. Show that you are glad to see her: look into her eyes, smile warmly and say hello.

• No need to stare and smile for more than 3-4 seconds or from a distance, otherwise your behavior will look strange. Come closer than three meters to say hello.
• When meeting in the morning, say "good morning," but gauge the girl's energy level to act accordingly. If she looks tired and sleepy, then a cheerful greeting may sound inappropriate.

Take an interest in things. If you want to get to know a girl better, then it is important to learn how to talk and spend time with her without too much excitement. Try to start the conversation with small talk. Questions about business will help to start a conversation and show your interest in the life of a girl in order to quickly establish communication.

Discuss common interests. Romantic partners must have common ground. In conversations with a girl, discuss your common hobbies in order to get closer and build friendships.

• Ask the girl about her favorite band, food, or movies. It may turn out that your tastes are the same.
• Be sincere and be yourself. If you tell a lie to impress a girl, she may notice your insincerity. It will ruin your relationship chances.
• It is quite normal if you do not share the interests of the girl and do not know anything about her favorite performers, but you do not need to criticize other people's tastes. If you want to build a relationship with her, show interest.

Advice: Listen to the girl during the conversation so that she sees your sincere interest. Pay attention to the person you like.

There are moments when even the most self-confident man becomes shy and has no idea what to do. It seems as if it is simply impossible to cope with excitement, and all achievements fade, leaving a confused and defenseless person. We are talking about the state of being in love. And it doesn’t matter if these are the first feelings or already a mature choice.

Why it happens? First of all, of course, any person is afraid of being rejected. Love is a manifestation of the highest, purest and most sincere feelings. It’s very scary to be misunderstood, it’s scary to tarnish this light with a refusal. What if the rejection is rude? And if it happens in front of witnesses and will be accompanied by mockery? What if they just don't get it? All these questions attack the lover, driving him more and more into a dead end, plunging him into doubts.

And is it necessary to do something at all then? Is it worth it then to strive for something more, to fight your fears, or to continue to keep sympathy in secret? It's time to take stock and start taking action.

Is it really worth asking a girl out on a date?

So, it doesn't matter how old you are. You are in love or have a special liking for a girl, but fear does not allow you to decide what to do next. Should I change something at all, or should I still go and offer to meet?

You need to first evaluate your own feelings. If you really feel a strong attraction, if this is something special, you have never experienced anything like this, then you can talk about the seriousness of your intentions.

The following signs may also indicate this:

• The desire to spend more time with this particular girl, because she is very attractive,
• Do not see any flaws in it or they seem insignificant,
• It is important for you to see her as often as possible,
• Your thoughts constantly return to the object of sympathy - her appearance, clothes, words,
• You are not even able to explain why you only like her.

If at least part of these points or all of them coincided, we are talking about real feelings: sympathy, falling in love, about something sincere.

But, if for you all of the above seems to be absolute nonsense, then perhaps you belong to the second category of people for whom a relationship with a girl is just an indicator of status.

For many, especially in early adolescence, it is very important to be like everyone else, to feel part of the community. If everyone around has already acquired "second halves", then the feeling of being the only "black sheep" in the company can push you to look for a girl. However, think about it: do you need that imaginary feeling of “correctness” or is honesty towards yourself and the chosen girl more important?

You should think about the fact that when you start dating a girl that is not the most interesting for you, there is a risk of quick disappointment in such a relationship. The presence of common topics for conversation, the manifestation of interest of at least one of the parties in a partner is one of the very first necessities in a relationship.

So if you really feel attracted or sympathetic, and also think that you have found the perfect girl, but are just afraid to take action - do not be afraid! Who knows, maybe this girl will become your wife in the future, perhaps she is the one with whom you can live a happy family life? Perhaps it is from her that you will have children? Remember: what is better to do and regret than to regret what you didn’t do, and then think for the rest of your life that everything could have been different!

Well, if you just need to keep up with others and the very fact of a relationship does not particularly attract you - do not deceive yourself and other people. Should not be doing that.

How to tell a girl that I like her and propose to meet

The girl really evokes a storm of emotions and feelings in you, but to approach her, speak, and even more so say that you really like her, and then offer to start a relationship - beyond your strength? It can be solved.

Why are many men afraid to talk to a girl? The most common reasons are as follows:

• Fear,
• Diffidence,
• The presence of complexes
• Fear of rejection, ridicule,
• Negative experience in the past.

Yes, these are all good reasons to avoid action.

But just imagine that she - the girl who attracts you - is perhaps also afraid to take the first step. Or will she be the one with whom life will sparkle with new colors?

It's time to act!

How to confess your sympathy and offer to start a relationship. Method one

Simple to the point of banality, but very complex morally. Often you can not develop complex strategies and workarounds, but take a direct approach. Therefore, the advice is trivially simple: gather your thoughts, approach the object of your sympathy and confess your feelings to her.

Of course, even here it is worth observing a few rules:

• Do not prepare long speeches - the best words are those that come from the heart, filled with sincerity and warmth.
• Don't try to be someone you are not.
• Choose a convenient moment: when the girl is in a good mood, alone and not busy with business. So the possibility of a positive answer increases significantly.
• If you receive a polite refusal, do not despair. Yes, sometimes it happens that sympathy is not mutual, but this is not a reason to blame yourself for this and refuse further relationships. Stay friends if you want - after rejection, many try to cut off all communication - why?
• In case of refusal, you can ask about its reasons, but remember that the main thing is to be polite and correct. Don't blame the girl, don't threaten her, don't try to blackmail her. Accept rejection gracefully and like a man.
• In case of a positive response to your proposal, try to express your emotions with restraint - too violent enthusiasm can cause at least bewilderment.

Despite the apparent simplicity, when using this method, it is worth observing a few very important points: be neat (clean clothes and daily showers are relevant every day), you can spray cologne with her favorite smell. Be persistent, but not overbearing - if you are refused, then you should wait a while and you can try to repeat the confession. Let's say do it after a few weeks or even months. Girls love persistent, but not annoying. Also, do not be zealous with perseverance - after the third failure, it is best to stop trying.

Confession for a girl. Method two

It is quite possible to start a relationship in a completely different way. If you are an extremely shy person, for whom approaching the object of sympathy is similar to death, then you can add mystery. What girl doesn't love riddles and messages from a secret admirer? So here's an idea for you:

• Make inquiries - what she likes, where you can discreetly leave a message for her so that someone else does not receive it. Remember that inept surveillance can make you a "maniac" in her eyes ...
• Write her a note or a letter. Make a few compliments, dedicate poems to her, tell her about your feelings - in a word, you can write whatever you like. It’s up to you to subscribe or not, but keep in mind that rudeness, indecent hints or phrases like “You ate so little yesterday at dinner in a restaurant” will have a bad effect on your further communication.
• If you want to stir up interest in you more, then you can keep the halo of secrecy longer - write letters or notes to your beloved. Let them not have any logic - send them at different times, put them in different places and at different intervals. Let it be either short notes or long letters with some gifts like your favorite chocolate bar. You can not subscribe in any way or even come up with a pseudonym for yourself.
• When her interest is high enough, make an appointment with your beloved. And already on it, confess to your friend your feelings, offer to be together.

Yes, the possibility of refusal still exists, but if you showed enough ingenuity and were initially pleasant to the girl, then most likely she is already in love with you in absentia, so she will gladly accept the offer. Well, even if not, you will get the most valuable experience. In any case, there is no need to be upset.

Method three. Recognition and offer

Help the girl. When people see each other often enough, there is a good chance that the guy has already managed to study her strengths and weaknesses and knows when help can come in handy. Do not leave her in difficult situations, provide support, and then, left alone, confess to her how you feel.

The fourth way to confess to a girl

If the lady of the heart is a regular participant in friendly gatherings, then this method can also be used. Organize some kind of event for the whole company - a trip to an amusement park, a picnic, a walk to interesting places. Make sure she takes part in it. During your vacation, catch the moment when you are alone with her in some unusual, beautiful and atmospheric place. Take action!

How to propose a date nicely if you are friends

What do you do when you've been good friends for a long time? It seems that there is something between you or could be, but there is no exact certainty. It is somehow embarrassing to even raise the issue of this, especially since friendship is very valuable and many do not want to lose it ... But even in this case, there are always several effective ways for such situations.

• Write her a long confession letter. Decorate it beautifully, write sincerely what you think and feel. Include a photo of you together with fond memories for both of you.
• Invite her somewhere that she really wanted to go, but has not had the opportunity yet. Give her an unforgettable experience, spend time with her as fun and rich as possible. And at the end of the evening, confess your feelings to her, invite her to take your friendship to a new level and start a relationship. Choose in advance a beautiful place that will create an unusual atmosphere.
• When you and the object of your sympathy have common friends, you can ask them to help arrange a surprise confession. It will be great if they offer their ideas or something special. Perhaps they probably know that she also cares about you and will gladly share this information!
• Take a trip with a friend. Nothing brings people closer together than the hardships and hardships of hitchhiking or camping together, or the abundance of fun on a shared vacation. Moreover, a change of scenery will allow you to look at you with “new eyes”, and it is likely that the offer will not even be required. And if it is required - who but you knows this girl? Create the conditions for her perfect date, and the answer to your confession and offer to be a couple will be a happy yes.

In fact, in the case when a guy and a girl are good friends, there are both pluses and minuses in this. On the one hand, who, if not you, always comes to the rescue, is a faithful companion in any kind of pastime, knows the details of all life and the most secret desires? But, on the other hand, this is what can also serve as a reason for refusal, due to the fact that you already know about each other, if not quite everything, then a lot.

And it's not always positive. There are aspects of life that can only be told to a friend, but not to a soul mate.

Don't be discouraged and don't despair. Often, it is between the best friends that the strongest and most beautiful families are created, precisely because all the nuances of life and character traits were known in advance.

Whatever it was - it's a friend, or just a pretty girl who won your heart - never be afraid of confessions, it's better to overcome fear once. It is much scarier to wake up one day and realize that once the opportunity was missed to try to be close to the one that made the heart jump out of the chest.

Even if you get a negative response to your proposal, don't worry. The most important thing is that you tried. This does not mean at all that something is wrong with you, it does not mean that you should be afraid to try again and again. It’s just that you somehow didn’t fit this person specifically and there’s nothing to worry about. Everything is still ahead, you will definitely be happy with the one that will overshadow all your past loves!