About love: eros, philos, agape...

The New Testament was written in the common Greek of the time, Koine. The people who read it then understood what it was about. At least they understood the words - native words, Greek. And what's interesting is the word agape already existed in that language. That is, it appeared before the New Testament. And if this word means God's special love, then it is natural to ask the question: what kind of god's love could the Greeks have in mind when pronouncing this word? Zeus? Dionysus? Mercury? It is clear that agape must have had some other meaning. Although some theologians believe that the New Testament was written in some special Greek "language of the Holy Spirit", and that the study of the works of pagan authors in order to better understand the original language is heresy. However, this point of view should not even be considered ...

Between about 250 and 150 BC, a translation of the Hebrew Bible into Greek was made. This translation is called Septuagint. Judging by the fact that the authors of the New Testament most often quote the Jewish Scriptures not from Hebrew, but from the Septuagint, it is clear that it was widespread and was for Greek-speaking Jews and new Christians from the Greeks what it is for Russian-speaking readers. Synodal translation Bible. It was their Bible.

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There are three different Greek words for love in the New Testament: eros, philos, and agape. Much of the confusion about love among people stems from a misunderstanding of these different types love.

Physical love (Eros)
This love is related to what pleases our physical bodies. Food, drink, sex and please human bodies and wishes. Eros love is not bad, but it is the most dangerous kind of love, because an overdose of any of these "goodies" can be devastating.

Emotional love (philos)
It is often referred to as "brotherly love". This kind of love is connected to our emotions and is the key to "falling in love". Such love extends far beyond mere physical love because it reaches deep into our feelings. This love is wonderful, and it is because of this love that many of us get married and hope to live happily ever after together. The problem with this love is that it is focused on feelings, emotions, and those in turn are unreliable. Many marriages fail because of one unfortunate fact: "I don't love you anymore!"

Spiritual love (agape)
Spiritual love has nothing to do with eros or philosophy. This love is found only deep within our human spirit. This love unselfishly cares for others. Jesus said, "No one has a greater love than that someone lay down his life for his brothers." Relationships built on this agape love are strong, true, and enduring because they do not depend on physical or sensual love.

The Apostle Paul explains: "Love is long-suffering. Love is kind; it is not jealous. Love does not boast, is not haughty; does not act indecently, does not seek its own; is not irritated, does not count evil; does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; everything covers, believes in everything, hopes for everything, endures everything. Love never passes away."

Great love does not fall from the sky - although it seems to fall from there. She deserves. It comes when a person ceases to demand it from fate, it comes as a result of suffering from his dreams and battles.
The path leading to love is thorny. It has its stages and its trials. Frightened by them, many turn off this path and are content with surrogates - superficial relationships, easily achievable, but giving nothing to the soul.

Love - the use of this word to explain many different concepts leads to confusion and absurd comparisons. For example, we love our lifelong spouse, but we also love fried chicken or pie; it turns out that we compare love for a spouse with a cottage cheese pie! We love our parents and children, but we also love books and football and skiing and it's like putting our father and mother on the same level as John's Sunday break. Of course, we love freedom with a deeper love than our shiny car in the garage. However, we also love the new car; love our cat and an album of records bought on last week. We love not only the Lord Jesus Christ, the King of kings and the Lord of lords, but we love the actors Robert Redford or Bob Hope. Such casual use of the word "love" brings confusion and uncertainty into the conversation.

Confusion increases when we read books, main theme which is love. One author speaks of love, referring to carnal attraction. Another author speaks of some abstract ideal feeling of love. The third describes romantic love, or emphasizes strong family loyalty. The fourth author dramatizes an unbreakable friendship. As you can see, each of the authors has in mind a special relationship. However, they all use the same word "love" to define this relationship.

Fortunately, in this book on love in marriage, we can turn to the clear and precise ancient Greek language of the New Testament for help. As one scholar noted, "Greek is a flexible language, made up of words that convey subtle nuances expressing the slightest differences in meaning." In New Testament times, the Greeks used at least five different words to distinguish and explain the various aspects of love in marriage.
As you read the explanations of the meaning of these five Greek words in the context of marriage, remember that this is not a language exercise, but a practical explanation of love in marriage, which is fully expressed in relationships.
However, one should not think that one can choose one kind of love and set aside others, as we do when choosing a product in a shop window. All of them complement each other. Each aspect of love has its own special, important place, as you will learn when you begin to apply them in marriage. However, even though they differ from each other, at the same time they are so interconnected that the physical, emotional and spiritual processes coincide and mutually reinforce each other in the act of love.

The first aspect of love , which we will consider is expressed by the Greek word, which the Bible nowhere calls love. Nevertheless, the word expresses a very important aspect of the love relationship between husband and wife. The word is epitumia, meaning any strong desire, good or bad. That is, to want with all your heart, to strive for something legally or illegally; or - solicit. When the epitum is used in the Bible in a negative sense, it is translated as lust, and when in a positive sense, as desire, that is, in the sense that we have in mind here. In married life, husband and wife must have a strong physical attraction to each other, which is manifested in a pleasurable intimate relationship.

Sex is not the most important aspect of a relationship, but it is a clear indication of the health of a marriage. If strained relations arise between spouses in other aspects of life, then they will usually manifest themselves in sexual life. On the other hand, if the spouses do not have sexual intimacy, then as a result this may affect other aspects of the relationship. Sometimes sexual desire is absent due to various experiences or problems. This is not unusual and can be corrected in almost all cases. Even when spouses are looking for a way out of difficulties in other aspects of their relationship, they can learn together to achieve perfection in physical communication and experience mutual satisfaction in sexual life so that the restoration and strengthening of sexual desire becomes an important part in achieving love for each other. Most happy marriages, there are times when spouses find that they can always improve their sexual life as a result of greater mutual understanding and greater sensitivity to each other. Never neglect the aspect of love in marriage known as sex drive!

The next aspect of love comes from a Greek word that is not mentioned in the New Testament, although its Hebrew synonym is used in the Old Testament. I'm talking about the word - eros, meaning love, which most of all contains the idea of ​​romantic love. Sometimes eros, erotic, is wholly attributed to physical intimacy, but this is not correct. Eros does not always mean only sensual pleasure, but it also contains the idea of ​​striving to unite with the beloved, the desire to possess him. Eros is something romantic, passionate and at the same time sentimental. Often this is the beginning of the desire to marry. This is the feeling of love that every person in love experiences. This feeling is sung in verses, songs are composed about it. This feeling of admiration, refined pleasure; it is love - tender, strong, beautiful, and at the same time, painful, because it is an all-consuming feeling.

However, eros has a problem. This aspect of love needs help, because such love is changeable and cannot by itself last a lifetime. Eros wants to promise that his relationship will be eternal, but on his own he cannot keep this promise.

In light of this, the distinction between unreasonable temporary infatuation and true romantic love, which can be found in God's ordained marriage, must be emphasized. Temporary infatuation can be called an emotional, carnal reaction to a superficial impression, from the appearance of a person, as a result of which sexual desire arises. In contrast, true love is a spiritual, mental, emotional and physical response to the true character and whole being of another person (male or female), which is the embodiment of qualities that are valued and admired for a long time.

If there is love in a Christian marriage, defined by the word eros, such a marriage is full of delightful feelings and gives deep satisfaction, being a gift and creation of God Himself. This kind of love is entirely emotional and cannot be caused by willpower, but emerges as a sincere response to all the other aspects of love in a marriage that are already in place. You can experience eros love in its rich, mature, joyful form when you have mastered the art of love. More than any other aspect of love, eros brightens up an ordinary, gray existence into cheerful, bright colors. This is the beautiful part of love meant for marriage.

The third aspect of love characterized by the Greek word storge when love manifests itself as a comfortable, habitual relationship, consisting of natural feelings of disposition and consciousness of belonging to each other. This love, mentioned several times in the New Testament, is the feeling that exists between parents and children or brothers and sisters. Robert Frost calls this feeling family eyes, "a place where you are accepted, and you do not need to have merit to come there." Storge love in marriage fulfills our common need to be part of a close circle, part of a family where people care and show sincere loyalty to each other. Compared to the attitude of the cold world, storge love gives us a sense of emotional refuge. A marriage that lacks this kind of love is like a house with a leaky roof. And where storge is present, an atmosphere of confidence is created in which all other aspects of love can safely live and develop.

The fourth quality of love explained by the Greek verb phileo, which is often used in the New Testament. Phileo is a feeling of tenderness towards a lover, but always the expectation of a reciprocal feeling. Such love is manifested in a sense of camaraderie, sociability in the exchange of advice, friendship. While eros is the feeling of people in love, phileo creates a feeling of inseparable friendship, close relationships. In this kind of love, people share their thoughts, feelings, relationships, plans and dreams - the most intimate things they will not share with others. They also spend time together and share common interests. Of course, for full enjoyment in phileo love, the participation of both spouses is required. However, if in an attempt to restore love in marriage, your partner does not respond to efforts on your part, you can show love yourself, expecting a reciprocal interest from the marriage half in the future, while putting into practice biblical principles. A marriage without a phileo cannot be satisfactory, even with the manifestation of passionate feelings in seclusion in the bedroom. Only in the presence of a phileo will marriage be undoubtedly interesting and rewarding.

And now, from the description of the physical side in the aspects of love, we move on to the spiritual. Lastly I saved the best is agape. This is the kind of completely selfless love that is able to give without expecting anything in return. Compared to phileo, in which partners cherish and enjoy each other, agape means to appreciate and serve the other. The New Testament often speaks of agape because such love caused Christ to come to earth in human form for our redemption. God loves all mankind with agape love. In addition, He also loves with phileo love those who are in fellowship with Him through Jesus Christ.

Agape love is especially important for those who are trying to save their marriage and restore lost love. Of all aspects of love, agape can be immediately introduced into your married life because it is carried out by means of the will and does not rely on the senses.

This is active, not emotional love. She focuses on deeds, not on feelings. K.S. Lewis showed the difference between agape and other forms of love using a picture of a garden. He explained that the natural forms of love, like a garden, are quickly overgrown with weeds if it is not weeded. This is inevitable due to self-centeredness, self-will and other sins of man as a result of the fall. Agape acts like a rake, a hoe, a fertilizer scissors in the hands of a skilled gardener who keeps the garden flourishing, neatly tended and beautiful. When God planted the garden of our nature and made everything in it bloom and bear the fruits of love, He also gave us the will to tend, watch and care for it, as a wise gardener does. This activity of the will manifests itself in agape love. This is a conscious and great feeling of love, in which a person always tries to do the best for his beloved.

A marriage in which agape love exists can go through all trials! Agape keeps a marriage intact when the natural manifestations of love weaken and die.

Agape love is nothing less than one of the most exciting truths in all of Scripture: Agape love is connected to an eternal source of power and can work when all other forms of love fail. But that's not all. Agape is a feeling of love, regardless of whether the object of love is not worthy of this feeling. Agape is as unconditional as God's unconditional love. This feeling is based on reason and decisive volitional choice. Therefore, you can decide to start loving your spouse with agape love, even if you meet indifference or rejection in return.

This feeling was experienced by one person. He wrote, “I really appreciated your instructions on the topic of Love in Marriage. Especially about agape love, because only this feeling keeps our relationship from falling apart. My wife and I talk about children, acquaintances, work, etc., but never about anything personal. Katya won't let me hug her, kiss her, or even touch her. When I buy gifts for her, she does not accept them, or when I give her a compliment, she says: “That's not true,” or asks: “Is this serious?”, Or something else, nullifying my words. We don't have intimacy. I want to have a full-fledged love relationship with Katya, but nothing comes of it, even if you beat your head against the wall. I ask God to help me love her and satisfy her needs, although we have no reciprocity with her. What a picturesque picture of agape love in action, saving a marriage and a family that would otherwise fall apart! But this is not the end of this story. married couple. And all thanks to agape love. But first of all, you need to be sure of this fundamental truth. Holy Scripture commands to have a love affair with the marriage half!

Agape - the ancient Greeks called this soft, sacrificial, condescending love for one's neighbor. The early Christians called the Agapas the "Lord's Suppers", or, in translation, the "meals of love", which they held in memory of the Last Supper. Agapa is mentioned, for example, in the Epistle of Jude.

According to E. Fromm, Agape is the love of equals. But in reality, even though we are equal, we are not always equal. Since we are all human, we all need help: today for me, tomorrow for you. However, just because we need help doesn't mean that some of us are helpless and others are powerful. Helplessness is a transient state. Love for the weak, love for the poor and the stranger is the beginning of Agape. To love one's own flesh and blood is not God knows what an achievement. The animal also loves its cubs and takes care of them. The helpless loves his master because his life depends on him. A child loves his parents because he needs them. And only in love for those who do not serve any purpose, love begins to unfold for real. Sympathizing with the helpless, a person develops love for his brother. And in love for himself, he also loves someone who needs help, loves a fragile, defenseless creature.

• Agape is love based on principles.
• Agape is deep moral sense, arising not spontaneously, but consciously, on the basis of moral principles, a sense of duty, decency and honor. Yet agape is not devoid of warmth and power.
• Agape is sacrificial love with forgetfulness of one's own interests in cares and in the name of a loved one.
• Agape is sacrificial love, selfless self-giving, the dissolution of the lover in caring for the beloved.
• Agape is just love, without any religious speculation, which can be of various kinds.
• Agape is love-evolution, where partners move from opposite to identity.
• Agape is love as sympathy.

Let's look at this issue from a biblical perspective. The book of Genesis shows that woman was created to fill the need of a man who is alone and to be his friend and lover throughout his life. The man was commanded to leave everything else, to cling inseparably to his wife and intimately know her all his life. This is the process of creating an inseparable love bond between husband and wife. The Old Testament Scriptures show separate episodes regarding romantic and intimate relationships in the life of the patriarchs. Turning to other books of Holy Scripture, we read about the purely personal intimate relationship between husband and wife, expressed in romantic love and sexual pleasure.

In Psalm 44, called the Song of Love, the author speaks of the marriage of the king and invites the queen to pay attention to the beautiful appearance, glory, honor and greatness of her husband and forget her country, people and father's house. Instead: "And the King will desire your beauty"; The details of the love affair between the king and his bride are subtly described in the Song of Solomon as an example to be followed by all pious lovers.

The command for life to connect in love with your spouse is found in the Proverbs of Solomon, in a book that gives special practical, urgently needed advice for solving daily life problems. These are the advice of the Wise Creator. Parables always point to cause and effect: if you do something good in accordance with God's wisdom, it will bring a good result. But if you do something against the will of God and against all reasonable behavior, you will surely get unpleasant consequences. From the 5th chapter of the Book of Proverbs, we can draw the following conclusion: stay away from the harlot and always be madly in love with your wife. This is the very essence of the instruction and the exact command: “Blessed be thy source; and take comfort in the wife of your youth, in your amiable affection and in the beautiful chamois; let her breasts make you drunk at all times; enjoy her love continually.”

A warning has already been given to the husband to avoid a harlot, because otherwise she will destroy his life in sexual, spiritual and social relations. The same principle applies to the wife, because her life will suffer in the same way as a result of adultery.

But further it is described how rich is the reward for marital fidelity! Here and in the Song of Songs of Solomon, the wife is depicted in the form of a reservoir, a well, a hidden spring, a fountain of water that pours to completely quench her husband's thirst. But even this description does not fully convey the essence of the parable. “To enjoy” in the Hebrew language means to stagger, as if from intoxication, to be in rapture, in a lively state. To be "drunk", to quench your thirst, to get drunk i.e. be completely filled with that which brings satisfaction.

That a physical love affair is here described is clear from original text. Connoisseurs of the ancient Hebrew language believe that this place is one of the most picturesque descriptions in all Holy Scripture, where the wife's nipples are literally spoken of, and then metaphorically described as sources of wine that intoxicate the husband with love. Note that this refers to living with "the wife of your youth" and refers to the duration of the love affair, and that the command to "be comforted" was established as an integral part of married life from beginning to end.
But this is about more than just physical love. The word that is translated here as “love” (“delight in its love continually”) is the Hebrew word ahavah, which contains an element of only emotional love in response to attraction, although it is not exhausted by emotionality. In fact, ahava is the same as the New Testament word agape, which denotes the love of the human spirit and will, aimed at always doing the best for the beloved. So we see that according to this verse of Scripture, we must manifest agape love with its spiritual attributes in the marriage life through the emotional and physical forces of our being in order to fully satisfy our marriage partner. There is no sacrifice here, because in doing so, we ourselves also receive satisfaction.

So we see here the love relationship commanded by God to every husband and every wife: an all-consuming, delightful communion of mind, body, spirit, and feelings. Clearly, there are major reasons why it is necessary to follow the Bible in the matter of marriage! We can use freedom to resist love and deny joy. Nothing can make us deviate from this path if we choose it for ourselves. But in the same way, we can use the freedom to love, and if we act according to the biblical instructions, we will constantly experience the happiness of full love in our married life.

Eros - Ludus - Storge - Filia - Mania - Agape - Pragma

Eros. Enthusiastic, passionate love, based primarily on devotion and affection for a loved one, and then on sexual desire. With such love, the lover sometimes begins to almost worship the beloved (oh). There is a desire to fully possess it. This love is addiction. There is an idealization of the beloved. But there always follows a period when “eyes are opened”, and, accordingly, disappointment in a loved one occurs. This type of love is considered destructive for both partners. After the disappointment, love passes, and the search for a new partner begins.

Ludus. Love is a sport, love is a game and a competition. This love is based on sexual desire and is aimed solely at obtaining pleasure, this is consumer love. In such a relationship, a person is set to receive more than give something to his partner. Therefore, feelings are superficial, which means they cannot fully satisfy partners, they always lack something in a relationship, and then the search for other partners, other relationships begins. But in parallel, relationships can be maintained with their regular partner. It is short-lived, continues until the first manifestations of boredom appear, the partner ceases to be an interesting object.

Storge. Love is tenderness, love is friendship. With this type of love, partners are at the same time friends. Their love is based on warm friendships and partnerships. This type of love often arises after many years of friendship or after many years of marriage.

Philia. Platonic love, so named because at one time it was this kind of love that was exalted by Plato as true love. This love is based on spiritual attraction, with such love there is a complete acceptance of the beloved, respect and understanding. This is love for parents, children, best friends, to the muse. Plato believed that this is the only kind of love that is true love. This is unconditional love. Selfless love. Love in its purest form. This is love for the sake of love.

In addition, the ancient Greeks identified three more types of love, which are a combination of the main types:

Mania or as the ancient Greeks called this type of love: "madness from the gods." This type of love is a combination of eros and ludus. Love - mania was considered and is considered a punishment. This love is an obsession. She makes a man in love suffer. And she also brings suffering to the object of the lover's passion. The lover strives to be near his beloved all the time, tries to control him, experiences insane passion and jealousy. Also, the lover experiences mental pain, confusion, constant tension, uncertainty, anxiety. He is completely dependent on the object of adoration. The beloved, after a certain period of such ardent love on the part of the lover, begins to avoid him and makes attempts to break off relations, disappear from his life, protect himself from the obsessed with love. This type of love is destructive, destroying both the lover and the beloved. This kind of love cannot last long, except in a sadomasochistic relationship.

Agape. This type of love is a combination of eros and storge. This is sacrificial, selfless love. The lover is ready for self-sacrifice in the name of love. In such love there is complete dedication to loved ones, complete acceptance and respect for loved ones. This love combines mercy, tenderness, reliability, devotion, passion. In such love, partners develop together, become better, get rid of selfishness, strive to give more than take something in a relationship. But it should be noted that this kind of love can also be found among friends, but in this case, there will be no sexual attraction, everything else is preserved. Also, such love is spoken of in Christianity - sacrificial love for one's neighbor. Save for a lifetime. But it is very rare.

pragma. This type of love is a combination of ludus and storge. This is rational, rational love or love according to "calculation". Such love does not arise from the heart, but from the mind, that is, it is born not from feelings, but from consciously decision love a specific person. And this decision is based on the arguments of reason. For example, “he loves me”, “he cares about me”, “he is reliable”, etc. This kind of love is selfish. But it can last a lifetime, and a couple with this kind of love may well be happy. Also, pragma can eventually grow into a different kind of love. (With)

phileo love

The word "phileo" implies affection or friendship in the soul realm. Phileo love is manifested in communication in love. This is the highest kind of love. This is a type of brotherly love. This is love on a human level - the highest form of love that humanity can achieve without Christ.

God calls us in marriage to be not only lovers, but also friends, referring these concepts in life to important and valuable ones.

Phileo love is love that reflects what we see in another person and what brings us pleasure. Even unsaved people can experience phileo love. They can see something in another person that brings them pleasure, that pleases them and fascinates them. Their love and attraction between them is based on what is visible and can develop into friendships.

In such love, people share thoughts, feelings, relationships, plans and dreams - the most intimate things they will not share with others. They also spend time together and share common interests. Communication is the cement mortar that keeps a marriage from breaking down. Of course, for full enjoyment in phileo love, the participation of both spouses is required. However, if in an attempt to restore love in marriage, the partner does not respond to efforts on your part, you can show love yourself, expecting a reciprocal interest from the marriage half in the future, while implementing biblical principles in practice. A marriage without a phileo cannot be satisfactory, even with the manifestation of passionate feelings in seclusion in the bedroom. Only in the presence of a phileo will marriage be undoubtedly interesting and rewarding.

agape love

"Agape" means "God's love", or " unconditional love which we just talked about. The Gospel of John (3:16) gives a description of agape love.

Agape love is selfless. She gives herself. Agape love wants the best for other people. In other words, Jesus suffered on the cross not for His own good, but for our salvation. This is agape love: it sacrifices itself for the benefit of another person.

Everything that is said in 1 Corinthians 13 about love describes agape, God's love:

1. She is patient;

2. She is merciful;

3. She does not envy or exalt herself;

4. She is not proud;

5. She does not act out;

6. She is not irritated;

7. She is not looking for her own;

8. She does not think evil;

9. She does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

10. She covers everything;

11. She believes everything;

12. She hopes for everything;

13. She endures everything;

14. She never runs out.

Agape love never hurts another person. She will hurt herself so as not to hurt another. Agape love gives its own, even if it brings suffering and pain.

Agape love never turns away from any person.

Agape love is especially important for those who are trying to save their marriage and restore lost love. Of all the aspects of love, agape can be immediately introduced into your marriage life, because it is carried out through the will and does not rely on feelings.

It is active, not emotional love. She focuses on deeds, not on feelings.

A marriage in which agape love exists can go through all trials! Agape keeps a marriage intact when the natural manifestations of love weaken and die.

Agape love is nothing less than one of the most exciting truths in all of Scripture: Agape love is connected to an eternal source of power and can work when all other forms of love fail. Agape is a feeling of love, regardless of whether the object of love is not worthy of this feeling. Agape is as unconditional as God's unconditional love. This feeling is based on reason and decisive volitional choice. Therefore, you can decide to start loving your spouse with agape love, even if you meet indifference or rejection in response.

All these five kinds of love find their beauty and expression in a marriage relationship in which there is no perversion, but on the contrary, there is a beautiful release and flow of God's Spirit.

The world is hungry for God's love. He's looking for true love, but often takes the opposite for her. Christian marriage should bring light to this world, be an example to follow.

Having found agape love, in which all kinds of love are concentrated, a person will find an ideal married life.

John Alan Lee, a Canadian sociologist, identified some types of love. Their nature is different, which means that some of them lead to the fact that loving people will be able to cheat on their second partners.

1. Eros. Love, which is based on sexual attraction and devotion to a loved one. This feeling is inherent in young people who idealize their partners.

2. Ludus. Love is perceived as a game with that person who experiences a warm feeling. He is self-centered, capable of flirting, which means that he easily enters and just as easily leaves a relationship.

3. Storge. This is a deep love, which is based on a strong and strong friendship. The partner does not experience a strong sexual attraction to his beloved, but he fully trusts and supports him. The only thing that can overshadow such a relationship is betrayal, because it is after this that a person begins to doubt the presence of love in their union and the correct choice of a partner.

4. Mania. Love has the character of an obsessive, emotional and unstable style. Man wants to possess the object of his senses. Jealousy occupies a large place in such relationships, since the obsessed lover is not able to control the feelings experienced.

5. Pragma. This love is characteristic of pragmatic people who start relationships with others only when they meet or agree to certain conditions. Marriage of convenience is their relationship style. There are quivering feelings between such lovers, but in the first place they always have aspirations for certain goals.

6. Agape. Love becomes sacrificial, altruistic and selfless. Only the desires and needs of the other partner are important to a person, and he is ready to endure and wait. Most often, this kind of love appears in those people who have low sexual potential.

The development of your relationship with a partner depends on who and what kind of love is experiencing. good option are those people who strive for one style of feeling. Then they will, as if vying with each other, overtake each other, showing it. Relationships will be much more difficult if your style differs from the style of the feelings of the second half.

So, for example, if your love is ludus, and your partner's love is mania, then get ready for constant scandals and suspicions. For your part, you will give rise to jealousy and quarrels, and your partner will easily play the role of jealous. But if the union is between an agape person and a manic partner, then the relationship can take place. One will completely control the other, and he, in turn, will agree to sacrificial love.

However, it is worth remembering that love can change throughout life. And very often this contributes new partner with whom the relationship begins.

A huge role is played by parents who in one way or another treated a person in childhood. Also, observing the relationship between relatives causes positive or negative emotions. Equally important is the first sexual experience and the sensuality of relations with the first partner. A person goes through certain problems, drawing conclusions for himself about the benefits of one of the types of love.

So that everyone can form harmonious relationship with a beloved partner, two conditions are necessary. The first is a strong bond with the mother, the second is the deep respect of the father. Since children are extensions of their parents, they should establish favorable relationships with their relatives. And the most important thing that young lovers need to know is that at the age of 16-18 a person moves away from his parents, forming his own territory for life. It is an adult who is capable of manifesting a deep feeling of love, and this is facilitated by a personal space where only two develop an alliance.