Does a man really love with his eyes, and a woman with her soul?

What is the difference between a woman's love and a man's?

How to distinguish love from falling in love?

What does the phenomenon of love mean for a man and for a woman?

What place does love take in life for representatives of different sexes?

The nature of the mating strategy of a biological species of people

At the core marriage strategy men and women have the most important and strong instinct - the continuation of the human race.

The need to preserve the species drives people through emotions. At the same time, people often do not realize the true motivation of their actions.

The primitive instinct that arouses in a woman the desire to adorn herself does not say why she should do it - she just likes it. Logic dictates that women do this to attract male attention. It is interesting that the fair sex began to adorn themselves even before they put on clothes.

In order for her to choose, she needs to conquer the maximum number of men. Moreover, for a wider choice, there should be as many of them as possible. Ideally, if she makes everyone fall in love with her male environment. But it will belong to one - the best. It turns out that the meaning of the female primitive marriage strategy is to have the largest possible number of fans.

By the way, in nature there is no such shameful phenomenon as rape. A female of any species can refuse without having any consequences for herself.

From the position of survival for a man, the main thing is to increase his genetic heritage. He should look for as many partners as possible. Biologically, he has no obstacles - he can make children all his life.

A woman must start a family in order to raise children. The survival of the offspring is ensured by a full-fledged family, where there is a mother and father - the breadwinner and protector. Love is the instinctive binding of nature, prompting a fickle man to take care of offspring.

Nowadays, there is no urgent need for the reproduction and preservation of the human species. But the “memory” remained, thanks to which a woman must fulfill her function of childbearing. Without this, she cannot feel absolutely happy. Men do not necessarily want to marry and raise offspring.

So, a woman has an instinctive attitude towards the "family", and a man is looking for "his place in life." Love, as one of the strongest instinctive feelings, is important for a woman emotionally and for fulfilling her feminine destiny.

The power of a woman's love

If a woman has made her choice and found her Man, she will follow him into fire and into water. She is ready to encourage him when he needs support, will be on his side, even when she is not entirely sure that he is right, will listen, even when his words are not at all worthy of attention.

Regardless of his actions and the opinions of his friends, suggesting that he is a weakling and a loser, despite his statements to end the relationship right now, she will live for him. And will not stop fighting for his heart. Contrary to his statement about the failure of her desire to bear the title of His One.

Women's love will overcome any temporary barriers and life obstacles.

But a woman should not think that in return a man will love her the same way.

Because men's love is different and does not look like women's.

A man loves a woman in his own way. He won't call her in half an hour to tell her that he loves her more at 5:30 than he did at 5:00. He will not sit with a woman, stroking her head when she is sick. It is absolutely unrealistic to count on such a sacrificial love of a man.

However, a man's love is also love. Although it is different from the love given and desired by women.

What are the manifestations of male love?

Men love differently than women. A loving man will be ready to do three things that serve as a manifestation of his love: to inform about his love, to contain and protect.

A manifestation of true male love is his willingness to tell everyone: "This is my woman". The woman will be given an official status of a rank higher than just the title of "my girlfriend." This status indicates that he placed a woman in his heart.

This is an opportunity to tell the environment that he is proud of the right to be with a woman, that he has serious plans for her. This is an application for a long-term cordial relationship. This is a conditional code that tells other men "no move."

If you have been dating for more than three months and do not even know his friends, and when introducing him, he introduces you, his girlfriend, so far you have no place in his plans for the future.

A man's calling to provide

For thousands of years, a man has been convinced of his primary purpose - to provide for his family. Under any circumstances, loved ones should not be in need. To become a breadwinner is the meaning of a man's vocation.

Sometimes he just had to meet a woman who would bring out his best qualities: a real woman knows how to convince a man to be a provider.

The man is your protector

If a man loves, anyone who simply thinks of insulting or offending his woman risks being destroyed. A man will sweep away everything in his path to make sure that everyone who treated you disrespectfully paid for it. That is his nature.

Three key needs of a man

Family support

Men need to feel supported, like they're kings, even if they aren't.

A man is constantly in a state of combat readiness, observing and evaluating other men who are nearby. At any moment, he is ready to protect you and all his achievements. Therefore, it is important for him to relax at home. He needs to hear, “Darling, thank you. We love you and need you, we are happy that we have you.

It is important for them to feel like kings, even when they are not behaving like a king. Trust me, the more you let them feel special, the more they will be able to give back to you.

female fidelity

Devotion is a male understanding of female love. Devotion and love are synonyms for a man. The love that a woman demands is beautiful, but a man's love is different from a woman's. She is different. A man's love is an amazingly powerful thing. If women's devotion is true, a man will indeed kill anyone for you without hesitation.

Sex is like air to him

There is nothing else in the world that men would also like constantly and strongly, without which they simply cannot live. A man has a physical need to be connected with the woman he loves. And he realizes this connection by making love to her.

Sensual emotions, hugs, heartfelt conversations - men do it because it is important for women. At the same time, you need to understand that sex connects a man with a woman. It is for him to connect, recharge and re-contact.

For most men, the need for sex is the same as air. Even if a man loves you very much, but at the same time you dose sex, he will have to find it elsewhere. Men understand that different circumstances are possible. You can't just come up with excuses ad infinitum. No matter how much a man loves you, no matter how much he appreciates his status as the head of the family and the owner of the house, as soon as you try to dose sex, problems will definitely arise.

Support. Devotion. Sex. You must provide for these key needs of a man. And in return you will get a man who can move mountains for you and do whatever you want.

As the classic said: “Life is a game. And we are all actors in it. So here it is female love worthy of the highest award for "acting skills". loving woman(if it is really love) - bright, pure, selfless, defenseless, frank, faithful, ambitious, caring. this series can be continued indefinitely!

If a woman has found her man, then she will follow him into fire and into water. She will always support, encourage, even if she is not sure that HE, her man, is right in this situation.

She is always on his side. When he feels bad, she will find words, gestures that will cheer him up. Even if she is not interested, she will listen, comment - because it is necessary in this moment her chosen one.

Women are romantic natures, which is why they suffer. They always expect the same flurry of emotions from men.

No matter how much a man renounces her in his hearts, puts an end to relationships, a woman will still wait and believe, giving him more and more chances to correct the situation. Because she believes in her man, in their relationship. She will find new arguments in favor of her lover to the last. Such is a woman's love.

Women give themselves to love without a trace, put themselves and their feelings on the altar of relationships, regardless of circumstances and facts.

Such is the nature of a woman's love - it stands the test of time, feelings, attitude, logic and circumstances. Remember common phrases: “I believe in real men and other fantastic creatures” or “ A real man doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, earns a lot, is perfectly built, gallant and doesn’t exist”? Why am I, in fact ... If you ask a woman what kind of love she is waiting for or what kind of man, she will answer: I want him to tell me that I am his only one - his half; I want him to be sentimental and romantic; to introduce me to his parents right away, because this is love; I want him to love children, change diapers, wash dishes, while earning a lot and raving about his family.

But, alas and ah, you can’t expect this from men. Just do not think that male love does not exist. She is. It just has a different order. Men have a radically different love, it is much simpler and more direct, but, oddly enough, it is more difficult to get. But don't despair, if a man doesn't call you every half an hour to say that he loves you much more now than half an hour ago, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you.

Men love, even as they love. It's just that their love is different from the love that women expect from them.

So how do you check if your man loves you? Is it really given to you without a trace? It's easy to check: a man in love usually has three traits.

1. He is the owner

Just as the instinct of obtaining is inherent in male nature, there is also another quality - possessiveness. If he loves you and clearly decided that you are the lady of his heart, then he will not miss a single opportunity to indicate this.

Introducing you to colleagues, friends, relatives, others, he will assign you some kind of “title”. For example, if a man says: “this is my girlfriend”, “my lady”, “my princess”, etc., he clearly makes it clear that you are his property. This is Love. By this, he, as it were, cuts off all the thoughts of other men regarding you, hinting that the lady is “busy”. He makes it clear. In general, if your companion loves you, then he will tell everyone and everyone - this is “my woman”!

Because only a loving man who has given you a place in his heart is capable of this. That is, in the future, he sees himself with you, and declares this publicly. This is worth taking seriously. All other men, having heard such a statement, are obliged to give up any thoughts regarding acquaintance with you, which is not just a friendly character. Such a phrase as a prohibitory traffic light. "Stop! She is mine!"

If your companion tells everyone that you are his girlfriend, acquaintance, etc., in this case, do not flatter yourself - this is exactly what you are for him. By saying this, he puts exactly this meaning into the words. You can laugh, but there is confirmation of this, a real example from the life of my friend.

My good friend's brother is a businessman. Luck circled his head like no other, I guess. Each time he came to the monthly family dinners with a new "passion", which he introduced as a girlfriend or acquaintance. pretty girls, embarrassed, smiled at his mother, and in the look it was read - "in fact, we are a couple, he is just still shy." Naturally, the whole family has already developed an “immunity” to such views and the situation as a whole.

But one day the incredible happened. He arrived with a charming person and introduced her as his girlfriend. Everyone looked at each other. And not in vain. A few months later they signed.

So, if you have been dating a guy for about three months, and he has never introduced you to anyone as “his own”, then you are not included in his matrimonial plans. He sees no future with you. You are not there...

But, if he publicly declares that you are his girlfriend (woman), then you have quite a good reason to think that everything is going as it should! After all, only a determined man can say that. He declares his intentions, and to everyone who needs to know it. 2. He earns for two

As soon as a man has claimed his rights to you, schemes begin to build in his head. Now he must earn money for both of you in order to confidently go into the future, knowing that everything will be fine for you and your children. A man must provide.

With mother's milk, a man absorbs the information that he must support his family and take care of the people he loves. No matter how he feels, no matter how the job is, he is the only one his family can rely on. Therefore, a man should make every possible effort to ensure that you and your children do not need anything. Believe me, if a man cannot give something to his family, then his male pride suffers a lot! As the breadwinner, the man must bear all the expenses associated with the family. He can spend money on trifles that you do not understand, but he will never save on you (within reason).

If a man loves, he will not force you, humiliating himself, to ask him for money, he will give it to you himself.

A loving man really appreciates every approval, gratitude, kiss for the fact that he once again brought money for urgent needs and pleasant little things. This increases its importance in the house. He knows that he is doing something useful for his family, so no little thing will lead him astray.

No beautiful car or new tennis racquet can compare to the needs of your loved ones, as nothing compares to the praise from the lips of the woman you love. In addition, it is a smart investment in your future and a happy old age.

Of course, one should not dispute the fact that modern society women are taught to be independent. Emancipation comes to the point that in some families a woman earns much more than a man. In this case, the woman should have enough reason not to point out this shortcoming to the man, because otherwise he will begin to feel dependent and break down psychologically. Naturally, all the tales that everyone should pay for themselves, that a woman is the same equal member of society as a man, gives rise to an incorrect worldview in those men who have nothing serious about you. Such a man will gladly provide you with the opportunity to live on self-sufficiency and will not mind if you sponsor him as well. But when testing a man on this score, do not forget that, quite possibly, he ardently wants to give you everything, but does not have any material opportunities for this.

A man who cannot give his family everything they need is forced to run away from feelings of inferiority all his life.

Many of these break down: they either leave their families, or commit terrible crimes, or become drunkards and lose all interest in life in general. But, believe me, each of them, more than anything else, would like to be able to provide for themselves and their loved ones. Unfortunately, not everyone gets it. As practice shows, there are also men who refuse to share with women. This is a very tricky subspecies of our class. For their own convenience, they even came up with a very tricky term - extortionist. They subtly use it to get everything they want from women, while giving nothing in return.

I will not argue, there are women who live by extorting money. Yes, this is not love. In addition, they still have to pay for what they get with their misused time and sex, which they clearly do not want.

Get out of your head nonsense like "I pay for myself so that he knows that I can provide for myself." Believe me, a loving man needs to know that you need him. If he loves and appreciates you, he will make sure that you do not look at the price column in the restaurant and do not even know how much a movie ticket costs.

Does your man not have the opportunity to provide you the way he would like? In this case, he will compensate for this with other things. He will hang shelves in the house, assemble furniture himself, change windows - all in order to know that you need him. It is important for you to let him know that you really appreciate it and accept his help with sincere gratitude! 3. He is a protector

A man from the cradle knows that he must protect everything that has at least some relation to him, and even more so a woman!

If a man loves you, then he will cruelly suppress any bad thought against you. He will not let you offend, humiliate or offend you in any other way. He will stand up for you even when there are many offenders. Such is nature loving man. He won't let you get hurt.

For a man, your protection is a matter of honor. He must show that he cares about you, especially if he has already indicated his possessive intentions. He must protect what belongs to him. If your companion misses the opportunity to protect you, skips sharp and unpleasant ambiguous jokes past his ears - he does not love you. In addition, he is a boor, because if you came together, he is obliged to intercede for you. So draw your own conclusions.

True, some men should hint at the fact that you would like some kind of care and protection. I constantly hear from all sides that there are no real men left, and women have no one to rely on. Do you know why? Because you women have stopped demanding protection from men, you are tirelessly trying to convince everyone that you are independent and strong. If a man sees that you can very well fend for yourself, he feels unnecessary.

Let's recap. Stop thinking of a man as an insensitive chump. Just admit it - men love differently. Build relationships on this. Stop demanding sentimentality from men and enjoy the confidence that you have someone who will stand up for you.

Don't expect the impossible. A man will not listen to how bad you feel and sit near your bed, but he will go to the pharmacy and buy all the necessary medicines, he will not go shopping with you all day looking for a dress “like that girl from the movie”, but he will give you have money for it, etc.

If your man cares about you, calls you "his", does not allow the thought that someone can do you bad - your man is priceless, take care of him!

Most women don't really know how to tell if they are loved. Even wise mademoiselles are hardly familiar with the main qualities of male love. But what about young naive girls? After all, they do not understand at all how to distinguish the true love of a woman for a man from sweet pleasures. Let's try to figure this out.

Unfortunately, women and men see love differently. At times, this becomes a serious cause for controversy. However, do not forget that the feeling of falling in love is one for two. Just a man and a woman are two different galaxies. Nature conceived us as mutually attracted plus and minus. One thing remains unchanged - we, undoubtedly, always need one another! Unfortunately, in love, we express our emotions in completely different languages. That is why it is sometimes so difficult to reach mutual understanding.

Diametrical opposites

A woman needs constant communication with a man. It is extremely important for her to evoke emotions in him, which is direct evidence of falling in love. No wonder they say: "If a woman has stopped dripping on her brains, you have already lost her." A man, on the contrary, keeps everything inside himself, trying to seem indifferent! He resolutely does not perceive constant conversations, declarations of love. In the resulting pair, one always loves, and the other allows you to love. It is no wonder that feelings are shown mainly by a woman. Since ancient times, nature has insidiously laid this need in it. A couple who knows and accepts this fact can avoid unnecessary quarrels and resentments in the future.

Recognition of one's feelings causes a genuine fear of responsibility in the stronger sex. For most, the response to this phrase is tantamount to an oath. A truly in love man will sincerely rejoice at the achievements of his beloved, appreciate the aspirations, and take on the solution of any problems. A man's love for a woman can be expressed in the amount of time he spends. As a rule, ladies rarely see this as a demonstration of feelings.

Expectations from developing relationships are also different. For example, women want to feel attention, care, tenderness and respect from their man. And the strong half of humanity wants to be perceived only as they are. Therefore, lovers try to give each other what they themselves desire. Unfortunately, this is a false path to the opponent's heart. Do not forget that even being together, we are still completely different.

Maintaining relationships is hard work!

Naturally, disagreements also occur in daily relationships. For example, women, in the opinion of men, need attention over trifles. Due to the hardness of their character, they are absolutely immune to such trifles. However, understanding this fact sometimes requires serious consideration. A woman suffering from a lack of attention eventually becomes irritable, nervous. As a result of this, any communication with a man will suffer, or it will result in a search for attention on the side.

And yet the love of a woman and a man is expressed in what way? A further distinction is a consequence of the phrase "A man loves with his eyes, a woman with her ears." It is for this reason that it is easy to captivate a lady with sweet words, and a gentleman cannot help but notice the slenderness of long legs. Accordingly, in order for him to stop looking around, there must be a sexy, fantasy-exciting woman with him. Relationship psychologists have long confirmed that male sexual attraction and the feeling of falling in love correspond to completely different parts of the brain. Based on this, polygamy is inherent in a man. He believes that his masculinity is expressed in the number of women.

In connection with the work of different parts of the brain, the attitude towards physical intimacy in women and men is also different. For the weaker sex, sex is a kind of process that requires a serious approach to choosing a partner. In the view of a man, love and sex are not equal! At times even the most faithful man looking for intimate sensations on the side. Unfortunately, physiology is to blame. There can be no talk of mutual understanding here!

Everyone knows that one hundred percent compatibility of a man is a guarantee strong relationship. Moreover, the main role here is played not only by sexual, but also by natural, as well as psychological compatibility. Years later, sexual attraction no longer actually plays a special role. Unfortunately, love does not at all provide mutual understanding and support in everyday life. Misunderstanding can destroy any idyll in a relationship, igniting conflict. To get even a little closer to mutual understanding, you need to make a lot of efforts.

Character

To identify compatibility, describe different traits in two columns. In the first, indicate all the positive qualities of the partner, in the second, fix what irritates. Think about where you are ready to give in, and what does not suit your partner's behavior at all. However, there is one condition. Evaluation should be impartial, and not based only on emotions alone. Psychologists advise such a test to be performed together with a partner. Perhaps, after comparing the overall results, you will be able to come to a mutual decision.

Psychology

It can be identified as follows. List your values ​​on a piece of paper in descending order. In other words, the most significant indicators: family, friends, work, funds. Further, each of the partners separately lists all the responsibilities with their own understanding of the situation. The test is formed in the similarity of its results, and not in coincidence on all points. It’s good if a man supported women’s views on love, relationships. A woman is then ready to create a real happy relationship. If one of the partners put the family in the first place, and the other - a career, then this is a serious reason for conflicts and contradictions.

partnership

Partner compatibility is the main indicator of the ability to manage a common budget. The financial discrepancy between the partners will lead to significant contradictions. Agree, if the budget of the chosen one consists solely of spending on himself, you are unlikely to like this situation. In this case, psychologists also advise each of the partners to plan a budget on a piece of paper. Then compare the results of your lists, focusing not on contradictions but on similarities. However, one should not forget that full compatibility cannot be achieved without a unity of interests.

Temperament

Undoubtedly, romantic walks with a lover, his ability to provide for you, is wonderful. However, this is not enough! The guarantee of a happy, lasting relationship lies in the compatibility of sexual temperaments. In addition to the pleasant sensations, as well as the health benefits, sex can resolve almost any conflict. Also, a curious theory about what depends on the zodiac horoscope enjoys a positive reputation. Perhaps you should pay attention to the date of birth of your partner?

Basic principles of temperaments

Temperaments should be at least adjacent. For example, if a man has a high score and a woman has a low score, the relationship will be on the brink of failure. The same situation occurs when a man and a woman change roles. Partners will constantly feel uncomfortable. They will feel like there is something wrong with them.

People with a high temperament experience constant desire. Usually their experimental sex life starts at early age, and the number of partners grows throughout life. Statistically, the height of a temperamental man is usually no more than average. It looks quite proportional. As for women, the owners of wide hips or magnificent forms are also often very temperamental women. Ladies of small stature and short legs are also not bad in bed.

Researchers argue that similar temperaments are characteristic of people with similar heights. So petite girls should not look for a partner among tall men. Such couples often face various difficulties in sex.

For owners of a low type of temperament, intimate life always occupies an insignificant place. The process of puberty in such people is usually delayed. They easily tolerate significant pauses in sex. And if once they chose a partner, then this is for life.

According to statistics, about 80% of humanity belongs to none other than middle group. For example, high growth clearly indicates an insufficiently bright temperament.

What is absolute love?

The feeling of love is not limited exclusively to the relationship between a man and a woman. It can be much wider. This is how esotericism presents the love of a woman and a man. Most of the world's religions are built on absolute love. Take, for example, Christianity in the image of Jesus Christ, where one of the three virtues along with Faith and Hope is Love. It can be called Agape, which in translation from ancient Greek means "gratuitous, selfless love." It does not manifest itself as a physical passion, but is based on a spiritual connection that lasts for years, and even until the very deathbed.

Mistakes of the present

There is too much masculine energy in today's women. They have learned to love! Due to the weakened energy necessary for procreation, the fair sex began not to inspire, but to give. They forgot, women and men! If a man wants to win a woman's love, he must win the battle in her eyes. And a woman, in order to take possession of a man's heart, needs to lose this battle.

For example, the destructive love of a woman for a man can manifest itself in excessive concern for her son. In this case, the mother interferes with the proper development masculine. Or the wife, confusing relations with her husband, turns into a parting "mommy". Such a manifestation of energy is a male version of creation. A woman should be a faithful wife, a helper for her husband. Undoubtedly, the distortion of energies entails a violation of the correct interchange. That is why there are so many disagreements between a woman and a man.

Energy interchange

If a woman accepts her lover without further ado, she awakens in him a desire to give the power of his feelings. A woman's love for a man is based on 4 energies: respect, patience, humility, tenderness. When a woman radiates the appropriate energies, she inspires her man to generosity. In addition, an invisible energy-protective field is literally formed around him, fueling his forces. Such a field is able to protect the success of a man, his emotional balance.

Men to women manifest themselves in bestowal. He is obliged to give his beloved his care, means and shelter. However, when a man does not meet the return, he stops giving, starting to accumulate. A strong half of humanity is in dire need of a woman not to educate, but to love and accept her chosen one as they are.

Man and woman are reflections of each other. In such a crooked mirror, everything that no one wants to know about himself is reflected.

natural needs

A woman expects to see a breadwinner, a protector, support in a man. He, in turn, expects tenderness and care from her. In order to complement each other, everyone is looking for those qualities in a partner that he himself lacks. As representatives of the gentle sex do not recognize weak men, likewise, the powers that be do not perceive this. So what, in fact, expresses the true love of a woman and a man? She needs protection, and he needs faith in him, only in this case we can feel loved.

The idea of ​​nature is such that a man and a woman understand love in different ways, striving for a common goal. That is why it is extremely important to take into account our dissimilarity. Unfortunately, we rarely have the prudence to understand that we are two diametrical opposites. Therefore, we do not cease to expect from each other a mirror analogy in opinions, assessments and explanations of everything that happens. So what to do? How to understand what is real love women to a man? You just need to notice exceptionally good qualities in the chosen one, paying less attention to the shortcomings. Be patient, do not break, but accept in your partner the essence that is inherent in nature. Love and be happy!

Falling in love is an indescribable feeling, when at the sight of the “object” of this feeling, the heartbeat quickens, the legs become wadded, a nervous trembling runs through the body and, in addition to everything, porridge forms in the head.

From a scientific point of view, at this point in the human body, many chemicals are produced (adrenaline, dopamine, oxytocin and vasopressin) that cause a state of euphoria, similar to the effect of cocaine.

There are several hallmarks of how men and women fall in love.

The emergence of a feeling

From the point of view of psychology, such a state can arise for many reasons. Falling in love is usually the result of a combination of circumstances. A woman is initially prepared for such a state by internal psychological changes. It can be an unsuccessful previous love, family troubles, lack of thrills.

Subconsciously, a woman simply begins to look for a “victim” on whom these emotions could be splashed out, to find her “master key”. And then this combination of circumstances comes: the woman begins to feel that very “victim”, gradually this feeling turns into an awareness of the fact of falling in love.

How men fall in love - often it happens spontaneously under the influence of emotions most often. So, for a woman, love is logic, and for a man, it is emotions?

Criteria for choosing the second half:

1. Smell. Many scientists believe that the attraction of opposite sexes is due to the smell. It is not at all necessary that a man / woman smells of sweat at this moment. It might be a pleasant scent. toilet water, which, mixed with a personal smell, will make the very bouquet that attracts a woman.

2. Deed. A woman can look at a man with completely different, loving eyes if he performs some unexpected act, for example, demonstrates his strength, kindness or decency. The effect of surprise is triggered, the woman does not expect this from a man at all, she is very surprised.

So she was wrong, and he was not at all as cold, callous, or weak as he seemed. New qualities are being opened up, in which it is quite possible to fall in love without looking back. How do men fall in love? A man falls in love with movements, gait, gestures, manner of speaking.

3. Personal charm. A man / woman can evoke very strong feelings for themselves if they turn on all their charm as much as possible. Will be long time show a woman those qualities that she prefers.

It is precisely such, cheerful, witty and charming men that women give preference to, not seeing immediately behind the shell of his inner qualities. A man begins to pay attention to internal qualities in the course of living together, but appearance still remains decisive in falling in love.

4. Pity. This is perhaps the most unfortunate option for a woman to fall in love. As for how a man falls in love, the representatives of the stronger sex cannot love at all because of pity. Relationships based or anchored on this feeling will “burst” sooner or later.

A man often exposes himself to a woman as a victim of circumstances that have arisen or tells some facts from his life that cause a feeling of pity in a woman.

At this moment, internal maternal instincts are triggered, there is a desire to pity and caress the poor thing. By nature, these are such male victims, little boys who are looking for their mother in a woman, so that she always protects and cares for him.

5. If for ladies appearance- not the main thing in the assessment of a man, then for the stronger sex it is decisive when choosing a life partner. So many women first fall in love with the appearance of a man and only then proceed to consider his personal human qualities. Every woman has preferences for the color of hair, eyes, physique of a man.

And when she so sharply meets exactly the one who matches her ideal, she begins to understand that here he is, the same man, as if drawn in the imagination. But it also happens that love arises for a completely non-typical image.

Today I accidentally stumbled on the Internet on the words of a well-known neo-Hindu guru and mystic Osho about what love means for a woman and a man. After reading his reasoning, it dawned on me. And I wanted to make his words the basis for my article. Perhaps someone will read and also understand for themselves those things that they did not understand before. Indeed, for each person the meaning and understanding of the word “love” is individual. Everyone understands this bright and wonderful feeling in their own way. And the most interesting thing is that for a man and a woman the concept of love is completely different. I emphasize ABSOLUTELY DIFFERENT. Surprisingly, it is.

Well, imagine that love is the sea, the right bank is the female awareness of love, and the left bank is the male. In general, it turned out that we conditionally divided love into two camps. Let's consider this in detail. And so, what does love mean for a woman? For a woman, love is her whole life, but what is there to trifle for her, love is the meaning of life. And for a man, love is a rest, or rather a place of his rest. I'll explain now. Well, look, a male writer writes poetry, works, books; a male musician creates beautiful music; a male artist draws chic, original and unique paintings - in a word, a man creates bestsellers in his field - all this has its own material and spiritual value for him, but all these creations created by him are not connected with love. Well, let him draw his picture for a day, two, maybe even a week, months - but over time, his strength recedes and he gets tired of painting this picture. He needs rest. And what does the man do? Where does he get this rest? A woman… in her warm embraces… in her radiated energy of caress and tenderness. A man wants to drown in love, he wants to forget temporarily from all his perfect deeds during the day, he wants to dissolve in the source of love that a woman gives him. A man loves when he gets his desired rest from this. And when he gets that rest, then he goes to paint his picture again. For him, love is a place of rest, where he can come from wild fatigue and just relax. From this it follows that love for a man is the necessary basis and foundation of his activity; it is needed in order to do other things: draw pictures, write music, etc. But for a woman, the opposite is true. For her, love is her whole life; for her, love is like oxygen, she breathes it. A woman will do other things just because she truly loves. If a woman does not love, if love does not live in her heart, then she will not do anything at all; then she stops doing anything at all.

Therefore, I so want all men and women to wish to live with love in their hearts. Well, let each of us have our own concept of love, but for all of us, women and men, life without love is not life, it's just existence ... no more ...

Olesya RENARD. Especially for the youth Internet magazine Bullet.NET