We live in a society and there are many people around us. At school, at the institute, at work, and even in a bakery - it seems that we are never alone. And, nevertheless, for some of us in this human abundance around, it is very difficult to become sociable, it is easy to find new friends, to enjoy friendship. And I was like that. This is my story about how I became cheerful, sociable and interesting, and now I do not suffer from loneliness at all.

"How to become more sociable!? Where to find friends?" - this question has always tormented me, it beat in my brain and did not give rest - "It's not normal that I'm like that." And yet, with all my desire, I remained a very closed person who had no friends at all. This is despite the fact that I am not disabled, I have never been outside of society, I, like everyone else, studied at school, at the institute, worked in a large team, went to the pool and yoga, learned English and much more. But there was always some burden of loneliness. It seems like there are familiar people, but there are no friends. And communication somehow, well, does not tie up at all with anyone in the world.

How I suffered that I could not find new friends

I don't know how to describe it exactly, but I think those who have experienced this tearing feeling of loneliness, pleasant and unpleasant at the same time, will understand me. On the one hand, it has always been very difficult for me to get in touch with new people. No, no, I can say hello, find out the name, talk, but ... further, - like a wall. What to talk about with him? How to be more sociable if you don't know what to talk about? Around what to build friendship? It seems like I want to be friends, but I don’t know how to be friends. And most importantly, others are friends. Why can't I?
On the other hand, if a person imposed himself on me as a friend, I always immediately became a real frowning hedgehog and tried with all my might to escape from this communication. I came up with a thousand reasons why I didn’t want to communicate, which probably sounded completely idiotic. But at such a moment, one thing has always been important to me - to unhook from the annoying person as soon as possible. I didn’t even understand why, I just ran away and that’s it. Very often in the truest sense of the word. It was at such moments that the question of how to become more sociable did not exactly occur to me.

I constantly suffered from my loneliness. Sometimes I wanted to take a walk around the city with someone, talk about nothing with a girlfriend, go to the movies - well, how can you do all this alone? If there was at least someone ... Only what kind of girlfriend can there be, if such desires rarely arise in me. Girls then need close communication with a cheerful, sociable girlfriend, and not vice versa. Well, at least that's how it seemed to me at the time.

I remember as a child, before the 4th grade, I really liked to sit at home, on the balcony. From the fourth floor, I could clearly see the playground and the children who were playing there. But I never joined them myself - my parents got tired of kicking me out of the house and abandoned this business, leaving me alone on the balcony, in proud loneliness. At that time, I had only one girlfriend, a neighbor Tanya, and even then - emotionally she often annoyed me. Therefore, I took a break in our relationship, pretended that I was not at home (did not open the door) and sat on the balcony. I liked the kids on the playground, they played rubber bands and hopscotch, they ran. And I also ran and jumped in my dreams, I was very cheerful and sociable - moreover, I imagined myself as a ringleader in games, it seemed to me that I was winning, and everyone was jealous of me. I often imagined that all these children are my relatives, good friends who do not have a soul in me. That they vied with each other to call me to play, invite me to birthday parties, they want to be friends with me, and not vice versa. But all this was only in dreams. Like an invisible line, the glass on the balcony seemed to separate me from the rest of society. Did I want to be like everyone else? Yes. Did I want to play like them? Yes. Did I want to be cheerful, sociable? Yes. Did I want to be the center of attention? Oh yeah! And I had it all. But only in my imagination.

But in fact, I didn’t communicate with anyone and didn’t really understand why. Then, as a child, I noticed that my expressions of emotions were somehow different from those of everyone else. I remember our class teacher was very ill, in the 6th grade, and she was gone for 2 whole months. And then she suddenly entered the classroom, so beautiful and terribly joyful, and all the girls rushed to her, began to hug, kiss - they laughed, cried, rejoiced. And I stood aside. And I directly felt that I was standing like an idol. Somehow abnormal, not like everyone else. There was no particular facial expression on my face, although I was also very happy that the teacher had returned. Now I understand that I experienced very deep emotions, no less than my peers, but deep in my soul. And there was nothing wrong with my behavior. But then I scolded myself terribly and on the way home I imagined how I would also throw myself into the arms of the teacher and in general.

How I imagined myself becoming more outgoing and making many friends

Since then, it has become a habit for me to imagine friendship or emotions, and very strong and vivid ones. Every time an event happened in which I did not participate emotionally, like everyone else, I scolded myself and imagined what I should have done. And next time, I thought, it will be just that. But the next time I came, and again I was an unemotional idol, unable to adequately behave in society. Well, how could I become more sociable, more cheerful, how to make new friends? Only in dreams! But with dreams you can’t go for a walk or to the cinema!

When I bought my first mobile phone, then I scored only 4 names there, 2 of which were my relatives, and one more was a teacher from the institute, and the fourth was the head of the group from whom I took all the tasks. I felt so sad, and I asked around for phones from fellow students. I entered them into the memory of the phone, although I knew that I would never, ever call them. Simply because I have nothing to say to them. And they never call me because they didn't even ask for my number. Nobody called me or sent me a text message. And when a terrible longing for loneliness came over me, then I sent myself sms with congratulations, cute remarks and emoticons.

It always seemed to me that I was some kind of extra person in the group, in the team. How to become more sociable? Cheerful and resourceful? Is that even possible, or do people like me not deserve to make new friends? It seems to be as I am, as if they are talking to me. But they don’t take me in the company, they don’t invite me to drink beer (by the way, if I were invited, I would immediately refuse, but the fact itself!) Other people express emotions, rejoice, gossip, discuss something, but I don’t at all . As in childhood, I am like an idol - if I remember to force myself to smile at a crucial moment, then I will still look more or less normal. What if I forget, and if it's the birthday cake at work?

I seemed to be a good person. I didn't harm anyone. I am a kind, sweet, sympathetic, but ... too distant person. And just as I distanced myself from everyone, so they distanced themselves from me.

Everything has changed today. I'm not like that at all - I easily get in touch with people and I have many friends. I am not interested in how to become more sociable, simply because I never have problems with communication. Not because I changed facial expressions, but because I know the psychology of a person, and at first glance I understand with whom it will be interesting and comfortable for me, and who will be too intrusive for me and with whom it will be difficult for me. I learned all this with the help of Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology. And you, too, can just as easily find new friends, make acquaintances, become more sociable, thanks to this training. Sign up for free classes by going to this link, and a little lower, let's try to figure out through the spectrum of system-vector thinking what was the reason for my isolation and the inability to communicate normally with other people.

Why is it so hard for some people, like me, to be fun social and make new friends easily?

Let's take a look at the situation first. A huge number of friends, constant communication, a cheerful, stormy life - this is actually a rarity, advertised in beautiful Hollywood films. The vast majority of people don't live like that. Ordinary people have a family, a few friends, a small circle of acquaintances, and this is quite enough for them for a comfortable life.

There are, however, people who seem to us to be individuals with a large number of friends. These are people who have an oral vector. They are by nature jokers, first they speak, and then they think. Oralnik very easily comes into contact with absolutely strangers, tells jokes, becomes the soul of the company. This communication is in no way connected with friendship or long-term, spiritual contacts, although outwardly it may seem that way to us.

So, everyone loves oralists and everyone laughs at their jokes. They are very sociable and have no problem making new friends. There are only 5% of such people, and if you don’t have an oral vector (you can determine this at the training in system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan, then you won’t be able to become such a person. Of course, you can try, strain and play the role of an oral vector, but why do you not his own life, but the life of a completely different person. In fact, it will not bring any joy and happiness. The oral singer is naturally endowed with his talent - he makes people laugh and becomes the head of the company because this is his role in society, and not because he wants to be the center of attention, he just manages to be the center of attention - without tension or play.

If a non-oralist tries to tell an anecdote of an oralist in another company, even repeating it word for word, then most likely it will somehow turn out to be completely not funny, and even the narrator himself will feel it. The nature of the oral man is to make him laugh, and he acquires this skill from birth.

There are other extroverts, these are spectators, and urethrals, and skin workers - everyone has their own desires and their own relationship with the group of people that surrounds them. They communicate with others in their own way, build relationships. But then again, if by nature you are not such a person, then these roles will not suit you either.

There are also people who find it difficult to find new friends, make acquaintances - these are by nature introverts, they are less sociable. Not in the sense that they are bad - they just have different needs, different desires. They are more closed and it is difficult for them to communicate with others: these are people who, for example, have an anal vector - they have ONE childhood friend, they communicate with classmates until old age, but it’s hard for them to make new friends, as they are very conservative. And for the most part, they don't want to. The same introverts are a person with a muscular vector, and with an olfactory one - but they do not suffer from their desire to be alone.

But the situations that are described above that happened to me are typical problems of a person with a sound vector.

The sound engineer is the biggest introvert and it is very difficult for him to go out into people, to communicate. Too dense, intrusive communication is painful for him, one might say unpleasant. And at the same time, he wants to communicate - somewhere deep in the subconscious, it is people with a sound vector, at least in a developed state, who understand that the people around them are very important, moreover, they want to communicate with a large number of people, they dream of this. But how to implement all this? The task seems impossible, but it is not.

People shouldn't force themselves and should not try to be like someone else: even if it is the most promoted image in movies or books. We are happy not when we play someone else's role, but when we fully understand our desires. We are who we are. And we are very comfortable with the same as ourselves. Especially, this is important for sound people.

Sound people need to communicate more with people like themselves - people with a sound vector. It is in this, albeit a small circle, that one can find common interests. It is here that they do not expect jokes, but they want knowledge of the universe, they want spiritual communication, and not a simple ha-ha-ha. Moreover, in the circle of the same as himself, the sound engineer will not feel either the obsession of the environment or loneliness. Having found that very sound vector in ourselves, having determined all its desires, having understood ourselves to the end, we, sound engineers, can find real great joy from communicating with other people.

The easiest way for a sound engineer to find others, the same sound engineers as himself, and to discover the world of interesting communication and friendship for himself, is at trainings in system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan. It was after completing these trainings that I had exactly as many friends as I needed - I don’t write SMS to myself, I don’t miss the evenings by the window, I don’t dream of friendship. I know people with whom I am comfortable and who are comfortable with me. And I'm happy to be with them.

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If a person is lonely, if he has neither a girlfriend, nor a boyfriend, nor friends, this is a difficult and painful situation. There are no people in the world who constantly want to be alone. Yes, it is, of course, sometimes necessary, you want to be alone with yourself, but this is a temporary state. Sooner or later, anyway, you want to communicate.

Do you often think about “why I don’t have friends”? Feeling lonely? So, this article is for you, we will try to figure it out:

with the reasons for your loneliness;

Let's find a way out of the situation.

But, first of all, we want to note that in 9 out of 10 cases, the problem lies with you. Perhaps it is you who are doing something wrong and scaring others around you.

Why don't I have friends?

It is difficult to recognize one's own mistakes and quirks, and not everyone can be self-critical either. However, these qualities are very useful to have, especially if you want to have more friends.

We will look at 5 main mistakes, due to which a person does not have good friends or close people.

№ 1: You constantly complain

Constant grumbling and whining can be the reason why you don't have friends. Judge for yourself, if you are on the negative so often that you don’t even notice it, then there is nothing surprising in the fact that no one wants to communicate with you.

Any psychologist will tell you that such behavior is selfish. By constantly complaining (it doesn’t even matter what: life, relationships, work, and so on), you express your own opinion, and that is what is important to you. Moreover, everyone else must agree. So?

And in fact, not at all. Such behavior, in most cases, annoys people. And they just do not want to communicate with such whiners.

№ 2: You forgot about your friends

This often happens when we meet a soul mate. And it's only natural that at the beginning of a relationship you want to spend as much time as possible with your partner. But friends also need attention.

If this is not done, they may feel exploited and offended. And, by the way, there will be nothing surprising in this. Wouldn't you be offended if someone turned to you only out of boredom or for help? That's the same. Friendships must be respected!

Is your new love does it really take up all your free time? Can't you spare a few hours for your friends?

Being in love very often blinds us so much that we begin to forget about loved ones: we meet with them less often, we call up less often. And if we do this, then only "on business."

Never leave your friends when you have new partner. You might end up breaking up with him. True friends are a great treasure.

№ 3: Expectations Too High

One more possible reason for which you have no friends - too high expectations from them. This phenomenon is also often found in relationships between a man and a woman.

When you expect certain things from others, it can sometimes be difficult for the other person to live up to those expectations. It is important to understand that no one will behave in a certain way just because you want them to. Free yourself and those around you from your inflated expectations and hopes. All this destroys friendship.

№ 4: You have low self-esteem

Another common reason for not having friends is low self-esteem. This directly affects the occurrence of difficulties with interpersonal relationships. People with low self-esteem often isolate themselves from society, and this must be combated. Ask a psychologist for advice, the doctor will help you solve the problem, and you will finally be able to meet new people.

Tip: start going to the gym or sign up for interesting courses. This way you will understand that there are other people who are friendly and could well be your friends.

Be open to new acquaintances!

Hello! The thing is, I don't have any real friends. I am 18 years old and currently in my first year. As a child, up to 10 years old, I had friends, then we often moved, I changed schools and strong friendships were not formed with anyone.

Then there was a company of friends, we met, talked, but I gradually began to feel that I was not interested in them, and I seemed to them some kind of stranger. Different interests, different perception of the world.

So I gradually moved away from them, now we do not communicate.

Then, at art school, I sort of found friends with whom I was mutual language, interests. But as soon as the artist was finished, some of them disappeared, I only communicate with others in the net. In a new school, in class 8, I was closed, because I was jarred that the "leaders" - the boys scoffed, humiliated people who were not like them (although more worthy and decent guys).

I was also ridiculed at first, but I managed to stand up for myself and in high school I was respected and not touched. Classmates were more like friends, not friends.

It happens that I find people with whom it is interesting to communicate, and I think that over time we will become good friends, but all of them either already have or are gradually making good friends, and I am somewhere in the background. And it’s not clear what’s the matter - in me? Or just the wrong people?

So it turns out that I have many good friends and acquaintances, but there is no one to go somewhere with. Lately I started to worry a lot about this. Life is passing by. Previously, this was only on vacation, when you sit at home without getting out.

It always seemed that I would start going there (for example, dancing) - I would definitely find a girlfriend, I thought that I would have to wait a bit and friends would appear. Now I am terrified that I will wait my whole life.

On holidays, weekends, my peers all go somewhere, and I'm at home and in order not to be sad, I try to spend time productively. I go out at least once a month.

And it seems to me that I will never have a boyfriend either (I have never even met anyone) ((. A few months ago, this did not depress me. she had boyfriends.

As soon as I turned 18, loneliness became very, very oppressive.

I am quite sociable, but unobtrusive, open, I not only listen but also hear people, if it is interesting to communicate with a person, I do not pay attention to any character flaws, clothes, appearance. I don’t want to seem boastful, but I think that I understand people well and I understand people well, because I am very interested in psychology.

Now, at the university, I found friends, but I'm afraid that I will become a “fallback option” for them, because they already have closer friends. I don’t have sisters of the same age either, I would be happy if they were.

Mom says that maybe I still keep some distance with people, I don’t open up too much, although I don’t think so. She doesn't have any friends, only acquaintances.

Help me, I don't know what to do. I understand that I need to change something in myself, but I don’t know what.

Old friends are like your favorite jeans. They are reliable and undemanding. They are always there, but unobtrusive. They are patched in places, but still perfect. We've known them for so long that it seems like they've always been around. But life is such that over time, people's paths diverge, and when old friends begin to appear less and less in your life, the question is: how to find friends with whom you do not know yet, but who will become a great company at the current stage of your life.

Five reasons to make new friends

Strong friendship is a great value that must be preserved and cherished. Of the entire social circle, only old friends are ready to accept you as you are, with all the advantages and disadvantages, and do not require anything in return. Throughout our lives, we may have dozens or even hundreds of acquaintances, but there are always only a few really close friends. And these relationships are usually enough. Having a couple of proven friends is so convenient that many do not even have a desire to make new friendly acquaintances. Sometimes it even frightens, and it is quite justified, because it is difficult to let a new, outsider into your personal, intimate experiences. Very often, friendships begin in childhood and last throughout life.

It's great! But there are several reasons why you should expand your social circle and find new friends (of course, without parting with old ones):

• Each new friend is a new social circle, and, as a result, an opportunity to find even more new friends, and, therefore, new opportunities.

• Communication with new people is usually more difficult than with old acquaintances. It makes you leave your comfort zone for a while, and although this may not seem like the best effect, it will bring big dividends later. After all, as you know, a person actively develops only when he goes through something new and unusual.

I hope you agree that making new friends is great? If so, here are ten ways to make friends. Note that they all require effort, because friends do not just fall from the sky. But, as we found out, it's worth it!

Ten Ways to Make New Friends and Keep Old Friends

I have a proven method - I wrote about it in this article:.

Ten more ways-theses how to find friends for you to think about:

• Before looking for friends, you should think a little and understand what you would most like to get from this friendship? Do you need a colleague with whom you can share your work joys and solve problems? Or a partner who shares your hobby or trains with you? Or do you just want to meet someone sociable that will expand your circle of acquaintances? There are many options, but it’s still worth deciding right away so as not to waste time trying to find friends not where they might be.

• The most obvious way is to look for friends in their habitats. Interest groups and clubs, organizations related to your hobby are at your disposal. Even for the most shy, a good way is to communicate on forums and in groups in in social networks. Look for people discussing interesting topic, and get in.

• Learn the art of conversation, and you will always easily join any company. For someone, chatting about everything in the world is as natural as breathing, and some in an unfamiliar company cannot even squeeze out a word. And at the same time, they lose not only the opportunity to attract attention to themselves (maybe they don’t need it), but also to find points of contact with others. There is nothing wrong with communication. To find friends, ask questions, be sincerely interested in the interlocutor during the conversation, without being distracted by anything else. If you are communicating with a stranger, then mention your name several times and, possibly, other important information that he will remember and later associate with you. And in any conversation, try to get the contacts of the interlocutor - phone, VK, e-mail, anything else, in order to be able to continue communication in the future.

• Use every opportunity to expand your circle of acquaintances. If you came to a party, then do not limit yourself to communicating only with your company. Approach someone, introduce yourself, strike up a conversation, even if it’s “about the weather.” Be a sincere storyteller and an attentive listener, and this conversation can be the first step towards a further strong friendship.

• Be the initiator. If you have met someone, then at the first opportunity invite him to meet and continue communication. It can be lunch in a cafe or a trip to the cinema or to the stadium. Recall what common interests you have and how you can use it. If a newcomer has come to your team, then invite him for tea. If you're on a train, get to know and interact with your fellow travelers instead of snoring calmly on the top bunk. Many people are simply embarrassed to be the first to start a conversation, so feel free to take the initiative - this will only make it better.

• Make friends with your neighbors. Often the most strong friendship starts on the stairs. Of course, figuratively speaking. And the surprising thing is that many people simply do not know anything about their neighbors. Always be friendly and responsive, invite for tea, offer help - and sooner or later this attitude will serve you well. Whatever one may say, neighbors are people very close to you, even if only geographically :)

• If you have friends on the Internet, then try to make virtual communication a reality. Let your friend live in another city, you can invite him to visit or offer to meet, being in his area passing through. The strongest friendship is tied up in reality, face to face, and not through a faceless ICQ window. And remember that for the first time such meetings are best held in a public, crowded place, this will alleviate some embarrassment and be easier for both of you.

• Maintain friendship. Once you start a relationship, maintain it, not forgetting about a new acquaintance. Call or write to find out how his work is progressing, if you mentioned it at the meeting. Not a job means a family, a car, something else ... I'm sure you will find a topic. If you need a reason to call, then he is always with you - this is good mood. "Today is a great day, and I just thought - let's call my good friend." Do not be afraid to seem intrusive, people are usually pleased with the interest in their person. And even better to help a person in something, if you have such an opportunity.

• Remember to be polite and respectful. Of course, real friends can always drop by at half past five in the morning and brazenly demand coffee :) But still, don’t think that if a person calls you his friend, then this is a reason to forget about good manners and politeness. Be open and honest, don't gossip about your friends, don't tell their secrets, and don't lie to them. Be grateful to your friends, and their number will only grow.

• If you and a friend have not shared something, then do not go on principle and take the first step towards reconciliation. Earning the trust and respect of another person is very difficult, but destroying a friendship is easier than it might seem. Therefore, never delay reconciliation with friends until they have led to a complete break. friendly relations. Take care of friendship, and if you are often angry with a friend and do not want to see him, then try to cool down and finally decide how important this friendship is to you.

If you have a new friend, then introduce him to the others. You have every opportunity to weave beautiful pattern, in which the connections between your friends will be the connecting threads. And the larger your social circle, the more beautiful and brighter this pattern will be, and with it your life! I hope I answered your question about how to find friends.

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Even if you find it difficult to connect with people, you can easily make friends. Just take the first step and you will be surprised how easy it is.

In fact, potential friends surround us everywhere - at the university, at work, even in your porch. Every person can become your friend. Often, only one thing prevents this - each of you does not know the other very well, and you did not find yourself in situations that would bring you together for real. However, it's only a matter of time... and your willingness to take that very first step, to open up to someone.

What does "friendship" mean to you?

It is important to understand what exactly you mean by this concept. Indeed, for some, a friend is someone who is ready to help and give advice in difficult times, and for someone, a person with whom you can have fun and have a good time. But there are many more options. Try to imagine those people whom you could call your true friends (by the way, given that all our thoughts are material, it is likely that in such an unusual way you will “call” them into your life).

Start attracting people to you

There are such "sunny" personalities who instantly captivate others - you want to listen to them, you want to talk with them and just be there. Moreover, there is usually no romantic connotation in this - it's the same as sitting near a cozy fireplace on a cold evening. And you can become that person:

Become the person you yourself would like to be friends with - and people will intuitively begin to reach out to you. And especially those with whom you have the same worldview and principles, those with whom you can easily make friends and carry these warm feelings through your whole life.

How to find your best friend? Be open!

If you live, closed in your "shell" and not letting anyone in, it is unlikely that someone will decide to take you by storm. And rightly so: why impose yourself on a person who does not want to communicate with anyone? Take the first step yourself - it's much easier than you think:

Sign up for some courses or join a thematic club of interest;

· "Pull out" one of your classmates/colleagues for coffee or a simple walk around the city - in a relaxed atmosphere, you can chat on different topics and get to know each other better.

Of course before you can name that person best friend, a lot of time will pass - after all, this requires something more than a simple similarity of interests and outlook on life. Do not forget that "a friend in trouble is known" - and only with each difficult situation overcome by common efforts, your relationship will grow stronger.

Important: despite the fact that you have set yourself the goal of finding new friends, you should not “pour out your soul” and tell all the innermost things about yourself to a person whom you do not know very well. Everything should happen calmly and naturally - so that one day you yourself will be surprised to discover how much has been passed and experienced together.

Go with the flow

Of course, like any other relationship, you need to work on friendship - to give something, to do for a person, to be interested in his life, to support him in difficult moments. But life is arranged in such a way that it will not work to keep everyone near you: people change, they have new interests, goals in life, plans, dreams. This is absolutely normal, and there is nothing tragic or unfair in this.

Be there when you need it, but do not try to keep those who do not want to communicate with you - there may come a time when you will begin to communicate well again. Or perhaps this or that person has simply played a role in your life, gave a lesson that was supposed to give. Now the Universe guides both him and you further - each in his own way.

Be open to these changes, because you are always moving towards something better and more than what you have.

Don't be too hard on others

No one owes you anything, just as you don't owe anyone else. If you do not like the behavior and worldview of a person, you have the right to express your opinion, but do not try to change it. Ideal people do not exist. And in fact, this is good, because they would be very predictable and boring personalities.

When you decide to make good friends for yourself, be prepared for the fact that they will not be perfect either - but you will love them no matter what. Someone reacts too emotionally to everything, and someone constantly jokes “off topic” - this is not a mortal sin and not the end of the world, but character traits. Look at them with humor and positiveness - you will be surprised at how much more pleasant and easier it will be for you to live.

Turn virtual communication into real

If you have people with whom you communicate well on the Web, but have never met in your life, why not fill this gap? You already know a lot about each other, you enjoy the communication itself. All that remains is to make it more diverse and transfer it to the real world. Be the initiator! Invite them to go to the cinema, to a cafe, to an interesting exhibition, to go to music Festival. Don't be afraid to seem intrusive - if you created such an impression, the person would have stopped communicating with you long ago. On the World Wide Web, this is a matter of one click of the mouse.

Understand that you are surrounded by ordinary people

Yes, sometimes it is very awkward to approach a person or company with which you have not communicated before. But when thinking about how to make new friends for yourself, imagine how you would react if someone approached you in the same way. How older man becomes, the more he is sure that he "does not fit" into new company, meanwhile, it is just the other way around.

If teenagers are high school often they don’t even try to get to know each other better, but choose friends on the basis of “cool / not cool”, “goes / does not go to parties”, “drinks / does not drink alcohol”, then over time we become much more calm and open to new acquaintances .

Even if you come up and say a phrase from childhood “Can I come with you…?”, you will not be looked at strangely, laughed at or mocked. Most likely, they will even be delighted and themselves will draw you into the conversation.

Realize that you have absolutely nothing to lose

Come, get acquainted, communicate ... it's no more difficult than in childhood. Indeed, even in the respectable Maria Olegovna, who drives an expensive Mercedes, the girl Masha still lives, who loves to walk barefoot on the grass and dreams of going on a trip. And in your neighbor Alexander Valentinovich - the boy Sasha, who would love to go fishing with you.

Think: at your 6-7 years old, would you become afraid and reflective - or would you just come up and start talking to a boy or girl you like?

If communication does not work out, you can safely stop it - and this will not be a crime either. And in the most extreme case, you can go to another city, change your name, hairstyle, find another job and never come back (just kidding).

In any case, cast aside your fears and doubts. Wake up your inner child - he already knows how to find friends around him. And with pleasure will cope with this task!